The Self-Leadership Lab

Bobby Shelton
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The Self-Leadership Lab is where purpose, discipline, and personal mastery get broken down, tested, and rebuilt. Hosted by author and coach Bobby Shelton, this podcast explores the real work of leading yourself before you lead anyone else. Each episode dives into the practices, psychology, and “inner lab work” behind self-awareness, self-discipline, and meaningful growth. If you’re ready to trade performative busyness for intentional living and choose the kind of work that truly shapes you, this is your place. Welcome to The Self-Leadership Lab.

  1. 1d ago

    Tripp Lanier: Freedom, Aliveness, Self-Worth, and the Courage to Be Yourself

    What if becoming the person you think you should be is actually keeping you from becoming who you are? Tripp Lanier has spent more than 20 years coaching men, executives, business owners, and high performers. He's the author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous and host of The New Man Podcast. His work explores a deceptively simple question: What does it take to stop settling and actually feel alive? In this conversation, we explore Tripp's ideas around aliveness, freedom, love, and peace and how each relates to self-leadership. We talk about why comfort can slowly make our lives smaller, why the limitations we experience are often more self-imposed than we realize, and why men in particular can struggle to be honest about what's really happening in their lives. Tripp makes an important distinction between vulnerability as weakness and vulnerability as simple transparency. The conversation eventually becomes deeply personal as I share how I once tried to transform myself into someone completely different because I didn't like who I was. That leads us into a discussion about achievement, suffering, discipline, self-rejection, and the possibility that real growth begins not with hating who we are, but with learning to accept and honor ourselves. As Tripp puts it, peace doesn't arrive after we've finally fixed everything. It begins when we can look in the mirror and accept the imperfect person who's already there. This is a conversation about becoming more alive without believing you have to become someone else first. About Tripp Lanier Tripp Lanier coaches men to get out of the rat race, become an authority in their field, and make a great living doing meaningful work they love. From small business owners, to startup founders, to Navy SEALs — Tripp has coached anyone and everyone who refuses to settle, play it safe, or follow the herd. As host of The New Man Podcast, he's racked up millions of downloads conducting interviews with extraordinary thinkers in business, personal growth, and spirituality. He lives a quiet, simple life with his wife and daughter near the beach in North Carolina. Learn more at TrippLanier.com and TheNewManPodcast.com.

    Tripp Lanier: Freedom, Aliveness, Self-Worth, and the Courage to Be Yourself

  2. 5d ago

    Mike Van Pelt: Why Men Need Community and the Courage to Ask for Help

    What if asking for help isn't weakness, but one of the strongest things a man can do? Mike Van Pelt joins The Self-Leadership Lab for a wide-ranging conversation about what it means to be a man in today's world and why we were never meant to navigate life alone. Mike is the founder of True Man Life Coaching, host of the True Man Podcast, author of True Man True Ways, and founder of American Family Renaissance. We explore why so many men attach their identity to careers, money, possessions, and status, and what happens when those things become the measure of who we are. We also talk about the difference between solitude and isolation, the power of men's groups, marriage and presence, learning to listen, mentorship across generations, decision fatigue, and why slowing down may be exactly what many of us need. At the heart of the conversation is a simple idea: Self-leadership is personal, but that doesn't mean it should be practiced alone. Sometimes growth begins by finding the right people, becoming curious enough to listen, and being willing to ask for help. Connect with Mike: https://www.americanfamilyrenaissance.org/

    Mike Van Pelt: Why Men Need Community and the Courage to Ask for Help

  3. Aug 18

    Episode 100: I'm Still Learning to Lead Myself

    When I started The Self-Leadership Lab, I thought I was creating a podcast to help other people learn how to lead themselves. One hundred episodes later, I think the person it has taught the most might be me. For this special 100th episode, I'm looking back at five lessons that have changed how I understand self-leadership: You have to be honest with yourself. Discipline is an act of stewardship. No one succeeds alone. Stop trying to become impressive. Become faithful. Self-leadership isn't about becoming someone new. I also share some of the struggles behind the microphone, what community has taught me, why I'm rethinking my definition of self-leadership, and why I believe this journey is much more about faithful practice than finally "arriving." As I say in the episode: Maybe self-leadership isn't about creating a new identity. Maybe it's the faithful stewardship of what God has already given you. Thank you to everyone who has been part of the first 100 episodes of The Self-Leadership Lab. I hope you'll join me for the next 100. Scripture referenced: Galatians 6:2 and Psalm 139:14.

    Episode 100: I'm Still Learning to Lead Myself

  4. Aug 14

    Aaron Ryan | Creativity, AI, and Why Your Focus Determines Your Reality

    What does it take to write more than 50 books while building a successful career as a professional voice actor? This week on The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby welcomes bestselling author and voice actor Aaron Ryan for a fascinating conversation about creativity, entrepreneurship, writing, and the opportunities, and challenges, facing creators in the age of artificial intelligence. Aaron shares his unconventional writing process, why he creates book covers before writing a single page, how he balances multiple creative careers, and why he believes authentic human creativity can never be replaced by technology. In this episode: • Becoming a professional voice actor • Writing more than 50 books • The difference between planning and discovery writing • How to overcome the fear of writing your first book • Creativity in an AI-driven world • Why authentic work always stands apart • The power of focus and intentional living If you've ever wanted to write a book, build a creative business, or simply become more intentional with your gifts, this conversation is for you. Visit Aaron’s website at https://www.authoraaronryan.com, join his exclusive Facebook group at authoraaronryangroup.com, or check out his store at authoraaronryanstore.com.

    Aaron Ryan | Creativity, AI, and Why Your Focus Determines Your Reality

  5. Aug 11

    Becoming Faithful Instead of Impressive: Who Were You Before the World Told You Who to Be?

    Have you ever felt like you're trying to become someone else just to be enough? In this solo episode, I share a realization that has reshaped the way I think about personal growth and self-leadership. Inspired by Michelangelo's famous sculpture of David, we'll explore a different way of thinking about growth and not by adding more to our lives, but by removing everything that isn't truly us. Together we'll talk about: Why we may never have been "lost" Confidence versus competence The trap of comparison Becoming faithful instead of merely impressive Psalm 139:14 Romans 12:2 Questions to help you uncover who God created you to be Maybe self-leadership isn't about creating a new identity. Maybe it's about faithfully stewarding the one God has already given you.

    Becoming Faithful Instead of Impressive: Who Were You Before the World Told You Who to Be?

  6. Aug 7

    Dr. Mark Smith | Why Great Leaders Need Honest Mirrors

    How well do you really know yourself? More importantly… How do other people experience you? This week on The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby Shelton welcomes organizational psychologist Dr. Mark Smith for a fascinating conversation about leadership assessments, hiring, organizational culture, and the hidden blind spots that limit our growth. Drawing on decades of experience assessing leaders, Dr. Smith explains why leadership development isn't about changing your personality—it's about understanding how your behaviors impact the people around you. In this episode you'll learn: • Why companies should hire for skills instead of credentials • The difference between evaluating and understanding people • How role-play assessments reveal authentic leadership • Why personality tests often miss the bigger picture • How 360-degree feedback can transform your leadership • Why organizational culture begins with the people inside it Whether you're leading a team, hiring your next employee, or simply trying to become a better version of yourself, this conversation offers practical insights into seeing yourself more clearly. About Mark Mark Smith is an organizational psychologist, management consultant, and author who has spent more than 20 years helping organizations make better hiring and leadership decisions. He has personally assessed more than 1,000 leaders and candidates across a wide range of industries, with particular expertise in construction, engineering, and other technical fields. Connect with Mark Website: https://www.abetterchoicehire.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-smith-ph-d-1776201a8 Email: abetterchoicehire@gmail.com Book: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Choice-Managers-Skills-First-Hiring-ebook/dp/B0CW1JHGX5 Connect with Bobby YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbAUhnH37eodhRKlVu7B--g Instagram: @theselfleadershiplab LinkedIn: ⁠https://linkedin.com/in/dr-bobby-shelton-dsl-pmp-acc-124502b⁠ Podcast: The Self-Leadership Lab (Available on Apple, YouTube, or Spotify) Website: ⁠www.battlecatcoaching.com⁠ Book: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FT68RCB1⁠ Substack: https://bobbyshelton.substack.com/

    Dr. Mark Smith | Why Great Leaders Need Honest Mirrors

  7. Aug 4

    Tyler Moon | Turning Your Greatest Adversity into Your Greatest Opportunity

    What if the hardest moment of your life became the very thing that gave your life greater purpose? This week on The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby sits down with Tyler Moon, a sudden cardiac arrest survivor, speaker, and author, to discuss one remarkable question: What do you do after life gives you a second chance? At just 25 years old, Tyler collapsed during the Twin Cities 10-Mile Race and received CPR from complete strangers before being rushed to the hospital. What followed wasn't just a story of survival—it became a story of resilience, faith, community, and choosing purpose over fear. Together, Bobby and Tyler explore: • Why adversity doesn't automatically make us stronger • How resilience is intentionally developed • The importance of surrounding yourself with community • Why putting yourself in difficult situations can prepare you for life's biggest challenges • The role faith played throughout Tyler's recovery • What leadership looks like in seasons of uncertainty Tyler Moon, a sudden cardiac arrest survivor, has a powerful mission: to empower others to turn their biggest adversities into their greatest opportunities. His miraculous journey, from "Flatline to Finish Line," has been featured in major media outlets like Runner's World, Today.com, Fox News, and National Public Radio. This passion is central to his work as president of Living Proof Leadership. Tyler lives in the Minneapolis area with his family and works in logistics at General Mills. • LivingProofLeadership.com • https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyler-moon-39444aa3

    Tyler Moon | Turning Your Greatest Adversity into Your Greatest Opportunity

  8. Jul 31

    Mark Divine | Self-Leadership, Purpose, and the Courage to Live Your Own Life

    What if the biggest battle you'll ever fight isn't on a battlefield—but within yourself? This week on The Self-Leadership Lab, Bobby Shelton welcomes retired Navy SEAL Commander, bestselling author, and leadership expert Mark Divine for a conversation that goes far beyond resilience and performance. Mark shares the unlikely path that led him from Wall Street to the Navy SEALs, how meditation reshaped his understanding of leadership, and why many of us spend our lives following a script we never consciously chose. Together they explore identity, purpose, fear, suffering, visualization, spiritual growth, and what it truly means to govern your inner world before leading others. You'll learn: • Why success alone never satisfies • The power of asking, "Who am I?" • How visualization can shape your future • Why discomfort is necessary for growth • The relationship between self-awareness and leadership • How to pursue freedom instead of simply achievement If you've ever felt successful on the outside but unsettled on the inside, this episode is for you. About Mark Mark Divine, Ph.D., is a retired Navy SEAL Commander, leadership expert, entrepreneur, and founder of SEALFIT and Unbeatable Mind. A graduate of Colgate University with an MBA from NYU Stern and a Ph.D. in Global Leadership and Change from Pepperdine University, Mark has spent decades studying and teaching the principles of mental toughness, resilience, leadership, and human performance. Through his books, training programs, and speaking engagements, he has helped thousands of leaders develop the skills to thrive under pressure and lead with greater clarity, purpose, and courage. • Website: https://markdivine.com • Unbeatable Mind: https://unbeatablemind.com • The Mark Divine Show: https://markdivine.com/podcast • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markdivine • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markdivineofficial Connect with Bobby • Newsletter: https://bobbyshelton.substack.com/ • LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/drbobbyshelton

    Mark Divine | Self-Leadership, Purpose, and the Courage to Live Your Own Life
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The Self-Leadership Lab is where purpose, discipline, and personal mastery get broken down, tested, and rebuilt. Hosted by author and coach Bobby Shelton, this podcast explores the real work of leading yourself before you lead anyone else. Each episode dives into the practices, psychology, and “inner lab work” behind self-awareness, self-discipline, and meaningful growth. If you’re ready to trade performative busyness for intentional living and choose the kind of work that truly shapes you, this is your place. Welcome to The Self-Leadership Lab.

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