In By Nine Podcast

Joyce B Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, Liz Sila
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Welcome to In By Nine Podcast! Hosted by Joyce Barrow-Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, and Liz Sila, this is where women in their 40s spill the tea, swap the stories, and celebrate the friendships that keep us sane. Here we openly express the joy, humor, and challenges of midlife: career changes, raising teens (or letting them go), rediscovering passions, and learning to put ourselves first. Through it all, friendship is the glue that keeps us strong, reminding us that we don’t have to face any of it alone and that friendships just get better with age.

  1. Mar 3

    The Words That Shaped Us (And We Still Carry) | Ep.7

    In this episode of In By Nine, we’re talking about something powerful, personal, and unforgettable:Words.The compliments that built us. The criticism that stuck. The sentences we still hear decades later. Why do negative words last longer than praise? Why do so many women remember childhood insults more vividly than encouragement? And how do we rewrite the language we use with ourselves, our partners, and our children?In this conversation, we explore:• The psychology of words and negativity bias• How childhood language shapes adult confidence• Why harsh criticism activates the brain like physical pain• The power of affirmations and neuroplasticity• How women speak to themselves vs. how they speak to others• The phrases we’re retiring in 2025We also challenge ourselves to choose one word that defines who we’re becoming — and give life-giving words to each other at the table.If you’ve ever carried a sentence longer than you meant to… this episode is for you. Speak life. Choose carefully. Words build worlds.💬 Tell us in the comments: What’s one sentence you’ve never forgotten?

    41 min

  2. Feb 24

    Why Women Rarely Hear “I’m Proud of You” | EP.6

    When was the last time someone told you, “I’m proud of you” — and meant it?In this episode of In By Nine, we talk about why so many women — especially Gen X women — struggle with praise, confidence, and emotional validation. We each made a private list of the people we’re proud of… and revealed it on air. The reactions were honest, funny, and unexpectedly emotional.In this conversation, we explore:🌸 Why 68% of women rarely hear “I’m proud of you”🌸 Why women downplay compliments and success🌸The psychology of praise and self-worth🌸How affirmation impacts confidence and relationships🌸 Why men respond deeply to encouragement🌸The difference between being strong and being celebratedIf you’re navigating midlife growth, marriage, motherhood, or rebuilding confidence — this episode is for you. This is about women empowerment, emotional health, sisterhood, and learning to give flowers while we’re still here.If nobody told you this week — we’re proud of you.💬 Tell us in the comments: Who are YOU proud of right now?Subscribe for more real conversations on confidence, relationships, and personal growth — In By Nine. ————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine ■ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5f8TbGtxm7bQrd8lVXwtw0?si=msUoTuy2TqiYtvtb66noPw

    46 min

  3. Feb 17

    The Shows Women Actually Binge (We’re Not Judging) | EP.5

    In this episode of In By Nine, we discuss what women across generations are watching in 2025 — from nostalgia comfort shows to trending dramas, true crime, and documentaries. We explore binge culture, generational viewing habits, streaming trends, and how TV has become both escape and connection.Topics include:📺 Gen X nostalgia TV📺 Millennials & prestige streaming📺 Gen Z micro-content culture📺 Comfort shows & guilty pleasures📺 Why women dominate binge watchingWhether you’re rewatching Scandal for the 10th time or falling asleep during a documentary you swore you'd finish — we support your journey.💬 Drop your current obsession in the comments. We need recommendations!————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine

    38 min

  4. Feb 10

    Holiday Burnout, Boundaries & Finding Peace | EP.4

    The lights are twinkling… and we’re exhausted.In this episode of In By Nine, we’re talking holiday survival: are you Blacking OUT (hiding), Crashing OUT (trying), or going All OUT (elf on espresso)? We get honest about holiday stress, family expectations, spending pressure, traditions we’re keeping (or killing), and why December hits women the hardest. From Black Friday chaos to Friendsgiving saves, this episode is your permission slip to choose peace over perfect.We cover:🎄 Holiday burnout & mental load🎄 Traditions: keep, kill, or create🎄 Black Friday & consumer pressure🎄 Supporting friends during a family-heavy season💬 Tell us in the comments: What’s your holiday vibe this year — Black OUT, Crash OUT, or All OUT?————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine

    25 min
  5. Ctrl + Alt + Del My Feelings | Tech, AI & Real Life

    Feb 3

    Ctrl + Alt + Del My Feelings | Tech, AI & Real Life

    Remember when technology meant a Walkman and a landline? Same.In this episode of In By Nine, we take a nostalgic (and slightly skeptical) look at how tech evolved from beepers and dial-up to apps, algorithms, and AI that remembers way too much about us. We laugh, we reminisce, and we ask the real question: is tech still serving us — or are we serving it?In this episode we talk about:📟 Growing up analog in a digital world📱 App fatigue, screen time & social media burnout🤖 AI “friends,” dating bots & where things get creepy🧠 What tech is doing to our patience, relationships & mental health💬 Sound off in the comments: What piece of old tech do you secretly miss?————————————————————————————Follow us on our socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine ■ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5f8TbGtxm7bQrd8lVXwtw0?si=msUoTuy2TqiYtvtb66noPw

    40 min

  6. Jan 27

    Gen X Women on Friendship, Loneliness & Real Life in 2025 | EP.2

    Tonight we laughed, cried, and absolutely debated group texts after 10 PM. In this episode of In By Nine, we dive into female friendship, Gen X womanhood, and the cultural chaos of being a grown woman in 2025. We talk situationships, perimenopause, finances, activism, and why our friendships seem to outlast everything else in our lives. Plus, we play “In or Out by Nine?” — because honestly, some things just don’t make the cut anymore.This episode is for women who are tired, wise, funny, and still figuring it out — preferably from bed by nine.💬 Comment below: What are YOU officially “out” on?————————————————————————————Follow us on my socials! ■ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbyninepodcast/ ■ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@inbynine

    31 min

  7. Jan 20

    The Podcast Glow-Up Nobody Warned Us About | In By Nine Is Back

    New season. New energy. Same chaos. This season, we’re doing things differently — on purpose.In By Nine is officially back, and in this episode we open up about why we rebranded, how friendship has evolved for us, and what it means to show up as women in our grown era. We get honest about change, vulnerability, and the lessons we’ve learned from podcasting, motherhood, work, and life. Plus, we’re share life updates, laughs, and behind-the-scenes moments that prove we’re still figuring it out.This episode is for women who are reconnecting with themselves, redefining friendship, and learning that growth doesn’t always look pretty — but it’s always worth it.💬 Tell us: What made you realize it was time to evolve?

    34 min

  8. 05/06/2025

    Mother’s Day Special – “Daughters & Dialogues”

    In this heartfelt and hilarious Mother’s Day episode of My Gym Friends, we’re switching things up! All five hosts are bringing on some very special guests—their daughters. 💖 From life lessons and funny stories to reflections on motherhood, legacy, and love, this episode is full of wisdom, laughter, and a few surprises. It’s a celebration of the women we’re raising and the women who raised us. Whether you're a mom, daughter, or someone who loves one—you don’t want to miss this one. Tune in, laugh with us, and maybe grab a tissue too. 🥹🎧 #MothersDay #MyGymFriendsPodcast #GirlDad #MomLife #Legacy #MotherhoodUnfiltered #PodcastSpecial

    1h 20m
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About

Welcome to In By Nine Podcast! Hosted by Joyce Barrow-Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, and Liz Sila, this is where women in their 40s spill the tea, swap the stories, and celebrate the friendships that keep us sane. Here we openly express the joy, humor, and challenges of midlife: career changes, raising teens (or letting them go), rediscovering passions, and learning to put ourselves first. Through it all, friendship is the glue that keeps us strong, reminding us that we don’t have to face any of it alone and that friendships just get better with age.

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  • Creator
    Joyce B Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, Liz Sila
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Joyce B Henderson, Melissa Lenox, Shaya Bryant-Tabb, Sharia Washington, Liz Sila
  • Show Website
    In By Nine Podcast