The Architect Speaks - For Those Who Can No Longer Be Who They Were

Michael Lauria
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Most people have performed their entire lives and called it living. This is for the ones who've noticed. The Architect Speaks is Michael Lauria, a qualified therapist, author and philosophical mythologist, on the father wound, people pleasing, self betrayal, shadow work, purpose, money, identity, and what it takes to build a coherent life after you stop performing one. No noise, just signal. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. Free, about forty-five minutes: codexofthearchitect.com/what-is-the-atlas/ Enter. Listen. Leave as less of what you are not.

  1. 6h ago

    How to Tell If Someone Is Manipulating You: Manufactured vs Revealed | Ep 538

    How do you tell if someone is manipulating you when what they give you feels this good? In this episode I take apart two ways a feeling gets manufactured in you and sold back to you. One is the free breathwork class that leaves a high with the teacher's name on it. The other is the seller who looks up your dog on LinkedIn so that you feel seen. After twenty years as a therapist, I show you how to tell a feeling somebody made in you from something true about your own life. You also get one test to use this week: tell them early that you're not buying, and watch what happens to their interest in you. In this episode: 0:00 The room where adults cry on the floor 2:13 Transference: why the feeling carries his name 6:00 The seller who looked up your dog 9:06 Yes, I run a funnel too 11:29 Manufactured or revealed: the difference 13:11 The test: tell them you're not buying If you want to see what you have been handing over, start with the Atlas. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It takes about forty-five minutes and costs nothing. Begin at codexofthearchitect.com, or here: https://app.codexofthearchitect.com/get-started?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=pod-538 If this stirred something up, leave a comment wherever you're listening.

  2. 3d ago

    Was Merlin the Wizard a Real Person? The Madman in the Forest | Ep 537

    Was Merlin the wizard a real person? The legend grew out of a man the old stories of the north call Lailoken, and the Welsh call Myrddin Wyllt, Myrddin the Wild. He saw something in a battle that broke his mind, ran into the forest, and said things about the future that nobody wanted to hear. A couple of months ago I stood at Merlin's grave at Drumelzier in the Scottish Borders, where the Powsail Burn runs into the Tweed, and found a rusted marker nobody can read. In this episode: The madman in the forest, and the three deaths he foretold for himselfHow Geoffrey of Monmouth made the wild man into Merlin in the 1130s: the boy with no father, the falling tower and the two dragonsMerlin's hand behind every turn of the King Arthur legend, from the conception to the sword in the stone to the lakeNimue, and the most powerful man in the legend shut under a stone by his own teachingThomas the Rhymer's rhyme about Merlin's grave, and the flood of 1603Why we keep Merlin on a screen and leave the real thing to rust by the riverWhat have you seen that you've stopped saying because nobody wanted to hear it? If you want to look at what you already know, start with the Atlas. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It takes about forty-five minutes and costs nothing. Begin at codexofthearchitect.com, or here: https://app.codexofthearchitect.com/get-started?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=pod-537 This is the last of five episodes on the stories that won't die: Robin Hood (Ep 530), Supernatural (Ep 532), Excalibur (Ep 533) and King Arthur (Ep 535). If this stirred something up, leave a comment wherever you're listening.

  3. 4d ago

    Why You Feel Empty After Giving Everything (Coherent vs Incoherent Sacrifice) | Ep 536

    You can give everything you’ve got to your family, your work and your relationship, and still end up feeling empty. In twenty years as a therapist I watched this happen to a lot of good people, and it had very little to do with how much they were giving and almost everything to do with what they were giving it to. Here are the two kinds of sacrifice, coherent and incoherent, and three questions that tell you which one you’re making. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It is built from twenty years in the chair and the thirty-three books of Michael Lauria, a qualified therapist, author and philosophical mythologist. It takes about forty-five minutes, costs nothing, and ends in a written Record of that pattern, drawn from your own words. It is not therapy and not for crisis. Begin here. (00:00) Why you can give everything and still feel empty(01:25) The two kinds of sacrifice(03:21) What coherence means(04:00) Two parents who give the same amount(06:41) Reaching the top and feeling nothing(08:33) When giving in a relationship wears you away(10:33) The two years I made more money than ever(12:12) Three questions to ask yourself(12:32) First: did you choose this, or just take it on(13:00) Second: what it’s doing to you as the years go by(13:24) Third: how you expect to feel when it arrives(14:00) What the people who got better did(14:50) Where to start Michael LauriaThe Architect

  4. 5d ago

    Who Was the Real King Arthur? Rightwise King Born | Ep 535

    Who was the real King Arthur? A Welsh history from around the year 830 calls him a war leader who fought twelve battles, and never calls him a king. The sword in the stone, the Round Table and Camelot were built over the next thousand years on top of a single line about his death at Camlann. This episode asks why people needed him, and why the once and future king never quite dies. In this episode: Arthur in the oldest Welsh records: the twelve battles, "though he was no Arthur," and the strife of CamlannConceived through a deception and raised in another man's house as the boy who fetches and carriesThe sword in the stone: every knight in the land heaved at it, and a boy running an errand for his brother lifted it out"Rightwise king born," and what the words on the stone are asking forThe Round Table, and the king who couldn't see what was breaking in his own houseThe once and future king, and how Henry VII and Henry VIII dressed themselves up as himWhere are you still standing back from the stone, telling yourself the sword is for someone else? And what's breaking in your own house while you hold up the kingdom? The episode draws on my book Forging Excalibur. If you want to see what keeps you back from the stone, start with the Atlas. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It takes about forty-five minutes and costs nothing. Begin at codexofthearchitect.com, or here: https://app.codexofthearchitect.com/get-started?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=pod-535 This is the fourth of five episodes on the stories that won't die. Excalibur is Ep 533. Next, the last of the run: Merlin (Ep 536). If this stirred something up, leave a comment wherever you're listening.

  5. 6d ago

    Your Conscience or Theirs? How to Tell the Difference | The Managed Sacred, Part 2 of 2 | Ep 534

    Have you ever made a decision about your own life and found you couldn't feel good about it until somebody else told you it was the right one? Most people call that being considerate. A lot of it is a habit that started in church. Part 1 looked at how the church used fear and guilt to keep people in line. This one shows where those habits are still running, in people who haven't been near a church in years. The old punishment of being thrown out now happens on social media. Penance shows up in how people talk about food and their own bodies: I was bad this weekend, so I've got to make up for it. And the priest who stood between people and God has been replaced by an expert who tells you about your own life. Then comes the first thing Part 1 promised, a way to tell in the moment whether the guilt you feel is your own conscience or the guilt that was put there. You ask who it is protecting, and where it is sending you. After that, what to do when the guilt keeps coming anyway, and what is still there once it goes quiet. If you believe in God, there is no argument with you here. This is about the church as an institution and the habits it left behind in all of us. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It is built from twenty years in the chair and the thirty-three books of Michael Lauria, a qualified therapist, author and philosophical mythologist. It takes about forty-five minutes, costs nothing, and ends in a written Record of that pattern, drawn from your own words. It is not therapy and not for crisis. Begin here. More of the work: www.codexofthearchitect.com Part 1 is Ep 531: Why You Feel Guilty Before You've Done Anything. Follow The Architect Speaks so you don't miss the next one. A question for you: whose permission do you still find yourself waiting for, even now? (00:00) Waiting for someone to say it's alright(00:50) Last time, and two promises(01:47) If you believe in God, this isn't an argument with you(01:59) Being thrown out, then and now(03:42) Penance with God taken out of it(04:50) The person in the middle(05:38) The expert who replaced the priest(06:35) Your conscience, or the guilt that was put there(07:39) The second check: where the guilt sends you(08:11) When the guilt keeps coming anyway(09:39) What's still there once it goes quiet(11:25) One thing to try this week(12:13) Where to start Michael LauriaThe Architect

  6. Oct 12

    Is Excalibur the Sword in the Stone? The Sword That Was Never Yours | Ep 533

    Is Excalibur the sword in the stone? In Malory they are two different swords. The sword King Arthur pulls from the stone snaps in a fight he didn't need to have, and Excalibur is the one the Lady of the Lake gives him afterwards. This episode follows Excalibur out of the water and back into it, and asks what you are holding that was only ever lent to you. In this episode: Caliburn, forged on the Isle of Avalon: the oldest written telling, from the 1100sThe sword in the stone that proved who Arthur was, and how it broke against PellinoreThe Lady of the Lake, and why the most famous symbol of male power comes up out of the waterMerlin's question, the sword or the scabbard, and why the scabbard is worth ten of the swordsSir Bedivere, who hid Excalibur twice before he could throw it backHustle culture and AI: all sword, and nobody selling the scabbardWhat's your sword? What's your scabbard? And what are you going to have to give back? I wrote my first book, Forging Excalibur, about this sword in 2019. It became the first of The Excalibur Trinity. If you want to see what you have been gripping, start with the Atlas. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It takes about forty-five minutes and costs nothing. Begin at codexofthearchitect.com, or here: https://app.codexofthearchitect.com/get-started?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=pod-533 This is the third of five episodes on the stories that won't die. Robin Hood is Ep 530 and Supernatural is Ep 532. Next: King Arthur (Ep 535). If this stirred something up, leave a comment wherever you're listening.

  7. Oct 9

    Supernatural: Why Sam and Dean Winchester Could Never Let Each Other Go | Ep 532

    Supernatural ran for fifteen seasons and 327 episodes, and six years after the finale people are still asking for a sixteenth. Why did it last so long? The prequel kept the monsters and lost Sam and Dean Winchester, and it was cancelled after one season, so this episode looks at what the two brothers were carrying. Spoilers for the whole series, including the ending. In this episode: The fire in the first scene, and a four-year-old Dean told to carry his brother out and not look backJohn Winchester, the father who met a frightened child with a weapon and raised his sons inside his grief"Saving people, hunting things, the family business": the legacy you were handed whether you wanted it or notTwo brothers who love each other without apology for fifteen years and cannot let each other dieThe finale: Dean in the barn, "It's okay, you can go now," and Sam keeping his wordThe same pattern in men who have never seen a demon: the one who has to save everyone because he couldn't save the first personWhat are you still carrying out of a fire you didn't start? And who in your life has never once heard you say, it's okay, you can go now? The episode draws on my book Movies, Myth and Men. If you want to see what you have been carrying, start with the Atlas. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It takes about forty-five minutes and costs nothing. Begin at codexofthearchitect.com, or here: https://app.codexofthearchitect.com/get-started?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=pod-532 This is the second of five episodes on the stories that won't die. Robin Hood is Ep 530. Next: Excalibur (Ep 533). If this stirred something up, leave a comment wherever you're listening.

  8. Oct 8

    Why You Feel Guilty Before You've Done Anything | The Managed Sacred, Part 1 of 2 | Ep 531

    When was the last time you felt guilty before you'd even finished the thought? Most people call that their conscience. This is where a lot of it came from. The Inherited Ladder looked at the guilt handed down by your parents. This one goes back further, to organised religion. The church took the oldest human fear and stretched it past death, where nobody can check it. It taught that the only way to God ran through its own doors, and it held the happiest and saddest days of family life inside its walls, so questioning it felt like turning your back on everyone you love. It taught that you were born guilty and kept the only relief in the confessional. Over time people learned to do the watching themselves, and it was passed down at the dinner table without a word. That is why the guilt still fires in people who stopped believing decades ago. If you believe in God, there is no argument with you here. Reaching for something bigger than yourself belongs to all of us. What was built on top of it is the subject. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It is built from twenty years in the chair and the thirty-three books of Michael Lauria, a qualified therapist, author and philosophical mythologist. It takes about forty-five minutes, costs nothing, and ends in a written Record of that pattern, drawn from your own words. It is not therapy and not for crisis. Begin here. More of the work: www.codexofthearchitect.com Follow The Architect Speaks so you don't miss Part 2: how to tell, in the moment it happens, whether the guilt you feel is your own conscience or the one that was put there, and what is still there when it goes quiet. A question for you: when you were growing up, what was the one question you knew you weren't allowed to ask? (00:00) The guilt that fires before you've done anything (01:09) Where this guilt starts (01:26) If you believe in God, this isn't an argument with you (02:01) Fear: a threat nobody can check (02:33) What that does to a child (03:46) Obligation: the only way to God was through the church (04:24) Why questioning it feels like betraying your family (05:14) Born guilty: why the guilt always comes back (06:05) How the watching moved inside you (06:23) How it gets passed down (07:47) Why it still catches you today (08:10) Your conscience, or the guilt that was put there (09:21) Where to begin, and what's next Michael Lauria The Architect

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Most people have performed their entire lives and called it living. This is for the ones who've noticed. The Architect Speaks is Michael Lauria, a qualified therapist, author and philosophical mythologist, on the father wound, people pleasing, self betrayal, shadow work, purpose, money, identity, and what it takes to build a coherent life after you stop performing one. No noise, just signal. The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. Free, about forty-five minutes: codexofthearchitect.com/what-is-the-atlas/ Enter. Listen. Leave as less of what you are not.

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