True You Podcast

Bill Tierney and Martin Kettelhut
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True You Podcast is all about reconnecting with your authentic self—the version of you that’s in flow, where life feels effortless and aligned. In moments of struggle, when everything feels like an uphill battle, it's a sign you've lost touch with your true self. Through deep conversations and personal insights, we explore what it takes to stay in alignment, create harmony, and live as the true you—most of the time, not just by accident.

  1. Episode 59: Spark of Divinity

    12h ago

    Episode 59: Spark of Divinity

    In this episode, Bill and Marty continue their conversation about divinity, Self, and what it means to follow an inner compass. Bill shares how his Catholic upbringing, sobriety, AA, spiritual reading, and The Urantia Book shaped his relationship with God. Marty brings in his own path through church, agnosticism, and a powerful experience with an Indian guru. Together, they explore Self as something human, divine, or perhaps beyond both, and close with a practical way to live from higher values, true north, and the guidance found in discomfort. Chapters: 00:00 Doubt And True North00:51 Self And Divinity Debate03:31 Catholic Childhood Skepticism05:05 Leaving Church Behind07:20 AA And Higher Power Struggle08:25 Christ In You Breakthrough10:37 Christmas Sign And Coincidence14:06 Books And Spiritual Seeking16:25 Urantia Book Awakening20:49 Seeing Life As Divine24:52 Love As Evolution26:40 Faith and Science Upbringing27:21 Agnostic Phase in College27:48 Meeting an Enlightened Guru28:19 Lightning Bolt Awakening30:09 Bhagavad Gita Parallel31:26 Divya Diksha Explained32:28 Ad Break Guidebook32:50 Seeking Enlightenment and Fear34:55 Smallness and Saint Thérèse37:03 Living Christian Without Belief40:20 Higher Power Within Values42:11 Try It and Measure Results43:52 Action Step Define Values44:38 Freedom Without Wrath46:56 True North Inner Compass48:23 Calibrating Discomfort Signals49:24 Closing Thanks and Takeaways Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty -mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill -bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    51 min
  2. Episode 58: Self-Management vs. Self-Leadership

    May 22

    Episode 58: Self-Management vs. Self-Leadership

    In this episode, Marty and Bill explore the difference between self-management and self-leadership. Bill explains how self-management can become exhausting inner conflict, especially when one part of us tries to control another. They connect this to addiction recovery, workplace dynamics, 12-step programs, IFS, ACA, and Byron Katie’s work. Together, they look at how self-awareness helps us move from control into compassion, choice, and deeper trust in the Self. Chapters: 00:00 Midweek Podcast Kickoff01:00 Self-Management Defined06:47 Leadership Versus Management09:22 Addiction Recovery as Management11:29 12-Step Origins and Limits16:06 Higher Self and Self-Love22:31 IFS Parts as Helpers23:39 Leading Teams Like Parts25:30 Motivation Questions at Work27:44 Motivation Builds Trust29:06 From Reactivity to Growth31:34 Challenging Limiting Thoughts35:27 Why Self-Awareness Is Hard38:24 Blind Spot Lunch Story40:48 Self-Leadership in Practice43:11 Freedom, Choice, and Beauty46:44 Wrap-Up and Inner Spark Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Pagehttps://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast?https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey • Internal Family Systemshttps://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coachinghttps://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, Compassionate Results Guidebookhttps://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • Listening is the Key, Dr. Kettelhut’s websitehttps://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, Leadership as Relationhttps://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, Listen… Till You Disappearhttps://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice, Free IFS Practice Group Sessionshttps://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Martymkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Billbill@compassionateresultscoaching.com 🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links:https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links ➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit:https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️ Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice 🔗 Parts Work Practice page:https://www.partsworkpractice.com/ 📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here:http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/ ➡️ Attend IFS Coaching Groups:https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups 📞 Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment:https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact 🎙️ Listen to True You Podcast at:https://trueyoupodcast.com Available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube!

    47 min
  3. Episode 57: Geoff Laughton

    May 15

    Episode 57: Geoff Laughton

    In this episode, Bill and Marty welcome back relationship coach and Building a Conflict-Proof Relationship author Geoff Laughton to discuss how inner conflict shapes relationships and the world around us. Geoff shares spiritual insights on grief, humility, and peace, while the conversation explores why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a partnership. Together, they unpack emotional maturity, personal responsibility, the myth of “you complete me,” and the healing work required to build lasting, healthy relationships. About Geoff: Geoff Laughton is a men’s leadership and relationship speaker focused on accountability, conscious partnership, and emotional maturity. With more than 30 years of experience working with men and couples, he helps men become fully present partners, fathers, and leaders—without shame or performative masculinity. Geoff is the co-founder of Undaunted Man, a decade-long men’s organization rooted in brotherhood, integrity, and authentic personal evolution. Contact Geoff: Website: www.theundauntedman.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geofflaughton Facebook: www.linkedin.com/ln/geofflaughton Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheUndauntedMan Chapters: 00:00 Love Is Not Enough 00:47 Meet The Hosts 02:31 Geoff’s Spiritual Download 11:20 Love As The Ante 14:44 Commitment Over Longevity 22:20 Bill’s Marriage Lessons 27:08 Limerence And Fantasy 32:29 Stop Making Partners Everything 35:24 Own Your Stuff 41:04 Inner Peace And Responsibility 44:50 Wrap Up And Resources 🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links ➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice 🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/ 📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/ ➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups 📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact 🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube! #recovery #ifs #internalfamilysystems #ifscoach #ifscoaching #ifsmodel #partswork #partsworkcoach

    46 min
  4. Episode 56: Jake Turner

    May 8

    Episode 56: Jake Turner

    In this episode, Marty and Bill welcome coach and podcaster Jake Turner, who works with founders and executives on time, boundaries, communication, and mindset. Jake shares why coaches should have coaches, how his first coach shaped a whole-life approach, and why alignment creates energy while misalignment creates chaos. They discuss the Mexican fisherman parable from Tim Ferriss and the cost of postponing life, plus the power of gratitude and attention, including Bill’s 11-year daily gratitude practice and Jake’s “today’s a good day” mirror routine and phone-free morning system. About Jake: Doctorate in nurse anesthesia, professionally certified life coach. From Nashville area. Coach founders and executives to be more productive, get hours of their time back, and build a life they don't need a vacation from. Contact Jake: Website: jakepaulturner.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakepaulturner/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jake.turner.31/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jakepaulturner Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey • Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty -mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill -bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    56 min
  5. Episode 55: On Being Neurodivergent with Morgan Monte

    May 1

    Episode 55: On Being Neurodivergent with Morgan Monte

    In this episode, Bill and Marty interview Morgan Monte, an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Level 3 practitioner and co-author of the Parts Work Guidebook, joined by her Labradoodle Finn. Morgan shares recognizing her neurodivergence in elementary school through social misunderstandings like sarcasm and unspoken context, and how that affected communication during the three-plus-year, five-author book project. They discuss how group ruptures and frustration were repaired by using IFS, including Bill’s “get it done” part becoming controlling and Morgan’s “I don’t belong because I’m different” part withdrawing. Morgan describes IFS training challenges mainly as performance anxiety and fear of evaluation, and how IFS helped her access more Self energy, confidence, clarity, and authenticity. Chapters: 00:00 Impossible Collaboration 00:59 Meet Morgan and Finn 01:49 Book and Bio Intro 02:49 Locations and Small Talk 04:29 Discovering Neurodivergence 08:47 Mismatch and Breakthroughs 12:48 Learning Sarcasm 16:39 IFS and Neurodivergent Strengths 20:04 Training Anxiety 21:54 Autism Or ADHD 25:05 Labels And Motivation 28:13 Teamwork Speed Mismatch 31:58 Guidebook Excerpts 36:23 Similarities And Big Hearts 39:46 IFS Works For Everyone 40:52 Finding Self Energy 41:44 Closing And Thanks Links and Resources: • Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com • True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey • Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty -mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill -bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    43 min
  6. Episode 54: How Can I Get It All Done?

    Apr 24

    Episode 54: How Can I Get It All Done?

    In this episode, Bill and Marty talk about how having too many meaningful projects can create a “log jam” that leads to overwhelm, stress, and sudden quitting. Using Martin’s seven projects as an example, they walk through a coaching process to get clear on the goal, spot what’s causing the backlog, measure progress, and make a realistic plan. They use the urgent/important matrix, factor in deadlines and inspiration, and show how calendar time-blocking and firm cutoff dates can help restore balance and reflect the “True You.” Chapters: 00:00 Choosing What Matters 00:40 Podcast Welcome Banter 02:25 Too Many Projects 03:34 The Log Jam Trap 05:37 Coaching Objective Setup 08:06 Clarifying the Gap 09:55 From Problem to Plan 13:00 Live Coaching Example 17:38 Urgent vs Important Matrix 19:50 Time Blocking the Calendar 21:29 Deadlines and Priorities 24:47 Podcast Guest Invite 25:18 Planning The Program 27:20 Time Blocking In Calendar 29:35 Urgent Versus Important 34:07 Vendor Deadline Decision 37:03 Audiobook Sprint Weekend 38:27 Only Do What You Want41:42 Protecting Important Time 43:40 Coaching Process Review 47:33 True You Connection 49:49 Wrap Up And Farewell Links and Resources: • Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com • True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey • Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty -mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill -bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    51 min
  7. Episode 53: Alison Dyer & Islena Faircrest

    Apr 15

    Episode 53: Alison Dyer & Islena Faircrest

    In this episode, Marty and Bill’s co-authors Allison Dyer and Islena Faircrest discuss creating The Parts Work Guidebook, released on Kindle with a paperback coming soon. They explain how the book grew from their Parts Work Practice group, where they adapted exercises from Bonnie Weiss and Jay Earley’s Self Therapy Workbook, eventually writing their own guide with 24 exercises to help people learn Internal Family Systems parts work and build self-leadership. The co-authors describe the four-year collaborative process, including conflicts, editing challenges, and “rupture and repair” moments that activated protectors and exiles, and how they used the book’s exercises, structure, humor, and self-regulation to keep writing. Each shares personal growth around impatience, caretaking, avoidance, and connection. Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and Guests 01:11 Meet the Coauthors 03:08 How the Book Began 05:06 Project Management Hurdles 06:56 Writing as Healing 09:49 What the Guidebook Is 12:32 Group Writing Challenges 15:53 Alison on Activation 17:40 Gratitude After Glitches 18:50 Humor As Regulation 21:51 Writing Like Family 23:59 Balancing Healing And Deadlines 27:01 Bill Get It Done Part 31:00 Allison Caretaker Lessons 33:35 Islena Avoidance And Growth 36:09 Book Prompt And Farewell Links and Resources: • Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com • True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey • Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty -mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill -bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    41 min
  8. Episode 52: Nick Meima

    Apr 10

    Episode 52: Nick Meima

    In this episode, Bill and Marty talk with divorce, couples, and life coach Nick Meima about purpose, connection, marriage, divorce, stepparenting, and the inner beliefs that shape our lives. Nick shares how his path moved from aging and cohousing into relationship work, and why real growth starts with facing “not enough” beliefs, getting support, and doing the inner work needed to live with more love, maturity, and purpose. About Nick Meima: Nick Meima is a divorce coach, couples coach, and life coach whose work centers on intimacy, disconnection, and what it takes to build healthier relationships. His path began early through a deep interest in aging and care for older adults, which led him to earn graduate degrees in marriage, family, and child counseling and in gerontology. He later served as the CEO of a large retirement community, helped create multiple intergenerational cohousing communities, and spent years bringing people together across age groups and life stages. Today, Nick works with individuals, couples, business owners, and leaders, helping them move through divorce, relationship strain, and major life transitions with more clarity, maturity, and care. Contact Nick: Websites: www.rebuilders.net, www.ceodivorcecoach.com, www.supportingandcounselingcouples.com Chapters: 00:00 Purpose And Inner Child 00:33 Meet Nick Meima 02:14 Grandmother And Aging Call 04:35 Retirement Community Reality 07:39 Seeking Wisdom In Elders 10:04 Cohousing And Community 16:16 Weddings To Divorce Coaching 18:24 Divorce Programs And CEOs 22:51 Premarital Support Matters 27:06 Illusions And Disillusionment 29:09 Relationship As Third Entity 30:10 Beyond Transactional Love 31:02 Community Over Transactions 31:39 Preparing for Stepparenthood 35:19 Attachment Versus Love 37:16 A Life of Service 39:17 Coaching Through Core Beliefs 41:16 Enoughness and Inner Child 45:47 Escaping the Drama Triangle 47:18 Purpose Through Inner Work 49:21 How to Connect and Wrap Up 🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links ➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice 🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/ 📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/ ➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups 📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact 🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube! #recovery #ifs #internalfamilysystems #ifscoach #ifscoaching #ifsmodel #partswork #partsworkcoach #podcast #ifspodcast #selfhelf #selfimprovement #leadership #richardschwartz #groupcoaching #ifsgroups #compassionateresults

    52 min
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True You Podcast is all about reconnecting with your authentic self—the version of you that’s in flow, where life feels effortless and aligned. In moments of struggle, when everything feels like an uphill battle, it's a sign you've lost touch with your true self. Through deep conversations and personal insights, we explore what it takes to stay in alignment, create harmony, and live as the true you—most of the time, not just by accident.

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  • Creator
    Bill Tierney and Martin Kettelhut
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    59
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Bill Tierney and Martin Kettelhut
  • Show Website
    True You Podcast

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