The Heart of Psychology

Evie B.
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The Heart of Psychology is a science-based, heart-led podcast where psychology meets the human experience. Join me as we explore topics such as neuroscience, relationships, mindfulness, and much more. All with open minds and hearts. Get comfy, take a deep breath, and let's dive in... Evie 🌸 © Evie B. for Island Coconook, 2025

  1. Mar 31

    #16. Q&A: Guilt, Distance, and Doubt

    In this episode, I’m answering some of the most common (and most difficult) questions I get about toxic relationships, family dynamics, and emotional healing. We talk about: What to do when distance from family brings guilt How to handle disrespect without losing yourself Whether someone who hurt you ever truly loved you This is a nuanced, honest conversation about patterns, capacity, and letting go of the need for clear answers. If you’ve ever questioned your decisions, your boundaries, or your reality, this one’s for you. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    47 min

  2. Mar 24

    #15. Finding Yourself After Toxic Dynamics

    Leaving a toxic relationship or system is just the beginning. In this episode, we explore what happens after you walk away. How to unlearn old patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and navigate new, healthier connections. I share personal insights from my own journey, highlight the mental gymnastics we often do after leaving a harmful dynamic, and break down practical steps for healing your nervous system and learning to feel safe again. Whether it’s family, friends, or romantic partners, this episode is about reclaiming your power and stepping fully into the life you deserve. Tune in to:     •    Understand why leaving doesn’t instantly fix everything     •    Recognize the patterns you may need to unlearn     •    Learn how to build healthy relationships post-trauma     •    Hear personal stories that illustrate the journey from surviving to thriving You’re not broken. You’re adapting. And now it’s your turn to choose how you want to live. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    1h 2m

  3. Mar 19

    #14. After You Leave a Toxic Relationship

    In this episode, we explore the emotional aftermath of walking away. From grief and identity shifts to the hidden patterns that make leaving so difficult in the first place. This isn’t about why you stayed, it’s about understanding what comes next. We talk about trauma bonds, family roles like the scapegoat, and why cycles of contact and no contact are more normal than you think. Most importantly, we challenge the idea that staying means you were weak, naive, or broken, and offer a more honest, compassionate perspective on what it really takes to choose yourself. If you’ve ever questioned your decision, felt unexpected grief, or struggled with the “after,” this episode is for you. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    1h 2m

  4. Jan 20

    #13. Mistake or Toxic Pattern? When Understanding Them Stops Helping You

    We often get stuck trying to understand people who hurt us — their trauma, their intentions, their patterns — believing that if we just appreciate enough, things will finally make sense or change. In this episode, I explore the distinction between a good person who makes a mistake and a toxic pattern that persists, and why this distinction matters so much for your healing. We talk about why looping happens, how gaslighting and denial keep us stuck, and the overlooked truth that while you’re trying to understand them, they are often not trying to understand you at all, and may even be escalating harm or changing tactics. Most importantly, we focus on what comes next: how to recognize when understanding has done its job, how to stop over-explaining yourself, and how to move forward without needing clarity or closure from the person who caused the harm. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    53 min

  5. 12/16/2025

    #12: Boundaries, Estrangement, and Choosing Distance with Self-Respect

    In this episode, we talk about boundaries, estrangement, and choosing distance with self-respect, without turning it into a rigid rulebook or a moral hierarchy. Going low-contact or no-contact isn’t a badge of healing, and staying isn’t a failure either. What matters is why you’re choosing what you’re choosing, and whether it comes from regulation rather than reaction. We explore how to make decisions based on clarity instead of guilt, how to recognize when someone is unwilling (or unable) to change, and why you don’t need to prove anything to them or to yourself, to protect your well-being. This is a nuanced conversation about agency, self-trust, and honoring your limits in a way that’s aligned with you. If you’ve ever felt torn between cutting someone off and forcing yourself to stay, this episode is for you. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    59 min

  6. 12/09/2025

    #11: How Trauma Responses Shame Your Reactions (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn)

    In this episode, we break down trauma responses in a clear, compassionate, and grounded way. I walk you through how trauma responses develop, what they can look like in everyday life and relationships, and why they’re biological protection, not character flaws. We explore the four classic responses — fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — and how each one shows up when our nervous system senses a threat. I also share practical examples of how these patterns might play out in communication, conflict, intimacy, and emotional dynamics. You’ll also learn: Why we can’t control our initial activation, What the window of tolerance actually means, How to shift from reacting automatically to responding intentionally, Simple mindfulness tools for calming the body and reconnecting to safety. This episode is a supportive guide for anyone wanting to understand their own patterns with more clarity, compassion, and self-trust, and to build healthier, calmer responses even in stressful moments. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    54 min

  7. 12/02/2025

    #10: Unpacking Attachment: Anxious, Avoidant, Secure, and Disorganized

    In this episode, we break down the four core attachment styles, secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized, and explore how they exist on a spectrum rather than as fixed labels. I talk about how each style forms in early development, how they shape our relationships as adults, and why understanding your pattern can be such a powerful step toward healing. We’ll look at what secure attachment actually looks like, how anxious and avoidant strategies develop as adaptations, and what’s really going on beneath disorganized attachment. I also share what repair and growth can look like, no matter where you’re starting from. If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I react this way in relationships?” or “How do I change these patterns?”, this episode gives you the framework to begin answering that with clarity and compassion. Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    1h 10m

  8. 11/25/2025

    #9: Toxic Relationships & Narcissism: Clarifying Your Most Common Questions

    In this episode, I unpack some of the most common questions and concerns around toxic relationships and narcissistic family systems. We talk about the sneaky, insidious patterns that make you question your reality, how to tell the difference between emotional immaturity, patterned toxicity, and narcissism, and why self-doubt is often the core wound these dynamics create. I share relatable examples of how toxicity shows up when you’re going through something hard, why certain people try to pull you back into old versions of yourself, and how your dreams can reveal what’s finally ready to be released. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I being paranoid… or is something actually off?” This episode will help you find clarity and feel less alone. - Evie 🌸 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok

    1h 24m
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The Heart of Psychology is a science-based, heart-led podcast where psychology meets the human experience. Join me as we explore topics such as neuroscience, relationships, mindfulness, and much more. All with open minds and hearts. Get comfy, take a deep breath, and let's dive in... Evie 🌸 © Evie B. for Island Coconook, 2025

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  • Creator
    Evie B.
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Evie B.
  • Show Website
    The Heart of Psychology