Vexed in the City

Charlotte Malecki

Unfiltered, curious, and occasionally a little chaotic. Vexed in the City is a podcast about navigating modern life when everything feels a little… complicated. Through conversations, reflections, and slightly unfiltered “vexed takes,” we unpack the messy, confusing, and sometimes ridiculous parts of being human. No perfect answers. No pretending we have it all figured out. Just honest thoughts, different perspectives, uncomfortable truths, and figuring it out as we go. No idea what I’m doing tbh… come along anyway.

Episodes

  1. Sep 18

    Ep9. Sydney Sweeney, Sexualisation & Women’s Sport

    This week, I’m getting into that Novig advert, the backlash from female athletes, and the much bigger conversation it has sparked around women, sex and sport. At a time when women’s sport is finally getting more visibility, more commercial value and more attention, why does a campaign selling sport still centre so heavily on a woman’s body and sexuality? And why has that struck such a nerve with the women who actually compete in sport? From sexualisation and sexism to media representation, harassment and the next generation of female athletes, this is a conversation that goes far beyond one advert. Let’s talk about it.

  2. Sep 9

    Ep8. Women, Beauty Standards & Why We Can’t Stop Commenting

    Why are we so obsessed with how women look? From Ariana Grande’s body being picked apart online, to the beauty standards we’ve grown up with, to the pressure to somehow age without actually looking like we’ve aged… Why do we feel so entitled to have an opinion on women’s appearance? And, more importantly, why are we all so comfortable talking about it? This week, I’m getting into beauty, ageing, social media, celebrity culture and the very weird world of commenting on women’s bodies. Women, Beauty Standards & Why We Can’t Stop Commenting OUT NOW

  3. Aug 30

    Ep7. Vinted, online predators & the dark side of second-hand fashion.

    We all know Vinted. We buy clothes, sell clothes, and hunt for those ridiculous little bargains you absolutely did not need but somehow had to have. But Vinted has a side that has absolutely nothing to do with second-hand clothes. In this episode, I go down the Vinted rabbit hole; from men asking women for sexual photos, to innocent Vinted images being stolen and reposted on pornographic and misogynistic sites, stalking, sexual content and online communities built around sexualising women. And then I came across some really disturbing claims about children allegedly being advertised for trafficking on Vinted. Obviously, I wanted to know what the helly was going on. So I started digging. I looked at the articles, the real-life stories, the investigations, the claims and the counterclaims, and tried to work out what was actually happening — rather than just taking everything I was seeing online at face value. Because, as usual, there's a lot more to the story. Let's get into it 🎙️

  4. Aug 20

    Ep6. Animals, Farming, and The Complicated Reality Behind What We Eat

    What happens when you love animals… but also grew up eating them? In this episode, I’m diving into the complicated reality behind what we eat; from the farming industry and animal welfare to veganism and the meat paradox: the contradiction between caring about animals while eating them. After going to Vegan Camp Out and hearing from people about why they became vegan, I found myself asking some pretty uncomfortable questions. So, I went down the rabbit hole. This isn’t about telling you what you should or shouldn’t eat. It’s about looking at where our food comes from, why we feel so disconnected from it, and what happens when you actually start asking questions. Warning: there are some difficult topics and details in this episode.

  5. Aug 10

    Ep5. Lonely, Angry & Online: The Rise of the Incel Movement

    Incels. The manosphere. The red pill. The blackpill. You’ve probably heard these terms thrown around online, but what actually happens inside these communities, and how did a group of lonely men become one of the internet’s most talked about subcultures? In this episode, I explore the world of incels: where the movement came from, the language they use, the beliefs that shape it, and how online spaces can turn loneliness, rejection and frustration into something much darker. It’s fascinating, frustrating and at times genuinely disturbing, but understanding these communities is an important part of understanding modern online culture.

  6. Aug 2

    Ep4. Murder Docs, Male Violence & Why Women Can’t Look Away

    Why are we all so obsessed with murder documentaries? From binge watching Netflix crime series to falling down endless YouTube rabbit holes, millions of us can’t look away from stories of real-life murder, mystery and the darkest parts of human behaviour. In this episode of Vexed in the City, I’m diving into the psychology behind our obsession with true crime. We’ll explore the rise of the murder documentary, the ethics of consuming real tragedies as entertainment, what these stories tell us about fear and safety, and why women in particular are often drawn to understanding male violence. Expect uncomfortable questions, a few rabbit holes, and my usual unfiltered thoughts on why we can’t stop pressing play. Trigger warning: this episode discusses murder, violence and real-life crime.

  7. Jul 26

    Ep3. Girl’s Girl, Pick Me, and The Performance Of Being A Woman

    We have created an entire vocabulary for women. But somewhere along the way, I started wondering whether we have also created a new set of rules for how women are supposed to behave. In this episode of Vexed in the City, I explore the labels we use to describe women, the pressure to perform the “right” kind of womanhood, and the uncomfortable possibility that some of these labels might be doing the opposite of what feminism was supposed to do. Because are we really supporting women…or are we just supporting women who behave in ways that make us comfortable? This is a conversation about feminism, judgement, confidence, female friendship, growing up, getting things wrong, and the complicated business of being a woman.

  8. Jul 19

    Ep2. Billionaires, Mars, And The Tiny Problem Of Earth

    Elon Musk is talking about rockets, Mars, artificial intelligence, and the future of humanity. Meanwhile, millions of people around the world are struggling with the present. Which makes me ask the question - what happens when the people with the most money and influence are also the ones helping decide what the future looks like? In this episode, we’re talking about Elon Musk, capitalism, innovation, extreme wealth, political influence, and the uncomfortable reality that the people imagining the future may also be helping decide what that future looks like. This episode is not about pretending Elon Musk has achieved nothing. It is also not about ignoring the harm and controversy surrounding him. It is a conversation about ambition, power, wealth, and responsibility. Because when some of the richest people on Earth are looking towards other planets… what responsibility do they have to the one we already live on?

  9. Jul 13

    Ep1. The Beautiful Game… But Are We Asking The Ugly Questions?

    Millions of fans around the world are celebrating the FIFA World Cup; the goals, the drama, the unforgettable moments. But this World Cup left me with a question I couldn’t... shake. What happens when the players we celebrate are also facing serious allegations? In this first episode of Vexed in the City, I explore the relationship between football, fame, power, accountability, and the difficult conversations that happen when sport and real life collide. This episode is not about deciding guilt. It is a (hopefully) thoughtful, uncomfortable conversation about the beautiful game, and the questions we don’t always want to ask.

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    This is... Vexed in the City

    Unfiltered, curious, and occasionally a little chaotic. This podcast is for anyone trying to navigate modern life in all its confusion - from relationships and identity to ambition, culture, and everything quietly shaping how we function as humans. No clue what I’m doing, tbh - just one vexed person trying to make sense of it all. And honestly… that might be the point.

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Unfiltered, curious, and occasionally a little chaotic. Vexed in the City is a podcast about navigating modern life when everything feels a little… complicated. Through conversations, reflections, and slightly unfiltered “vexed takes,” we unpack the messy, confusing, and sometimes ridiculous parts of being human. No perfect answers. No pretending we have it all figured out. Just honest thoughts, different perspectives, uncomfortable truths, and figuring it out as we go. No idea what I’m doing tbh… come along anyway.

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  • Creator
    Charlotte Malecki
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    10
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Vexed in the City
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