Deep Conversations with Valerie Birch

Valerie Birch
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Deep Conversations with Valerie Birch is just that - conversations where we go deep. Conversations lead by the soul, created in the moment where we explore consciousness, Human Design, Gene Keys, transformation, embodiment, expansion, spirituality & whatever else comes through. The best part - it's all through the lens of our everyday experiences of life. Real people. Real lives. Weaving together being human and souls who've come for a greater awareness and joy in life. Join us, it really is fun! soulfulspaces.substack.com

  1. 1d ago

    #31 Why No One Asks About You

    I came home from the family gathering, the birthday party, a weekend away — and somewhere in the quiet of the drive home, it hit me. Not one person asked about me. And just like that, the whole weekend got a different color. If you’ve ever felt that sting — that quiet, confusing hurt of being the one who holds space for everyone else while wondering if anyone even notices you exist — this episode is for you. I get completely honest about a question I’ve been sitting with for years: why does it always seem like nobody asks about me? And more importantly, what does that question actually reveal about where I’ve been looking for my power? This isn’t a fluffy conversation about toxic family dynamics or how to demand better from people. It’s a deep and honest look at the gap between being genuinely hurt and being the victim of your own story and how the moment I stopped waiting to be seen by others was the moment everything shifted. In this episode I explore: * Why the people we call “family” carry a weight of expectation that other relationships don’t and why that’s worth questioning * The difference between genuine hurt and victim mentality and how I learned to honor both without getting stuck in either * What the 90-second emotional rule actually means and why I was skipping the one step that would have freed me so much faster * How showing up already full completely changes the energy of every conversation I walk into * The powerful question I now ask myself when I notice I wanted something from someone who didn’t deliver it * Why “they didn’t ask about me” is almost never about me and what it actually is about Here’s what I’m leaving you with: Every interaction you have with someone is for you. The moment I stopped waiting to receive love and started being it, that’s when the entire frequency of my life changed. This episode will make you rethink your last family gathering, your last one-sided conversation, and the quiet places inside you that are still waiting to be asked about. Because here’s the real question: What is it you were hoping they’d recognize and what if you gave that to yourself instead? Want to stay close? Join me: A Moment With Val (scroll to the bottom of the page and you can sign up there) A Moment with Val is not a newsletter per se, It’s one small moment in your week delivered to your inbox that brings you back to the center of your own heart to see deeper and observe your own life. Free Human Design chart Subscribe, review and share this episode. Apple, Spotify Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

  2. Aug 21

    30. This Is Your Life Too, a reflection on summer

    Summer is over, the kids are back in school, and before rushing into what’s next, I felt this deep desire to pause. In this episode, I’m reflecting on the summer—not just what we did or how quickly it went, but who I was within it. The ordinary moments. The imperfect ones. The ways I’ve grown. And maybe most importantly, the ways I chose not to put myself, my creativity, and the things that make me feel alive on the back burner this time. This is an invitation to pause and look at yourself with a little more compassion, pride, and love. Nothing needs to come from the reflection. No new goal, no next step. Maybe we just get to sit here for a moment and say: look at us. I’m so proud of us! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    30. This Is Your Life Too, a reflection on summer

  3. Jul 16

    29. What Happens When You Finally Stop Doing It All As A Mother

    What happens when a Projector mother finally has the masculine parts of motherhood taken care of and discovers who she actually is underneath all the roles? In this deeply honest conversation, Valerie sits down with Josephine Sutton, a fellow 4/6 Splenic Projector and mother navigating the same incarnation cross, to explore what six weeks of live-in support taught them both about energy, presence, rest, and choosing a life that is truly yours. Key Topics * Self-care and nervous system regulation * Living authentically as a projector mother * The impact of external support and community * Reclaiming creative energy and personal desires Connect with Josephine In the in-between moments of being a mother, Josephine loves to share her experiences and life on Instagram and Substack. Here she guides intuitive women to confidence and supports them through emotional release and nutrition. Join her there and know it’s a safe place to be imperfect and full of love and learning! Connect with Valerie For those who feel called to support this work, thank you. Looking for your Human Design chart and free download? Check it out here and scroll down. Curious to dive into conversation together via a speaking engagement or on the podcast, I’d love to hear from you! This podcast resonated with you and you want to dive deeper into what it means to not try so hard based on your design, let’s sit together and have our own deep conversation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Connection 03:30 Navigating Motherhood and Support 07:10 The Flow of Parenting 11:16 Self-Compassion and Realizations 14:47 The Need for Community 19:52 Finding Balance and Energy 23:28 Creating a Life of Fulfillment 27:42 The Power of Solo Retreats 29:21 Rediscovering Self and Authenticity 31:37 The Importance of Rest and Creativity 33:44 Choosing Personal Needs Over Social Obligations 35:38 Redefining Family Choices and Energy Dynamics 38:28 Leading with Confidence in Parenting 40:38 The New Paradigm of Motherhood 44:44 Embracing the Role of the Home 47:36 Finding Truth in Silence 50:39 Exploring Personal Passions and Human Design 54:23 Navigating Societal Expectations as a Mother 58:06 Letting Go of External Judgments This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    29. What Happens When You Finally Stop Doing It All As A Mother

  4. Jun 4

    28. Maybe You Don't Need to Try So Hard

    In this heartfelt conversation, I sit down with my friend Britta of Aligned & Undefined to explore what it means to trust yourself in a world that constantly asks you to do more, move faster, and prove your worth. While our conversation begins with Human Design and Britta’s experience as a Reflector, it quickly expands into something much deeper: learning to honor your own timing, choosing environments that support your well-being, releasing the need to fix others, and returning to the wisdom of the body and heart. Together we explore the tension between productivity and presence, the courage required to slow down, and the quiet joy that can be found in everyday life. Whether you’re familiar with Human Design or not, this conversation is an invitation to question the pressures you’ve inherited and reconnect with what feels true for you. In This Episode We Explore * Britta’s experience living as a Reflector * Why environment matters more than we often realize * The difference between presence and performance * Letting go of responsibility for other people’s reactions * Root pressure, over-functioning, and trusting your timing * Returning to the body instead of living in the mind * Finding safety within yourself * The role Human Design has played in our personal journeys * Why slowing down can be an act of leadership * Rediscovering joy through simple everyday moments * The courage to live from your heart rather than external expectations Memorable Moments “Sometimes my presence is just enough.” “This rush that we put on ourselves to get things done is made up.” “Life is too short to trudge along under other people’s expectations.” Connect with Britta Britta is the creator of Aligned & Undefined, where she works with the Akashic Records and supports others in reconnecting with their own wisdom and alignment. Instagram: @alignedandundefined Website: alignedandundefined.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@alignedandundefined Connect with Valerie For those who feel called to support this work, thank you. Looking for your Human Design chart and free download? Check it out here and scroll down. Curious to dive into conversation together via a speaking engagement or on the podcast, I’d love to hear from you! This podcast resonated with you and you want to dive deeper into what it means to not try so hard based on your design, let’s sit together and have our own deep conversation. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    28. Maybe You Don't Need to Try So Hard

  5. May 11

    #27 Simplicity of supporting others, the pathless woods and following what lights you up

    What if supporting others had nothing to do with giving advice? In this episode, Valerie reflects on how her solo retreat inadvertently gave friends permission to slow down — simply by being herself. She explores the profound difference between following cement paths versus trusting what lights you up, sharing how small acts of rebellion (like taking back roads home) can rewire your brain and change how you see the world. A gentle invitation to consider: when did you last choose pleasure over efficiency, and what might shift if you trusted your own pathless woods? Please share this podcast with someone you love and leave a review. Your support is greatly appreciated! If this resonated and you’d like to support, click here. Podcast on solo trip: Website: valeriebirch.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    #27 Simplicity of supporting others, the pathless woods and following what lights you up

  6. May 9

    #26 Solo Trips & the range of emotions and freedom

    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    #26 Solo Trips & the range of emotions and freedom

  7. Apr 17

    #25 Motherhood Without the Energy to Keep Going with Katie Wilson

    Motherhood isn’t meant to feel like constant output. And yet… for so many women - especially non-sacral mothers - it does. In this episode, Valerie and Katie explore what it really means to parent without consistent energy in a world that expects you to always keep going. From Human Design to real-life motherhood moments, this conversation unravels the pressure to “do it all” and opens up a different way—one rooted in trust, presence, and honoring your body. If you’ve ever felt exhausted trying to keep up… this one will feel like exhale. Only love, Valerie Curious if you’re a non-sacral (Manifestor, Projector, Reflector)? Grab your free chart. Let’s co-create together: The Activation Voice Note Reflections. Sometimes just a new insight and energetic shift is exactly what you’re looking for in challenge or shift. A simple voice note exchange is a $20 investment for deep seeing and energy. Venmo @Valerie-Birch with your name and phone number and I’ll begin a text thread to connect. In voice notes, send me what’s coming up, and I’ll send back a voice reflection that’s sure to shift something within. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    #25 Motherhood Without the Energy to Keep Going with Katie Wilson

  8. Mar 11

    #24 The Truth About Entrepreneurship No One Talks About

    In this solo episode of Deep Conversations with Valerie Birch, Valerie shares a pattern she has been observing for years while building her own business. As more people step into entrepreneurship and creating work aligned with their gifts, there is often a strong focus on strategies, systems, and building something successful. But Valerie reveals a deeper truth: the real work isn’t only in the business itself. It’s in the everyday moments of life. How you respond to the mundane moments — your tone of voice with your children, your patience in moments of stress, your ability to soften and stay present — shapes the energy you bring into everything you create. Instead of separating business from life, Valerie invites us to recognize that the way we live our lives is the foundation of the work we share with the world. What resonated for you? Share your reflections and aha moments with Valerie and your friend! If this shifted an awareness for you, please subscribe. Subscribing truly helps grow this community and consciousness. Curious of the insights of your foundation of life and business? Grab your free Human Design chart and begin exploring and experimenting. Sometimes one conversation can reveal what we couldn’t see before. Connect with Valerie If something in this reflection stirred a deeper awareness for you, you’re warmly invited to explore The Activation Session with Valerie — a one-to-one conversation designed to reveal what may be ready to shift, clarify, or come into view. Learn more here. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit soulfulspaces.substack.com/subscribe

    #24 The Truth About Entrepreneurship No One Talks About
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Deep Conversations with Valerie Birch is just that - conversations where we go deep. Conversations lead by the soul, created in the moment where we explore consciousness, Human Design, Gene Keys, transformation, embodiment, expansion, spirituality & whatever else comes through. The best part - it's all through the lens of our everyday experiences of life. Real people. Real lives. Weaving together being human and souls who've come for a greater awareness and joy in life. Join us, it really is fun! soulfulspaces.substack.com

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