Beyond Survival - The Therapy Podcast with Katie McKenna

Katie McKenna
  • 5.0 (19)
  • MENTAL HEALTH

This Podcast is for anyone who grew up up in a dysfunctional or narcissistic family system and now finds themselves stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, anxiety or unhealthy relationships. Each episode offers real-world insight into trauma recovery, relationships, boundaries, nervous system healing and reconnecting to your true self.  Whether your just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, you’re welcome here - just as you are 

  1. 23H AGO

    Golden Child vs Scapegoat (S4 Ep.9)

    This week a listener describes what it was like to grow up largely invisible and also scapegoated, while their older sister held the role of the golden child.  With a covertly narcissistic mother and an overtly narcissistic father, achievements, independence, and curiosity were mocked rather than celebrated, while approval always seemed just out of reach. Praise was offered to strangers, but rarely, if ever, directly to the child who longed to hear it. The story also touches on boundary violations, body shaming, and the subtle but powerful ways children learn to survive within dysfunctional systems — becoming the “good child,” the high achiever, the one who stays quiet and contained in order to maintain stability. But the dynamics didn’t stay in childhood. When this listener became a parent and began setting boundaries, the family system escalated in ways that will feel painfully familiar to many who grew up in similar environments. If you grew up in a family where love felt conditional, where roles were rigid, or where your reality was often dismissed, this story may resonate deeply. Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on TikTok Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    1h 3m

  2. MAR 6

    When is enough, enough? (S4 Ep.8)

    Did I do the right thing? Am I being unreasonable? This week we hear from a listener who grew up with a controlling father who monitored finances, belittled her mother, mocked her intelligence, and ruled the house with, “If you live under my roof, you do as I say.”  She became the responsible daughter. The fixer. The emotional support system. The one who stayed close. After decades of being pulled into her parents’ toxic marriage, she set a boundary: Don’t involve me in your disputes anymore.  Her mother apologised. Her father stopped speaking to her.  In this episode, we explore: Growing up with a narcissistic or controlling fatherBeing the scapegoat vs. the golden childParentification and becoming the family therapistSetting boundaries with narcissistic parentsThe silent treatment as punishmentBreaking generational trauma when you become a parentThe grief of unavailable grandparentsIf you were the “responsible one.” If you were triangulated into your parents’ conflict. If you’ve ever been punished for having boundaries. If becoming a mum or dad made you realise just how unhealthy your childhood was. This conversation will feel painfully familiar — and deeply validating. Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on TikTok Follow Dr Ruth Callaghan on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    55 min

  3. FEB 27

    People-Pleasing as Survival (S4 Ep7)

    In this episode, we’re exploring The Fawn response through the experience of a listener who grew up in a home shaped by addiction, conflict and emotional unpredictability. With siblings who needed significant care, he learned very early that the safest way to exist was to be low maintenance. Mature. Independent. No trouble.  He became highly attuned to other people’s moods — scanning faces, tracking tone shifts, apologising first, and doing whatever was needed to prevent arguments. What looked like kindness was survival. As a child, it made sense. If he didn’t add pressure, maybe things wouldn’t escalate. If he helped enough, maybe everyone would be okay. But that strategy followed him into adulthood — struggling to say no, feeling responsible for other people’s reactions, being taken advantage of in friendships, and experiencing intense guilt whenever he tries to put himself first. Even after years of practising boundaries, saying no still brings anxiety and a powerful urge to go back and fix things when someone is disappointed. Choosing himself doesn’t feel freeing — it feels wrong. In this episode, we unpack people pleasing, the nervous system roots of the fawn response, and why guilt often intensifies when you stop self-abandoning. We explore why boundaries can initially feel unsafe — and how healing this pattern isn’t about becoming selfish, but about building safety within yourself. Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on TikTok Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    58 min

  4. FEB 20

    Am I Overreacting? Was It Really That Bad? (S4 Ep.6)

    If you grew up with a parent who rewrote history, denied conversations that clearly happened and turned every attempt at repair into an explosion… this episode is for you. In this episode of Beyond Survival – The Therapy Podcast, I read a listener’s story about going low contact, then no contact, after years of gaslighting, DARVO, and emotional manipulation.  We explore the role of the enabling parent (deflection, minimising, suggests you’re “misremembering” or "mentally unwell") and the physical toll of being disbelieved. And when you finally step away — why does the doubt get louder, not quieter? We also address the haunting question so many adult children of narcissists carry: “Am I overreacting?”  If you’ve ever second-guessed your own memory… if you’ve been told you’re too sensitive, mentally unwell, or the problem… if going no contact brought both relief and guilt — this conversation may help you feel less alone. You’re not crazy for wanting honesty.  And you’re not cruel for choosing safety. Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on TikTok Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    58 min

  5. FEB 13

    Does life get more peaceful when they die? (S4 Ep5)

    A listener writes in with a question that many people carry quietly (and can often feel ashamed for even thinking) Does life get more peaceful when they die? This listener was adopted into a family where love was conditional and pain was reframed as devotion. A father who minimised abuse as “loving too much.” A mother whose behaviour ruined milestones. Public humiliation at her wedding. Health crises used as leverage.  And finally, a breaking point — being told to “f**k off” in front of her eight-year-old daughter, leading her from low contact to no contact. After years of therapy, anxiety, depression, and recurring dreams about her parents, she asks the question so many adult children of abusive families wonder but rarely say out loud: Does life get more peaceful when they die? In this episode, we explore the reality beneath that question — grief without safety, guilt without repair, and what peace actually comes from (and what it doesn’t).  This is an honest conversation about the trauma of adoption, endings, longing, and reclaiming your nervous system when the relationship was never safe to begin with. Follow Dr. Ruth on TikTok Follow Dr. Ruth on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    53 min

  6. FEB 6

    When abuse feels familiar (S4 Ep4)

    In this episode, we hear from a 44-year-old listener whose role as “the strong one” began far too early. Raised in the 80s as the eldest of four children to unmarried parents, she grew up learning to stay quiet, stay alert, and stay responsible. With a hard-working, emotionally absent, father and a mother she had to tiptoe around, she was placed into the role of parent long before she had the chance to be a child. Labelled, blamed, and isolated from friends, she became the family scapegoat — the one everything landed on. That early conditioning followed her into adulthood, where she found herself repeating familiar dynamics in an abusive relationship, feeling like a pawn caught between her partner and her mother. After finding the courage to leave, circumstances led her back into her mother’s home — and today, as she navigates court proceedings, she names the most frightening reality not as the legal battle, but as continued proximity to her mother. This episode explores scapegoating, parentification, narcissistic abuse, projection, and the deep nervous-system impact of growing up unsafe — as well as what it means to begin reclaiming choice, agency, and self-trust later in life. Follow Ruth on TikTok Follow Ruth on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    49 min

  7. JAN 30

    The Impact of a Critical Mother (S4 Ep3)

    In this episode, we read a letter from a listener who has spent her life being criticised by her mother — called “stupid,” shamed about her body, and told she was a mistake. When she shared the news of her engagement, her mother ignored her for a week. When she tried to express how hurt she felt, she was accused of “looking for trouble” and acting as if she thought she was better than everyone else. She’s now considering taking a break from the relationship and is asking a question many adult children quietly carry: Is it okay to step back, even when it’s your mother? We explore what chronic criticism does to the nervous system, why attempts at repair often get turned back on the child, and how to think about distance or no contact in a way that centres safety, self-trust, and emotional reality — not guilt or obligation. This episode is for anyone navigating the painful space between longing for a different parent and choosing themselves anyway. Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on TikTok Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    1h 2m

  8. JAN 23

    Fighting For My Truth (S4 Ep2)

    In this episode we hear from a listener who has navigated years of emotional turmoil within her blended family. After a life-threatening childbirth, she faced ongoing manipulation, smear campaigns, and boundary violations from her mother-in-law, who sided with her husband’s ex and sought to control their family.  This powerful story explores the exhaustion of protecting your marriage and family while maintaining your own sense of self, and the ongoing challenge of living your truth in the face of disbelief and manipulation. Follow Dr. Ruth Callaghan on TikTok Follow Dr. Callaghan on Instagram www.callaghancounselling.ie The C.A.L.M Method  If you want to be notified when Katie is running the next group -  Join the Waitlist today  Calmer parenting and a happier home and kids is so much closer than you think Katie McKenna Accredited Psychotherapist, Podcast Host, Author BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    1h 1m
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This Podcast is for anyone who grew up up in a dysfunctional or narcissistic family system and now finds themselves stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, anxiety or unhealthy relationships. Each episode offers real-world insight into trauma recovery, relationships, boundaries, nervous system healing and reconnecting to your true self.  Whether your just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, you’re welcome here - just as you are 

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