The Blue Collar Buddha Podcast

Chase Murphy, Jr. | The Blue Collar Buddha

I didn't turn on the mic to coach you, teach you, or tell you what you want to hear. I turned it on because everybody was talking and nobody was saying anything real that spoke to me and the shit that I had been through. Death. Marriage. Cancer. Identity. Rage. Grief. Shame. Hope. Lust. Aging. The quiet shit people feel but don't say out loud in a way that resonates with those of us that have had our asses kicked by life. That's what this is. This is me saying the shit I had to suppress lest I get my ass kicked for speaking out of turn — or saying the shit that people wanted to hear but pretended was offensive, out of line, and just downright too true for the moment. F**k it. No rah-rah. No "everything happens for a reason." No affirm-your-way-out-of-reality b******t. Just adult talk about adult life from someone who's actually lived it — four marriages, four divorces, a suicide attempt, a dead infant son, and somehow I'm still f*****g here. Doing all of this living with a lot less guilt and shame than I ever thought possible. I never thought that shit would happen. But it did. You'll hear two names for this podcast. The Real Empowered Self came first. The Blue Collar Buddha came later — born in the middle of my wife Sharon's cancer treatments, when I needed somewhere to put what I couldn't say out loud to her. Both are me. If you listen long enough, it makes sense. Expect profanity. Unfiltered opinions. Moments that land harder than you expected. If you want mantras and a 10-step plan — keep walking. If you're tired of being lied to, and maybe a little tired of lying to yourself — you're in the right place. And when Sharon joined the mic, something shifted. We Say The Shit Out Loud is what happens when two people who have actually done the interior work — separately, painfully, over years — sit down together and say the things most couples perform around, avoid entirely, or dress up so nobody gets uncomfortable. Her cancers. His losses. The relationship patterns that nearly broke both of them before they found each other. The life they're building now, on their own terms, without apology. If Blue Collar Buddha is one man's honest account of getting here, We Say The Shit Out Loud is what it looks like once you arrive — and discover there's still more to say.

  1. Aug 4

    What If You Just Let Yourself Like the Person You’ve Been Running From?

    For most of my life, I believed I was broken. Not temporarily broken. Fundamentally broken. I collected the evidence: childhood abuse, four divorces, four DUIs, and the day my infant son Malachi died in 1999. I turned everything that happened into proof that I was the kind of person who deserved to suffer. But the question that finally changed things wasn’t: “How do I get someone to love me?” It was: “Can I stop hating myself long enough to consider that I might actually be worth liking?” I spent my life directing my energy outward—toward employers, partners, family, everyone around me—because giving that same attention to myself felt selfish. I never consistently considered myself someone worthy of the same effort I gave everyone else. Then I started recording conversations with myself. No script. No performance. Just honesty. And somewhere in that process, I started to like the person I was talking to. Not love. Not some perfect version of myself. Just like. That became the doorway. What this episode IS: A raw confession about shame, self-punishment, and learning to stop abandoning yourself An honest look at why liking yourself may need to come before loving yourself A conversation about what happens when you finally give yourself the attention you have always given everyone else What this episode is NOT: A self-help formula A clinical explanation of trauma A motivational speech about becoming a better version of yourself This is about one question: What if the person you have been running from is the person who has been waiting for you all along?

  2. Aug 2

    Sunday Stroll 09 | Stop Waiting for Permission to Be Loved for Who You Are

    July 31st, 1999, my infant son Malachi died. I carried that loss for years as proof that I was a bad person—that somehow I deserved punishment. But the question that eventually changed everything wasn’t just about grief. It was about love. I wanted somebody to love me. I wanted somebody to love. And I had to face a brutal truth: I didn’t know what the hell love actually was. I had spent my life accepting definitions handed to me by religion, culture, relationships, and expectations about who I was supposed to be. I thought love was something you earned after becoming the right kind of person. So I sat down with a blue Bic pen and an accounting ledger. No pencil. Because I knew if I used a pencil, I would start erasing. I wrote down what I actually wanted. Not the answer that sounded good. Not the answer that made me look like a better person. The truth. And then I asked myself the question I had spent years avoiding: What if love is possible for someone like me? What this episode IS: An honest conversation about shame, self-punishment, and the search for real love A personal story about questioning the definitions of love we inherit without realizing it An invitation to examine what you actually believe about your own ability to be loved What it is NOT: A grief recovery formula A religious explanation for suffering A motivational speech telling you to ignore your pain and move on This is about one question: What if you are not as impossible to love as you have always believed?

  3. Jul 24

    Episode 56 | Finding Your Groove: From Hotel BMW to Loving the Constant Variable. Me.

    Another archive episode recorded on a Friday morning in May 2023, and it’s a direct, unsexy look at the brutal necessity of personal accountability and owning our own shit. I rip straight into the core delusion and b******t that our lives are shaped by society, our parents, our partners, or our past instead of the actual realtime choices we make every single day. I talk about the heavy baggage of my own past—getting caught driving drunk four or five times, stringing together four divorces, and serving as the undisputed king of "woe is me" while still playing the victim to childhood abuse and isolation. Then we go straight into the dark reality of the floor: spending nearly three months living in a car—Hotel BMW, room 740 IL—with my wife, surviving off the McDonald's dollar menu, using casino bathrooms for bird baths, and sleeping under streetlights while hiding from security, even though we had jobs and money coming in. Think about that shit. Seriously. How f****d-up must my thinking have been to choose homelessness over taking the risk and getting an actual apartment? THIS is the shit we carry around us and don’t tend to take the time to truly think on with our whole selves. The barrier wasn't the lack of money; it was the rot in the thinking: telling myself I couldn't have anything better because of bad credit and a felony record. This episode is about finding a way into the stripping away of the fear, ditching the victim songs, and facing the ultimate truth of the field: the only constant variable in every single experience of your life is you. It’s a call to sit your ass down for three or four minutes a day, stop running from your own thoughts, and start figuring out who you actually want to be before you wait for another close call to change your mind. F**k....

  4. Jul 23

    Episode 55 | Steroids and Spirituality: The Illusion of Shortcuts and the Literal "Weight" We Carry

    Another archive episode that I share with you. As always, it’s a raw, unvarnished take on the shit that happens on the inside of us when we buy into the b******t and artificial “shortcuts” when we are terrified we aren't lovable just as we are. Just as we are. Right. Now. Sparked by watching a documentary on the late American bodybuilder and entrepreneur Rich Piana—a guy who owned his steroid use and physical obsession without hiding behind excuses—this episode rips at the polished veneer of both heavy lifting and modern spiritual consumerism and the lies and woo-woo shit that so many of us came to believe we needed to heed and listen to, lest we continue to find ourselves forever sad and alone—even in a crowded room with the alcohol flowing. Thinking back on the grueling two-a-day workouts at a gym called Los Campiones in Minneapolis, and living in a cramped studio apartment off Westbank near the University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, and spending my nights as as a bouncer at a local bar called the Caboose, I also remember the days of donating plasma just to find a fleeting human connection; even if it wasn’t sexy, it was still better than sitting alone in the apartment cramming my hands against my ears to try and drown out my own f*****g thoughts. In this episode, I talk about the mechanics of using external armor to outrun internal shame, and guilt, and fear. It’s an unflinching look at why we trade natural friction for fake promises, why the self-help cottage industry is full of quantum-babble b******t that sells transformation without effort, and why no amount of muscle mass, status, or spiritual bypassing will ever save you until you stop waiting to be "fixed" and learn to enjoy your own company right now.

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I didn't turn on the mic to coach you, teach you, or tell you what you want to hear. I turned it on because everybody was talking and nobody was saying anything real that spoke to me and the shit that I had been through. Death. Marriage. Cancer. Identity. Rage. Grief. Shame. Hope. Lust. Aging. The quiet shit people feel but don't say out loud in a way that resonates with those of us that have had our asses kicked by life. That's what this is. This is me saying the shit I had to suppress lest I get my ass kicked for speaking out of turn — or saying the shit that people wanted to hear but pretended was offensive, out of line, and just downright too true for the moment. F**k it. No rah-rah. No "everything happens for a reason." No affirm-your-way-out-of-reality b******t. Just adult talk about adult life from someone who's actually lived it — four marriages, four divorces, a suicide attempt, a dead infant son, and somehow I'm still f*****g here. Doing all of this living with a lot less guilt and shame than I ever thought possible. I never thought that shit would happen. But it did. You'll hear two names for this podcast. The Real Empowered Self came first. The Blue Collar Buddha came later — born in the middle of my wife Sharon's cancer treatments, when I needed somewhere to put what I couldn't say out loud to her. Both are me. If you listen long enough, it makes sense. Expect profanity. Unfiltered opinions. Moments that land harder than you expected. If you want mantras and a 10-step plan — keep walking. If you're tired of being lied to, and maybe a little tired of lying to yourself — you're in the right place. And when Sharon joined the mic, something shifted. We Say The Shit Out Loud is what happens when two people who have actually done the interior work — separately, painfully, over years — sit down together and say the things most couples perform around, avoid entirely, or dress up so nobody gets uncomfortable. Her cancers. His losses. The relationship patterns that nearly broke both of them before they found each other. The life they're building now, on their own terms, without apology. If Blue Collar Buddha is one man's honest account of getting here, We Say The Shit Out Loud is what it looks like once you arrive — and discover there's still more to say.