The Kelly Healing Project

Kelly Tumlin
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Join Kelly as she shares powerful stories of healing, courage, and transformation. In each episode, she dives deep into trauma, resilience, and reclaiming personal power—unfiltered and unapologetic. Whether you're on your own journey of recovery or seeking inspiration to rise stronger, this is your safe space to own your story and ignite your inner strength. Please visit thekellyhealingproject.com for more resources.

  1. 2d ago

    It’s Always Too Soon to Quit: Finding Strength Through Adversity with Jay Setchell

    What happens when life changes so dramatically that the future you imagined is no longer possible? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I sit down with Jay Setchell, author of The Strength Within You: It’s Always Too Soon to Quit, for a powerful conversation about resilience, faith, purpose, identity, and finding the strength to keep moving forward through extraordinary adversity. Jay is a U.S. Marine, entrepreneur, husband, and father who has survived multiple near-death experiences, more than six dozen surgeries, a spinal cord injury, traumatic brain injury, chronic pain, and other life-changing challenges. But this conversation isn't simply about what Jay has survived. We talk about what happens internally when life suddenly looks nothing like you expected, whether resilience is something we're born with or something life teaches us, and how Jay's experiences changed his understanding of success and purpose. We also explore faith, personal responsibility, mindset, learning when to persevere and when to change direction, asking for help, living with physical limitations, and the difference between focusing on what we've lost and recognizing what we still have. Jay also shares stories about the people he's encountered along the way, the moments that helped him recognize a deeper purpose behind sharing his experiences, and why he believes each of us has more strength within us than we may realize. One of my favorite reminders from our conversation: “Count what you have left, not what you have lost.” If you're going through a season where life hasn't turned out the way you expected—or you simply need a reminder that your story isn't over—this conversation is for you. Connect with Jay and learn more about The Strength Within You: It’s Always Too Soon to Quit: https://neverquittrying.com/ Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  2. 6d ago

    Why Understanding Your Trauma Isn't Enough to Heal with Dr. Richard Oelberger

    Why can we spend years understanding our trauma, recognizing our triggers, and identifying old patterns—yet still struggle to change them? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I'm joined by Dr. Richard Oelberger, clinical psychologist, author of The Zero Method: Awaken the Hero Within, and host of the Richard Listens podcast. We explore why intellectual awareness alone doesn't always create lasting change and how reconnecting with our bodies, emotions, and relationships can support the healing process. Richard shares insights into nervous system regulation, the role of the parasympathetic nervous system, and why the survival responses that once protected us can continue influencing our lives long after difficult experiences have passed. In this conversation, we explore: Why understanding your trauma doesn't always change your emotional patternsHow survival mode can affect your sense of safety and connectionPractical ways to reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous systemThe importance of safe relationships and emotional connectionHow emotional suppression, loneliness, and anger can affect menWhy constantly trying to heal or fix ourselves can sometimes keep us stuckHow spirituality, mindfulness, and psychology can complement one anotherRichard's Zero Method and its approach to moving from pain into connectionWe also discuss simple practices, including slowing down, breathing, and becoming more aware of what we're experiencing in the present moment. Healing isn't just about understanding what happened to us. It's also about learning new ways to experience ourselves, connect with others, and move forward. Connect with Dr. Richard Oelberger: Website: https://www.richardlistens.com/ Book: The Zero Method: Awaken the Hero Within Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  3. 6d ago

    Are You Life-Led or JOY-Led? Identity, Purpose & Creating Your Life with Ted Kopecko

    What happens when you've done everything you're supposed to do—worked hard, built a career, stayed busy—and still feel like there's something more? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I sit down with Ted Kopecko, author of the #1 international bestseller Finding JOY: Journey Of You, for a conversation about mindset, identity, purpose, time, self-worth, and what it means to stop simply reacting to life and begin intentionally creating what comes next. After more than 30 years in business, entrepreneurship, architecture, and commercial real estate, along with his own experiences with chronic illness and personal challenges, Ted began recognizing a pattern: we can become so busy building a life that we rarely stop to ask whether it's actually the life we want. Ted describes this as the difference between being “Life-Led”—allowing circumstances, expectations, habits, and past experiences to direct us—and becoming “JOY-Led,” where JOY stands for Journey Of You. Throughout our conversation, we explore how childhood conditioning and limiting beliefs can influence the way we see ourselves, why identity affects the effort we're willing to put toward our goals, and why insight alone doesn't necessarily create transformation. Ted also challenges us to look differently at something we all receive in equal amounts: time. Are we intentionally investing our time in the person we're becoming, or are we repeatedly giving it away without questioning where our current path is taking us? In this conversation, we discuss: • The difference between being Life-Led and JOY-Led • Why Ted created Finding JOY: Journey Of You • Fixed versus growth mindset • How early conditioning can shape our beliefs about what's possible • Limiting beliefs and the stories we carry into adulthood • Why identity influences our actions and effort • The importance of intentionally defining who you're becoming • Finding a greater sense of purpose • Moving from simply staying busy to creating meaningful progress • Gratitude and personal development • Mentorship, coaching, and accountability • Understanding the value of your time • Self-worth and how we perceive our own value • Living intentionally instead of reactively • Imagining your future and asking what needs to change today • Creating value by helping other people • Ted's Finding JOY workbook and resources One of the questions at the heart of this conversation is simple: What would you do differently today to get to the future you want tomorrow? If you've been feeling stuck, going through the motions, or wondering whether there's something more you're meant to create with your life, this conversation may give you a different way to think about where you're going—and who you're becoming along the way. Connect with Ted Kopecko and learn more about Finding JOY: Journey Of You: findingjoy.us Looking for Ted's book and free workbook? Finding JOY… Journey Of You is available through Amazon, Barnes & Noble, other booksellers, and as an audiobook. You can also visit FindingJOY.us to learn more about the book and download Ted's free Finding Joy Workbook. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  4. Oct 3

    Who Are You Beneath the Conditioning? Astrology, the Enneagram & Self-Awareness with Indra Rinzler

    Who are you underneath the beliefs, patterns, identities, and conditioning you've accumulated throughout your life? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I sit down with spiritual guide, author, and longtime student of the human experience Indra Rinzler for a fascinating conversation about self-awareness, spirituality, Vedic astrology, the Enneagram, and what it means to live more consciously. Indra has spent more than 50 years exploring spirituality and Vedic astrology and has studied the Enneagram of Personality since 1999. Rather than approaching these systems simply as ways to predict the future or place ourselves into categories, Indra uses them as tools for understanding our patterns, blind spots, fears, strengths, and conditioning. We explore the difference between who we truly are and the identity we've built throughout our lives, why certain stories may continue serving us even when they appear limiting, and how greater awareness can help us begin questioning the beliefs we've mistaken for truth. Indra also introduces his Wheel of Totality, his spiritual approach to exploring the areas of ourselves we may have difficulty seeing, and shares four doorways to conscious living: observing ourselves, releasing what no longer serves us, learning to love ourselves, and living in the present moment. In this conversation, we discuss: • Indra's 50+ year spiritual journey • Vedic astrology and how it differs from Western astrology • Using astrology for self-awareness rather than prediction • Free will, control, and the circumstances we're given in life • The Enneagram and the fears underlying our personality patterns • People-pleasing and the search for safety through other people • Conditioning and the stories we learn to believe about ourselves • Indra's Wheel of Totality and the concept of spiritual blind spots • Why limiting stories can sometimes serve us before we're ready to release them • Why lasting happiness isn't necessarily found outside ourselves • The four doorways to conscious living • Moving from autopilot toward greater awareness • Learning to question our own thoughts, reactions, and patterns • Indra's book, Indra's Net: A Seeker's Guide to the Human Experience • Why asking the right questions can be the beginning of healing If you've ever wondered how much of who you think you are is actually you—and how much was shaped by family, society, fear, or conditioning—this conversation offers a different way of looking at the journey back to yourself. Connect with Indra Rinzler and learn more about his work: indrarinzler.com Interested in learning more about your Vedic chart? Indra invited listeners to email him their birth date, exact birth time, and birth place at indrarinzler@gmail.com. He'll send you your chart along with a few comments (this is not a full reading). Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  5. Sep 29

    The Trimesters of Grief: Losing a Child, Carrying Loss & Finding Life Again with Katie Rizzo

    What does it mean to keep living after experiencing a loss that changes everything? In this deeply personal episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with author Katie Rizzo to talk about the loss of her 25-year-old son, Nicholas, to addiction—and what grief has actually looked like in the aftermath. Before talking about how Nicholas died, Katie shares who he was: a son, brother, friend, and person deeply loved by his family. Together, Kelly and Katie explore the complicated layers of losing someone to addiction, including the stigma surrounding substance use, the questions that remain after loss, and the reality that grief doesn't follow a predictable timeline. Katie also shares the idea behind her memoir, The Trimesters of Grief, and the unexpected parallels she began noticing between pregnancy and grief—from the physical symptoms and numbness of early loss to eventually realizing that grief isn't something we simply finish or leave behind. The conversation explores what it means to continue a relationship with someone after death, why Katie began writing poetry to Nicholas “across the veil,” and how writing became a way to express emotions she couldn't always put into ordinary words. Kelly also opens up about her own experience with traumatic loss, creating an honest conversation about the different ways grief can affect our identities, relationships, nervous systems, and ability to trust life again. Rather than trying to turn loss into something positive or tie grief into a neat ending, Katie shares what she's learning about allowing grief and joy to exist at the same time—and continuing to live while still carrying the person you love with you. In this episode: • Remembering Nicholas beyond his addiction • Losing a child to addiction and the stigma surrounding that loss • Katie's “Trimesters of Grief” framework • Why grief doesn't have a finish line • Writing and poetry as ways of processing loss • Continuing a relationship with someone after death • The complicated relationship between grief, guilt, and joy • How traumatic loss can affect identity and relationships • The practices that have helped Katie continue moving forward • Why healing doesn't have to mean letting go • Learning to carry grief while continuing to live Katie is the author of The Trimesters of Grief and None of Them Are You. Connect with Katie and learn more about her work at katierizzo.com. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  6. Sep 26

    People-Pleasing Isn’t Just Being Nice: Fawning, Self-Abandonment & Healing with Ludovica Colella

    What if people-pleasing isn't simply part of your personality—but a pattern you learned in order to maintain connection? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with CBT-trained psychotherapist and confidence coach Ludovica Colella for a conversation about people-pleasing, the fawn response, self-abandonment, boundaries, and rebuilding self-trust. Ludovica explains how people-pleasing patterns can develop early in life, why they can become so deeply connected to our identity, and why understanding where a pattern came from doesn't necessarily mean we'll stop repeating it. Together, Kelly and Ludovica explore what happens when you've spent so much time prioritizing other people's needs that you lose touch with your own, why healthy relationships can initially feel uncomfortable when you're accustomed to unhealthy dynamics, and why guilt after setting a boundary doesn't automatically mean you've done something wrong. They also discuss Ludovica's Inner Design framework, the protective parts that can keep old patterns in place, over-explaining, anger and resentment, learning to tolerate other people's disappointment, and the identity shift that can happen when you stop being the “good girl,” fixer, caretaker, or person responsible for keeping everyone happy. This conversation explores an important part of healing: awareness is powerful, but awareness alone doesn't always create change. Rebuilding self-trust happens when we begin listening to ourselves, honoring our needs, and responding differently to the patterns that once helped us feel safe. In this episode: • People-pleasing and the fawn response • How self-abandonment can hide behind being “nice” • Why insight alone doesn't always change behavior • Ludovica's Inner Design framework • Rebuilding self-trust after years of looking outside yourself for approval • Why healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar • Setting boundaries without over-explaining • Guilt, resentment, and anger as information • Learning to tolerate other people's disappointment • Who you become when you stop defining yourself through people-pleasing Connect with Ludovica and learn more about her work at https://lu-cole.com/. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  7. Sep 20

    Stop Taking Other People's Patterns Personally

    Have you ever noticed someone becoming distant, inconsistent, or less engaged—and immediately wondered, What did I do wrong? It’s easy to take other people’s behavior personally, especially when their communication changes, their effort shifts, or you’re left trying to figure out what happened. But someone else’s patterns don’t automatically say something about your worth. In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, we’re talking about how to step out of personalization and into observation. We’ll explore the difference between noticing a pattern and trying to diagnose it, why understanding someone can sometimes turn into over-functioning, and how another person’s behavior can activate patterns of your own. We’ll also talk about something we don’t always consider: how completely different you can feel in different relationships. One dynamic may leave you questioning yourself, overthinking, or chasing reciprocity, while another gives you room to feel relaxed, authentic, playful, and secure. Instead of asking, What’s wrong with me? or What’s wrong with them? maybe the better question is: What’s happening between us—and what is this dynamic showing me? You don’t have to diagnose someone, make them the villain, or blame yourself to recognize when a pattern isn’t working for you. Their pattern can give you information without becoming a statement about your worth. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: Separate observation from personalizationRecognize patterns without becoming hypervigilantStop over-functioning when someone else pulls awayNotice when another person’s pattern activates your ownPay attention to who you become in different relationshipsUse consistency, reciprocity, and communication as informationTrust yourself to decide what you want to do nextBecause their patterns belong to them. What you choose to do with the information belongs to you. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  8. Sep 18

    Why Knowing Your Patterns Isn’t Enough: The Subconscious Mind, Trauma & Healing with Leanna Lapidus

    Why can we understand exactly why we do something—and still struggle to stop doing it? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Trauma and Anxiety Specialist, and Transformational Coach Leanna Lapidus for a conversation about the subconscious mind, childhood experiences, survival patterns, addiction, shame, self-trust, and what it can take to create lasting change. Leanna’s work is deeply connected to her own story. Growing up in Ukraine in a home affected by alcoholism, fear, and emotional instability, she began developing beliefs and survival strategies that followed her into adulthood. Her own healing journey eventually led her to hypnotherapy, and she went on to spend nearly a decade working in addiction treatment at Passages Malibu. Together, Kelly and Leanna explore how experiences from childhood can shape beliefs about who we need to be in order to feel safe—whether that means becoming agreeable, perfectionistic, independent, controlling, or constantly taking care of others. They also discuss why recognizing a pattern doesn't automatically change it, why willpower may not be enough, and the difference between changing a behavior and understanding what the behavior may have been helping us cope with in the first place. Leanna explains her approach to hypnotherapy and the subconscious mind, including why she believes new beliefs and behaviors need reinforcement over time. Kelly and Leanna also explore an important question: Can we deeply heal and still occasionally experience triggers connected to our past? The conversation goes deeper into shame, self-trust, emotional healing, the nervous system, and the identity shift that can happen when patterns we've carried for years begin falling away. Because healing may not be about creating an entirely new version of ourselves. Sometimes, it’s about discovering who we are underneath everything we learned we had to be. In this episode, you’ll hear about: How childhood experiences can shape subconscious beliefsWhy people-pleasing, perfectionism, and other patterns can begin as protectionWhy understanding a pattern doesn't always make it disappearAddiction and coping mechanismsWhat hypnotherapy is—and what happens during a sessionShame and self-judgmentWhy healing doesn't necessarily mean never being triggered againThe role of the body and nervous system in changeRebuilding self-trustIdentity after survival patterns begin falling awayConnect with Leanna: Leanna Lapidus: leannalapidus.com Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

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Join Kelly as she shares powerful stories of healing, courage, and transformation. In each episode, she dives deep into trauma, resilience, and reclaiming personal power—unfiltered and unapologetic. Whether you're on your own journey of recovery or seeking inspiration to rise stronger, this is your safe space to own your story and ignite your inner strength. Please visit thekellyhealingproject.com for more resources.

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  • Creator
    Kelly Tumlin
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    102
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Kelly Healing Project
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    The Kelly Healing Project