Wind in Her Hair

Ana
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**Wind in Her Hair** is where we ditch the BS, skip the small talk, and get straight into the raw, unfiltered conversations you actually need. I’m Ana, a mama of three, relationship expert, country singer-songwriter, and your new favorite truth-teller. I’ve walked through fire, rebuilt from scratch, and learned how to create a life that's free, full, and unapologetically mine—and I’m here to help you do the same. Follow me: Website: https://www.ana-lea.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ana__lea__/ Book a Call: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/discovery-call

  1. 14h ago

    Dating is Data

    Get Off the Merry-Go-RoundDATING ISN’T JUST ABOUT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON. IT’S ABOUT PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT EACH RELATIONSHIP IS SHOWING YOU.Dating gets messy when chemistry, attraction, old wounds, and hope start speaking louder than the evidence in front of us.In this episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana sits down with speaker, author, and coach Dr. Wendy to talk about dating differently—slowing down, observing patterns, healing between relationships, and learning to recognize and participate in a healthy relationship.After two divorces, Dr. Wendy found herself asking an important question: How could she be successful in so many areas of life yet continue getting relationships wrong?That question led her to examine childhood experiences, emotional wounds, attraction, and the patterns she kept repeating.Together, Ana and Wendy unpack one of the most important principles in dating: dating is data.Dating gives you information. How does someone communicate? Do their actions match their words? How do they handle conflict? Do they respect boundaries? Are they accountable?Chemistry matters—but chemistry cannot carry a relationship.They discuss how childhood experiences shape adult attraction, why familiar doesn't necessarily mean healthy, and why people can repeat the same relationship with different partners.They also explore the importance of taking a real reset after a breakup instead of immediately jumping into another connection. What did you ignore? What pattern are you repeating? What needs to change before you choose again?Ana and Wendy talk about giving people too much access too quickly, falling for potential, ignoring red flags, and staying on the same relationship merry-go-round hoping for a different outcome.They also discuss faith and discernment. Prayer matters, but prayer isn't a substitute for wisdom. You still have to observe, ask questions, listen, and pay attention to what someone's behavior is telling you.Sometimes getting off the merry-go-round means accepting that chemistry isn't enough, potential isn't enough, and promises aren't enough.Date reality. Pay attention to patterns. Use the data.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN• Why “dating is data” changes how you approach relationships• How childhood experiences influence attraction• Why familiar doesn't always mean healthy• Why people repeat relationship patterns• What a dating reset looks like after a breakup• Why giving too much access too quickly can work against you• Why intentional dating requires patience and observation• How to stop falling in love with potential• Why actions matter more than promises• How faith, wisdom, and discernment work together• Why you don't need another adult as a project• How to know when it's time to get off the merry-go-round• How to move through a breakup without immediately rebounding• Why creating a life you love changes how you date• Why waiting can be preparation, not punishmentREAD DR. WENDY'S BOOKDating and Waiting with God explores intentional dating, patience, discernment, faith, and preparing yourself for a healthy relationship.READ UNAVAILABLEIf you keep finding yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people, ignoring red flags, or falling for potential, Unavailable goes deeper into why.https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE](https://amzn.to/4tOQDUEBOOK A COACHING SESSIONReady to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and get clarity?https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourlyEXTRA RESOURCESAttachment Style Quizhttps://quiz.attachmentproject.comEnneagram Quizhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-testFOLLOW DR WENDYhttps://www.instagram.com/datingandwaitingwithgod?igsi=ZnVvMGxiMjJnc3J0www.resetdr.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@dating.and.waitin?_r=1&_t=ZP-99M94KGCbvShttps://www.instagram.com/drwendy2u?igsi=d2wxaHhrZ3l5cDJs&utm_source=qr

  2. Aug 25

    The Situationship Trap

    Why We Settle for Almost-Relationships IF YOU HAVE TO KEEP WONDERING WHERE IT’S GOING, THAT MAY BE YOUR ANSWER. Situationships can feel complicated, but most of the time, the confusion isn't the real problem. The problem is that we’re afraid of what clarity might tell us. In this solo episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana breaks down situationships, breadcrumbing, emotional ambiguity, and why so many people stay invested in relationships that aren't actually progressing. Ana shares a recent experience with a man who suggested they could “just have fun” while they both waited for their forever person to come along. Years ago, she might have entertained it. Today, the answer was simple: Why spend your most precious asset—your time—on someone you already know has no future with you? She explains the difference between a relationship that hasn't been defined yet and a situationship that is intentionally staying undefined. In a healthy developing relationship, effort and clarity increase over time. In a situationship, ambiguity allows someone to have attention, intimacy, affection, and access to you without the responsibility of commitment. Ana also breaks down why we settle for breadcrumbs, the excuses we make when we don't want to face what someone's behavior is already telling us, and the red-flag phrases that keep people stuck in the gray area. You'll learn how to ask the direct question, use the 48-hour test to determine whether someone's behavior matches their words, and stop dating someone's potential instead of paying attention to their patterns. Finally, Ana walks through eight practical steps for leaving a situationship, grieving the fantasy of what you hoped it could become, removing access, and rebuilding a life you actually enjoy. If you're tired of wondering what you are, waiting for someone to choose you, interpreting mixed signals, or accepting breadcrumbs because you're afraid to lose the connection, this episode is for you. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN • The difference between a developing relationship and a situationship• Why ambiguity can keep a situationship alive• What breadcrumbing looks like and why it keeps people attached• Why we mistake inconsistency for mystery• How fear of rejection disguises itself as “keeping things casual”• Why we accept less than what we actually want• How attachment patterns contribute to undefined relationships• How to stop dating potential and start looking at patterns• The direct question to ask when you need clarity• Why you have to be willing to lose the situationship to gain the truth• How the 48-hour test reveals whether actions match words• Red-flag phrases people use to avoid commitment• Why clarity isn't rejection—it's self-respect• How to leave without ghosting or endless explanations• Why someone may pursue you when you finally pull away• How to grieve the fantasy and move forward READ UNAVAILABLE If you keep finding yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people, accepting mixed signals, or wondering why the people you want don't fully choose you, Unavailable goes deeper into the patterns behind it. https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE BOOK A COACHING SESSION Ready to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and get clarity about what you actually want? Book a private 60-minute Zoom coaching session: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly LISTEN TO WIND IN HER HAIR Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs Apple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching EXTRA RESOURCES Attachment Style Quizhttps://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ Enneagram Quizhttps://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test If you enjoyed this episode, follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to stop settling for an almost-relationship.

  3. Aug 19

    Why Successful Men Struggle in Relationships

    YOU’VE MASTERED SUCCESS. BUT HAVE YOU MASTERED YOURSELF?Emotional safety isn't just about communication. It starts with self-mastery.In this solo episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana breaks down what emotional safety actually looks like and why some of the same qualities that make men successful in business can create problems in their closest relationships.High-performing men often know how to lead, solve problems, produce results, and perform under pressure. But relationships require a different kind of strength: the ability to receive feedback, stay grounded when emotions run high, repair conflict, and remain present when you can't control the outcome.Ana shares 10 practical ways to create emotional safety with your wife, girlfriend, children, friends, and the people you lead. She also explores the difference between control and leadership, why feedback is one of our greatest opportunities for growth, and why being powerful means very little if the people closest to you don't feel safe enough to tell you the truth. If you're successful in the outside world but want deeper trust, intimacy, connection, and influence in your relationships, this episode will challenge you to redefine what strength really looks like.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN• Why emotional safety starts with self-mastery• The difference between being powerful and being emotionally safe• Why high performance doesn't automatically translate into healthy relationships• How to listen without immediately trying to fix the problem• Why curiosity is more powerful than defensiveness• How to receive feedback without making it an attack on your identity• Why validation doesn't mean agreement• How consistency and keeping your word create trust• Why you need to notice shifts in your partner and move toward them instead of pulling away• What it means to become a student of the people you love• How to pause and respond instead of reacting when you're triggered• Why conflict isn't the problem—unrepaired conflict is• How to take 100% responsibility for your part• Why a sincere apology never ends with “but”• How emotional safety creates trust, intimacy, and influenceBOOK A COACHING SESSIONReady to build healthier relationships, break old patterns, and become the strongest version of yourself?Book a private Zoom coaching session with me:[https://calendly.com/analeacoaching](https://calendly.com/analeacoaching)LISTEN TO WIND IN HER HAIR🎧 Spotify[https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs](https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs)🍎 Apple Podcasts[https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085)▶️ YouTube[https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching](https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching)EXTRA RESOURCESAttachment Style Quiz[https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/](https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/)Enneagram Quiz[https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test](https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test)If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who could benefit from this conversation. Your support helps more people build healthier relationships, create emotional safety, and develop the self-mastery required for deeper connection.

  4. Jul 14

    Communication Isn't What You Say—It's What They Hear

    Communication isn't just about the words you choose. It's about how those words are received. In this episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana sits down with performance coach and author Moe Choice for a powerful conversation about communication, relationships, personal growth, and living with intention. Together they explore why good intentions aren't enough, how feedback becomes one of our greatest teachers, and why the strongest relationships are built by people who are willing to grow, receive correction, and stay committed to becoming better. They also discuss the importance of your relationship with yourself, creating a clear vision for your life, overcoming ego, setting meaningful goals, and building a life aligned with your deepest values instead of simply reacting to circumstances. If you've ever felt misunderstood, struggled with difficult conversations, or wanted healthier, stronger relationships, this episode will change the way you think about communication. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN • Why communication is about what people hear, not just what you say • How feedback reveals your blind spots • The role ego plays in conflict and personal growth • Why your relationship with yourself shapes every other relationship • How to receive criticism without becoming defensive • The importance of creating a clear vision for your life • A simple framework for setting goals that actually move you forward • Why great relationships are intentionally built, not accidentally found BOOK A COACHING SESSION Ready to build healthier relationships, break old patterns, and become the strongest version of yourself? Book a private Zoom coaching session with me: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching CONNECT WITH MOE CHOICE Website https://moechoice.com LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/company/moechoice LISTEN TO WIND IN HER HAIR 🎧 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching EXTRA RESOURCES Attachment Style Quiz https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ Enneagram Quiz https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who could benefit from this conversation. Your support helps more people build healthier relationships, communicate more effectively, and live with greater intention.

  5. Jun 30

    Emotionally Unavailable: The Patterns You Can't Afford to Ignore

    In this episode of Wind in Her Hair, Ana joins Coach Ron Kardashian on the Renew podcast for a conversation about emotional unavailability, narcissism, attachment styles, and the relationship patterns that keep so many people stuck. Drawing from her own story and the lessons behind her bestselling book, Unavailable, Ana shares why emotional safety matters more than chemistry, how to recognize manipulation before it costs you years of your life, and why paying attention to someone's patterns—not their promises—is one of the most important relationship skills you can develop. Together, they discuss accountability, discernment, healing from unhealthy relationships, and what it truly takes to build a relationship grounded in trust, honesty, and emotional maturity. If you've ever questioned your reality in a relationship, found yourself making excuses for someone's behavior, or wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE • What emotional unavailability really is—and how to recognize it • The difference between attachment wounds and narcissistic behavior • Why emotionally unavailable people struggle with accountability • The warning signs of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and manipulation • Why patterns matter more than promises • How discernment protects you from unhealthy relationships • Why chemistry alone isn't enough to build lasting love • The importance of emotional safety in healthy relationships • When it's time to stop trying to change someone and start choosing yourself • How healing your own patterns changes the relationships you attract CONNECT WITH COACH RON KARDASHIAN 🌐 https://thehigher.net/ CONNECT WITH ME 💻 https://analeacoaching.com 📸 https://instagram.com/ana__lea__ 🎵 https://tiktok.com/@ana__lea__ 📧 aloha@ana-lea.com BOOK A SESSION WITH ME https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly GET MY BOOK 📚 Unavailable: How to Become Unavailable to Love That Hurts https://amzn.to/4tOQDUE SUPPORT THE PODCAST ☕ https://buymeacoffee.com/ana_lea LISTEN + WATCH 🎧 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching EXTRA RESOURCES Attachment Style Quiz https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ Enneagram Quiz https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

  6. Jun 23

    The Biggest Mistake I Ever Made

    The Story That Kept Me Stuck for 20 Years In this deeply personal solo episode, Ana shares the biggest mistake she's ever made—and it wasn't becoming a single mom, getting divorced, or any of the decisions she spent years blaming herself for. It was believing the story those experiences told her about her worth. Ana opens up about childhood wounds, shame, rejection, faith, emotional healing, and the life-changing realization that your past doesn't define you—unless you let it. She shares how false beliefs quietly shaped her relationships, choices, and identity for decades, and how intentional grief work, surrender, and renewing her mind completely changed the trajectory of her life. If you've ever believed you're too broken, too far gone, or that your mistakes have disqualified you from the life you want, this episode is for you. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE • Why your biggest mistake may not be what happened—but the meaning you attached to it • How shame quietly becomes part of your identity • The difference between guilt and shame • Why your brain looks for evidence to support the stories you believe • How confirmation bias keeps you stuck in old patterns • Why unresolved pain continues to affect your relationships • The power of intentional grief and emotional healing • How to rewrite the false stories you've believed about yourself • Why surrendering control is often the beginning of true freedom • A simple 10-minute daily practice that can transform your emotional health CONNECT WITH ME 💻 https://analeacoaching.com 📸 https://instagram.com/ana__lea__ 🎵 https://tiktok.com/@ana__lea__ 📧 aloha@ana-lea.com BOOK A SESSION WITH ME https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly SUPPORT THE PODCAST Give to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me. ☕ https://buymeacoffee.com/ana_lea LISTEN + WATCH 🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching EXTRA RESOURCES FOR YOU Attachment Style Quiz: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ Enneagram Quiz: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

  7. Jun 9

    Why Successful Men Still Feel Alone

    In this episode, Ana sits down with men's coach, relationship expert, and founder of The Initiated Man, Mike Elliott, to explore why so many high-performing men succeed in business yet struggle in their closest relationships. Together they unpack emotional safety, childhood wounds, attachment, grief, masculine leadership, and the hidden cost of building a life around achievement instead of connection. They discuss why providing isn't enough, how unresolved childhood experiences shape adult relationships, why emotional intimacy feels so difficult for many men, and what it takes to create relationships where both people feel seen, safe, and deeply connected. If you've ever wondered why success can still leave you feeling empty, why your relationships seem harder than they should be, or why high achievement hasn't brought the fulfillment you expected, this conversation will challenge the way you think about love, leadership, healing, and what it means to truly live. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE • Why high-performing men often feel disconnected despite their success • How childhood wounds continue to impact adult relationships • The difference between providing for your family and being emotionally present • Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness • The role grief plays in healing and personal growth • How men can learn to lead from their heart instead of their head • The three pillars of Mike's framework: Initiation, Integration, and Inspiration • Why emotional safety is essential for healthy relationships • How attachment patterns shape the way we love • Practical tools for becoming more present, connected, and emotionally available CONNECT WITH ME 💻 analeacoaching.com 📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__ 🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__ 📧 aloha@ana-lea.com BOOK A SESSION WITH ME https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/60-minute-zoom-hourly SUPPORT THE PODCAST Give to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me. ☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_lea LISTEN + WATCH 🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching CONNECT WITH MIKE ELLIOTT Men's Coach, Relationship Expert, Founder of The Initiated Man Instagram: @mikeelliott.relating Podcast: Sacred We Website: mikeelliott.com FREE GIFT Follow Mike on Instagram and send him a message mentioning this episode to receive his free relationship resource. EXTRA RESOURCES FOR YOU Attachment Style Quiz:https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ Enneagram Quiz:https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

  8. Jun 2

    He Built the Life Everyone Envied, Then Lost What Mattered Most

    Why high-performing men keep winning at work and failing at home. In this episode, Ana sits down with spiritual wellness coach, author, and relationship expert Jonathan Ellerby to explore why so many high-performing men succeed in business yet struggle in their closest relationships. Together they unpack emotional safety, emotional availability, spirituality, and the hidden cost of building a life around achievement instead of connection. They discuss why providing isn't enough, how childhood conditioning creates the false self, why emotional intimacy feels so difficult for many men, and what it takes to create relationships where both people feel seen, safe, and deeply connected. If you've ever wondered why success can still leave you feeling empty, or why relationships seem harder than they should be, this conversation will challenge the way you think about love, purpose, and what it means to truly live. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE • Why financial security can never replace emotional safety • How high-performing men often mistake providing for connecting • The difference between building a life for approval versus alignment • Why emotional presence is the foundation of intimacy and trust • How childhood conditioning creates the "false self" • The simple question that can deepen any relationship: "Tell me a story about yourself" • Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness • How putting the "we" before the "me" transforms relationships • Why spirituality isn't separate from everyday life CONNECT WITH ME 💻 analeacoaching.com 📸 instagram.com/ana__lea__ 🎵 tiktok.com/@ana__lea__ 📧 aloha@ana-lea.com BOOK A SESSION WITH ME https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/the-clarity-call SUPPORT THE PODCAST Give to my content. Support the work. Get a personal gift from me. ☕ buymeacoffee.com/ana_lea LISTEN + WATCH 🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/7Cy5gftTHPYqD7wdR5ctVs 🍎 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wind-in-her-hair/id1832581085 ▶️ https://www.youtube.com/@analeacoaching CONNECT WITH JONATHAN ELLERBY Spiritual wellness coach, author, speaker, consultant, and relationship educator Website: jonathanellerby.com TikTok: @jonathanellerby Books: Inspiration Deficit Disorder and other titles by Jonathan Ellerby

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**Wind in Her Hair** is where we ditch the BS, skip the small talk, and get straight into the raw, unfiltered conversations you actually need. I’m Ana, a mama of three, relationship expert, country singer-songwriter, and your new favorite truth-teller. I’ve walked through fire, rebuilt from scratch, and learned how to create a life that's free, full, and unapologetically mine—and I’m here to help you do the same. Follow me: Website: https://www.ana-lea.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ana__lea__/ Book a Call: https://calendly.com/analeacoaching/discovery-call

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  • Creator
    Ana
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    43
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Ana
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    Wind in Her Hair