Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men

Alisa Stoddard
  • 5.0 (3)
  • Self-Improvement
  • Updated Weekly

Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything? You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stronger emotional connection with their wives. I’m Alisa, a certified relationship coach for men. I help husbands stop chasing sex and start creating real connection. Each week, you’ll get straight-talking, practical advice to help you feel more respected, appreciated, and connected at home. Whether you’re dealing with emotional disconnection, constant tension, or feeling unwanted - this podcast will help. You don’t need to walk on eggshells. You need a better way forward. And I’ll show you how.

  1. 3d ago

    You Thought She Wanted You in Better Shape | Ep 74

    You got in shape. You changed your body with real discipline. And at home, almost nothing changed. When a wife pulls away physically, many men decide the problem is attraction, and the gym becomes the fix. It's measurable, it's private, and it doesn't require a difficult conversation. But in long-term marriages, desire is rarely about how he looks. It's about how it feels to be with him. In this episode, we'll cover why the body made so much sense as a target, what she's actually responding to, and how to keep the discipline while changing where you point it. You'll hear: Why getting fitter without any change at home isn't proof you're unattractive How effort with an expectation attached starts to feel like pressure to her Why your training hours may be leaving her feeling more alone What the gym might be protecting you from Why outside attention feels so good when you're lonely at home, and why that deserves your honesty How to apply the discipline you already have to emotional presence at home I'm also hosting a free live webinar on October 7th at 3:00pm MT(2:00pm PT / 4:00pm CT / 5:00pm ET).  Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    You Thought She Wanted You in Better Shape | Ep 74

  2. Sep 18

    Stop Asking If You're Normal | Ep 73

    Is it normal to barely have sex in marriage? In this episode, we'll cover why a real, credible statistic about married couples still can't answer that question for you, and why chasing that number can quietly work against you, both with your wife and with yourself. We'll cover: What the actual research says about how often married couples have sex today Why a national average can't tell you anything true about your specific marriage How that number gets weaponized in arguments, or turned inward into shame about your body The real questions worth asking instead: whether you actually talk to her, whether you still see her, whether effort at home has become a transaction, whether you're relying on her memory instead of your own You'll hear why the question was never "am I normal," and what to ask instead. I'm also hosting a free live webinar on September 23rd at 3:00pm MT(2:00pm PT / 4:00pm CT / 5:00pm ET).  Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Stop Asking If You're Normal | Ep 73

  3. Sep 11

    What You're Really Asking For | Ep 72

    You keep hinting. She keeps not picking up on it. Underneath both of your frustration is a question neither of you has said out loud: what are you really asking for? In this episode, we'll cover why hinting instead of asking directly creates more distance than it avoids, and why so many men confuse wanting sex with wanting to feel chosen. You'll hear why getting a yes doesn't always resolve the loneliness it's supposed to fix, and a simple structure for asking plainly instead of circling the question for years. What you'll hear: Why hinting reads as pressure, not subtlety, to her The real difference between wanting sex and wanting her Why she probably already knows what you want, and why that's part of the problem A simple structure for asking directly, called the CLEAR Ask Why non-sexual connection often matters more to her than the act itself  I'm also hosting a free live webinar on September 23rd at 2:30pm MT (1:30pm PT / 3:30pm CT / 4:30pm ET).  Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    What You're Really Asking For | Ep 72

  4. Sep 4

    Right or Happy | Ep 71

    There's a window, ten to twenty seconds, where your body decides what happens next in an argument, before you're even aware you're reacting. This week we'll cover what's actually happening in that window, why explosion and shutdown are the only two exits most men were ever taught, and what specifically hijacks that window before you get a real choice. Why the 15 seconds before you explode or shut down are physical, not just emotional Why white-knuckling your reaction isn't the same as regulating it Why you might feel compelled to correct her version of events, and what's underneath that What actually interrupts the pattern toward explosion, and toward shutdown I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.Join me live, I'll send the details soon. Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Right or Happy | Ep 71

  5. Aug 28

    The Moment Before You Explode or Go Quiet | Ep 70

    There's a moment right before you explode or shut down where your nervous system decides the conversation isn't safe. Most men never see that moment, only what comes after it. In this episode, we'll cover: What's actually happening in your body in the fifteen seconds before you react Why explosion and shutdown are the same pattern wearing different clothes How childhood experiences can wire conflict to fear of abandonment, and why that's true for almost every man Why the origin of this pattern stops being an excuse once you're in midlife How your dysregulation affects her body, not just the conversation What actually interrupts the pattern in the moment I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET.Join me live, I'll send the details soon. Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    The Moment Before You Explode or Go Quiet | Ep 70

  6. Aug 21

    She's Still Watching for the Old You | Ep 69

    He said the wrong thing at dinner. Nothing big, just a flash of impatience. But she saw it, and weeks of steady change seemed to disappear from how she looked at him. If you've done real work to change how you show up and it still feels like she's watching for the old version of you, this episode is for you. We'll cover: Why one hard moment outweighs weeks of consistency in her mind The difference between white-knuckling change and actually becoming someone different Why not feeling acknowledged for your effort is a real cost What it means if her full trust never completely comes back How to hold a change that no one has validated yet I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET. Join me live, I'll send the details soon. Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    She's Still Watching for the Old You | Ep 69

  7. Aug 14

    Living in the Gap | Ep 68

    Why Do You Need Her to Notice You've Changed? You've been doing the work. Staying calm when it used to wreck you. Catching the old reaction before it takes over. And she still looks at you like she's waiting to see if it's real. This episode is about the hardest part of that process, the stretch where you keep showing up differently and nothing outside of you confirms it. We'll cover: Why real change often gets no visible reaction, and why that doesn't mean it isn't working Why so many men need their wife to confirm their growth, and what that request actually asks of her A specific, practical shift for knowing you did the work, without needing her to tell you What happens to men who never learn to source this for themselves If that's where you are, join me live August 20th, 11am PT / noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET, for a free webinar. Save your seat at alisastoddard.com.  Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Living in the Gap | Ep 68

  8. Aug 7

    Why She Still Doesn't Trust the New You | Ep 67

    You've been showing up differently, calmer, more consistent, more present. And instead of trust, you're getting watched like she's waiting for the old you to show back up. In this episode, we'll cover why trust doesn't arrive the moment you decide to change, and why she's testing you instead of believing you right away. You'll hear about the small, easy-to-miss moments that function as tests, why getting frustrated with her doubt often confirms it instead of resolving it, and what actually rebuilds trust after it's been damaged. We'll cover: Why her testing isn't evidence the change isn't working The quiet, everyday moments that are actually her gathering evidence Why defensiveness resets the clock she's keeping What real trust-building looks like over time How to recover when you slip, without losing the progress you've made If that's where you are, join me live August 20th, 11am PT / noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET, for a free webinar. Save your seat at alisastoddard.com.  Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registrationI'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/

    Why She Still Doesn't Trust the New You | Ep 67
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Struggling to fix the distance in your marriage - even though you’ve tried everything? You’re not alone. This podcast is for high-achieving men who want more intimacy, better communication, and a stronger emotional connection with their wives. I’m Alisa, a certified relationship coach for men. I help husbands stop chasing sex and start creating real connection. Each week, you’ll get straight-talking, practical advice to help you feel more respected, appreciated, and connected at home. Whether you’re dealing with emotional disconnection, constant tension, or feeling unwanted - this podcast will help. You don’t need to walk on eggshells. You need a better way forward. And I’ll show you how.

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