The Messy Part

The Messy Part
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A podcast dedicated to the lessons messing up teaches you.

  1. MAY 11

    Terrible Times are Temporary 

    People aren’t their worst moments. In this episode Adeline and Linda learn a new word together; equanimity: steadiness of the mind across circumstances. They spend the rest of the time grappling with what that looks like in practice, from the chaos of reality TV to a memoir they’re both reading. They learn there’s a distinction between finding the truth and telling the truth; verbalizing truth can offer release. They end up somewhere interesting: Grateful that their worst moments can’t be played on a loop for entertainment and with deeper empathy for what non-attachment and language can offer. Mantra #35: I can speak my truth.  For Your Consideration: Who can you share your truth with?

    1h 25m

  2. APR 27

    The Pursuit of Discipline

    You are not a robot. In this episode Adeline and Linda unravel their idea of discipline, disconnecting it from rigidity and control. Instead of something forced or performed they began to see discipline as a relationship, one that asks for attunement, honesty, and care.They spend time exploring their natural rhythms and flows, by asking themselves what discipline has looked like for them. They discover that their definition of discipline has nothing to do with punishment. The kind of discipline they’re rejecting is one that expects you to show up no matter what. The discipline they are seeking is a more discerning one that prioritizes safety and sustainability first. Mantra #34: I can give my body what it needs, even if it’s not what I want. I listen to my body and pivot as needed. My highest form of discipline is restarting.  For Your Consideration: In what ways does discipline serve you? In what ways does it harm you?

    1 hr

  3. APR 14

    You Have No Shame

    The body knows, the body protects, the body is always a witness. In this episode, Adeline and Linda stop beating around the bush, and finally face their college experience.(Hint: The DRAMA) They have spent years building safety and trust in their friendship. As a result, they felt safe enough to lean in and untangle something intimate and violent. They explored all the ways that trauma changes you and can show up as a shadow next to you. They affirmed for themselves and hopefully all of you that there is no shame in delayed realizations and reactions. There is no shame in not reacting as expected.  Trauma can take a lifetime to uncover, verbalize or reconcile. They practiced staying gentle with all the versions of themselves that have survived. They giggled and held each other through this episode. Joy has always been medicinal. They landed somewhere soft; trauma reveals itself over time and we can choose to sit with, nourish, avoid, deny, interrogate, confront, resolve, transform, grapple with it all for as long as we want and need.  They return to the original intention of their podcast, to say things out loud to other people. We say we do hard things and here we are yet again. TW: Sexual violence is discussed in this episode. Mantra #33:  My body can recover with time and community  May my body hold me steady always  May I stay protected as the world gets hectic  I am also a warrior  For Your Consideration: What are the words you do not yet have? - Audre Lorde, our bestie

    1h 17m

  4. MAR 30

    Peaks & Valleys

    When we started this journey we committed to archiving our thinking and articulating what we were doing on and off -camera. The intention being to document the messy part of podcasting, relationships, friendships, and vulnerability. So far, we’ve learned: Ease is intuition. Iterate. Show Up. Stay in Conversation. Take a creative risk. Stay vulnerable. Be teachable. Choose and stay in your lane. Stay close to what you want. Keep the plan, please. Sometimes the fruit of your labor hasn’t come yet, don’t pivot.  In this episode, Adeline and Linda take a moment to pause. They notice what's changed in their inner world and they spend some time reflecting on what alignment looks like. This is a peak moment. Expect shiny objects, the fruit of your labor, deeper relationship to change, being in the same place, while being a completely different person. Valleys make way for peaks.  Mantra #32: Make a plan. Keep the plan. Maintain a plan. Show up for the plan. The plan is you.  Be like water, bro For Your Consideration: What happens when you stop seeking?

    55 min

  5. MAR 16

    A lot to be mad about

    Anger is our fiercest protector, yet it is often misunderstood and underexplored. In this episode, Adeline and Linda define anger and peel back its many layers, recognizing the ways anger shows up quietly. It turns out they each have different relationships to angers long after an incident has passed. They realize they relate to anger in very different ways: for one, it feels final and contained; for the other, it’s constant, shifting, and evolving. Needless to say, there’s a lot to be mad about - from work, to  the state of the world, and even at themselves. Together, they ask: what is anger trying to teach us, and what vital information and energy is it offering?  Mantra #31: My anger is necessary. I am allowed to feel my anger. For Your Consideration: What is your anger trying to tell you?

    1h 29m

  6. MAR 2

    From Coping to Care: A How to Guide

    Care can be sustainable. On this episode, Adeline and Linda are still distinguishing the difference between caring and coping. They are learning to care for their communities in ways that feel supportive without consistently overextending themselves. This conversation is their persistent attempt to disrupt the endless cycle of showing up long past their capacity allows. They don’t want to turn into a pretzel AND they want their people to be well. They accept their responsibility as caregivers and know that they can’t be effective ones if it constantly leaves them empty. Sometimes you just have to say no in the short term to say yes in the long term. They ask the question: what do people owe them (hint: apparently nothing). Mantra #30: I love myself enough to say no. I love my community enough to say no. For Your Consideration: How care deprived are you? How do you practice self preservation in the midst of caring for others?

    51 min

  7. FEB 17

    When No Thing Works, Spiral Upwards 

    Repetition is a tool. We tend to forget that we see the world through our specific experiences and those memories color our present. In this episode, Adeline and Linda return to their roots. They spend the episode orienting themselves to each other by walking through their personal histories. In Cambridge and Coney Island, wealth and need lived side by side, classmates with abundance and neighbors without homes, all existing blocks apart. As a result of their observations, they dedicated themselves to answering the questions that their younger selves had about the world. By orienting to the questions that stuck in their heart, they began to trace the fault lines. They stayed with these contradictions and in naming those gaps, they found their compass, shaping the values they hold close, the communities they build, and the labor they offer the world. Orientation is the intentional practice of returning to yourself, your history, your patterns, your memories, your inherited context, in order to understand the lens through which you see the world. Mantra #29: Reduce the gap between your actions and your words.  For Your Consideration: Who are you to yourself? Who do you want to be to yourself?

    1h 16m

  8. FEB 2

    Go back and fetch it and pass the baton

    You are what has come before you. In this episode, Adeline and Linda express a desire to start traditions of their own, while holding close to the ones that feel like second nature. They anchor themselves in the question, “what do we want to hold on to?” and spend the episode exploring traditions: the mundane ones, the unintentional ones, the sacred ones. They think deeply about what they want to remember and what has already been remembered for them: by their communities, the lands they’ve touched, the keepsakes, and stories repeated. They learn it's worth the investment to research what traditions people before you chose to keep alive through practice.Mantra #28:I can create my own rituals and traditions.I am grateful for everything I've been given.I am committed to learning, sharing and teaching. For Your Consideration:What in your life would you enjoy archiving and in what medium?

    1h 7m
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A podcast dedicated to the lessons messing up teaches you.

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  • Creator
    The Messy Part
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
  • Rating
    Explicit
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