Surthrival Podcast with Stacia

Stacia Gaines
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Welcome to Surthrival, a place to befriend grief for healthy healing. This podcast is for those experiencing grief and for those who know someone who is experiencing loss. My goal is to provide principles to help you navigate through the complicated and painful world of grief.

  1. Born into Grief, Single and Satisfied: Lisa McNair

    May 22

    Born into Grief, Single and Satisfied: Lisa McNair

    Lisa McNair was born to grieving parents who lost their first daughter, Denise McNair, one of four Black girls killed in the 16th Street Church Bombing on September 15, 1963. From the beginning she felt the heavy load of bringing joy, being perfect and doing all the right things due to the horrible loss of a sister she never knew. Part of this narrative for her was the importance of getting married. Though this was what Lisa desired, she's never found the right person…at least not yet. She watched her friends marry and grieved her singleness for decades. Only in the last couple of years after the death of her mom, has she come to grips with being unmarried and become content. We talk about some advantages of being single and the importance of knowing ourselves. Her advice to her 25-year-old self would be – GO LIVE YOUR LIFE! Don’t wait for someone to complete your joy. Lisa McNair is an author, speaker, photographer and activist. She is lively, funny and shares the story of her life as being famous for a tragic reason. Speaker: lisa@speaklisa.com Author: https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Denise-Letters-Sister-Never-ebook/dp/B0BBNH76X6

    32 min
  2. Columbus Widows' Club: Finding Purpose in Being Single Again

    May 15

    Columbus Widows' Club: Finding Purpose in Being Single Again

    Susan Hoskins (my long-time friend) and Carolyn Weaver of Columbus, GA became friends through small groups at church. When Carolyn couldn’t put one foot in front of the other, her granddaughter took her to church. Susan, however, ran like a horse out of the gate, eager to re-enter a spiritual community she’d been missing while caring for her ailing husband. They found each other on the A-Team (Admin Team), a small group of servants who stock the shelves at the Columbus campus of Church of the Highlands. They found comfort and friendship through this team and two other groups that consisted of widows. They renamed the one where they play games, “The Fun Group for Widows”. Susan also found joy in frequent trips to art events and walks with her intentional friend, Carol, who at their first lunch handed her a single-spaced sheet full of events to which she was invited. While Carol admitted she didn’t know how to help Susan, she invited her along to what she was already doing. Turns out she did know how to help! Carolyn makes sure she leaves her house every day even if it’s just for a carwash or to get gas. Twice a week she eats by herself at her favorite chicken restaurant where she’s even met some other regulars. Routine helps her in her grieving, and she knows without a plan she could be too much of a loner. SURTHRIVAL tips for widows include: · Find purpose. They found theirs through service. · Find community. You may have to do the inviting or put yourself out there. · Establish routines. Having a reason to get out of bed and something to do helps. · Do things you enjoy even if you have to force yourself initially. · Find ways to reclaim spaces that may be triggers. Ask a friend to help. · Explore new things (this one’s mine). You’ll never know ‘til you try.

    32 min
  3. Single Again - Widowed for a Year with Monte Erwin

    May 8

    Single Again - Widowed for a Year with Monte Erwin

    Monte Erwin shares the story of losing his wife, Janet, a little more than a year ago. As an introvert, he has had to force himself to get out of the house, increasing the amount of volunteering with his church, Shades Crest Baptist Church in Hoover, AL. He also purchased two adorable Miniature Schnauzer brothers who have brought him laughter, snuggles and comfort. His advice to the grieving: 1) give yourself a lot of grace 2) take care of yourself (through healthy eating and exercise) and 3) don't be afraid to say no (even if it's just for a season). "Everyday Gospel" by Paul Davis Tripp - referenced devotional book that's been meaningful to Monte

    33 min
  4. Do I really like Marvel movies? Single Again with Deidre O. Clark

    May 1

    Do I really like Marvel movies? Single Again with Deidre O. Clark

    Single Again - Who am I? After losing a spouse, we can find ourselves wondering who we are outside of that relationship? Deidre Clark shares her story of loss and how she became reacquainted with herself after losing Brian “Voice Porter” Hawkins. One of the questions she asked herself was if she really liked Marvel movies or watched them because Brian liked them. She does like them! When grief brings the loss of a significant relationship, it is an opportunity for the surthrivor to get to know themselves again – from our entertainment choices to what we like to eat. It can be difficult, but it is also an opportunity to be curious and explore new things. As with all healthy grief journeys, we must travel through the darkness to find the light. If you have lost your life partner (or experienced any type of significant loss), consider reframing your deep loss as an opportunity to become reacquainted with yourself. Though it can be disorienting at first, it is a gift to explore your preferences and find freedom and flexibility in your singleness. Remember: loss and hope can and does co-exist, sadness and joy can both be true at the same time. Deidre was asking these questions about who she was without Brian and journaling what she discovered (express the feels). She searched for a vehicle that contained the deep questions she wanted to answer. Finding none, she created one - a card deck called Becoming You, 52 thoughtfully designed cards for women who are moving through transition, change or quiet reckoning. Becommingyoudeck.com to order! Example card: WHAT DO YOU NEED TO THRIVE IN THIS MOMENT? What’s one step you can take towards that? 4 pieces of wisdom from Deidre Clark: 1. Be exceedingly kind to yourself. 2. Be curious. 3. Only go as deep as your nervous system can handle. 4. Find a therapist to help guide you through this journey. https://onbeing.org/programs/krista-tippett-hope-portal-episode-1/

    34 min
  5. Masculine Mourning: Caleb Young, the Son Remaining

    Apr 25

    Masculine Mourning: Caleb Young, the Son Remaining

    Caleb Young lost his older brother, Ty—whom he idolized—to suicide when he was 11. The loss shaped the way he viewed life and the choices he made as he grew up. In Cuero (Spanish for “raw hide”), a small Texas town where many men drive trucks and wear cowboy boots and hats, the culture is rugged and rooted in hunting, fishing, and ranching. In a place like that, social norms—paired with traditional expectations of masculinity—can create a different kind of grieving, one that is often quiet, internal, and delayed. Caleb shares his story of loss, the long-term effects it had on him, and the healthier ways he eventually learned to live with grief (after trying some unhealthy ones first). You’ll enjoy Caleb’s wit and way of expressing himself, and through his experience, we’ll explore grief from a male perspective and consider how men may process and express emotion differently than their female counterparts.

    36 min
  6. Suicide Surthrival with Natalie King

    Mar 25

    Suicide Surthrival with Natalie King

    Natalie was just 13 when she lost her dad to suicide. This profound loss damaged her mental well-being until she found her passion and purpose of helping people in the name of Jesus. Natalie came to the United States on a mission trip years ago and ended up staying – recently getting her US citizenship! She is a wife and mother (of twin boys). Originally from Cape Town, South Africa, Natalie serves as COO and Director of Advancement at Grace Klein Community, a Birmingham-based non-profit. https://gracekleincommunity.com/ Listen as Natalie shares her story of being a suicide SURTHRIVER. Call 988 at any time to connect with a skilled, caring counselor and get support.

    33 min
  7. Suicide Bereaved Surthrival

    Mar 11

    Suicide Bereaved Surthrival

    In this episode we continue our conversation around Suicide with Meesha Emmett, Area Director for the Alabama Chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP). Previously we spent our energy on suicide prevention. In this episode, we focus on the grief of those who have lost a loved one to death by suicide. This type of grief is complicated and is often ignored due to guilt, blame and shame. Suicide is a taboo topic, but we have to talk about this and help those who are suffering from this complex loss. If you have experienced this type of grief, know you are not alone. Send me an email at surthrivalpodcast@gmail.com or utilize the resources listed below. Meesha Emmett Alabama Area Director memmett@afsp.org 205-778-8284 Are you in a crisis? Call or text 988 or text TALK to 741741 RESOURCES English: afsp.org/survivingasuicideloss ​​​​​​​English : afsp.org/childrenteensandsuicideloss Find a mental health professional | AFSP Find a support group | AFSP

    40 min
  8. Suicide Surthrival: Prevention

    Mar 5

    Suicide Surthrival: Prevention

    WARNING: This episode discusses suicide and may be triggering for some listeners and inappropriate for younger audiences. Meesha Emmett of the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention (Alabama Chapter) and I talk honestly about the taboo topic of Suicide. In this introductory episode we share our personal stories, talk about suicide prevention and share staggering statistics about this preventable epidemic. We can save lives by educating ourselves and advocating for those considering suicide. This practical and enlightening series is for those thinking of suicide, those who may be concerned that a loved one has suicidal ideation and for those who want to become educated about this important topic. Listen and share! Are you in a crisis? Call or text 988 or text TALK to 741741 English: afsp.org/survivingasuicideloss ​​​​​​​English : afsp.org/childrenteensandsuicideloss Find a mental health professional | AFSP Find a support group | AFSP My Guest: Meesha Emmett Alabama Area Director memmett@afsp.org 205-778-8284

    36 min
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Welcome to Surthrival, a place to befriend grief for healthy healing. This podcast is for those experiencing grief and for those who know someone who is experiencing loss. My goal is to provide principles to help you navigate through the complicated and painful world of grief.

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