Free From P*rn

Richard Young
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This isn’t another “try harder” purity podcast.It’s not about white-knuckling your way to freedom or stacking up shame-fueled accountability check-ins.This is about transformation.Real, lasting, gospel-centered freedom from pornography—not someday, but today.Hosted by former addicts turned freedom coaches, Richard Young and Justin Khoe, Free from Porn is a no-shame, no-fluff conversation rooted in one bold truth: If Jesus has set you free from sin, then porn doesn’t get to define you. Each episode exposes the lies keeping you stuck, renews your mind with truth from God’s Word, and helps you walk out the freedom you already have in Christ. Expect raw honesty, biblical clarity, practical strategy, and stories from people who’ve actually broken free—not because they got stronger, but because they started believing what Jesus already said was true.

  1. 1h ago

    #65 Do the Dishes to Do the Dishes: Living in the Present | Psalm 118:24

    If you want to feel shame, live in the past. If you want to worry, live in the future. The only moment you actually have is this one, and it's the one most of us keep running away from. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young continues the series on Bible verses that lead to freedom. This time it's Psalm 118:24: "This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it." Richard shares a simple practice that changed how he lives: doing the dishes to do the dishes, not just to get them done. He talks about how boredom and constant distraction (music, audiobooks, always reaching for the next thing) can quietly train us to escape our own lives. When life hits hard, that same habit sends us looking for relief in porn. You'll hear a real story about a wrong address, a missed birthday party, and what happened when Richard chose to notice his frustration and feel it instead of numbing it. In this episode: Why the present is the only moment that mattersHow distraction sets you up to relapse when your emotions shiftThe lie that a bad feeling will last foreverHow to notice, feel, and stay with hard emotions until they passBrushing your teeth to brush them: bringing presence into ordinary momentsA closing prayer to stop running and start living the day God has madeDon't be afraid of tomorrow. Don't be ashamed of yesterday. This is the day. Live it fully and give glory to God.

  2. Sep 25

    #64 Seven Times Down, Eight Times Up: Breaking All-or-Nothing Thinking (Proverbs 24:16)

    Have you ever slipped up after weeks of doing well and thought, "Well, all that was lost. I'm back at ground zero"? That's all-or-nothing thinking. It has kept a lot of men down who could have gotten back up. In this episode, Richard Young looks at Proverbs 24:16: "For the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity." It's the verse that broke a lot of things loose for him a few years ago. Scripture doesn't say the righteous never fall. It says they get back up. In this episode: Why counting days and all-or-nothing thinking can hold you backWhy quitting porn can feel harder at first: once you stop numbing, you have to face real lifeHow to keep a growth mindset: noticing triggers, watching patterns, and learning to sit with urges instead of running from themA striking study about rats in water, and what it shows about the power of knowing help is comingWhy you already have everything you need in Christ, right nowYou're not too far gone. God loves you. He's teaching you, guiding you, and disciplining you as His son. If you slip, you don't have to stay down. The episode closes with a prayer to stand in that truth and refuse to give up. Free From Porn: where freedom is your new normal.

  3. Sep 18

    Bonus Episode: Death To Life Podcast, A New Nature: Leif Gets Free From Shame

    This is a bonus episode of Free From Porn. This week's episode comes to you from our friends at the Death to Life podcast — we're sharing it here because Leif's story of secret shame, a hidden lust-driven double life, and ultimately gospel-centered freedom lines up exactly with what we talk about on this show. We think you'll be encouraged by it. Leif Cano was used to living a double life. From an early exposure to pornography at just eight years old, Leif's relationship with God always had a tinge of guilt and shame. No matter how many stages he played on in his worship band, Leif saw everything through the lens of lust. That secret shame damaged more than just Leif — it seeped into his high school relationships, two marriages, and several bouts of infidelity. The worst part? He truly believed that was his nature, just an inevitability to sin. But when Leif was at rock bottom and careening toward the end of his second marriage, God showed up in a powerful way. Through the Holy Spirit, Leif was led to freedom from addiction by God's perfect love and forgiveness. The truth of the Gospel transformed Leif's life — and it gets better from there. Listen to his whole story and be reminded of the Good News of what God has done at the cross, once for all! Keywords: Secrets, Pornography, Addiction, Family, Marriage, Therapy, Infidelity, Music Ministry, New Life, Righteousness Credit: Episode originally from the Death to Life podcast, shared here as a bonus episode.

  4. Sep 11

    #63 Why Willpower Keeps Failing You

    You Don't Rise to Willpower, You Rise to Your Environment Rich digs into Proverbs 4:14-15 — "Do not enter the path of the wicked... avoid it, do not go on it, turn away and pass on" — and makes a case that's easy to nod along to but hard to actually live out: most relapses aren't a willpower failure. They're an environment failure. He walks through why the last few times you've slipped up probably looked eerily similar — same place, same trigger, same pattern — and why "just try harder next time" almost always runs out of gas. The fix isn't more grit. It's changing the conditions you keep putting yourself in. Rich gets specific: the five people you surround yourself with, falling asleep scrolling your phone, using your bed for anything other than sleep (or intimacy, if married). Small environmental shifts that remove the setup for failure before willpower ever has to show up. Two questions anchor the episode: What is it about my environment that leads to this? And what can I actually change? In this episode: Why willpower always runs out — and what to build instead"You rise to the level of your environment, not your willpower"Practical environment shifts: phone habits, bedtime, who you surround yourself withTwo questions to ask about your own patterns and slip-upsA prayer to ask God to reveal what needs to change

  5. Sep 4

    #62 You Don't Have to Get Free — You Already Are

    What does a friend's stage 3 breast cancer diagnosis have to do with breaking free from porn? Everything. In this episode, Rich shares a story from that same morning — a phone call, a prayer, and a firsthand look at what it means to "cash the check" God already wrote. Digging into the Greek word sozo (salvation — meaning saved, healed, delivered, made whole, and kept safe) and Psalm 103, Rich makes the case that freedom from unwanted sexual behavior isn't something you're working toward — it's something you already have in Christ. You're not trying to break free. You're not trying to earn healing. You're learning to open your eyes and believe what's already true. If shame has convinced you that freedom is always just out of reach, this episode will challenge you to stop striving and start believing — and closes with a prayer you can pray right where you are.

  6. Aug 28

    # 61 Make It Not an Option (Colossians 3)

    A phone call with his brother sends Rich back to a passage he says might be the one he returns to most — Colossians 3. Paul doesn't tell us to manage sexual immorality or try harder against it. He says put it to death. Rich unpacks the difference, using a simple but sticky illustration: a vegan friend who feels zero temptation around pizza and ice cream at parties — not because he has superhuman willpower, but because eating dairy simply isn't an option for him anymore. Compare that to Rich himself, who's lactose intolerant but can "cheat" with a pill — and the moment it becomes an option, it becomes a struggle. That's the whole episode in one idea: as long as porn stays an option in the back of your mind, you'll keep negotiating with it in weak moments — when you're angry, bored, anxious, or searching. But if you take it off the table entirely, the same way you'd never consider infidelity with a prostitute, you're forced to actually deal with what's underneath. The anxiety. The fear. The thing you were escaping in the first place. Rich makes the case that rules aren't restrictive — they're what actually open up freedom. In this episode: Why "put to death" means something different than "manage" or "resist"The pizza illustration that reframes what temptation really isWhy making something a rule — not an option — is what creates real freedomSetting your mind "on things above" and why that changes what you're drawn toA prayer to take sexual immorality off the table for good

  7. Aug 19

    #60 Galatians 5:16-24 Walk By the Spirit: Why You Won't Satisfy the Flesh

    Rich shares the verse that changed his cousin's life and cracked open the gospel for him — Galatians 5:16-24. Paul lays out two ways to live: by the flesh, or by the Spirit. And Rich unpacks why trying to white-knuckle your way out of porn by focusing on "don't do this" never works — because the psyche doesn't process negatives well. Telling yourself "don't look at porn" doesn't work. Setting your mind on the Spirit does. This episode dismantles a common confusion too: sensuality isn't the same as sexuality — sensuality is living by your feelings, letting emotion dictate your direction. Rich breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, self-control) isn't something you work toward — it's already yours because your old man was crucified with Christ. The core idea: you don't stay out of the old room by staring at the door. You walk into the new one. That's what it means to walk by the Spirit. In this episode: Why "don't do this" doesn't work — and what to focus on insteadThe real difference between sensuality and sexual immoralityWhat it means that your flesh was already crucified with ChristWhy living by feelings keeps you stuck in old patternsA prayer to set your mind on the Spirit and walk out your freedom

  8. Aug 10

    #59 The Centurion's Faith and Your Freedom From Porn

    "Only Say the Word" — The Faith That Made Jesus Marvel There's only one time in scripture Jesus marvels at someone's faith. It's not a disciple. It's not a religious leader. It's a Roman centurion who says something so simple it's easy to miss: "Only say the word, and my servant will be healed." In this episode, Rich digs into Matthew 8 and asks a question that goes deeper than technique: it's not just about handling urges or managing shame. It's about what you actually believe. The centurion understood authority — he gave orders and they got carried out, no questions asked. He recognized Jesus operates the same way in the kingdom of heaven. Rich unpacks why so many of us pray for God to do something He's already done in Christ, and why that's actually a form of unbelief. If you've been asking God to free you, deliver you, heal you — while Jesus has already accomplished it on the cross — this episode will shift how you see your freedom. Not something you're waiting on. Something you're learning to walk in. In this episode: Why Jesus marveled at the centurion's faith more than anyone else in scriptureThe difference between asking God for something and believing He's already done itWhat "sozo" really means — healed, delivered, made whole, kept safeWhy unbelief keeps so many Christians stuck asking for what they already haveA prayer for anyone struggling to believe what God's Word says is true

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This isn’t another “try harder” purity podcast.It’s not about white-knuckling your way to freedom or stacking up shame-fueled accountability check-ins.This is about transformation.Real, lasting, gospel-centered freedom from pornography—not someday, but today.Hosted by former addicts turned freedom coaches, Richard Young and Justin Khoe, Free from Porn is a no-shame, no-fluff conversation rooted in one bold truth: If Jesus has set you free from sin, then porn doesn’t get to define you. Each episode exposes the lies keeping you stuck, renews your mind with truth from God’s Word, and helps you walk out the freedom you already have in Christ. Expect raw honesty, biblical clarity, practical strategy, and stories from people who’ve actually broken free—not because they got stronger, but because they started believing what Jesus already said was true.

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  • Creator
    Richard Young
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    70
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Free From P*rn
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