Midlife with Brooke

Brooke Oniki
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Midlife with Brooke – All Things Relationship, Health and Emotional Well-being is the go-to podcast for women of faith navigating the messy, beautiful middle years. With gospel-centered tools, real-life stories, and a whole lot of heart, Brooke helps you strengthen your relationship with God, reconnect with yourself, and love your people better—without losing your mind. If you're ready for more peace, less anxiety, and practical ways to show up with purpose, you’re in the right place.

  1. 2d ago

    What is My Part?

    Show Notes When our kids are little, we carry everything. Their jackets, their snacks, their backpacks. We even let them wipe wet hands on our pants. But as they grow, our part gets smaller, and that's exactly how it should be. In this episode, Brooke explores one simple question that can take the drama out of so many relationships: "What is my part?" Often we fall into one of two camps. We blame the other person for everything, or we take it all on ourselves. Neither is true. We always have some part, and so do they. Brooke shares a framed photograph she bought for her daughter-in-law's birthday and what happened when she invited her to be honest. She also shares a client's story about baby quilts, a spouse who goes quiet during hard times, and a grown child who asked Mom to stay in an Airbnb. In this episode: What is your part: your thoughts and the story you tell, your feelings and whether you're regulated, your tone and timing, unspoken expectations, and what you allowWhat is not your part: their feelings, choices, tastes, healing, timeline, and how they receive youWhy staying regulated matters when someone you love shuts downHow to walk the road with a child going through something hard without taking it overWhy the answer may look different each time, and the value of seeking revelation Questions to ask yourself: What story am I telling myself about this person?What do I expect that I've never said out loud?What could I simply ask instead of assume?What is mine to carry here?Who do I want to be in this relationship? Ready to go deeper? Brooke is starting a new Bridges small group coaching program. Email her at brooke@brookeoniki.com. Share this episode with someone who'd love it, and sign up for my newsletter at brookeoniki.com for more coaching on your relationships with your adult kids, your husband, and yourself.

  2. Oct 5

    Drop by Drop, Day by Day

    What if you only need to gather enough for today? After attending the Restore Conference with my friend Kristen Rutter, I've been thinking about manna. In Exodus 16, the Lord provided bread from heaven for the Israelites, one day at a time. In this episode, I share what the rules of manna can teach us about inspiration, rest, and moving forward without knowing the outcome. I also share client stories of small daily choices that changed relationships, drop by drop. Reflection questions Where might manna be showing up in your life right now? Is there an impression you've been sitting on that might be starting to spoil? What's one small thing you could do today? Join Brooke's Nervous System Regulation Class Wednesday, October 7, from 12:00 to 2:00 PM Mountain Time, online. Learn what happens in your body when you feel dysregulated and how to bring yourself back to a calm, grounded place so you can respond in ways you feel good about. Come live or get the recording to keep forever. $25. Register at the link below. https://brookeoniki.com/emotional-regulation-workshop/ Share this episode with someone who'd love it, and sign up for my newsletter at brookeoniki.com for more coaching on your relationships with your adult kids, your husband, and yourself.

  3. Sep 28

    How to be Less Fearful

    What if fear only exists in the future? When the thing we're afraid of actually shows up, it stops being a fear and becomes a problem to be solved. And you've solved every problem that has come your way so far. In this episode, Brooke shares why our primitive brain keeps offering us "what ifs," and how our adult brain can step in, calm things down, and remind us that we'll figure it out. She walks through the story of Enoch in Moses 6 and 7, a young man who felt slow of speech and unliked, and who grew into someone whose words moved mountains. She also shares a client who started with a small tiling project and worked her way up to remodeling her whole living room, becoming a different person along the way. In this episode: Why fear resides in the future and problems live in the presentThe Bible Dictionary line that says God has been teaching us not to fear ever since the FallEnoch's calling and how his capacity grew as he stepped forward in faithA client's home improvement journey and why real questions come once you beginLearning to ride a bike as a picture of how capacity grows through practiceTheodore Roosevelt's "Man in the Arena" quote, shared by Brené Brown in Daring GreatlyBrooke's own experience launching a program that nobody signed up for, and choosing to keep goingTrusting God with our fears for our children and loved ones A question to consider this week: What's one small thing you could try to move forward, even though it feels scary? Join Brooke's Nervous System Regulation Class Wednesday, October 7, from 12:00 to 2:00 PM Mountain Time, online. Learn what happens in your body when you feel dysregulated and how to bring yourself back to a calm, grounded place so you can respond in ways you feel good about. Come live or get the recording to keep forever. $25. Register at the link below. https://brookeoniki.com/emotional-regulation-workshop/ Share this episode with someone who'd love it, and sign up for my newsletter at brookeoniki.com for more coaching on your relationships with your adult kids, your husband, and yourself.

  4. Sep 21

    Scarcity vs. Abundance: A Mindset You Can Practice

    Today I'm talking about a topic I bring up with clients all the time: scarcity versus abundance. We live in a world that tells us there's not enough, not enough time, money, love, recognition. But I've found abundance everywhere I look, in a peach tree that keeps producing every year, in free YouTube tutorials, in the way my heart kept growing with each new baby. I share three practices that have helped me live more abundantly: quit keeping score, love whoever comes, and believe there's enough love to go around. I also talk honestly about the times I still feel left out or hurt, and how I work through it. Join me for a live online class on regulating your nervous system on Wednesday, October 7th, noon to 2pm MT. Recording available if you can't make it live. You can register at this link: https://brookeoniki.com/emotional-regulation-workshop/ Share this episode with someone who'd love it, and sign up for my newsletter at brookeoniki.com for more coaching on your relationships with your adult kids, your husband, and yourself.

  5. Sep 14

    Ambiguous Loss: The Grief We Don't Have a Name For

    In the episode, Lenee Fuelling shares the definition of ambiguous loss and many examples of how it shows up in our lives. She lays out her framework for holding ambiguous loss. Notice and name it — Recognize that what you're feeling is a real, legitimate loss, and normalize it. Ambiguous losses are often hidden or unrecognized, even to ourselves, so just naming them brings them "into the light and into the air."Find space to grieve — Make room to sit with the loss, whether through journaling, reflection, or talking with a trusted friend or community. Grieving is what helps "unstick" things so we can adapt and move forward.Practice both/and thinking — Hold two things at once: sadness and gratitude, grief and love. You can be genuinely sad about a loss while also receiving the good that's still present.Look for new meaning — Ask "what does this mean to me right now?" and recognize that meaning shifts over time. What felt devastating years ago may carry a different meaning today.Discover hope through gratitude for ambiguous gains — Notice what's been gained alongside the loss. Lenee's example: her dad's brain injury caused deep pain, but it also led her to research ambiguous loss and find healing and appreciation for what her family has gone through. Connect with Lenee: Instagram: leneefuel Facebook: Lenee Fuelling Learn More Join my newsletter, book a free session, read the blog, get more free content at: www.brookeoniki.com

  6. Sep 7

    Noticing God's Hand in the Ordinary

    This week Brooke steps away from teaching to just tell you about her week. A flashing school zone light that shouldn't have been on. A lost boy on the side of the road. A laugh-filled walk with a friend. A pickleball loss that still felt like a win. A chance conversation with a church service missionary. None of it dramatic, but Brooke makes the case that this is exactly where God shows up, if we're watching for it. In this episode: Why instigating relationships, instead of waiting to be asked, opens more doors for connectionThe nightstand habit that's changed her mornings and eveningsThe six-second kiss (a concept from researcher John Gottman) and what it does for a marriageHolding joy and disappointment in the same week without one canceling out the other Join Brooke's class on regulating your nervous system, Thursday, September 10th at the South Jordan Community Center. $25. You can register here! https://brookeoniki.com/emotional-regulation-workshop/

  7. Aug 31

    The ADHD Brain Isn't Broken, It's Different: An Interview with Kamden Hainsworth

    Today I'm talking with Camden Hainsworth, a certified ADHD coach who was diagnosed herself at 36, has children with ADHD, and has spent the last several years helping people understand and work with their ADHD brains instead of fighting them. We talk about what ADHD actually is (it's a difference, not a deficiency), why the nervous system of someone with ADHD can feel like a wobbly skateboard heading downhill, and how that shows up in everyday stress. Camden shares her own diagnosis story, what it was like parenting through burnout before she understood her own brain, and how she coaches parents of grown children with ADHD who want to help without overstepping. We also get into the difference between helping and enabling, what a repair conversation looks like after a blow up, and why autonomy matters so much for someone with an ADHD brain. Camden leaves us with a powerful reframe: ADHD is a disability, and when we understand it that way, we stop expecting someone to just try harder and start building real support around them. If you parent, coach, or love someone with ADHD, whether they're seven or thirty seven, this conversation will give you language and tools you can use right away. In this episode: What actually happens in an ADHD brain under stressThe skateboard metaphor for understanding nervous system regulationHow to support an adult child with ADHD without taking over their lifeThe difference between helping and enablingWhat a genuine repair conversation looks like after conflictWhy ADHD is best understood as a disability, and why that reframe matters Connect with Camden: Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-busy-brained-saint-podcast/id1647973464 Instagram: @kamden_adhd Website: https://www.kamdenadhdcoaching.com/ Also mentioned in this episode: Join us for my in person class on nervous system regulation, September 10th at the South Jordan Community Center. Link to register https://brookeoniki.com/emotional-regulation-workshop/ Let me know if you'd like a shorter version for social captions, or if you want me to pull a few standalone quote graphics from the conversation.

  8. Aug 24

    Lessons From the Men I Teach at the Utah State Prison

    Five things I've learned working in the Utah State Prison: People are good. Treating people with respect, even when their problems seem small compared to what they're facing, opens the door to real connection.We are not our worst mistake. That mistake is part of our story, but it doesn't have to define who we are.Extending grace to others helps us move toward our own healing. The inmates who let go of anger toward their parents seem to move forward more easily.We always have the power to choose. Kindness, our language, whether we fight. We don't have to wait for some future date to start living what we value.Real change is about you and your relationship with God, not about convincing other people you've changed. Lasting change comes from wanting to be different, not from proving it to someone else. Also mentioned: Join Brooke for a live in person class on nervous system regulation, Thursday, September 10th at the South Jordan Community Center. $25. You can learn more about it and sign up here: https://brookeoniki.com/emotional-regulation-workshop/

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Midlife with Brooke – All Things Relationship, Health and Emotional Well-being is the go-to podcast for women of faith navigating the messy, beautiful middle years. With gospel-centered tools, real-life stories, and a whole lot of heart, Brooke helps you strengthen your relationship with God, reconnect with yourself, and love your people better—without losing your mind. If you're ready for more peace, less anxiety, and practical ways to show up with purpose, you’re in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Brooke Oniki
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Brooke Oniki
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    Midlife with Brooke

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