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Hey, I’m Sophie Foster, and welcome to our podcast! Each week, I sit down with local experts to ask the questions we're all wondering about gender-based violence - what abuse really is, when to reach out, and how we can help prevent it—right here in Oxford County. This podcast is brought to you by the women's shelters in Oxford County - Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (DASO) and Ingamo Homes - and funded by the Ontario Trillium Foundation Seed Grant. New episodes are released every Wednesday!

  1. Jun 3

    Episode 40 - GBV in 2SLGBTQ+ Relationships: What We Need to Talk About

    Happy Pride Month 🌈 In this episode, we’re joined by Tami Murray, psychotherapist, owner of Diversity Counselling, and former founder and president of Oxford Pride, for an important and often under-discussed conversation on gender-based violence in 2SLGBTQ+ relationships. Drawing on decades of experience supporting queer individuals and building community in Oxford County, Tami helps unpack what GBV can look like beyond heteronormative frameworks. We talk about how abuse shows up in queer relationships, the unique barriers survivors face when seeking support, and the myths that can prevent people from recognizing harm. While Pride is a time to celebrate identity, community, and progress, it’s also a time to hold space for the realities that still exist. In this episode, we explore not only interpersonal violence, but also the broader systemic harms - how stigma, discrimination, and structural inequities continue to impact 2SLGBTQ+ communities. This conversation is about expanding our understanding of GBV, challenging assumptions, and making space for voices and experiences that are too often left out. Resources & Support: Oxford Pride Website: https://oxfordpride.ca/ Oxford Pride Printable Guides: https://oxfordpride.ca/printable-guides/ Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line) Website: www.daso.ca Crisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938 Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)Website: www.ingamohomes.com Follow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    42 min

  2. May 20

    Episode 39 - Reacting to Reddit: The Moment Strangulation Changed Everything

    What starts as a “perfect” new relationship takes a sudden and terrifying turn—when a woman shares that her partner began strangling her during sex… without consent, without warning, and without stopping when she asked him to. She’s left shaken, confused, and scared, trying to make sense of how someone she liked could cross such a serious line. In this episode, we unpack:• What this kind of experience actually is (and isn’t)• Why strangulation is never “just sex” • The real risks and long-term impacts• What support and next steps can look like This isn’t about judging, it’s about understanding, safety, and making sure people have the information they need to recognize harm and get support. If something feels off, it matters. And you deserve to feel safe. Resources & Support:Learn more and follow our Strangulation Prevention Campaign: https://dartoxford.ca/strangulation/ @oxforddartSt. Joseph's Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Treatment ProgramWebsite: https://www.sjhc.london.on.ca/areas-of-care/sexual-assault-and-domestic-violence-treatment-programPhone: 519 646-6100 ext. 64224Oxford Sexual Assault Services (OSAS)Website: https://oxchc.ca/homepage/services/oxford-sexual-assault-services-osas/Cell Phone: 226.232.6149 (call or text)Email: osas@oxchc.ca Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)Website: www.daso.caCrisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)Website: www.ingamohomes.comFollow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    19 min

  3. May 6

    Episode 38 - The Reality of Strangulation: Risks, Realities & Support

    In this episode, we’re joined by Annyse Alcock, a nurse with the Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Program at St. Joseph’s Health Care London, to unpack the realities of strangulation—an often misunderstood and highly dangerous form of violence.Together, we explore:- The serious and sometimes delayed health risks of strangulation- Why strangulation is a key indicator of escalating violence- Common myths and misconceptions- What medical care and support can look like after an incident- The specialized services offered through St. Joseph’s Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence ProgramThis conversation is part of our ongoing effort to raise awareness about gender-based violence and provide clear, accessible information to our community.Link to timeline from our conversation: https://www.allianceforhope.org/training-institute-on-strangulation-prevention/resources/physiological-consequences-of-strangulation-seconds-to-minute-timeline-2Resources & Support:Learn more and follow our Strangulation Prevention Campaign: https://dartoxford.ca/strangulation/ @oxforddartSt. Joseph's Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Treatment ProgramWebsite: https://www.sjhc.london.on.ca/areas-of-care/sexual-assault-and-domestic-violence-treatment-programPhone: 519 646-6100 ext. 64224Oxford Sexual Assault Services (OSAS)Website: https://oxchc.ca/homepage/services/oxford-sexual-assault-services-osas/Cell Phone: 226.232.6149 (call or text)Email: osas@oxchc.ca Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)Website: www.daso.caCrisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)Website: www.ingamohomes.comFollow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    36 min

  4. Apr 22

    Episode 37- Understanding Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence Evidence Kits: St. Joseph’s Health Care

    What actually happens during a “rape kit”? And how do you access one if you live in Oxford County?In this episode, we sit down with registered nurse Annyse Alcock from the Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Treatment Program at St. Joseph’s Health Care London to answer the questions most people are afraid to ask. While many people know them as “rape kits,” the professional term is sexual assault and domestic violence evidence kits—and they’re used in more situations than you might think.From what the exam looks like, to how long you have to get one, to what your options are—this conversation breaks it all down in a clear, honest, and supportive way.Whether you’re curious, supporting someone, or just want to understand the process better, this episode helps take the fear and mystery out of it.Resources & Support:St. Joseph's Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Treatment ProgramWebsite: https://www.sjhc.london.on.ca/areas-of-care/sexual-assault-and-domestic-violence-treatment-programPhone: 519 646-6100 ext. 64224Oxford Sexual Assault Services (OSAS)Website: https://oxchc.ca/homepage/services/oxford-sexual-assault-services-osas/Cell Phone: 226.232.6149 (call or text)Email: osas@oxchc.ca Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)Website: www.daso.caCrisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)Website: www.ingamohomes.comFollow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    42 min

  5. Apr 8

    Episode 36 - Survivor Story: Alex

    In this episode, I sit down with Alex, to share her powerful story of healing, self-trust, and rediscovery.Alex opens up about what it felt like to be disconnected from her intuition and how a turning point came when a blood test confirmed that something wasn’t right. That moment became the catalyst for a deeper journey: learning to reconnect with her body, trust her gut, and develop new tools for navigating her life.We also explore how early experiences shaped patterns like people-pleasing, and how those patterns contributed to her experiences in abusive relationships. Through the support of trusted friends and compassionate professionals, Alex began to rewrite her story, learning to set boundaries, rebuild her sense of self, and recognize that she deserves more.Resources & Support:Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)Website: www.daso.caCrisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)Website: www.ingamohomes.comFollow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    34 min

  6. Mar 25

    Episode 35 - The Power of iHEAL: Trauma-Informed Care in Oxford, Elgin & St. Thomas

    In this episode, we sit down with registered nurses Jacqueline Forget and Emily Robertson from the iHEAL program, which supports individuals who have experienced intimate partner violence across Oxford County, Elgin County, and St. Thomas. Through a trauma- and violence-informed approach, iHEAL helps survivors move beyond crisis and toward long-term healing, safety, and stability. Jacqueline and Emily share what this work looks like on the ground—how they build trust with clients, support both physical and emotional health, and walk alongside survivors as they rebuild their lives. We also explore the unique role of healthcare in responding to gender-based violence, the importance of collaboration across sectors, and what communities need to better support survivors. This conversation offers an inside look at compassionate, survivor-centered care—and the impact it can have when systems work together. Resources & Support: Learn more about the iHEAL program: https://www.swpublichealth.ca/my-health/iheal-program/ iHEAL Referral Form: https://app.swpublichealth.ca/Forms/lVHmP iHEAL app: https://ihealapp.ca/en/ Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line) Website: www.daso.ca Crisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938 Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support) Website: www.ingamohomes.com Follow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    35 min

  7. Mar 11

    Episode 34 - Walking With Us: Solidarity and Action for MMIWG2S+

    In this episode, I sit down with Patricia Marshal‑DeSutter, founder of Building the Fire (formerly the Indigenous Solidarity and Awareness Network).Patricia shares about the work Building the Fire is doing to support Indigenous communities, raise awareness, and foster meaningful solidarity in the movement to end violence against Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women, Girls, and Two‑Spirit People (MMIWG2S+). Together, we explore what it means to move beyond awareness toward real action, centering Indigenous leadership, accountability, and community care.This conversation invites listeners to reflect on their role in supporting justice, truth, and safety for Indigenous women, girls, and Two-Spirit people, and highlights practical ways communities can walk alongside Indigenous advocates in solidarity. Links from our conversation: Building the Fire - Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/IISANnetwork/ Mourning 215 Indigenous Children https://www.canada.ca/en/department-national-defence/maple-leaf/defence/2021/06/mourning-canadas-215-indigenous-children.html Calls for Justice https://www.mmiwg-ffada.ca/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Calls_for_Justice.pdf Truth and Reconciliation Commission of Canada: Calls to Actionhttps://nctr.ca/about/history-of-the-trc/truth-and-reconciliation-commission-of-canada-calls-to-action/ Patricia's Specific Sector Recommendations:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1s952BrZXmwqcRVIAK-W7lJ_83mWNQaeog7XyGXv1OuE/edit?usp=drivesdk Resources & Support: Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line) Website: www.daso.ca Crisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938 Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support) Website: www.ingamohomes.com Follow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    39 min

  8. Feb 25

    Episode 33 - When Survival is Criminalized: The Justice System and GBV Survivors

    What happens when the legal system meant to protect survivors ends up criminalizing them?In this powerful and eye-opening conversation, we’re joined by Dr. Jenniffer Olenewa, who shares insights from her PhD research on the criminalization of women and survivors of gender-based violence.Together, we unpack the history of how survivors have been treated by the justice system, explore growing conversations around coercive control and the potential criminalization of femicide, and examine why these issues are far more complex than they might seem. From unintended consequences to difficult questions about justice, accountability, and protection, this episode challenges assumptions and invites deeper reflection.Resources & Support:Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)Website: www.daso.caCrisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)Website:www.ingamohomes.comFollow us on Instagram: @canwetalkaboutthat

    55 min
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Hey, I’m Sophie Foster, and welcome to our podcast! Each week, I sit down with local experts to ask the questions we're all wondering about gender-based violence - what abuse really is, when to reach out, and how we can help prevent it—right here in Oxford County. This podcast is brought to you by the women's shelters in Oxford County - Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (DASO) and Ingamo Homes - and funded by the Ontario Trillium Foundation Seed Grant. New episodes are released every Wednesday!

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  • Creator
    DASO + Ingamo Homes
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © DASO + Ingamo Homes
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    Can We Talk About That?