I AM SELF-ISH

Will Wright
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I Am Self-ish: This podcast is your daily dose of inspiration and motivation, designed to remind you that prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Tune in to discover how putting yourself first can transform your life, empowering you to show up as your best self in every area. Whether you're looking for a spark of motivation or a fresh perspective, "I Am Self-ish" is here to help you reclaim your power and embrace the idea that you deserve to be at the top of your own priority list.

  1. 3d ago

    Episode 85 – Paces & Places More Than the Finish Line

    Paces & Places I Am Self-ish Podcast Running can be more than a sport. It can become a reason to travel, take a chance, meet new people, and discover what you are capable of. n this episode, Will Wright sits down with Noa Besner, marathoner, running coach, and co-founder of Paces & Places, to talk about how running became a portal to travel, community, and personal growth. Noa shares how she went from a non-athletic kid to completing 22 marathons around the world. Over time, races became less about simply crossing a finish line and more about experiencing new places, connecting with local culture, and creating memories around movement. That idea eventually became Paces & Places, a small-group race travel company built around challenge, connection, and discovery. Each trip pairs a destination race with curated experiences, training support, and a built-in community for runners of different paces and experience levels. Will and Noa talk about the nerves and excitement that come with a starting line, the difference between chasing a time and chasing an experience, and why support can sometimes be the thing that helps us finally take the leap. Noa also shares how the inaugural Paces & Places trip to Tromsø, Norway, brought runners together for the Midnight Sun Marathon and an Arctic adventure under 24-hour daylight. At the heart of the conversation is a simple reminder: You do not have to be an elite runner to do something bold. Sometimes the next race, trip, or challenge is not about proving something. It is about giving yourself permission to create a memory you will never forget. About Noa Besner Noa Besner is a longtime marathoner, RRCA-certified running coach, NYRR group coach, and co-founder of Paces & Places. After completing 22 marathons around the world, she created the company to combine her love of running, meaningful travel, and community. Website: pacesplaces.comInstagram: @paces.places Connect with Paces & Places Upcoming destinations include Bermuda, Greece, Norway, and Scotland. “Run smart, run strong, run happy.” Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress. More choice.

  2. Sep 8

    Re-released: Why You Don't Trust Yourself

    Episode 84 – Re-released: Why You Don't Trust YourselfI Am Self-ish Podcast Some conversations deserve another listen, especially when the pattern they explore keeps showing up. In this re-release of Episode 64, Will Wright returns to a conversation about gaslighting and the quiet way it can erode self-trust over time. Gaslighting is not always loud or obvious. Sometimes it looks like being told you are too sensitive. Sometimes your concern gets redirected into a conversation about your tone, your delivery, or your reaction. Over time, the original issue gets lost and your perception becomes the thing under question. Will explores how these patterns can begin early in life and continue into relationships, workplaces, faith communities, and family dynamics. The deepest damage is not always the argument itself. It is what happens afterward. You begin hesitating on decisions you already know how to make. You overexplain. You look outside yourself for confirmation. You start questioning what you felt, what you saw, and whether your experience was valid in the first place. That is where self-trust begins to disappear. The turning point is not necessarily confronting the person who hurt you. It is learning to pause when you feel something, name what happened, and stop abandoning your own experience simply because someone else disagrees with it. “Healing doesn't come from confronting the person who hurt you. It comes from choosing to stop outsourcing your reality.” This episode is being re-released because rebuilding self-trust remains at the center of so many conversations about boundaries, relationships, leadership, and personal growth. Recognition is not the end of the story. It can be the beginning of a different one. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress. More choice.

  3. Sep 1

    Inside the Session: When Anger Is All You Have

    Episode 83 – Inside the Session: When Anger Is All You Have I Am Self-ish Podcast What happens when anger is the only thing keeping you moving? In this Inside the Session episode, William Wright reflects on two coaching sessions with a client he calls James, with identifying details changed for privacy. James is grieving the death of his mother after carrying much of the caregiving responsibility largely alone while also dealing with family conflict, resentment, guilt, and the pain of being legally blocked from seeing her before she died. James initially came into coaching asking for direction and clarity about what to do next. But underneath that practical question was something deeper: fear about what might happen if he stopped moving long enough to fully feel the grief. William explains that James was not resisting the work simply to be difficult. Anger and forward motion had become survival tools. They helped him function when slowing down did not feel safe. The sessions explore the belief that healing requires closure, even though closure is not always available. Rather than pushing James toward emotion or forcing a breakthrough, William allowed the conversation to move where it needed to go and returned to the deeper issue when the moment felt safer. One question became central: “What permission do you want to give yourself right now?” The episode reframes anger as something that may have served an important purpose. The problem is not that anger existed. The question is what happens when the emergency begins to pass and anger is no longer the only thing required to survive. William also challenges the idea that every coaching session should end with a breakthrough. Real coaching is not performance. Healing is not a race, and resistance does not mean someone is incapable of change. Sometimes resistance simply means the burden is heavy. Sometimes the most courageous thing a person can do is stay in the room long enough to begin understanding what the anger has been protecting. “The resistance you feel toward your own healing is not evidence that you cannot heal.” Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  4. Aug 25

    Wired Differently- When the Problem Isn’t the Person, It’s the System

    Episode 82 – Wired Differently I Am Self-ish Podcast What happens when talented people spend more energy trying to fit into the workplace than actually doing their best work? In this episode, Will Wright sits down with Ray Gordon, founder of Lumi Workplace, for a candid conversation about neurodivergence, workplace masking, psychological safety, and why so many capable people struggle inside systems that were never designed with them in mind. Ray shares his experience of growing up knowing he was intelligent while also feeling like a failure. His ADHD diagnosis in his mid-30s helped him understand years of overworking, self-doubt, and masking throughout his corporate career. Will and Ray discuss what masking can look like at work, including changing how you speak, dress, make eye contact, interact socially, and behave because you believe being yourself may not be accepted. They also explore ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, OCD, synesthesia, and why neurodivergence affects more workplaces and families than many people realize. Ray reflects on his corporate experiences at companies including EY and Glia, where he eventually founded a Neurodiversity Employee Resource Group. That experience helped inspire Lumi Workplace, where he now works with both organizations and neurodivergent professionals. The conversation examines what true neuroinclusion requires, from recruiting and interviews to performance management, sensory environments, culture, and what Ray considers the foundation of it all: Psychological safety. Ray challenges leaders to stop automatically viewing neurodivergence through a deficit lens. Instead of beginning with what someone struggles with, ask: What is this person exceptionally good at? Because inclusion is not about helping someone become more like everyone else. It is about creating environments where people do not have to hide who they are to succeed. Ray Gordon is the founder of Lumi Workplace. After more than two decades in corporate leadership, including American Express and EY, his ADHD diagnosis changed how he understood his career and years of masking at work. Today, he helps organizations create more neuroinclusive workplaces and coaches neurodivergent professionals as they build their careers. Website: lumiworkplace.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rayagordon Driven to DistractionHow to ADHD on YouTubeFailing at Normal TED Talk“Antidepressants Are So Not A Big Deal” from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice. About Ray GordonConnect with RayResources Mentioned

  5. Aug 18

    Turning Lead Into Gold The foundation of the E-R-D™ Framework

    Episode 81 – Turning Lead Into Gold Frank Mesa on Turning Pain Into Power with the E-R-D™ Framework-I Am Self-ish Podcast What if the hardest parts of your life did not have to become the rest of your life? In this episode, Will Wright sits down with Frank Mesa, author, leadership strategist, and creator of the E-R-D™ Framework, to explore how adversity can become a source of growth instead of a life sentence. Frank shares his story of growing up in Queens in a volatile immigrant household, becoming his mother's translator, and learning to survive environments shaped by violence, drugs, fear, and loss. He reflects on carrying a gun to school, the teacher who challenged him to choose a different path, and how education eventually helped him begin breaking destructive patterns. Frank went on to build a 31-year career with the New York State MTA, earning 11 promotions. But professional success did not mean every part of his life was thriving. He speaks candidly about three marriages, three divorces, heavy drinking, declining health, diabetes, and moments of deep despair. Those experiences became the foundation of the E-R-D™ Framework: Evolve, Revolve, Devolve. Frank explains how our choices either move us forward, keep us repeating familiar patterns, or pull us backward. He and Will discuss fear, emotional triggers, comfort zones, accountability, identity, and why awareness without the right tools does not always create change. At the center of the conversation is one powerful reminder: The next decision matters. Instead of trying to solve your entire life at once, pause and ask: “Is this choice helping me evolve, keeping me revolving, or causing me to devolve?” Frank Mesa is an author, leadership strategist, and creator of the E-R-D™ Framework. Drawing on more than three decades of executive leadership experience, his work focuses on self-leadership, behavioral patterns, intentional decision-making, accountability, and examining what he calls “the receipts on ourselves.” He is also the author of Alchemy: It’s As Easy As E-R-D, Turning Pain into Power and helps individuals and leaders recognize the patterns shaping their decisions so they can create better results in life and business. LinkedIn: Frank A. MesaInstagram: @frankmesaerdTikTok: @frankmesa_e_r_dFacebook: Frank MesaYouTube: Frank Mesa E-R-D™ Download Frank’s complimentary E-R-D™ Life Assessment Workbook, a 12-page self-assessment designed to help you identify where you are evolving, revolving, or devolving in your health, finances, relationships, and career. https://e-r-d.com/resources/erd-life-assessment-workbook Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  6. Aug 11

    Stop Pushing Through

    Episode 80 – Stop Pushing ThroughI Am Self-ish Podcast We are often taught that strength means pushing through. Push through the pain. Push through the grief. Push through the stress. Keep moving. Keep functioning. Do not let anything slow you down. But what happens when pushing through becomes the very thing keeping us from actually healing? In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright explores the difference between pushing through a difficult experience and actually going through it. Pushing through can sometimes be necessary. There are moments when life requires us to keep moving despite what we are feeling. The problem begins when pushing through becomes our only response. Will explains that pushing through often means using our energy to get past a feeling as quickly as possible. Going through something means staying present with the experience long enough to understand what it may be trying to show us. The difference is not speed. It is presence. When grief, sadness, stress, or emotional pain is repeatedly pushed aside, it does not always disappear. It can return later as anger, numbness, heaviness, resentment, exhaustion, or patterns we cannot seem to understand. Sometimes what we call strength is simply avoidance with better branding. Going through an experience does not mean becoming stuck in it. It means giving yourself permission to acknowledge what is happening before immediately trying to manage it, fix it, or convince yourself that you should be over it. Will encourages listeners to replace suppression with curiosity and begin asking: “What is this feeling trying to tell me?” Hard experiences often carry information. They can reveal what matters to us, what we need, what we value, where our boundaries have been crossed, and what truths we may have been avoiding. Real resilience is not simply the ability to keep moving. Real resilience is the ability to keep growing. The next time life gets difficult, instead of automatically asking yourself how quickly you can push through it, pause long enough to ask: “What is this trying to teach me?” You do not have to fix every feeling immediately. Sometimes the work is simply being willing to stay present long enough to hear what the experience has been trying to say. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  7. Aug 4

    Stop The Stigma-A Mental Health Conversation

    Episode 79 – Stop the Stigma A Mental Health ConversationI Am Self-ish Podcast Mental health affects how we think, connect, make decisions, and move through the world, yet too many people still feel pressured to hide when they are struggling. In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, Will Wright speaks openly about his experiences with depression, anxiety, and body dysmorphia. He reflects on the opportunities, joy, and connection that can be lost when mental health concerns are ignored, minimized, or treated as something to be ashamed of. Will also challenges the idea that good mental health means feeling happy all the time. Good mental health can look like allowing yourself to experience difficult emotions without being completely overtaken by them. It can mean maintaining honest relationships, asking for support, and showing up as yourself instead of constantly pretending to be okay. The conversation explores what can happen when mental health struggles remain unaddressed. Isolation, emotional overwhelm, harmful coping patterns, and staying in unhealthy environments can begin to feel normal. Over time, shame and silence can affect relationships, opportunities, and the way we see ourselves. Will examines how mental health stigma is often inherited through family, culture, and community. In many cases, silence began as a survival strategy. People were taught to remain strong, keep personal matters private, or depend on faith alone. While faith can be a powerful source of comfort and strength, Will emphasizes that faith, therapy, coaching, and medication do not have to exist in conflict with one another. Doing the inner work is not a sign that something is wrong with you. It is a commitment to understanding yourself, healing what has been carried, and creating more space to show up authentically for the people you love. Mental health care is also part of the legacy we leave behind. Material success matters, but so does teaching future generations that they are allowed to feel, speak honestly, ask for help, and receive support without shame. Stopping the stigma begins with the conversations we are willing to have. It begins by recognizing mental health as an essential part of caring for ourselves and choosing to live fully. If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. You can also speak with a licensed mental health professional or search for a provider through Psychology Today. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer & Leadership Coach📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

  8. Jul 28

    I'm Still Here. The Story Behind My Purpose.

    Episode 78 – I'm Still Here.The Story Behind My Purpose I Am Self-ish Podcast This is one of the most personal episodes Will Wright has ever recorded. For years, listeners have heard Will talk about stress, self-trust, boundaries, and living intentionally. In this episode, he shares the experiences that shaped those conversations and the pain that nearly kept him from ever having them. Will opens up about his lifelong battle with depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia, and suicidal thoughts. He talks honestly about what it has been like to carry emotional pain while still trying to show up for other people, and why he believes vulnerability is one of the greatest acts of courage we can offer. He also reflects on rejection from the very communities he hoped to serve, the loneliness that followed, and the difficult process of finding purpose when it feels like no one is listening. Rather than allowing those experiences to define him, Will explains how they became the reason he continues coaching, speaking, and creating this podcast. This conversation is not about having all the answers or pretending that healing is a straight line. It is about choosing to keep going, even when life feels impossibly heavy. It is about recognizing that strength is often quiet, that asking for help is never weakness, and that surviving can become the beginning of something meaningful. If you've ever questioned your worth, wondered whether anyone would miss you, or felt exhausted from carrying emotional pain in silence, this episode is for you. Will closes with a reminder he believes everyone deserves to hear: You deserve to still be here. If you or someone you know is struggling, please don't carry it alone. Reach out to someone you trust, a licensed mental health professional, or your local crisis resources. Asking for help is a sign of courage, and support is available. Produced and Edited by Will Wright William WrightCertified Master PractitionerCareer &Leadership Coach 📧 Will@iamself-ish.com📞 646-645-1509🌐 www.iamself-ish.com Be bold. Be SELF-ISH.Less stress, more choice.

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I Am Self-ish: This podcast is your daily dose of inspiration and motivation, designed to remind you that prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Tune in to discover how putting yourself first can transform your life, empowering you to show up as your best self in every area. Whether you're looking for a spark of motivation or a fresh perspective, "I Am Self-ish" is here to help you reclaim your power and embrace the idea that you deserve to be at the top of your own priority list.

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  • Creator
    Will Wright
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    86
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Will Wright
  • Show Website
    I AM SELF-ISH

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