Saying Yes Again: Helping midlife singles and couples rewrite their love story.

Dr. Lisa and Tony Goudy
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Finding love after 50 isn't just possible—it can be the most exciting chapter of your life. Hosted by Dr. Lisa and her husband Tony, Saying Yes Again shares real conversations, personal stories, and practical advice for navigating dating, relationships, and self-discovery after divorce. From rebuilding confidence and embracing vulnerability to trying dating apps for the first time and blending families, we explore what it means to love—and live—fearlessly in midlife. Whether you're reentering the dating world, searching for companionship, or redefining what you want from love, this show gives you the insight, encouragement, and inspiration you need. Get ready for heartfelt discussions, expert tips, and a few laughs along the way. Because saying "yes" again isn't just about finding the right partner—it's about saying yes to yourself, your joy, and your second chance at love.

  1. The Truth About, 'I Don't Need Anybody'

    6d ago

    The Truth About, 'I Don't Need Anybody'

    In this insightful conversation, Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the complex relationship between independence, vulnerability, and emotional connection post-divorce. They discuss how societal norms and personal fears influence our ability to form meaningful relationships and offers guidance on balancing independence with emotional openness. Takeaways Pretending not to need love can keep people stuck and numb. Many successful women are tired of disappointment and choose emotional self-protection. Men and women often develop emotional shells to avoid vulnerability. True independence is about freedom, not emotional detachment. Connection is vital for physical and mental health, especially in later life. Chapters 00:00 The Myth of Independence and Emotional Detachment 01:26 Why Successful Women Feel Tired of Trying 02:20 The Cost of Emotional Self-Protection 03:20 Men's Emotional Detachment Post-Divorce 04:20 The Danger of Emotional Shutdown 05:36 Sabotaging Healthy Love 06:36 The Difference Between Real and Fake Independence 08:03 Confusing Confidence with Emotional Detachment 09:34 Numbness vs. Peace 10:27 The Wall of Independence 12:17 Hyper Independence After Long-Term Relationships 14:20 Resisting Connection and Vulnerability 16:49 The Fear of Letting Love In 18:41 The Cost of Emotional Flatness 19:52 The Importance of Human Connection 20:59 Healing vs. Numbing 22:31 Join the Saying Yes Again Community   Saying Yes Again Community  Join our newsletter and visit our website

    25 min
  2. When Dating Starts To Feel Like A Threat

    Jun 2

    When Dating Starts To Feel Like A Threat

    This episode explores the emotional challenges of dating after divorce, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, experience over performance, and reducing pressure to foster genuine connections. Dr. Lisa and Tony shares personal insights and practical advice for navigating modern dating with confidence and self-love. Key  topics The impact of social media on relationship expectations The importance of authenticity and being present during dates How to shift mindset from evaluation to experience Handling nervousness and guardedness in dating The significance of dating as an experience, not a test Chapters 00:00 The Illusion of Perfection in Dating 02:45 Navigating Emotional Barriers 05:57 Transforming Dates into Experiences 08:45 The Pressure of Expectations in Dating 11:56 Reframing Dating Mindsets 15:05 Finding Authentic Connections 17:45 Creating Opportunities for Genuine Interactions Saying Yes Again website to join our email list Watch the entire video on our YouTube channel  Join our Facebook Community

    31 min
  3. Defensive Dating Is Destroying Your Love Life

    May 19

    Defensive Dating Is Destroying Your Love Life

    Dr. Lisa and Tony Exploring the emotional barriers and defensive dating habits of singles over 40 post-divorce, and how fear and trust impact new relationships. Takeaways Fear of vulnerability often drives emotional detachment in dating. Many singles over 40 wear armor to protect themselves from hurt. Healing involves trusting oneself and learning to manage fear. Defensive dating can prevent deep connections and true intimacy. Recognizing and addressing underlying fears is key to healthy relationships. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dating After Divorce 02:22 The Fear Behind Defensive Dating 03:44 Trusting Yourself Again 05:08 Cautious vs. Vulnerable Dating 06:28 The Impact of Fear on Dating Strategies Website - https://sayingyesagain.com

    17 min
  4. Who Comes First- Your Spouse or Your Children?

    May 13

    Who Comes First- Your Spouse or Your Children?

    This episode tackles the emotionally charged topic of prioritizing your spouse versus your children in blended families and remarriages. Hosted by Dr. Lisa Herbert and Tony, it explores how to build a strong foundation, maintain healthy boundaries, and model love and respect for children and partners alike. Action  items: Prioritize your marriage to build a stable family foundation Create regular date nights to maintain connection Set healthy boundaries to protect your relationship Model love and respect for children through your actions Communicate openly with children about family dynamics Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Dilemma 01:26 The Emotional Complexity of Prioritizing Spouse vs. Children 03:58 Shifting Perspectives: From Children to Spouse 06:04 The Foundation of a Strong Marriage 09:21 Navigating Blended Families and Long-Term Partnerships 10:26 Common Pitfalls in Parenting Dynamics 12:31 Understanding Emotional Dependencies 17:23 The Importance of Inclusion in Blended Families 19:00 Challenges in Blended Family Dynamics 20:37 Strategies for Strengthening Marital Foundations 21:25 Practical Steps to Prioritize Marriage 24:15 The Balance of Parenting and Partnership 28:07 Conclusion: Modeling Healthy Relationships Saying Yes Again Website  Dr. Lisa's book Take Back Your Life: A Working Mom's Guide To Work-Life Balance  Order Here

    29 min
  5. It's Not Just Us: The Reality of Blending Families

    May 6

    It's Not Just Us: The Reality of Blending Families

    In this episode, Tony and Dr. Lisa share their candid experiences and insights on blending lives later in life. They discuss the complexities of merging personalities, pasts, and family dynamics, offering practical advice and heartfelt stories for those navigating similar journeys. Key Topics The emotional and logistical challenges of blending families after age 40 The importance of understanding existing relationship and parenting dynamics How to identify your role—supporting actor, co-star, or guest—in a blended family Personal stories from Lisa about participating in a podcast pitch contest and the value of putting yourself out there The significance of validation and exposure in pursuing creative and personal goals Tips for maintaining individuality while building a new shared life The impact of emotional baggage and past relationships on current partnerships Preparing for and managing expectations with stepparenting and new family roles Timestamps 00:00 - The joys and challenges of loving and blending lives later in life 00:10 - Exploring what it really means to integrate into a partner's existing family structure 00:38 - Lisa shares her experience at the Black Effect Podcast Summit and the power of stepping out of comfort zones 01:09 - Celebrating small wins: The journey from pitching a podcast to gaining exposure 01:33 - The significance of validation in creative pursuits and personal growth 01:58 - The role of existing relationship dynamics in blended families 02:27 - Personal stories: Overcoming fears and embracing opportunities 02:57 - The importance of community and recognition in pursuing goals 03:23 - How life experiences shape our approach to blending families 03:53 - Final reflections on navigating love and family in later years Follow us on YouTube  Learn more about us Saying Yes Again Follow us on Facebook, Instagram Sign up for our Love and Confidence in Dating Coaching Program starting May 27th.

    23 min
  6. Why Good People Struggle to Receive Love — Breaking Barriers to Healthy Relationships

    Apr 24

    Why Good People Struggle to Receive Love — Breaking Barriers to Healthy Relationships

    In this episode, Tony and Dr. Lisa explore why even the best, most consistent people often struggle to accept love. They uncover the emotional blocks that prevent many from opening their hearts and share practical insights to foster vulnerability and healing. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and the topic of love and vulnerability 00:14 - Celebrating life and love milestones in Aruba 01:13 - Why good people remain single despite doing "all the right things" 01:43 - Exploring the root causes: fear of love, past hurts, and internal barriers 02:21 - How past experiences shape current ability to accept love 03:15 - The danger of overanalyzing and pulling back when love gets close 04:15 - The pain of love that wasn't reciprocated and emotional scars 05:15 - Self-sabotage and the fear of vulnerability 06:14 - Recognizing signs: paranoia, overthinking, pulling away 07:14 - Choosing the wrong partners and controlling the relationship process 08:14 - The need for trust and surrender in love 09:14 - Control as a defense mechanism and its impact on relationships 10:13 - The importance of letting your guard down and being open to love 11:11 - Distinguishing between genuine peace and protective barriers 12:17 - How to relax into healthy love and drop the defenses 13:39 - Influence of childhood, familial patterns, and ancestral wounds 14:00 - The significance of evaluating your social circle and energy influence 15:14 - Redefining what healthy love looks like versus boredom or familiarity 16:43 - The power of self-awareness and learning to receive love 17:13 - Small steps: trusting, letting go of fears, and being vulnerable 18:13 - Reflective questions: Do you push away or invite possible love? 19:36 - Do you prefer chaos and inconsistency over steady, calm partnerships? 19:54 - Are you unconsciously using independence as a shield? 20:36 - The possibility that love is already around you but you haven't known how to absorb it 21:06 - Encouragement for self-inventory and sharing insights with others 22:01 - The importance of spring cleaning your emotional landscape 22:41 - Invitation to join community and subscribe to ongoing support 23:11 - Closing remarks and encouragement to say "yes" to love Saying Yes Again Community on Facebook Remember, love begins with self-awareness and openness. Let go of past hurts, clear out emotional clutter, and step into the possibility of being truly loved. If you're ready to receive love, sign up for our transformational 6-week coaching experience designed for accomplished women ready to release outdated beliefs about love, rebuild confidence, and create meaningful relationships.

    23 min
  7. Why Do Good People End Up Alone?

    Mar 31

    Why Do Good People End Up Alone?

    Tony and Dr. Lisa explore why good, committed people often find themselves alone despite their qualities and morals. This episode dives into the complexities of compatibility, timing, and self-awareness in the pursuit of love. Timestamps: 00:37 - Introducing the question: Why or are good people alone? 0:56 - Defining what makes someone "good" and why that doesn't guarantee relationship success 1:54 - The difference between being a good person and being a good partner 2:24 - The impact of compatibility versus morals and values 4:16 - The importance of alignment in values and emotional needs 5:10 - Timing and healing: Why being ready matters 6:35 - The role of non-negotiables and avoiding the wrong choices 7:58 - Nurturing tendencies, people-pleasing, and attracting the wrong people 8:58 - The challenge of being emotionally unavailable or hard to love 10:37 - Recognizing and addressing personal walls and guardrails 12:30 - Self-reflection after past relationships and setting realistic expectations 14:45 - The changed dating landscape after or 40 and bringing past habits into new relationships 16:09 - Characteristics that differentiate "choosable" partners—communication, growth, emotional availability 18:28 - The importance of self-awareness and willingness to grow 20:23 - Are you unknowingly putting up barriers that keep you single? 21:16 - Summing up: Good people aren't alone because they are unworthy, but because love requires more—timing, vulnerability, alignment 22:24 - Final encouragement to take stock, work on barriers, and open up to love 23:19 - Announcement: A 6-week experience to help women or create their next chapter in love, starting soon Resources & Links: Saying Yes Again Website Six-Week Love Building Program (details on website) Remember, love is about alignment and timing, not just goodness. Reflect on your barriers, or be honest with yourself, and open to growth for the love you deserve.

    25 min
  8. Are Good Men Really Tired Of Dating After 40?

    Mar 24

    Are Good Men Really Tired Of Dating After 40?

    In this episode of "Saying Yes Again," Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the often-overlooked struggles men face in midlife dating. They discuss how emotional wounds from divorce, financial setbacks, and societal expectations leave many good men feeling exhausted and cautious about new relationships. The hosts emphasize the importance of clear communication, mutual support, and creating intentional spaces—like their mixers—for mature singles to connect authentically. They encourage both men and women to be open, patient, and honest, reminding listeners that it's never too late to find real love and say yes again. If you are a woman ready to step into this next chapter, join us for a transformational 6-week coaching experience designed for accomplished women ready to release outdated beliefs about love, rebuild confidence, and create meaningful relationships. Program starts May 26th Register here Connect with us: Saying Yes Again YouTube Saying Yes Again Website Saying Yes Again Facebook Saying Yes Again Store

    23 min
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Finding love after 50 isn't just possible—it can be the most exciting chapter of your life. Hosted by Dr. Lisa and her husband Tony, Saying Yes Again shares real conversations, personal stories, and practical advice for navigating dating, relationships, and self-discovery after divorce. From rebuilding confidence and embracing vulnerability to trying dating apps for the first time and blending families, we explore what it means to love—and live—fearlessly in midlife. Whether you're reentering the dating world, searching for companionship, or redefining what you want from love, this show gives you the insight, encouragement, and inspiration you need. Get ready for heartfelt discussions, expert tips, and a few laughs along the way. Because saying "yes" again isn't just about finding the right partner—it's about saying yes to yourself, your joy, and your second chance at love.

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