Outside the Manosphere: a Nontoxic Bromance

Skip and Carlos
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Welcome to Skip and Carlos Outside the Manosphere — where two friends get to know each other better while unpacking what it means to be a man today. How do you balance strength with vulnerability? Confidence with humility? How do you stay ambitious without becoming an a*****e? And is it really so hard to admit that it’s Patrick Swayze you love in Dirty Dancing? Let’s figure this out.

  1. 12h ago

    25: Male Privilege - Beauty Standards, the Pink Tax & Workplace Bias

    What does male privilege look like in everyday life? Sometimes it’s as obvious as being taken more seriously at work. Other times, it’s as ordinary as getting ready in the morning — or buying a car. This week on Outside the Manosphere, Skip and Carlos return to the Male Privilege Checklist to unpack three ways gender can shape everyday experiences: The grooming gap: Why can men roll out of bed and get on with their day while women face far more pressure to look polished? The car-buying double standard: Are women more likely to get a worse deal when buying a car? The motherhood penalty: Why might a woman’s potential plans to have children affect her chances of getting hired, while men rarely have to worry about the same assumptions? Plus, the news takes us from Alberta’s separatism referendum to concerns about election monitoring in the US, Trump’s apparent delight in charging people a fortune for a burger, and the fallout from the war in Ukraine. The guys also debate student protests in France and ask why society so often seems more interested in protecting businesses than the people they’re supposed to serve. And, of course, we wrap up with our weekly joys. Got a green flag or a little joy to share? Send it to outsidethemanosphere@gmail.com, find us on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, and join us as we explore masculinity, manosphere culture, and a more human way forward. New episodes every Wednesday. Like, rate, subscribe, and share the show with a friend! Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ MSNow - Trump administration refuses international election monitors for first time in over 2 NYT - Alberta’s Referendum Was Clear Yahoo - Trump Dangles $5K Dividend to MAGA Rallygoers AP News - Ukraine's strikes on Russian data centers disrupt key ... Rueters - Order to limit Starshield for Ukraine came from inside White ... Nomas.org - Male Privilege Checklist

  2. Oct 21

    24: Sociopaths, Psychopaths, and the Illusion of Caring

    This week, Skip and Carlos dig into antisocial personality disorder, sociopathy, and psychopathy. What’s the difference between someone who acts on impulse and someone who knows exactly how to manipulate the people around them? The guys explore the warning signs, the role of trauma, and why charm can make controlling behavior so difficult to recognize. Most importantly, they unpack how isolation, financial abuse, and the slow creep of control can trap people in unhealthy relationships. When someone says they care about you, how do you know it’s really about you—and not about owning you? Also this week: white supremacy makes an appearance in Canada, immigration arguments get a closer look, and the FBI’s ongoing clown show raises some rather less funny questions about who’s in charge. The guys debate whether empathy and conscience can coexist with deeply harmful behavior, take a detour through The Jinx, and consider the difference between genuinely caring for someone and simply not wanting to lose their favorite possession. Plus, enthusiastic consent, the underrated green flag of active listening, a little generational sex education, the joys of making sushi with your kid, connecting with younger colleagues, and a reminder that sometimes the healthiest thing a man can do is actually listen to another human being. Join us Outside the Manosphere. Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ APTN News - ISC minister 'disgusted' with march in Kamloops NYTimes - Dennis Haskins, Mr. Belding on 'Saved by the Bell,' Dies ... BBC - Agents fearful and angry after 'dangerous' FBI data breach Politico - Andrew Bailey, co-deputy director of the FBI, is departing ... Mayo Clinic - Antisocial personality disorder - Symptoms and causes Simply Psychology - How Sociopaths Are Different from Psychopaths The Seattle Times - Trump's lewd talk about daughter Ivanka in front of White ... ABC News - Tapes Surface of Donald Trump's Lewd Remarks About ... The Washington Post - 'The Apprentice,' and four other times Donald Trump has ...

  3. Oct 14

    23: Bonding Over Humiliation - Consent, Cornell, and the Manosphere

    This week Skip and Carlos take on consent, which has been a hot-button issue in the media for the past month. Drawing on the Cornell 7 case, the New York Times’ The Daily, and the Unmanned Substack, they dig into what it means when men bond over women’s humiliation. They also cover how alcohol and drugs affect a person’s ability to consent, why so few rapes end in conviction, and how the manosphere ties into all of it. The guys also talk about how to raise boys who see women as full human beings, and about the simple rule they both want to see taught: if they say no, you stop. But first, the news: a heartwarming round of positive cat calls, a delightful forager, Alberta’s upcoming referendum on leaving Canada, and a chat about absentee ballots and Friday’s Prague election (yes, there’s an anarchist on the ballot). Plus, this week’s joys: a niece with perfect instincts, the PBS documentary Nazi Town USA, and a visit from the grandparents. Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Time Magazine - The Cornell 7 Case Demands More Than Outrage NBC News - 'Looksmaxxing' influencer Clavicular charged with rape of ... The Guardian - Gisèle Pelicot rape trial Courthouse News - Third man admits assaulting UK woman drugged and ... BBC - Tate brothers officially indicted with trafficking and sex ... Global News - Alberta’s referendum is 1 week away: What should you know? Instagram - she's the avocado whisperer Science Quickly (SciAm) - You're probably walking past edible plants every day UMass Lowell - Why Do So Few Rape Cases End in Arrest? | News Washington Post - Less than 1% of rapes lead to felony convictions. At least ...

  4. Oct 7 ·  Bonus

    Replay: Male Privilege, Alive and Well

    In this replay from earlier this year, the guys talk about the impending water wars, billionaire rats fleeing a sinking ship, safety after dark, vinyl records, and - are we surprised? - a touch of comics are in the mix.  Also, Carlos revisits controlling men, Skip talks about being sexually harassed, and the guys espouse about the perils of shopping while male. And, does not having kids make you less of a man? All this, plus joys, green flags, and a very chill one-armed lady. Join us Outside the Manosphere. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠ NYT - ⁠⁠⁠⁠Why Peter Thiel Is Decamping to the End of the World⁠ NYT - ⁠The Sinking Arizona Town Where Water and Politics Collide⁠ Nomas.org - ⁠Male Privilege Checklist⁠ Fraggle Rock (not the original but the best example of the full song from my 45 album) - ⁠Fraggle Rock Theme - The Hit Crew⁠ Telepathy Tapes - ⁠The Telepathy Tapes⁠ YouTube - ⁠Marvel Animation's X-Men '97 Season 2 | Official Trailer⁠ One armed lady pulled over by cop - ⁠Viral body camera footage shows a Florida sheriff's deputy ...

  5. Sep 30

    22: Hey Claude, what is P-Doom?

    This week on Outside the Manosphere, the guys dive headfirst into the weirdest part of the future: AI. Is it thinking? Is it manipulating us? Is it trying to escape? Is it just really, really good at following instructions in ways nobody anticipated? Skip and Carlos discuss AI actors glitching into Cantonese, the paperclip problem, rogue AI agents, AI deception, and the increasingly uncomfortable question of whether we’re smart enough to build the guardrails before things get out of hand. And one of the guys comes out to as AI...pro-life? Also, the guys debate whether there should be limits on aging politicians, Carlos rescues a doomed seagull, Skip watches his kid compete at nationals, and both continue to rave about Lanterns. Plus, fire pits, fireflies, Green Day, and joy. Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CNN - Kash Patel defends removing bestiality as automatic ... The New Republic - Kash Patel Loses Lawsuit Against Man Who Called Him “ ... Instagram - Mitch McConnell takes on the role he was born to play ... CBC - AI 'actor' Tilly Norwood glitches during Piers Morgan ... Forbes - The AI Paperclip Apocalypse And Superintelligence ... Nature - OpenAI claims huge maths breakthrough on a famed ' ... Science | AAAS - Why AI agents invent their own language if you let them chat The Guardian - Anthropic researcher believes more than 10% chance AI ' ... Futurist - Philosopher Studying AI Consciousness Startled When AI ... Fortune - 3 guys using Anthropic's Claude hacked into OpenAI and ... Washington Blade - White House press pool pushes back after Trump bars ...

  6. Sep 23

    21: Pheromone Maxxing (aka, Strategic Stench)

    Why does Pheromone Maxxing lead Carlos to say "piss" too many times? Sadly, it may be worse than you think. The guys of OTM take a look at another "-maxxing" phenomenon from the brain trust of the manosphere. Also, Skip unpacks being financially preyed upon as a child by the men in his life and shares a story about eating...goat head? Plus, the guys share some green flags, rave about Lanterns, share joys, and Carlos goes Canada First? Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠ Psychology Today - What the 'Pheromone Maxxing' Dating Trend Says About ... Financial Post - Carney's glitzy summit lures international investments to ... Newsweek - That Time We Claimed That Gandhi Drank His Own Pee ABC News - Women Can Smell Genetic Differences

  7. Sep 16

    20: Never Forget Never Forgetting

    This week on OTM: Islamophobia, Bubble Culture, Insecurity, and Never-Ending Wars, and other things that come from "never forgetting." The guys talk about 9/11, where they were, what events they remember and are reminded of. Also, the Gen Z stare, a Senator/Dr./Multimillionaire suing his constituent for $101, the Ig Nobel Prizes, Joys, and a surprisingly in depth description of Knuckle-cracking. Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠ The Washington Post - The 'Gen Z stare' — and the decline of saying things out loud NYT - A Doctor Sued 700 Patients for Debts; 81 Were Arrested. ... Free & Wild Births - The Guardian launches The Birth Keepers, a podcast ... The Nation - How the “Brooks Brothers Riot” Set the Stage for Insurrection Wikipedia - Roger Marshall ABC - How Donald Trump Perpetuated the 'Birther' Movement for ... The Guardian - The AfD won a shock election in Germany. Elon Musk was ... Wikipedia - September 11 attacks Nature - Buried underpants and a new definition of kissing win 2026 ... Improbable Research - Ig Nobel acceptance speech: Knuckle-cracking

  8. Sep 9

    19: Men Holding Hands in Far Off Lands with Joe Kilgallen

    Outside the Manosphere welcomes Dr. Joe Kilgallen, Research Fellow at Movember in Masculinities. Joe chats with the guys about men's health and the gap between perceptions of masculine norms and what men really want. Turns out, somewhere between hunter gatherer societies and fringe influencers that peddle supplements, we got all turned around. There's lots of laughs, anecdotes a plenty, a backpack full of bricks, and even a pinch of joy. Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠ Movember - Movember - Changing the Face of Men's Health | Movember Movember's Substack - Men Care About Their Health. They Just Don't Know Other ... Movember's Men in Mind Program - Men in Mind — Stop men slipping through the ... - Movember Movember's Young Men's Media Collective - Young Men's Media Collective (YMMC) Movember Report - The Real Face of Men's Health Report Dr. Joe Kilgallen - Joseph Kilgallen American Association of Cancer Research - September is Prostate Cancer Awareness Month The Richmond Octaves - Beacon - Album by Richmond Octaves

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Welcome to Skip and Carlos Outside the Manosphere — where two friends get to know each other better while unpacking what it means to be a man today. How do you balance strength with vulnerability? Confidence with humility? How do you stay ambitious without becoming an a*****e? And is it really so hard to admit that it’s Patrick Swayze you love in Dirty Dancing? Let’s figure this out.

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