Beyond Survival - The Therapy Podcast with Katie McKenna

Katie McKenna
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  • MENTAL HEALTH

This Podcast is for anyone who grew up up in a dysfunctional or narcissistic family system and now finds themselves stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, anxiety or unhealthy relationships. Each episode offers real-world insight into trauma recovery, relationships, boundaries, nervous system healing and reconnecting to your true self.  Whether your just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, you’re welcome here - just as you are 

  1. 6D AGO

    'Narcissistic Father' - An interview with Dr. Rachna Boxani-Mirpuri

    In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist and author Dr Rachna Buxani, whose book Unseen: A Therapist’s Reflection on a Daughter’s Journey Through a Narcissistic Father’s Shadow. Together, we explore what happens when a father’s love feels more like control than care? We discuss the impact of growing up in emotional silence, the silent erosion of self-trust, and how a child learns to survive by disconnecting from her own voice. Dr Buxani shares reflections on memory, self-doubt, and the invisible grief of never feeling truly seen by a narcissistic father. If you’ve ever questioned your own experiences, apologised for having needs, or felt like love was something you had to earn, this episode is for you! Looking Forward 2026 I’m excited to announce that I’ll be running another 6-Week C.A.L.M. Parent Method in February - Doors open January 26th -  Join the Waitlist today. Here's what some of the parents who completed the course last year have shared: “Doing The Calmer Parent course was absolutely invaluable” Nicola “This has been the most impactful course I’ve ever taken” Steph “I’m sincere when I say my husband and I have repeatedly said this is the best parenting course we’ve ever paid for” Annalisa BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    54 min

  2. 12/26/2025

    An Interview with Dr. Natalie Fabert

    In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Natalie Fabert to explore a question I often return to: What if a narcissistic family system operates like a cult? When we hear the word cult, it can conjure images of something extreme, distant, or dramatic, something that happens to other people. But what if a cult simply describes a system. A system where one person’s reality becomes the only acceptable reality. Where it’s “my way or the highway.” Where you’re trained to question yourself, but never the person in charge. We’ll talk about how these systems are upheld through conditional love, inconsistent rules, and roles that determine your worth based on how well you perform. While education often focuses on the narcissist’s behaviour, this conversation looks beyond the individual to the wider system that protects and maintains the dynamic. Using real-life examples, we explore how the psychological dynamics of cults and narcissistic families can be strikingly similar. Dr. Natalie Fabert joins us from the Lalich Center on Cults and Coercion, where she serves on the board of directors and oversees continuing education for clinicians. She is an associate teaching professor of psychology at Arizona State University and a licensed psychologist in private practice, specialising in work with survivors of cultic abuse, spiritual and religious abuse, and coercive control. If you grew up in a family where love felt conditional and you became hyper-vigilant, constantly monitoring and managing your narcissistic parent’s moods. Where you learned not to trust your own mind, and self-doubt became second nature, where obedience felt like survival in a home that trained you to question yourself but never the person in charge! Then this episode offers a powerful new lens for understanding what you lived through, and why it was never your fault. Dr. Natalie Fabert Lalich Center on Cults and Coercion Add your name here if you'd like to know more about my parenting course BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    1h 14m

  3. 12/19/2025

    Why Do I React This Way? The Wounds & Their Roots (S3 Ep7)

    In this episode, I explore the trauma responses many of us developed just to survive childhood and why they still show up in our adult lives.  I’ll break down the main trauma responses, the core wounds they originate from, and how these patterns are shaped by growing up with narcissistic parents. I’ll also walk you through the four types of narcissistic parents and how each one impacts a child’s nervous system, sense of self, and relationships, and why your responses were never flaws, they were there survival responses! Most importantly, we’ll talk about healing: how to begin meeting the wounds underneath your trauma responses with compassion, safety, and choice, rather than shame. This episode is for anyone who has ever asked, “Why do I react this way?” and is ready to move beyond survival and into self-trust and emotional freedom If you'd like to know more about my parenting course - add your name here BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    49 min

  4. 12/12/2025

    Narcissistic Parentification (S3 Ep6)

    This week, I'm unpacking one of the most common yet misunderstood experiences for adult children of narcissistic abuse: Narcissistic Parentification.  I’ll walk through the different roles the children are cast into; Scapegoat Child, Golden Child, Enmeshed / Gilded Child, The Invisible Child, and how these roles profoundly shape your relationships, boundaries, identity, and sense of self today. By understanding the dynamics behind the role you were assigned, you can finally challenge the narratives that kept you small and start healing on your own terms. If you'd like to know more about my parenting course - add your name here BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    42 min

  5. 12/05/2025

    Instrumental Parentification (S3 Ep5)

    In today’s episode, I'm diving into Instrumental Parentification — a dynamic where a child becomes the household’s “mini Cinderella.” They’re the ones cooking, cleaning, managing bills and appointments, caring for siblings, or even being conditioned into the role of caregiver for an ill family member. We’ll explore how these adult-sized responsibilities shape a child’s sense of self, and how the impact often follows them into adulthood, influencing their relationships - especially with their siblings. Listen to understand how this pattern develops, why it’s so damaging, and what healing can look like. Get notified about the next Calmer Parent Method with Katie McKenna BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    31 min

  6. 11/28/2025

    Emotional Parentification (S3 Ep4)

    In this solo episode, I’m diving into the topic of parentification — what it looks like, how to recognise it, and why naming your experience is the essential first step toward healing. Before we can deconstruct and dismantle the roles and patterns we grew up with, we need the language to understand what truly happened to us. I’ll be sharing real, relatable examples to help you spot the subtle and not-so-subtle signs of parentification in your own family system and explore how these dynamics may have shaped your sense of self, relationships, and emotional world. This episode will help you recognise the signs of parentification - for you or your siblings - and begin making sense of your story with clarity and compassion. *If you'd like to know when I'm running my next parenting course - add your name  here BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    40 min

  7. 11/21/2025

    Enmeshment - An Interview with Dr. Ken Adams (S3 Ep3)

    In today’s episode, we dive deep into the complex topic of enmeshment—what it is, how it forms, and what healthyfamily patterns actually look like. We explore the journey of emancipation: how to recognise the conditioned roles you were assigned in childhood and, most importantly, how to break free from them. Joining us is Dr. Ken Adams, renowned national lecturer, workshop leader, and consultant specializing in child abuse, dysfunctional family systems, and sex addiction. Dr. Adams is the acclaimed author of Silently Seduced, When He’s Married to Mom, and A Light in the Dark. Together, we unpack the dynamics of enmeshment and offer insights on reclaiming your autonomy and emotional freedom. www.drkenadams.com www.overcomingenmeshment.com Follow Dr. Adams on TikTok BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    43 min

  8. 11/14/2025

    An Interview with Dr. Christine Cocchiola (S3 Ep2)

    “I started this work at the age of 19. I was a child abuse advocate, a sexual abuse advocate, a domestic violence advocate, a therapist — and yet, I didn’t know it was happening to me.” Dr. Christine Cocchiola is a leading expert on the experience of adult and child victims of coercive control. But even with all her knowledge and training, she found herself living inside the very dynamic she’d dedicated her life to understanding and preventing. In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Dr. Cocchiola shares her own story — the signs she missed, the psychological grip of coercive control, the impact on children, and how to recognise it in your own relationship. She also offers essential guidance on how to protect children from a coercively controlling parent. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the hidden dynamics of control and reclaim their sense of safety and self. Follow Dr. Christine Cocchiola on Instagram Follow Dr. Christine Cocchiola on Facebook  www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com Ted X Talk - It's All Coercive Control BEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast

    45 min
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This Podcast is for anyone who grew up up in a dysfunctional or narcissistic family system and now finds themselves stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, anxiety or unhealthy relationships. Each episode offers real-world insight into trauma recovery, relationships, boundaries, nervous system healing and reconnecting to your true self.  Whether your just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, you’re welcome here - just as you are 

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