All About Being Single

Wioleta
  • 5.0 (11)
  • Self-Improvement

Single by choice, by chance, or by WTF is going on? This candid podcast explores the philosophy of the realities of single life, modern dating, loneliness, self-love, healing, confidence, and personal growth. Through relatable and unfiltered stories (hopefully soon, some guest conversations, and listener voice memos), you’ll find your space and your community to feel seen, empowered, grounded, and ready for love whenever it shows up.

  1. 18h ago

    Attention All Singles | Finding Your Person Is Mostly Luck | Episode 58

    Meeting your person is mostly about luck — seriously, that’s the main point I want you to hear right away. I’m Wioleta, and I’ll happily argue that no amount of therapy, profile-refreshing, or confidence-boosting will guarantee you bumping into the perfect human at the perfect time. That said, I’m not saying stop trying: going to singles events, redownloading (or deleting) dating apps, getting off the couch, and actually talking to people increases your chances — but it doesn’t control the outcome. So when a date tanks, don’t immediately assume you’re broken; ask what you learned, what you enjoyed, and where else you might meet people who vibe with you. I find that thought kind of freeing — it takes the shame off being single and replaces it with the simple truth that a lot of this is just random alignment. Do the work to be your best self so your life improves now, and take more chances so your luck has more opportunities to find you; if luck hasn’t shown up yet, hey — we’re probably right on time. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I keep it blunt and oddly comforting: finding your person is mostly about luck. I say this as your host, Wioleta — not to be a downer, but to take some of the weight off our shoulders. We unpack how countless tiny variables have to conspire for two people to meet, be single at the same time, notice each other, want to pursue something, not ghost, and actually end up compatible. That’s a lot of moving parts. I admit I’m all for self-improvement — therapy, emotional availability, confidence, trying the apps, showing up to singles events — because they make life better and they nudge the odds in our favor. But optimizing yourself isn’t a guarantee; sometimes it’s simply random alignment, plain and simple. Call it fate, luck, or a cosmic weirdness — I toy with the idea that some of this feels almost predestined — yet I also give practical encouragement. Saying “yes” more, getting off the couch, talking to people, and treating bad dates as data instead of personal failures both increases your chances and helps you learn about yourself. The takeaway? Don’t let coupled people convince you that staying single means you’re broken. We can increase the odds without needing to control the outcome, and that relief? It’s my little glow-off for the week. Takeaways: I remind you (and myself) that meeting our person often comes down to plain luck, not just self-optimization.We can do therapy, download apps, go to singles events, and still not meet them — timing and randomness matter a lot.I like to think some things feel predestined, but taking chances, saying yes, and getting off the couch increases possibilities.Instead of beating ourselves up after a bad date, we should ask what we learned and where else we might meet people.We can't control the outcome, only increase our odds — so let's expand experiences, talk to more people, and enjoy the ride.My little glow-up: a lot of life is lucky; even if your luck's been late, we're right on time, seriously.

  2. Sep 29

    I've Been Single for Years | Here's What No One Actually Gets About Long Term Singles | Episode 57

    I make the case that lived experience—not statistics, studies, or other bullshit—is the only thing that really explains what it’s like to be single for a long time. I talk about how long-term singlehood reshapes your life: you make big decisions alone, handle finances solo, come home to an empty house more nights than not, and build routines around yourself in ways people who’ve always been partnered just don’t get. It’s like trying to describe city life to someone who’s only ever lived in the country—they can imagine it, but they miss the daily details and the loneliness that compounds over time. I also push back on tired platitudes like “just put yourself out there” or “enjoy being single,” pointing out you can love yourself and still want an intimate partner (they’re not the same thing, shockingly). My little “glow up” takeaway: do less explaining and more living, seek people who actually get your experience, and don’t feel obligated to turn your life into a courtroom case for partnered folks who think they’ve got it all figured out. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I turn the microphone on the cultural weirdness around long-term singlehood and why partnered folks often misread us. I use a few sharp metaphors (city vs country living) to show how people who haven’t lived single for years can’t grasp the daily, compounding texture of loneliness and independence. I rant — in the nicest way — about how statistics and pep talks don’t replace lived experience. Real insight, I say, comes from the messy, real-life stuff: doing your own repairs, managing contractors (my remodel saga again!), and still wanting closeness. That lived reality is the truth we should trust. Then I pivot to the social dynamics: why some people reflexively offer solutions instead of empathy, and how that leaves us explaining ourselves endlessly. I outline better alternatives for listeners who want to support a single friend: listen, validate, and stop treating singlehood like a project to be fixed. I wrap up with a cheeky but earnest “glow up” prescription — do less explaining, live more, and find people who actually get you — because your story is valid without the partnered jury’s stamp of approval. Takeaways: I found that long-term singlehood reshapes daily life: I make big decisions, handle finances, and build routines solo, like being the CEO of a one-person startup.We can't expect folks who've always been partnered to truly get our loneliness; it's like explaining city traffic to someone from the countryside who never sat in a jam.I can love myself and still want a partner — being independent doesn't cancel the desire to share life's small, mundane moments and big choices.When people say just put yourself out there, I hear duh — I've been trying for years, not a few weeks, so spare me the platitudes.I prioritize lived experience over statistics: what matters is how we actually feel, and sometimes someone saying 'that sounds hard' helps more than a study citation.

  3. Sep 22

    October Challenge for Single People | Productivity Bingo (eat, plan, don’t doom-scroll) | Episode 56

    We turned a to-do list into a bingo card... a 5x5 “single life” bingo that makes adulting and being single feel weirdly fun and actually doable. I walk you through why this isn’t about perfection but momentum: fill any square in any order, celebrate small wins, and stop rewriting the same miserable list every night. I give tons of square ideas... everything from “ignored bad dating advice” and “took a break from dating apps” to “bought myself flowers,” “made myself laugh” (my personal favorite), and a free center of “my life is not on hold.” You can make yours productivity-focused (because running a one-person household is a full-time job) or purely single-joy themed, with dating-app mini-challenges, anti-cliché reminders, and social-confidence moves like starting a convo or going to an event solo. I even tell you to send me your card so I can feature it, steal your best ideas, and maybe send you a little something for joining the bingo fun. Bottom line: this card is a playful way to remind ourselves that our lives are happening now... relationships are a bonus, not a deadline. And yes, we’re right on time. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. We turned the blah of to-do lists into something actually fun: a single-person bingo card you can use for a month. I walk us through making a 5x5 grid (25 squares, free center) and give a whole buffet of prompts you can drop into the squares... everything from “ignored bad dating advice” and “took a break from dating apps” to “bought myself flowers” and “did something future-me will thank me for.” The idea isn’t perfection; it’s momentum. I riff a bit on ADHD brains (and on being human in general), so instead of rewriting your list every dang day you celebrate wins as you fill squares in any order. I even suggest turning it into a productivity card if you live alone and need accountability for chores, bills, or creative work. Practical examples: put “made plans for myself,” “ordered what I actually wanted,” “went somewhere alone,” and “didn’t doom-scroll before bed” into your grid. I also invite you to share your card... I’ll feature favorites and swap ideas. And remind us that progress beats pressure every time. Takeaways: I turned my to-do list into a bingo card to celebrate momentum over perfection; for example, completing 'buy myself flowers' or 'took a walk without a destination' counts as progress.We set a 5x5 card with a free middle square like 'my life is not on hold' so I remember life happens now, not after a relationship.I use the bingo idea as ADHD-friendly accountability; pick small, fun squares like 'sent the first text' or 'did something brave' rather than rewriting long todo lists.We also include anti-cliché squares to ignore pressure: 'didn't make a five-year plan' or 'ignored relationship advice from someone who settled,' which is refreshingly liberating.I challenge myself to social confidence squares... starting a convo, smiling at someone attractive, or going to an event alone (tiny scary wins that build real confidence).We keep it playful: add silly squares like didn't stalk a crush or danced for thirty seconds, and feel free to send me your card so I can steal your brilliant ideas for future episodes.

  4. Sep 15

    Go Outside More as a Single Person | Stop Trying to Find Your Person Everywhere | Episode 55

    Get outside, really: the main point is that spending time in nature, even just ten minutes a day, is a tiny habit that can seriously lift your head out of the dating-app spiral and make single life feel less like an endless audition. I’m Wioleta, and I rant (lovingly) about how we need a life that exists outside our phones and our own overactive minds—walks, forest preserves, porch coffee, sunsets, or even a slow sit under a tree all count. I used to go on solo dinners thinking I’d meet someone, until my sister basically told me to relax and have fun instead; now I go to meet people and to enjoy people-watching, not to optimize my love life. Whether you’re moving—hiking, biking, strolling—or simply stepping outside without an agenda, nature reminds you there’s a whole world happening beyond relationship status. So here’s your tiny, ridiculously doable glow-up: step outside every day, no pressure, no podcast required (but fine, take one if it makes you happier). Trust me, we’re allowed to enjoy our lives as they are; and hey, even if we’re late, we’re right on time—we got this. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I give a ridiculously simple glow-up this week: go outside every day, even if it’s only for ten minutes. I promise I’m not turning into a fitness guru (I’m a self-confessed non-runner), but there’s a difference between scrolling on your couch and feeling the actual wind on your face. I talk through super-practical ways to make nature a small, regular habit — take your coffee to the porch, walk to a nearby forest preserve, watch the sunset, or try a short loop around your neighborhood without doomscrolling. You don’t need an agenda: no podcast, no music, just noticing the sky, the temperature, and maybe how weirdly excited you get when it’s finally in the 70s. I also get real about how singles can get trapped in our heads — comparing milestones, obsessing over dating outcomes — and how those ten minutes outside short-circuit the spiral. For the folks who see public outings as missions to meet someone: been there, ate the overpriced solo dinner, felt the couple-envy. Now? I go out to meet people for stories, not to optimize my love life. So here’s a tiny challenge: try stepping outside today without any expectation. It’s not cheesy — it’s practical therapy, and I’ll be cheering you on. Takeaways: I insist you go outside not to swipe or flirt, but just to breathe and exist — even ten minutes on your porch counts.We don’t have to turn every walk, coffee, or event into a strategic dating move; sometimes we go simply to enjoy sunsets, birds, and fresh air.Being outside breaks the loop of overthinking and screen-glued sadness; nature recalibrates our mood and perspective more than another hour of scrolling.I learned from my solo-dinner phase that going out to ‘meet someone’ felt hollow — now I go out to meet people and stories, not just romantic potential.A tiny daily ritual — a 10-minute walk, sipping coffee on your front porch, or watching the sunset — can make your single life feel fuller and less bleak.Remember, even if we feel late in life’s schedule, we’re right on time; our lives are happening now, outside apps and comparison traps.

  5. Sep 8

    Meet Singles IRL | Ideas for Places to Meet Other Single People in the Wild | Episode 54

    Looking for love but feeling stuck in the same old bar scene? Well, I totally get you! In this episode, we dive into some fresh and fun alternatives to the usual spots for meeting singles. I’m sharing my top picks for places where you might just bump into that special someone, from cozy coffee shops to lively trivia nights and beyond. We all know the dating apps can be a bit of a joke, so why not try something different, like joining a recreational sports league or volunteering for a cause you care about? Let’s keep the hope alive and explore how to connect with fellow singles in everyday settings—because trust me, love can be found in the most unexpected places! Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. Exploring the single life can sometimes feel like navigating a maze—one filled with dead ends, unexpected turns, and the occasional pitfall of overpriced drinks at a bar. Our host, Wioleta, dives deep into this jungle of singleness, sharing her own experiences and insights on where to actually meet potential partners beyond the bustling nightlife scene. She candidly admits that while bars and restaurants are the usual haunts for singles, they aren't the only options. Instead, Wioleta encourages listeners to consider coffee shops as a casual meeting ground, suggesting that making eye contact and engaging with fellow caffeine lovers can lead to opportunities for connection. Who knew a latte could spark romance? Wioleta moves on to trivia nights, pointing out how they provide a laid-back atmosphere to gauge someone’s personality—after all, competitiveness can be a revealing trait! And let’s be honest, nothing breaks the ice like a shared laugh over a wrong answer. She goes on to highlight various other places, like recreational sports leagues and group fitness classes, which can be ideal for meeting fellow singles while having fun and staying active. Wioleta emphasizes that the key is to engage in activities that you genuinely enjoy, which naturally increases the chance of meeting someone compatible. Whether it’s picking up a new sport or joining a yoga class, the focus should be on having a good time, with the bonus of potential romance. As she reflects on these ideas, Wioleta's relaxed tone makes it clear that the journey of finding love doesn’t have to be a chore—it can be an adventure filled with laughter, connection, and maybe even a little bit of unexpected magic along the way. Takeaways: Coffee shops are excellent for meeting singles, but don't just zone out with headphones.Trivia nights not only offer fun challenges but also a chance to meet singles in action.Joining a recreational sports league can be a fun way to connect with other singles.Volunteering at local charities is a rewarding way to meet like-minded individuals who care.

  6. Sep 1

    Lack of Motivation Because I'm Single | How Accountability Can Make Single Life Easier | Episode 53

    Ever feel like you’re a bit more productive when someone else is counting on you? Well, that’s the crux of our chat today! We dive into the ups and downs of single life, where the freedom to do whatever you want can sometimes feel a bit like a double-edged sword. When you're flying solo, the motivation to whip up dinner or hit the gym can feel like pulling teeth—especially when there’s no one around to keep you accountable. I share some personal stories and clever tips on how to find that external push, whether it's through workout buddies or even a cleaning playlist. So, let’s explore how we can make this single life not just manageable, but enjoyable! Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. In a world where being single is often painted as a carefree party, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. I dive into the nitty-gritty of living alone and the unique challenges it brings, especially when it comes to accountability. You know that feeling when you’re at home and the fridge is just a few steps away, but that bag of chips is calling your name louder than your gym shoes? Yeah, that’s the reality of being single. When there's no one around to nudge you to hit the gym or whip up a healthy dinner, it’s all too easy to let the motivation slip away. I reflect on how living alone means every single decision becomes a negotiation with yourself. Should I cook for one? Is it worth it? Or should I just order takeout and call it a day? Let’s be real, it’s much easier to stick to a routine when you have a partner in crime to share the load — and the pizza. But hey, it’s not all doom and gloom! There’s a certain freedom in being single that can be liberating. You can dance like no one’s watching (because, well, no one is!) and binge-watch your favorite shows without sharing the remote. However, I invite my listeners to consider how we might create our own accountability in this solo journey. Maybe it’s finding a workout buddy or starting a dinner party tradition to gather friends. The beauty of social creatures like us is that we thrive on connection, and sometimes that means being a little more intentional about reaching out. After all, cooking for someone else can be way more rewarding than just whipping up a salad for yourself on a Tuesday night. Ultimately, the takeaway? Embrace the single life, but don’t shy away from finding those connections that can help you stay motivated. Whether it’s a friend who shares your fitness goals or a buddy who will cook with you, it can make all the difference in turning mundane tasks into enjoyable moments. So let’s create that accountability together, because we all deserve a little help now and then — even if it’s just to resist the siren call of the snack cabinet!

  7. Aug 25

    Life Lessons | Cheers to 1 Year of Podcasting About Single Life Experiences | Episode 52

    Ever wondered what advice you’d give your past self? Well, today’s episode dives into just that, as I reflect on the 52 lessons I’ve learned over the past year of podcasting and being single. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about dating; these nuggets of wisdom cover everything from self-discovery to the quirks of life with a cat. I mean, who knew being single could come with such a treasure trove of revelations? We’ll chat about the importance of starting new things, the healing power of pets, and how the journey of self-growth can change your dating pool—even if it gets a bit smaller! So grab your favorite drink, kick back, and let’s explore these lessons together. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. Sitting down with our past selves is a pretty wild concept, right? It’s like a time travel therapy session where you get to dish out advice to your past self, or maybe just remind them to wear sunscreen. In the latest episode of All About Being Single, Wioleta takes us on a reflective journey as she celebrates her podcast's one-year anniversary. Can you believe it? A whole year of weekly chats about the single life! She’s not just patting herself on the back, though. With a list of 52 lessons learned over the past year, she dives into what being single has taught her beyond dating and relationships. For instance, she shares how embarking on new projects can feel daunting but is ultimately rewarding. And hey, if you’ve ever wanted to start something but felt stuck, Wioleta's here to tell you – just go for it! Whether it’s starting a podcast or picking up a new hobby, starting is often the hardest part, but it’s also where the magic happens. As she continues to unpack her lessons, Wioleta emphasizes the importance of inner work. It’s like self-care on steroids! The more we understand ourselves, the more selective we become about who we surround ourselves with. It’s a double-edged sword; while we might narrow our options, we attract a higher caliber of people. Plus, she reminds us that love evolves. The way we love changes as we grow, and that’s okay! It’s all part of the journey. By the end of the episode, Wioleta encourages listeners to embrace their single status and find joy in their own company. After all, the world is full of possibilities waiting for you to explore. So, grab a cup of coffee and tune in to this heartfelt episode that’s all about growth, self-discovery, and the beauty of being single. In a world that often romanticizes coupledom, Wioleta’s candid reflections provide a refreshing perspective on single life. She highlights the undeniable truth that being single can sometimes be tough, especially when the desire for companionship is strong. Yet, she also asserts that it’s a chance for profound personal growth. As she shares her insights, we see her grappling with the realities of being single and what that means for her identity. She candidly discusses how societal pressures and expectations can weigh heavily on single individuals. But instead of wallowing in the stigma, she flips the narrative, encouraging a mindset shift. Wioleta invites listeners to embrace the lessons learned during their single years. From finding solace in furry friends (shoutout to all the cat lovers) to recognizing that not everyone’s advice is worth taking, she provides a plethora of wisdom. This episode is not just a celebration of her podcast milestone but also a rallying cry for all singles to cherish their journey and the lessons that come with it. After all, every experience, whether good or bad, shapes who we are. Tune in for a dose of empowerment, some laughs, and a reminder that you are not alone on this journey! Takeaways: Reflecting on our past selves can lead to valuable insights for personal growth and self-improvement.Starting something can be the toughest hurdle, but it’s crucial to just dive in and see where it takes you.Having a pet, especially a cat, brings immense joy and healing, as they really have a special way of lifting our spirits.Being single can be a journey filled with lessons that shape our understanding of relationships and self-worth.

  8. Aug 18

    Solo Support | How Find Strength Within and Create a Support Network | Episode 51

    Who’s got your back when you’re single and having a rough day? In today’s chat, we dive into the importance of being your own support system while navigating the ups and downs of single life. I share some personal experiences, like the time I tackled a home remodel solo (spoiler: it was a wild ride) and how that taught me to lean on myself as much as others. We’ll explore practical ways to give yourself the love and support you might wish a partner could provide, whether it’s treating yourself to your fave takeout, going for a walk, or just letting yourself feel the feels without judgment. So, grab your favorite snack, and let’s get into how to turn that “single” status into a chance to thrive on your own! Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/allaboutbeingsingle/or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv.

See All (59)

Trailer

5
out of 5
11 Ratings

About

Single by choice, by chance, or by WTF is going on? This candid podcast explores the philosophy of the realities of single life, modern dating, loneliness, self-love, healing, confidence, and personal growth. Through relatable and unfiltered stories (hopefully soon, some guest conversations, and listener voice memos), you’ll find your space and your community to feel seen, empowered, grounded, and ready for love whenever it shows up.

Information

  • Creator
    Wioleta
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    59
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    ©2025 Wioleta
  • Show Website
    All About Being Single