Listen To My Mother

Shain and Sarah Fishman
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Need advice? Ask a New York Jewish mom and her clinically-trained therapist daughter. Shain and Sarah share a fascinating mother-daughter bond, in which they welcome discussions, disagreements, and debates. Bring your questions—any questions—and you’ll get a wide range of guidance, a little tough love, a lot of support, and plenty of humor.

  1. Mar 3

    14: The Staying and The Leaving: Does Sarah Have Abandonment Issues?

    Shain and Sarah start with a conversation about discernment counseling, which is a style of counseling used when couples can’t decide whether to stay married or separate. But as usual, the clinical conversation turns personal. Shain reflects on her own marriage, the fights, the “f* you” that didn’t end it, and the decades it took to reclaim her voice. Sarah shares how a childhood of people coming and going shaped her attachment style and why abandonment doesn’t always look the way you think it does. It’s an honest, funny, sometimes raw conversation about staying, leaving, invisibility, resilience, and the long road to feeling seen. Have a question you want Shain and Sarah to answer on-air? Head to bit.ly/listentomysubmission and send it in. All submissions are anonymous. Shain and Sarah want to hear what you’re navigating!   Stay connected on episodes and more on Instagram at @listentomymother

    55 min

  2. Feb 3

    13: Grief and Loss: Are We Quitting Relationships Too Fast?

    In this episode, Shain and Sarah sit down for an honest conversation about grief, responsibility, boundaries, and the growing culture of estrangement. Shain shares the reality of losing a close friend and the unexpected emotional and logistical weight of serving as executor. Sarah reflects on her own season of change and shifting relationships. Together, they explore big questions many modern families are facing: Are we too quick to walk away from relationships? Where’s the line between healthy boundaries and disposability? And what does kindness look like in a culture that makes disconnection easier than repair? Do you have questions, submissions, or thoughts on today’s culture of estrangement? We'd love to hear from you at listentomymother.podcast@gmail.com To have an anonymous question answered on-air, submit it at: bit.ly/listentomysubmission And follow us on Instagram at @listentomymother

    50 min

  3. 11/25/2025

    12: A Digital Timecapsule: "How Did Your Family Relate to Religion?"

    Shain opens up about her “soul friend” in the ICU and what it feels like to be the person everyone relies on in a crisis. With no listener submission this month, Sarah pulls out one of her keepsake journals and asks Shain a question straight from the page: “Were your parents religious when you were growing up?” That single prompt leads to stories about Holocaust-survivor parents, Jewish identity, and the very different versions of “family dinner” they each grew up with. They wrap by reflecting on the best advice Shain ever received — and the advice she wishes she hadn’t. It’s tender, honest, and exactly the kind of conversation Sarah is grateful to have recorded. Have a question you'd like answered on-air? Submit it at bit.ly/listentomysubmission And follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/listentomymother/

    47 min

  4. 10/28/2025

    11: The Comparison Trap: "How Can I Make Peace with a Path That Didn’t Pay Off?"

    This week, Shain and Sarah respond to a listener who’s struggling to make peace with a career risk that didn’t go as planned—and the sting of comparing herself to friends earning four times her salary. They unpack what it means to redefine success when life doesn’t follow a straight line. Shain applauds the courage it takes to start over and Sarah explores how grief, growth, and comparison intertwine. Together, they offer grounded insight on how to honor the lessons, release the shame, and move forward with purpose. Have a question you'd like answered on-air? Submit it at bit.ly/listentomysubmission And follow us on Instagram at: @listentomymother

    41 min

  5. 09/30/2025

    10: Friendships in Transition: “Should I talk to her about her boyfriend?”

    This week, Shain and Sarah tackle a listener’s question about a friend who seems to be drifting away. Is it just the natural pull of a new relationship, or something more concerning?  For the first time, mother and daughter don’t quite see eye to eye—Shain doesn't hold back, while Sarah leans into the complexities of grief, boundaries, and what it means when friendships shift. Along the way, they share how to grieve the end of an era, how to stay connected without judgment, and what to do if a friend may be caught in an abusive or controlling relationship. Have a question you'd like answered on-air? Submit it at bit.ly/listentomysubmission And follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/listentomymother/

    44 min

  6. 08/26/2025

    9: Stuck In The Past: “Why can’t I let go of resentment?"

    In this week’s episode, Shain and Sarah dive into a listener’s heartfelt question, "What happens when attraction fades in a long-term marriage—even after repair?" Shain shares her own story of decades of resentment, hurtful words, and disconnection as well as the surprising ways intimacy and trust eventually found their way back. Sarah brings the clinical lens, weaving in how the body remembers past trauma and what it takes to rewire safety, trust, and desire in partnership. Together, they offer both the motherly wisdom and therapeutic insight that remind us it’s possible to hold past pain and present love at the same time. And sometimes, letting go takes time. ___ Have a question you'd like answered on-air? Submit it at bit.ly/listentomysubmission And follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/listentomymother/

    40 min

  7. 07/29/2025

    8: Questioning Motherhood: "Do you ever wish you didn't have kids?"

    With no listener question this week, Sarah turns the mic on Shain and asks, "Do you ever wish you didn’t have kids?" Their conversation touches on societal pressures, the modern dilemma of choice, and their relationships to the children in their lives. Shain reflects on the lack of choice she felt when starting her family, while Sarah opens up about her own uncertainty. Want your anonymous question answered on air? Submit your question using the link in the show notes and there's a high likelihood you'll be chosen! Have a question you'd like answered on-air? Submit it at bit.ly/listentomysubmission And follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/listentomymother/

    40 min

  8. 06/24/2025

    7: Relationship Breakdown: "How Do I Reclaim My Peace?"

    Shain and Sarah receive a submission from 'Bella,' a woman facing a sudden and puzzling change in her neighbor's demeanor. Once supportive and friendly, her neighbor has turned hostile, complicating Bella's life and leaving her unsure how to proceed. In this episode, Shain and Sarah dig into the complex dynamics of neighborhood relationships, personal boundaries, and the difficult choices Bella faces to reclaim her peace.

    47 min
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Need advice? Ask a New York Jewish mom and her clinically-trained therapist daughter. Shain and Sarah share a fascinating mother-daughter bond, in which they welcome discussions, disagreements, and debates. Bring your questions—any questions—and you’ll get a wide range of guidance, a little tough love, a lot of support, and plenty of humor.

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  • Creator
    Shain and Sarah Fishman
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2025 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    Listen To My Mother