Love Under the Scope

Kelby Lauren
  • 4.7 (14)
  • Relationships

Long-term relationships aren't always black and white. There are so many nuances that can have us questioning 'what the hell is going on?'. In this podcast, we'll explore the realities of being in a committed romantic relationship. Tune in if you're wanting real answers around real relationship problems - no taboos spared.

  1. The Change You Seek in Your Relationship Starts with You

    12/08/2025

    The Change You Seek in Your Relationship Starts with You

    In this episode, we explore how meaningful relationship shifts often begin with subtle internal changes rather than big conversations or shared agreements. We look at what it means to take responsibility for our own resistance, reconnect with the playful parts of ourselves, and embody the energy we want to experience with our partner. As we soften into this inner work, our partners naturally feel the shift - an organic invitation rather than pressure or control. And finally, we discuss when it’s time to bring these changes into conversation, especially if deeper values or lifestyle shifts are unfolding. Chapters 00:00Introduction to Long-Term Relationships 03:05The Importance of Self-Reflection 05:08Creating Change in Relationships 08:03Internal Work Before External Change 12:00Understanding Conditioning and Beliefs 15:10Transforming Negative Patterns 18:42The Role of Self-Compassion 22:09The Power of Intuition 23:23Mirroring in Relationships 27:51Navigating Fear in Change 32:20Communicating Change to Your Partner

    40 min
  2. What Really is Love? Defining the Undefinable

    11/29/2025

    What Really is Love? Defining the Undefinable

    Join us in pondering what love really is in this episode of Love Under the Scope. We've all been sold a story by the media, society and our families around the term 'love'. We're shown endless images of grand gestures, passionate love making and star-crossed lovers-turned married soulmates living happily ever after. But what's there at a deeper level? We'll take a deep dive on what's going on when we're really experiencing love. Plus, how to develop love from within and become a skilled "love-bender"

    43 min
  3. When You Feel Like Your Partner's Parent…

    11/14/2025

    When You Feel Like Your Partner's Parent…

    In this episode, we tackle the hard truth around feeling like your partner's parent. Whether you're a man or woman listening, there's something here for you if you feel you are in this dynamic. We'll get into: What the parent-child dynamic is in a romantic relationshipHow do we get into a dynamic like thisSteps for starting to address and unwind the dynamicAnd hopefully, you'll walk away feeling a little less alone in your experience. Feeling like a parent to your partner is actually a common phenomenon. There are manageable, practical steps you can take to disengage from the dynamic and create more connection in your relationship. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics 04:05 Understanding the Parent-Child Dynamic 12:53 Exploring the Roots of Responsibility 30:17 Conditioning and Its Impact on Relationships 30:58 The Impact of Childhood Conditioning on Adult Relationships 42:54 Unwinding the Mother-Child Dynamic in Relationships 57:13 Building Awareness and Setting Boundaries for Change

    47 min
  4. Your Relationship is Perfect and Nothing Needs to Change

    11/07/2025

    Your Relationship is Perfect and Nothing Needs to Change

    We're constantly getting messages around why our relationship needs to be fixed and perfected. Social media tells us to compare and 'test' the love that we have with our partner. And the self-help world says that there is always something to be worked on. I know I've felt like it's never enough, there is always something "wrong" that needs us to work our butts off to fix. What if everything we ever desired was here right now, and we're here missing the forest for the trees. That's the topic of today's episode. I'll get into why we might feel like we can't see the beauty in our current relationships. And I'll talk about why it's so important to see the love in our relationships with clarity and appreciation.

    45 min
  5. How Self-Hatred and Criticism are Detrimental to a Relationship

    10/31/2025

    How Self-Hatred and Criticism are Detrimental to a Relationship

    In this episode, we discuss how self-hatred and inner criticism can quietly sabotage your relationships. That harsh inner voice that says you’re not enough doesn’t just affect your confidence - it shapes how you show up with your partner, too. We explore where that voice comes from - childhood conditioning, societal pressure, and fear of rejection - and how it creates walls that block real connection. We wrap up by talking about how to move toward self-acceptance by meeting your thoughts with compassion, curiosity, and honesty, so you can start showing up in love from a place of truth instead of self-doubt.

    44 min
  6. Why Are Breakups So Painful (And How to Move Forward)

    10/24/2025

    Why Are Breakups So Painful (And How to Move Forward)

    Some breakups hit us like a truck. The deep well of emotion that we're faced with after a breakup can make us feel alone, rejected, helpless and lost (to name a few). We might wonder if we'll ever be happy again... In this episode, we'll get into a few reasons why breakups are so painful. What about the dissolving of a long-term relationship is so earth-shattering. Why are we brought to our knees in some cases? I'll also share some pointers for easing the process of emotional release that happens after a breakup. You'll learn a few ideas for supporting yourself in letting go and moving forward with the life you desire. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Love Under the Scope 03:33 Understanding Breakups and Their Pain 07:31 The Complexity of Breakups 21:12 Emotional Phases of Breakups 24:39 Strategies for Moving Through a Breakup 40:00 Finding Gratitude in Breakups

    39 min
  7. Is it Possible to Reignite the Spark in a Long Term Relationship?

    10/17/2025

    Is it Possible to Reignite the Spark in a Long Term Relationship?

    It's a question so many of us in relationships have asked: can you keep the passion alive, even after so many years together? The short answer is YES! The long answer is best captured by listening to the full episode. We'll cover what that 'spark' actually is, how we lose it and how we can re-create and maintain the flames. The best part: you might be able to stir up some excitement that you've never felt in your relationship before!

    47 min
  8. How to Give and Receive Comfort When Emotions Run High

    10/03/2025

    How to Give and Receive Comfort When Emotions Run High

    In this episode of Love Under the Scope, we'll explore the complexities of emotional comfort in relationships. We'll get into the importance of understanding emotional triggers, how to offer and receive comfort during high emotional states, and the skills required to navigate these challenging moments. We'll also discuss the need for patience, practice, and open communication between partners to foster a supportive environment where both individuals can express their emotions without shame. Takeaways Facing difficult topics strengthens relationships.Emotional triggers are common in all couples.Offering comfort is about providing support, not fixing.Receiving comfort requires vulnerability and openness.Emotions should be allowed to flow without shame (within reason).Communication is key in understanding emotional needs.Self-reflection helps in identifying emotional triggers.Partners should support each other through emotional states.No emotion is permanent; they come in waves. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Love Under the Scope 03:02 Understanding Emotional Triggers 09:24 Offering Comfort to Your Partner 28:43 Receiving Comfort from Your Partner 42:47 Conclusion and Reflection

    44 min
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Long-term relationships aren't always black and white. There are so many nuances that can have us questioning 'what the hell is going on?'. In this podcast, we'll explore the realities of being in a committed romantic relationship. Tune in if you're wanting real answers around real relationship problems - no taboos spared.

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