Maps Are Dead

Mike D

Maps Are Dead is a podcast about navigating life when the old plans stop working. Hosted by Mike Dauphinee, this series is a raw, real, and often funny conversation with people learning to move forward without a clear path. It’s not about success formulas or five-year plans. It’s about inner maps—CliftonStrengths, courage, and the grit it takes to keep going when certainty disappears. Mike and his guests explore identity, leadership, parenting, purpose, and the moments that shake our lives loose. Join our community: https://the-fit-forum.circle.so/join?invitation_token=9d72b1d6f49e63892f277b

  1. 1d ago

    The Question Every Buyer Is Asking: with Jacques Spitzer

    SummaryJacques Spitzer started Raindrop as a one-person shop and grew it into a creative agency of about a hundred people. He and Mike get into what it takes to keep your footing when the work, the tools, and the industry keep shifting under you. Jacques makes the case that people buy for only two reasons, that being "anti-niche" is a strength rather than a liability, and that the hard part of AI is not the tool, it's leading a hundred people who all feel differently about it. Along the way: why he turns down most of the companies that want to hire him, and why his proudest result last year was a team survey, not an award. About Jacques SpitzerJacques Spitzer is a 4x Emmy® award-winning creative agency founder who AdWeek recently named one of the Top 20 Advertising Leaders in the country. His agency, Raindrop, has generated billions in campaign sales for powerhouse brands like Dr. Squatch, Native and Grüns and insurgent brands like Good Culture, Hello Panda, Magic Spoon, Dude Wipes and more.Raindrop’s creative force has been showcased by their work on three Super Bowl campaigns and their recent execution of the largest brand launch in Procter & Gamble history for Spruce.As a champion for the next generation of disruptive companies, Jacques serves as a strategic advisor to high-growth CPG brands that Raindrop Ventures has uniquely helped launch and invested in, including Grüns, Laundry Sauce, ForAll, VitaWild and Magic Mind. With a trophy case boasting over 50 advertising awards, Jacques’ work is consistently recognized for its rare blend of viral creativity and massive ROI. His insights have been featured in Forbes, AdAge, and Entrepreneur Magazine. He was recently named one of the “most influential people in San Diego” by the San Diego Business Journal and one of “California’s most visionary CEOs” by the Los Angeles Times, who noted:“Raindrop’s creative success and results have put San Diego on the map for creative work across the country.”In addition to his work in advertising, Spitzer helped produce the full-length documentary Wampler’s Ascent, which won over 38 international film festival awards. (Watch on Amazon Prime Now).Know more about Jacques Spitzer⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠Website⁠ Takeaways Nobody buys your mission statement. People buy what reflects who they already are, or who they're trying to become.Often there's no right answer, only an answer you can have conviction in. That's true of AI, of who you hire, and of who you agree to work with.Leading people through a new tool is less about the tool and more about the fact that your team feels every possible way about it at once.A niche can become a cage. Getting clear on your real strength lets you take it anywhere.Saying no protects the work. Turning down most of the demand can be the choice that keeps the quality.A leader leaves a wake whether they notice it or not. The dangerous ones are the leaders who don't.Feedback works best on a disciplined ratio. If people are right most of the time, your feedback should reflect that, not just the corrections.Culture is not a statement on a wall. It's how you show up in every single meeting.The truest measure of a good year might be whether your team still wants to be there next year. Soundbites "People only buy things for two reasons. They believe it's a reflection of who they are already today. Or who they're trying to become. That's it.""Sometimes there's just no right answer. It's just an answer that you have conviction in.""It's how you show up in every single meeting. It is not a vision statement.""This is the most successful year we've ever had, not because we won this external award, but because that was the survey we got back.""Information isn't transformation, and transformation is a human experience." Share this with a founder who can't stop being the one who does everything. Join The Fit ForumMike's free CliftonStrengths community bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  2. Sep 15

    Hope under the Taliban: with Aref Dostyar

    Summary On August 15, 2021, Aref Dostyar was Afghanistan's Consul General in Los Angeles. By the end of the day, the government he represented no longer existed. His map wasn't running out. It was being erased while he stood on it. Aref and Mike talk about what you steer by when the plan disappears in an afternoon. How Aref and his staff wrote a plan on a Friday they didn't yet know they'd need by Sunday. Why he calls taking action his therapy. And what he is learning from Afghan women who refuse the reality that was handed to them. This one is about navigating with no roadmap, and choosing to keep building anyway. About Aref Dostyar Aref Dostyar leads the Afghanistan Dialogue and Visioning Process (DVP), a multi- stakeholder initiative, housed at the University of Notre Dame, that aims to develop a shared vision for a peaceful future in Afghanistan. He is interested in comparative dialogue methodologies, consensus-building, and visioning processes in divided societies. Prior to joining Notre Dame, Dostyar served in senior diplomatic and national security roles for the Islamic Republic of Afghanistan, including as Consul General in Los Angeles (2020-2022) and as Director General for International Relations and Regional Cooperation and Director of Peace and Reconciliation Affairs at the Office of the National Security Council. Dostyar’s analysis and commentary have been featured in the New York Times, Foreign Policy, Al Jazeera, The Cipher Brief, Vox, and other publications. His recent essay, “How the UN can turn Afghanistan’s seat into a path forward” was published by the London School of Economics and Political Science. He posts on social media at @ArefDostyar. But if you ask him, nothing compares to wrestling and giggling with his two little sons in the evenings! Know more about Aref: - https://api-peacebuilding.com/ - https://aptyouth.org/ Takeaways When the map is erased, you navigate by a compass. Aref's was simple: people first. Family, colleagues, friends, ahead of services and strategy.A plan you never use isn't wasted. Aref's team wrote one on Friday afternoon. The country fell Sunday. It kept them from starting from zero in the chaos.Action can be therapy. Offered six months to rest, Aref couldn't take six days. Building something was how he processed the loss.The healthiest people in a crisis spend almost no time on how the reality got here. They ask a better question: here I am, what do I do now?Relationship over rules. In the moment that mattered most, what moved people wasn't procedure. It was who you knew and who you kept showing up for.You can't leave a generation in the waiting room of history. Change is generational, but real people need help today. You hold both at once.Guns haven't worked in decades. Set against the cost of fighting, talking is cheap. Peace starts by building constituencies willing to sit down.Everything changes, because it always has. The trap is believing this moment is permanent. Get your insides ready for the change you can't yet see.You can't un-educate a person. Afghan women are learning on their phones with the schools shut, because once something is learned, it can't be taken back. Soundbites "The formulas of the past just do not work.""There's an entire generation that cannot be in the waiting room of history.""This is my therapy to take action.""We have tried the alternative and it has not worked.""They are refusing to accept this imposed reality on them, and they are determined to change that.""You can't un-educate somebody, ever." (Mike) Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone navigating a season with no roadmap. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community, bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  3. Sep 1

    All Our Maps Are Incomplete - with Danny Kim

    Summary Mike sits down with Danny Kim, a classically trained violinist turned pastor turned organizational psychologist who has changed careers about every eighteen months and calls each leap an invitation, not a crisis. Danny grew up without a map. The only Asian kid in a white neighborhood, a first-generation Korean American, he learned to chart his own course before he was old enough to drive. Now, crossing forty and doing the math on how much music he has left to make, the question gets sharper. When the map runs out, what do you steer by? The answer Danny keeps landing on isn't a framework or a hack. It's people. This is a conversation about relationships as the compass, and why admitting your map is incomplete might be the most connective thing you can do. About Danny Kim Includer · Activator · Communication · Command · Self-Assurance Danny Kim, PhD, brings the science of human performance to the art of leadership. An I/O psychologist, CliftonStrengths coach, and team builder, Danny helps organizations discover what they're truly capable of. Danny Kim is the Assistant Vice President of People and Operations at the San Diego Foundation, where he leads people, culture, and operations while also overseeing IT and the organization's AI transformation. His path has run through Raindrop, the award-winning San Diego creative agency, as Head of People, plus Point Loma Nazarene University and consulting work with Centauric and The Dauphinee Group. He holds a BS in biological sciences, a Master of Divinity in transformational leadership, and a PhD in industrial and organizational psychology, with doctoral research on emotional intelligence, problematic smartphone use, and the future of the digital workforce. He is the author of Influx: Finding Purpose in Transition and lives in San Diego. Know more about Danny: www.drdannykim.com Takeaways ● Nobody hands you a map to hurt you, but there comes a point when it stops working, and only you can know that. ● Running off the map isn't failure. Danny reframes the unknown as a threshold, a door opening, an invitation to walk through. ● If life never handed you a map, you learned to chart your own course early, and that becomes a strength instead of a wound. ● Coaching isn't a set of tools. It's presence, paying attention to the person in front of you and finding the real challenge under what they say. ● Behind every door is a possibility, but not every door is an opportunity. Vision is what tells the two apart. ● A building never sings your song. Titles, products, and org charts don't tell the story of your life. People do. ● Information isn't transformation. Transformation never happens alone. It happens in relationship. ● Process and technology are simple. People are complex, and that complexity is where leadership actually lives. ● Before you make a change, ping it. Ask what the relationships you value most would say about the move you're weighing. ● Every map is incomplete. The moment you stop pretending yours is finished, someone can help you fill it in. Soundbites ● “A building never sings your song.” ● “Information isn't transformation. Transformation never occurs alone. It always occurs in relationship.” ● “Process and technology, I'm gonna simplify it, is simple. It's the people that are complex.” ● “All of our maps are incomplete. There is no roadmap. There is no map.” ● “People already have the wisdom within them. My job is to pull it out.” ● “We borrow some of your belief until we find our own.” Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's standing in front of a door, afraid to open it. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community — bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  4. Aug 11

    How to Make Decisions When There's No Roadmap

    Summary Have you ever been lost? Not turned around in the woods, though Joseph has a story about that too, but lost in your own life. Joseph Pietrocini is 26 and running three companies at once, and he has spent his whole life navigating toward a vision most people never let themselves name. Mike sits down with a friend he has coached since the eighth grade to unpack what it takes to move when the map runs out: deciding by direction instead of destination, why ideas are worthless without execution, and how to build something that matters without doing it alone. The twist is that being lost has almost nothing to do with not knowing where you are. About Joseph Pietrocini Strategic · Competition · Ideation · Futuristic · Positivity From starting a lawn care business in middle school to building a marketing agency in college, and now starting RECREATE Work with his father and WealthReach with his business partners, Joseph loves to build businesses that have the ability to impact people at scale. Follow Joseph: Instagram: @joseph_pietrocini LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/josephpietrocini Takeaways ● Not knowing where you are and being lost are two different things. The panic shows up only when you don't know where you are and where you're going at the same time. ● You don't have to know where you are to move. You need peace about where you're going. ● Navigate by direction, not destination. You don't have to choose San Diego over Miami to agree it's time to head south. ● Ideas are cheap. What separates people is execution, the willingness to actually do the thing. ● Trying to do a thing and doing it look nothing alike. Not sitting in the chair looks exactly like trying to sit in the chair. ● Information by itself changes nothing. Every packaged food has a nutrition label and we're heavier than ever. ● The people around you set the ceiling on who you become. Change the community and you change the behavior. ● You can't predict the future, and anyone who claims they can is worth ignoring. All you know is that it will be different. ● Certainty and control are an illusion. In the fog, reach for curiosity instead of fear. ● The barrier to starting has never been lower. The only wrong move is refusing to take one. Soundbites ● "Lost is a state of mind and a choice." ● "You don't have to know where you are, but you can have peace in knowing where you're going." ● "Anybody can have the idea, what differentiates ideas is how you execute on it." ● "Information is not transformation, which is why AI data is not going to transform real fact." ● "Not sitting in the chair looks exactly like trying to sit in the chair." ● "Certainty and control is an illusion." Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who feels lost but really just hasn't decided where they're going. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community. Bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  5. Jul 21

    Healing Isn't a Straight Line Forward

    Summary Destry Wardle has spent nearly two decades helping people go backward before they can moveforward. Today she's turning that lens on the man across the table from her. Mike sits down with his longtime coach, collaborator, and self-described “sister voice in my head” to unpack why healing isn't a straight line, why thetools that kept you alive as a kid can quietly sabotage you as an adult, and why he's more willing than usual to turn the mirror on himself. About Destry Wardle Connectedness Communication Arranger Analytical Harmony Destry Wardle is a therapeutic and performance coach and Chief of Staff at The Dauphinee Group. Before stepping into coaching, she trained as a therapist and holds an MA in Clinical Pastoral Counseling from Ashland Theological Seminary. Fornearly two decades, she has served with Healing Care Ministries, where she directs the Come Away with Me Retreats and has facilitated more than 50 multi-day group retreats. She lives outside Boulder, Colorado. Takeaways ●       Therapy is the journey backward: witnessingold ruptures and ungrieved losses. Coaching is the journey forward: turningthat awareness into partnership and accountability. Neither replaces the other. ●       The behaviors that helped you survive yourstory often become the very things working against you in your present. ●       Sometimes the mind goes blank exactly wherethe unprocessed work is waiting. You can't explain a block you haven't namedyet. ●       Survival tools are custom-built for onespecific environment. What kept you safe as a kid won't necessarily keep yousafe now. ●       You can't skip the emotional work to shortcutyour way to healing. You have to feel it to heal it. ●       Feelings buried alive don't die. They come outsideways, in your relationships and in your work. ●       None of us were formed in isolation, and noneof us heal in isolation either. ●       Every strength brings something and needssomething. An unmet need doesn't disappear. It multiplies pressure on the restof who you are. ●       Under threat, most people default to one ofthree roles: fixing everyone else's feelings, blaming someone, or collapsinginto helplessness. ●       The goal was never perfection. It's gettingcurious about your story instead of judging it. Soundbites ●       “None of us were formed away from people.” ●       “We want to heal ourselves by ourselves.” ●       “We have to feel to heal.” ●       “Feelings buried alive never die.” ●       “Healthy people ask for what they want.” ●       “I'm not the only one who's sitting with thatstory inside of me that's so terrified to have it exposed.” Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's trying to heal by themselves and wondering why it isn't working. Join The Fit Forum Mike's free CliftonStrengths community. Bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  6. Jul 7

    Confidence Is Remembered, Not Conjured

    Summary Katie Kennedy is seven years old, hand raised in art class, waiting for her teacher to just tell her what to do next. Twenty years later, she's a senior manager at Twin Cities agency OVATIVE Group, and she's still catching herself waiting for someone else to hand her the next step. Mike sits down with his longtime friend to unpack why people-pleasing might be the most manipulative habit you don't know you have, what happens when your definition of growth quietly expires, and why the confidence you're chasing isn't something you conjure, it's something you remember. About Katie Kennedy Developer · Positivity · Empathy · Connectedness · Achiever Katie Kennedy is a Senior Manager on the Client Services team at Ovative Group, where she helps clients navigate complex marketing challenges with thoughtful strategy, strong partnerships, and storytelling. At her core, she loves people and believes the right words can bring them together. When she’s not working, you’ll find her reading, running, discovering new restaurants, or happily dilly-dallying in a cute local shop. Driven by curiosity and empathy, Katie loves conversations that leave people feeling inspired—and a little more understood. More about Katie:Website: katiekennedy.me Instagram: @kathalatha Takeaways Confidence isn't conjured, it's remembered, you build it by recalling the evidence, not manufacturing new proof every time you need it.People-pleasing isn't kindness, it's control, it's an attempt to manage someone else's reaction to protect your own sense of worth.We reach for control when we feel fear and reach for curiosity when we move toward love.Growth stops feeling good the moment your definition of "growth" quietly goes out of date.The higher you climb, the less applause you get for showing up well, most of the growth that matters now happens without an audience.Trade-offs stay invisible until you decide something is worth more than someone else's approval.A career doesn't need to be your calling to be meaningful, sometimes the vehicle matters more than the destination.Best friends at work aren't a soft perk. They're tied directly to retention, productivity, and profitability.Connection only makes sense in hindsight, you're not supposed to see the pattern while you're still inside it.Critical thinking, not the AI tool itself, decides whether it actually helps you or just moves you faster in the wrong direction. Soundbites "We reach for control when we feel fear. We reach for curiosity when we move towards love.""Confidence is remembered, not conjured.""People pleasing is the most manipulative way to live your life.""The illusion of control is what's like giving me gray hair.""Critical thinking is the most valuable skill in the world right now.""Connection is backwards, not forwards."Facing Codependence by Pia MellodyThe Alchemist by Paulo CoelhoJoanna Gaines' story (her path from working in her dad's auto parts store to building her own brand)Helen Keller's account of learning language from her teacherGallup research on workplace well-being, team leadership impact, and friendship at work Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's still waiting for permission to trust their own timing. Join The Fit ForumMike's free CliftonStrengths community — bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  7. Jun 23

    Do It Scared with Serena Tillman

    Summary In this episode, Mike Dauphinee sits down with Serena Tillman, licensed master social worker, certified personal trainer, Pilates instructor, and founder of a women's community group called Esther's Daughters, for one of the most honest conversations of the season. Mike and Serena have known each other for 28 years. That history shows. This isn't a polished success story. It's a real look at what it means to navigate marriage, motherhood, career pivots, and identity — all at once, without a map, and with everyone around you having a very loud opinion about what you should do. Serena talks about learning to turn down the volume on other people's voices and turn up her own. About the moment she quit her first job out of Columbia before she'd been there six months, and what it cost her to make that call. About postpartum isolation during a pandemic, a premature baby born during a planned absence, and what it actually looks like to build a village before you need one. And about the one thing she'd tell anyone standing at the start of a decade they can't yet imagine. About Serena Tillman Discipline · Harmony · Empathy · Maximizer · ConsistencySerena Tillman is a Nike Trainer, Lagree and Treadmill instructor, nonprofit founder, and self-described "COO of the Tillman Family." She is the founder of Esther's Daughters, a women's community organization rooted in faith, fellowship, and purposeful living. Serena approaches everything from household management to personal wellness with intentional, systems-driven thinking, and is passionate about helping women build lives of integrity, impact, and illumination. Based in Montclair, NJ, she brings energy, clarity, and heart to every conversation. Learn more about Serena: Visit her website Follow her on Instagram Follow her family on Instagram Takeaways The voices don't go away when you make a confident decision. You just get better at turning down the volume.Navigating alone still requires community. The compass is yours — but you need people to help you read it.Healthy people ask for what they want. Asking isn't weakness. Waiting in silence is.Do it scared. The courage isn't the absence of fear — it's moving anyway.Not everyone gets access to your zone four. Be intentional about who does — and invest in them the way you want them to invest in you.It is not one size fits all. The deviation from someone else's path isn't failure. It's yours.The plan B you build before crisis is what keeps you standing when crisis arrives.You don't need to see the finish line. One foot in front of the other is enough.Build your village early, before you need it. You can't draft people in an emergency.Maximizer never quite feels like enough. The growth is learning that the drive doesn't have to be answered every time.Soundbites "You have to intentionally turn down the volume of the voice that's saying, what will they think? And turn up the voice that says, I've made good decisions before.""It is not one size fits all. And you need to be okay with the size that fits you.""Do it scared. You just have to. My heart rate, my pits, you just have to do it.""Healthy people ask for what they want.""Not everybody needs an explanation as to why we do what we do.""No is a complete sentence." Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Share this with someone who's been waiting to feel ready before they make the move. Join The Fit ForumMike's free CliftonStrengths community, bring your Top 5 and find your people.

  8. Jun 9

    Life's Biggest Decisions Don't Have a Right Answer

    Summary In this episode, Mike Dauphinee sits down with Barbara Macnish, Gallup-certified strengths coach, founder of TriQuester Teams, and one of the first coaches to join The Dauphinee Group, for a conversation about what it means to navigate without a map. They go back nearly 20 years, to a strengths session in Portugal that changed Barbara's career before she even knew she wanted to be a coach. This conversation covers what it takes to choose a person over a plan, how a season of real hardship taught her to trust her own resilience, and why the best coaching has nothing to do with having answers. They also dig into what makes CliftonStrengths different, why tactics always expire, and what happens when you stop treating life like a math problem with a right answer.About Barbara MacnishConnectedness · Communication · Developer · Empathy · IndividualizationBarbara Macnish founded Triquester Teams in 2013 so that she could offer her coaching skills to individuals and teams, releasing their potential and enabling them to perform at their best. She uses assessments such as the Clifton StrengthsFinderTM and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and to help her clients grow in their understanding of who they are as individuals and in their contexts at work and at home. When team coaching, she identifies issues in the structure and composition of teams in order to enable the team to find creative solutions to the challenges they face. She was team leader of the European Team-training Group at Christian Associates International, a church planting and social action organization based in the USA and Europe, between 2010 and 2015. Her role included recruiting, training and organizing team builders to train leaders across Europe in inter-personal communication, shared vision, values and protocols within their teams. She is a qualified mediator and delivers training and coaching in dealing with conflict. Barbara taught in an inner city school in Baltimore, USA; was Office Manager for the executive office of World Relief in Baltimore; and delivers leadership and management training for Azesta LTD in the UK. She has been a part of The Dauphnee Group since 2022 working with leaders and managers in the financial sector. Mother of two, she paints and sells her art, and organizes community art projects.TakeawaysThe biggest decisions don't have right or wrong answers , they have trade-offs. Start by naming what you're willing to pay.Choosing a person over a plan is not abandoning your values. Sometimes it is the most authentic expression of them.Tactics have an expiration date. If the strategy isn't working, adding more tactics won't save it.You can have strengths and not be using them. Resource and application are two different things.The healthiest version of you has been shaped by others. You can't see yourself clearly without people who mirror you well.CliftonStrengths doesn't just describe you. It gives you language to name things you've been dismissing as nothing.Resilience isn't a trait you either have or don't. It's something you learn to trust, usually through the things you didn't think you'd survive.Being available to someone else's story is not a distraction from your struggles. For some wiring, it's exactly what refuels you.Soundbites"There isn't a right or wrong. You're not ditching all that is meaningful to you if you choose this relationship.""The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their right name.""Self-esteem in a bottle. That's what CliftonStrengths can be.""In moments when only you can choose, the healthiest you has been shaped by others.""Being available to someone else's story always seems to help."Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to Maps Are Dead with Mike D on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube.⁠Join The Fit Forum⁠Mike's free CliftonStrengths community — bring your Top 5 and find your people.

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Maps Are Dead is a podcast about navigating life when the old plans stop working. Hosted by Mike Dauphinee, this series is a raw, real, and often funny conversation with people learning to move forward without a clear path. It’s not about success formulas or five-year plans. It’s about inner maps—CliftonStrengths, courage, and the grit it takes to keep going when certainty disappears. Mike and his guests explore identity, leadership, parenting, purpose, and the moments that shake our lives loose. Join our community: https://the-fit-forum.circle.so/join?invitation_token=9d72b1d6f49e63892f277b

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