Feelings You Can Trust with Dominique Davis

Because the world we dream of is built from the inside out.
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In a world that tells us to suppress our emotions, “Feelings You Can Trust” brings them back to the table. Through conversations, tools, and stories, we learn how to understand our trauma, cultivate awareness, and move toward collective healing. feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

  1. 27. Stop Abandoning Yourself - You Are Not The Problem

    Apr 13

    27. Stop Abandoning Yourself - You Are Not The Problem

    The Cost of Abandoning Yourself - Why You Still Feel Unseen Feelings You Can Trust - Episode 27 Sometimes the reason you feel unseen…is because you’ve been abandoning yourself to belong. In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore identity, safety, and what it really means to feel aligned in your relationships and community. Through our first listener letter, we talk about what happens when you don’t feel accepted — even in spaces that are supposed to understand you — and why you don’t have to force yourself to “cope” in environments that don’t feel safe. We also unpack the difference between social identity and your true, spirit-based identity, and how abandoning yourself to meet expectations can keep you stuck in survival mode. Because real belonging doesn’t require you to shrink. ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Life update: grief, growth & showing up anyway03:05 – Mental load, EMDR & processing 06:57 – Proof of Life: good news still exists 08:48 – Listener Letter: feeling unseen in community12:00 – You don’t have to cope in unsafe spaces 14:00 – Inner circle standards & safe relationships16:18 – Social identity vs. true self 20:13 – Building aligned community22:44 – How identity keeps you in survival 31:04 – You are not your career34:58 – Stop abandoning yourself 📚Books Mentioned: 📖 The Princess and the P.I. by Skye Warren — A romance that explores trust, vulnerability, and connection between two very different worlds. 📖 Deep End by Allie Hazelwood — A contemporary romance centered on consent, communication, and emotionally safe intimacy. 📖 Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker — A mindset-focused guide on how your beliefs about money shape your financial reality. 📩 Want to submit a listener letter?Email: feelingsyoucantrust@gmail.com 🎧 Available on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & Substack Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and should not replace professional mental health support. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    38 min
  2. 26.You’re Never Going to Feel Ready - Do It Scared

    Mar 9

    26.You’re Never Going to Feel Ready - Do It Scared

    Taking action is one of the hardest parts of building a life you love. Visualization can be inspiring. Planning can feel productive. But the moment you actually have to do the thing, fear tends to show up. In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we talk about why taking action often feels so intimidating, how perfectionism keeps us stuck in the planning stage, and why you may never actually feel “ready.” We also discuss how fear shows up in the body, how anxiety can spiral when we’re about to make a big decision, and how learning to recognize that fear response can help you move forward anyway. Because the truth is: building a life that you love often requires making decisions while you’re still scared. And the more you practice moving through fear, the more confident you become in your ability to handle whatever comes next. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – A moment of loving my life02:01 – Why this episode is about taking action04:04 – Proof of Life: kindness in everyday moments06:24 – What I’m reading07:48 – The Feelings You Can Trust framework 08:36 – Why taking action feels intimidating09:53 – How perfectionism blocks growth11:12 – Letting go of the “perfect vision”14:05 – When expansion feels uncomfortable 16:01 – Anxiety, fear, and catastrophizing17:30 – Recognizing fear in your body19:47 – Catching fear before it spirals 21:15 – Moving forward even when you’re scared23:23 – The boulder metaphor: resistance and growth25:47 – The truth: you may never feel ready 26:26 – Doing it scared28:18 – Final reflections on growth and possibility 🎧 Feelings You Can Trust explores how to build a life you love through a simple framework: * Get out of survival * Declutter and organize your mind * Visualize * Take action * Rinse and repeat 📩 Listener Letters are coming next episode!If you have a question, perspective, or something you’d like advice on, send it to:feelingsyoucantrust@gmail.com ⚠️ Disclaimer:I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is intended for informational and self-development purposes only and should not replace professional medical or mental health guidance. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    29 min
  3. Proof the Framework Works: I Got My Dream Car!

    Mar 2

    Proof the Framework Works: I Got My Dream Car!

    This episode is different. Today, I’m sharing a real-life example of what happens when you actually apply the Feelings You Can Trust framework. Not perfectly.Not overnight.But consistently. From mindset shifts to intentional action, this episode walks through what it looks like when visualization, alignment, and stewardship move from theory into real life. This is not a conversation about dreaming. It’s a testimony about building. Because the life you love doesn’t happen by accident —it happens through awareness, alignment, and action. ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Life Update: A Real Milestone01:20 – Why This Matters 02:00 – Proof of Life03:45 – Humanity & Perspective 05:30 – The Framework Refresher 07:30 – Applying the Work in Real Life10:00 – Scarcity vs Vision14:00 – Stewardship & Responsibility18:00 – Choosing Alignment Over Comfort 22:00 – Faith in Action26:00 – Patience & Process29:30 – What This Really Represents 31:00 – Closing Reflection 🎧 Episode 25 is available now on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & Substack. Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared on this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and should not be considered medical, psychological, or legal advice. Please consult a qualified professional for support specific to your situation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    31 min
  4. 24. The Unconscious Voice Behind Your Choices -Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life

    Feb 23

    24. The Unconscious Voice Behind Your Choices -Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life

    Feelings You Can Trust EP 24: Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life We often think change happens through information. But real change happens when what you know aligns with what you believe. In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore the unconscious mind — the part of you that stores patterns, emotional memory, and learned responses — and how self-talk acts as the bridge between conscious intention and unconscious belief. If you’ve ever wanted to show up differently but found yourself repeating the same reactions, this conversation will help you understand why. We discuss: * The role of the unconscious mind * Why “knowing better” doesn’t automatically change behavior * How self-talk reveals what you truly believe * The impact of repetition on identity * Listening to yourself without shame * Becoming a safe space for your own growth 🎧 Episode 24 is available now on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Substack. 💌 Listener Letters return next cycle — send yours to FeelingsYouCanTrust@gmail.com Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The insights shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or legal advice. Please consult a qualified professional for support specific to your needs. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    32 min
  5. 23. Your Reaction Is Running Your Life - Emotional Reactivity Explained

    Feb 16

    23. Your Reaction Is Running Your Life - Emotional Reactivity Explained

    If you’ve ever said something you didn’t mean…Shut down when you wanted to speak up…Or reacted in a way that didn’t feel aligned with who you’re trying to become… This episode is for you. Today we’re talking about emotional reactivity — what it is, why it happens, and how to respond instead of react. We explore how survival mode shows up in conversations, relationships, and even in the way we cope alone. I introduce the “watchtower” metaphor to help you understand what’s happening in your nervous system when you’re triggered — and why slowing down is the key to reclaiming choice. Because building a life you love requires bravery.Living in survival keeps you in fear. Let’s talk about the difference. ⏱ Chapters 00:00 – Why I’ve Been Gone + Life Update02:08 – New Segment: Proof of Life 🌎04:31 – Plastic That Dissolves in the Ocean (Hope Is Real)08:35 – Listener Letters Are Coming10:06 – The 5-Step Framework Refresher11:43 – What Is Emotional Reactivity?12:23 – The “Watchtower” vs. Alarm System17:03 – The Gap Between Trigger & Reaction20:04 – Emotional Reactivity & Self-Sabotage22:53 – Who Is Your “True Self”?26:06 – Old Habits vs. New Behavior27:26 – Slowing Down: Tools for Choice28:22 – Reaction vs. Response (The Real Difference)30:46 – Is Survival Running Your Life?31:28 – Final Reflection 💌 Listener Letters Coming Next CycleWant advice, perspective, or to share a story?Email: feelingsyoucantrust@gmail.com 📚 Join the Book Clubhttps://bookclubs.com/join-a-book-club/club/black-girls-love-smut Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared on this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and conversational purposes only and should not be considered medical, psychological, or legal advice. Please consult a qualified professional for support specific to your situation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    32 min
  6. 22. You’re Doing a Lot — But Is It Working?

    Jan 12

    22. You’re Doing a Lot — But Is It Working?

    Episode 22 — You’re Doing a Lot — But Is It Working? In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we’re talking about prioritized action — and the self-awareness required to admit when our actions don’t actually support the life we say we want. This conversation is about honesty, alignment, and recognizing when we’re staying busy to avoid discomfort rather than moving with intention. We explore how priorities are revealed through action (not intention), why distraction can feel productive, and how momentum is created when your behavior finally matches your vision. We also discuss the difference between intentional stillness and immobilization, why growth isn’t a dramatic leap but a slow-moving river, and how to assess your daily actions without shame. In this episode, we cover: * The difference between doing things and taking prioritized action * How your visualization reveals your real priorities * Why some actions feel productive but miss the “bullseye” * When distractions act as emotional security blankets * Intentional stillness vs. fear-based avoidance * Why momentum only comes from aligned action * Learning through action instead of rumination This episode is an invitation to stop judging yourself — and start telling yourself the truth. ⏱️ EPISODE 22 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Welcome back + holiday reflections01:30 — Panic attacks returning & listening to the body04:40 — Understanding anxiety beyond intellectual awareness07:23 — School, injustice, and nervous system overwhelm10:25 — Regulation, sustainability, and stress hormones12:30 — Accepting long-term support & therapy13:25 — Reading updates & book club interest18:03 — Listener letters reminder19:15 — FYCT framework refresher19:52 — Step four: taking prioritized action21:16 — The difference between action and aligned action22:14 — How visualization reveals true priorities24:10 — When priorities and behavior don’t match26:03 — Self-awareness without shame26:33 — Stillness as an intentional action28:50 — Growth as a river, not a leap34:00 — The bullseye metaphor: action vs. distraction36:11 — Distractions as comfort and security37:15 — Learning through action, not rumination39:00 — When action feels triggering40:05 — Final thoughts + see you next episode ⚠️ DISCLAIMER The perspectives shared in this episode are based on personal experience, reflection, and ongoing education. I am not a licensed therapist, and nothing discussed in this podcast should be considered medical, clinical, or legally binding advice. Please seek support from a licensed mental health professional for guidance specific to your individual needs. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    41 min
  7. 21. You Can't Outrun Your Purpose

    12/22/2025

    21. You Can't Outrun Your Purpose

    Episode 21 — You Can’t Outrun Your Purpose In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we’re talking about what happens when you know you’re called to more — but find yourself stuck in impostor syndrome, stagnation, or self-sabotage instead of momentum. We explore how purpose and vision are deeply connected, why clarity can sometimes activate fear instead of confidence, and how comfort can quietly keep us from evolving. This conversation reframes procrastination, self-doubt, and avoidance not as personal failure, but as nervous-system responses to expansion. You’ll hear why: * Visualization can feel pointless right before momentum builds * Purpose isn’t something you become — it’s something you uncover * Impostor syndrome shrinks vision before action ever begins * Self-sabotage is often a response to joy, alignment, and possibility * Stagnation can feel like “contentment,” but is really fear of capacity * Commitment — not motivation — is what carries vision forward This episode is for the woman who feels called, capable, and tired of circling the same lessons. You’re not behind. You’re being invited to stay the course. ⏱️ EPISODE 21 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Welcome back + holiday reflections01:28 — Why community regulates anxiety and self-focus03:31 — What I’m reading + book club update05:06 — Listener letters & collective growth06:15 — The FYCT framework refresher08:03 — Today’s focus: Visualization & purpose09:08 — When visualization starts to feel pointless10:06 — Purpose isn’t something you chase — it’s already within you12:00 — Why being offline matters when discovering purpose13:21 — Vision as a reflection of purpose14:08 — What happens when you don’t know your direction15:01 — Belief systems vs. action16:10 — Limiting beliefs & regret-free reflection17:19 — Impostor syndrome and worthiness18:33 — Learning to see yourself objectively20:26 — Why self-criticism shrinks vision21:23 — Self-sabotage explained22:36 — When alignment feels uncomfortable24:30 — Returning to decluttering the mind25:42 — Stagnation disguised as comfort26:49 — Why vision determines direction27:34 — When the answer is “just do it”29:06 — Personality expansion vs. becoming someone else30:53 — Vision beyond money and status31:40 — Commitment as the antidote33:47 — You can’t outrun your purpose34:49 — Final encouragement: stay the course ⚠️ DISCLAIMER The perspectives shared in this episode are based on personal experience, reflection, and ongoing education. I am not a licensed therapist, and nothing discussed in this podcast should be considered medical, clinical, or legally binding advice. Please seek support from a licensed mental health professional for guidance specific to your individual needs. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    36 min
  8. 20. Why Being Happy Makes You Anxious

    12/15/2025

    20. Why Being Happy Makes You Anxious

    Episode 20 — Why Being Happy Makes You Anxious In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore a quiet, often unspoken experience: when life is going well, but joy still feels hard to access, trust, or sustain. For many of us, the struggle isn’t survival anymore — it’s allowing ourselves to enjoy what we’ve built. We talk about how anxiety can show up as waiting for “the other shoe to drop,” how joy can feel undeserved or unsafe, and how unfamiliarity with happiness can sometimes be a sign of depression that doesn’t look like sadness. This conversation gently reframes joy not as something you earn, but something your nervous system has to learn how to tolerate. In this episode, we explore: * The anxiety of anticipating loss when things feel good * Why some people feel unworthy of joy * How survival mode teaches us to distrust happiness * The difference between joy being absent vs. unfamiliar * How depression can show up as emotional numbness or guardedness * Letting joy exist without waiting for it to be taken away This episode is for the woman who isn’t falling apart — but isn’t fully letting herself feel good either. 📧 Email me your listener letters: FeelingsYouCanTrust@gmail.com 📚 Black Girls Love Smut: https://bookclubs.com/join-a-book-club/club/black-girls-love-smut ⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Welcome Back & Emotional Check-In02:10 — When Life Is Good but Joy Feels Hard05:48 — The Anxiety of the Other Shoe Dropping09:42 — Joy Feeling Unsafe or Undeserved13:55 — Survival Mode & Distrusting Happiness18:30 — Joy as Unfamiliar, Not Absent22:14 — When This Experience Can Be Depression26:40 — Emotional Guarding & Hypervigilance30:55 — Letting Yourself Feel Good Without Fear35:20 — Closing Reflections & Gentle Encouragement ⚠️ DISCLAIMER The perspectives shared in this episode are based on personal experience, reflection, and ongoing education. I am not a licensed therapist, and nothing discussed in this podcast should be considered medical, clinical, or legally binding advice. Please seek support from a licensed mental health professional for guidance specific to your individual needs. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com

    41 min
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