Parents & Teens Rising: Practical Tools for Raising Confident, Connected Teens

Jasmyne Chandler, Teen & Parent Coach and Rites of Passage Guide
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Welcome to Parents and Teens Rising, the podcast where we dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of raising teens and young adults in today’s world. Hosted by Teen and Parent coach Jasmyne Chandler, this show is all about empowering parents, teens, and young adults to step into confidence, connection, and courage.Through practical tools, real conversations, and inspiring stories, you’ll learn how to build stronger relationships, support your teen’s authenticity, and navigate everything from anxiety and self-esteem to purpose and independence.Whether your teen feels stuck, stressed, or simply different from the “norm,” this podcast will help you show up with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—while giving your teen the tools they need to rise.

  1. 1d ago

    Ep 62. The Biggest Missing Piece for Teenagers Today

    Your teen is going to mark the transition into adulthood one way or another. The question is who guides them. For most of human history, communities had intentional ways of welcoming young people into adulthood. Today, most teens get a driver’s license and a graduation date, and not much else. Without a meaningful way to mark that threshold, many go looking for their own, and it isn’t always a safe one. In this episode, I’m talking about what I believe is the biggest missing piece for young people today: the rite of passage. I’m walking you through five reasons it matters so much for teens right now. Marking the big thresholds in life, and what happens when we don’tWhy our kids are starving for real challenge and real proof of what they can doWhat happens when a teen is finally alone with themselves, without a phone, a schedule, or someone telling them who to beThe deep need to be seen, heard, and valued by a real community, our modern-day villageHow a rite of passage helps young people find meaning in a world that can feel bleak and heavyThis episode is for any parent who has watched their teen search for meaning, confidence, or a sense of belonging, and wants to know what it could look like to give them a container to find it. Three-Day Challenge for Parents of Anxious Teens: A brand new on-demand challenge just for you, with three days of videos and workbook practice to help you understand what’s behind your teen’s anxiety, shutdown, procrastination, and avoidance, and how to support them toward confidence and motivation. For a one-time fee of $27, you'll recieve the 3-Day Challenge and you'l also get six months inside the Parents of Teens Rising coaching circle, which would normally cost $144 on its own. Join the Challenge Read the story behind this work: “Alone in the Wilderness: A Young Woman’s Quest to Find Meaning” Read the blog post Help send a teen on a trip: Guided Passages is fiscally sponsored, which means donations go directly toward scholarships for young people to join our wilderness rites of passage trips and Youth Connect circles. Donate here Upcoming trips: Dates for summer 2027 are coming soon, including another middle school co-ed trip and another high school girls trip. Learn more at guided-passages.com. Connect with me: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages Email: jasmyne@guided-passages.com 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 62. The Biggest Missing Piece for Teenagers Today

  2. Oct 28

    Ep 61. 10 Communication Traps to Avoid With Your Teen (And What To Say Instead)

    You caught yourself doing it again. That’s a good sign. You know the moment. The words are already out of your mouth, and you can see your teen’s face change. Maybe it was a lecture that ran three minutes too long. Maybe it was a “must be nice” with a little edge on it. Maybe it was the silent treatment you swore you’d never do, the one you learned at your own kitchen table. In this episode, I’m walking you through 10 communication pitfalls that are so easy to fall into, especially when emotions run high. Most of them are habits many of us picked up growing up, and they show up automatically. Even the subtle ones can chip away at trust and connection with our teens. For each one, I give you a simple “do this instead” so you have something real to reach for next time. A few things we get into: Why your teen can’t take in your solutions when they’re in a spiral, and what helps insteadThe well-meant habit that actually makes your teen feel dismissedWhat a short, clean repair sounds like, without the “I’m sorry, but...”Why most of these patterns were passed down to us, and why that’s a reason for compassion, not shameIf you hear yourself in this one, good. That’s awareness, and awareness is where change begins. Pick one pitfall to work on this week and you’re already on your way. This episode is for any parent who has said something they wish they could take back and wants a gentler, more connected way forward. Join the Parents of Teens Rising Circle: If you’re recognizing some of these patterns in yourself and want support, come join us inside the Skool app for tools, coaching, and community.  PARENTS OF TEENS RISING CIRCLE  https://www.skool.com/rooted-in-connection-1711/about?ref=4ed96d121fb84aaf97b6f1db9dcf534a Connect with me: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages Email: jasmyne@guided-passages.com 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 61. 10 Communication Traps to Avoid With Your Teen (And What To Say Instead)

  3. Oct 21

    Ep 60. How To Get Your Teen To Listen To You In 4 Simple Steps

    Your teen’s brain isn’t broken, and you’re not doing everything wrong. If you’ve ever wondered why your teen seems to tune you out, this mini episode is for you. “How do I get my teenager to listen to me?” is one of the questions I hear most from parents, and the answer usually isn’t about what we’re saying. It’s about when we’re saying it, how often we’re saying it, and whether there’s enough connection in the relationship for the message to land. I’m walking you through four simple steps to help your teen start hearing you again. They’re simple, but simple doesn’t always mean easy, so stick with me. Here’s what we cover: Why trying to reason with a teen who’s already upset is like sending an email to someone whose Wi-Fi is down, and what to say insteadThe 5-to-1 ratio from Dr. John Gottman, and a one-day challenge to see where your own ratio lands (no judgment, just noticing)Why connection with teens happens “sideways,” in the car, over dinner prep, on a walk, or in those late-night chats when you’re ready to fall asleepHow showing up for what matters to your teen, even when it doesn’t matter to you, builds the trust that makes your words carry more weightWhat individuation is, and why your teen can ignore your advice a hundred times and then love hearing the exact same thing from a coach, teacher, or another trusted adultThis episode is for any parent who feels like their words are bouncing off and wants a simple, doable place to start. Work with me: If you think your teen could benefit from having a coach in their corner, I’d love to talk with you. I offer two 12-week, one-on-one coaching programs focused on confidence, mindset, managing big emotions, and connecting with their own purpose and passions: Ignite: for younger teens ages 12 to 14Rise Up: for teens and young adults ages 15 to 24Book a free call with me: https://link.guided-passages.com/widget/bookings/ignite-rise-up-discovery-call I highly recommend bringing your teen or young adult to the call, and teens who join get a $5 Starbucks or Dutch Bros gift card just for showing up. No pressure and no commitment, it’s just a chance for them to meet me and feel it out for themselves. Free talking points and scripts to help you introduce the idea of coaching to your teen before the call: https://acrobat.adobe.com/id/urn:aaid:sc:us:6830be36-04e6-45d1-919c-367756236db1 Connect with me: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages Email: jasmyne@guided-passages.com 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 60. How To Get Your Teen To Listen To You In 4 Simple Steps

  4. Oct 14

    Ep 59. The 3 Mindset Laws Every Teen Needs to Know

    What if your teen's brain is running an algorithm, and they're the one feeding it? I've watched so many teens get stuck in the same patterns: the teen who decides she's "bad at math" and then finds proof on every test, or the teen who's sure nobody likes him and reads every awkward hallway moment as evidence. I've lived it myself, too. For a long time my lens on life was "it's hard, you have to grind, nothing comes easy," and it showed up everywhere, from how I felt to how I parented. Ten years later my life looks completely different, and a big part of that was learning how much of my experience is shaped by where I put my focus. In this episode, I'm breaking down three ideas people have been teaching for a long time (the law of neutrality, the law of assumption, and the law of attraction), plus the real brain science that helps explain why they work. And I'm leaving you with a simple, research-backed tool called WOOP that you can try with your teen this week. (It works for us grown-ups too.) To be really clear, this isn't about telling your teen to think positive and ignore what hurts. Hard things are hard. This is about helping them see they have more say in their experience than they realize. Here's what we cover: Why I think of the "personal algorithm" as the perfect way to explain this to teens, since they already know how their feeds learn what they likeThe reticular activating system (RAS) and why you suddenly see that new car everywhere once you start thinking about buying oneNeuroplasticity, and why the teenage brain is such fertile ground for building helpful thought patternsThe law of neutrality, and what a text that goes unanswered for three hours can teach us about the stories we tell ourselvesThe law of assumption, and how a casual "I'm bad at math" can quietly become a self-fulfilling prophecyThe law of attraction, including a simple morning at the hospital that showed me how much a focus on the good can change an ordinary errandHow to use these ideas with your teen at home, starting with three simple questions you can ask this weekAnd here's the tool I'm sending you off with, WOOP, developed by NYU psychologist Gabriele Oettingen after 20+ years of research: Wish: something challenging but possible, with a time frameOutcome: picture the best result in detail and how it would feelObstacle: name the inner obstacle (a fear, habit, belief, or feeling) that could get in the wayPlan: make an if-then plan for when that obstacle shows upIt takes about five to ten minutes, and I walk through a real-life example of a teen who wants to speak up more in class. This episode is for any parent who wants to help their teen (and themselves) stop reacting to life and start shaping how they experience it. Resources mentioned: WOOP, free app and resources: woopmylife.org Work with me: I offer 12-week coaching programs for teens to help them step into confidence, motivation, and purpose, plus a Parents of Teens coaching circle and community with twice-monthly coaching calls and a monthly workshop. Reach out anytime, I'm here for you. Connect with me: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages Email: jasmyne@guided-passages.com 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 59. The 3 Mindset Laws Every Teen Needs to Know

  5. Oct 7

    EP. 58 How This Can Be Your Best Season of Parenting Yet: 10 Steps to Reconnect with Your Teen

    I don't think parenting teenagers has to be our hardest season. I actually think it can be our best one, the season where our relationship with our kid really solidifies right before they launch into adulthood. In today's episode, I'm walking you through 10 steps to build a stronger connection with your teenager, pulled from my coaching program and a blog post I wrote on the same topic, with some personal stories mixed in along the way. The big idea underneath all 10 steps: connection isn't about what your teen is doing, it's about how you're showing up. And I find that so empowering, because it means we have way more influence here than it feels like in the hard moments. Here's what we cover: Why showing care every single day, even on the hard days, plants a seed that builds long-term emotional safetyThe 5-to-1 ratio (from the research of Dr. John Gottman and Daniel Goleman) and why our positive interactions need to far outweigh the negative onesWhy focusing on what I can actually control, myself, is the real lever for change, even when my teen is pushing every buttonWhy consistency matters more than length when it comes to making time for real connectionHow staying steady, even when my teen is testing limits hard, builds a trust that lastsWhy offering respect, even when it doesn't feel earned yet, changes how open my teen is with meHow practicing the pause helps me model regulation instead of adding fuel to the fireWhy picking my battles protects my emotional bandwidth and our relationshipThe power of seeing and naming the good, and why what I focus on in my teen is often what they start to believe about themselvesHow letting playfulness lighten the mood can repair a tense moment faster than any lecture ever couldThis episode is for any parent who wants a real, practical starting point for closing the distance with their teen, one small, everyday moment at a time. Connect with me: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    EP. 58 How This Can Be Your Best Season of Parenting Yet: 10 Steps to Reconnect with Your Teen

  6. Sep 30

    Ep 57. Why Teens Need to Do Hard Things: Rites of Passage, Self-Talk, and Real Confidence

    In today's episode, I'm sharing a conversation where I was the one in the guest chair on Parenting Shrink Wrapped with Samantha Straub, licensed clinical counselor and parenting coach, and Dr. Melissa Wellner, double board certified psychiatrist and child and adolescent psychiatrist. We talk about my own rites of passage story, what happens on our Guided Passages trips, and how teens build real confidence by doing hard things. In This Episode, You'll Hear: How a rites of passage trip at 19 changed the direction of my lifeWhat happens in council, on solo, and at our Welcome Home CeremonyWhy confidence comes from doing hard things rather than hearing complimentsThe self-hate, comparison, and negative self-talk so many teens are carryingHow teens create their own risky rites of passage when adults don't offer safe onesResources Mentioned: Episode 52 with Samantha Straub and Dr. Melissa Wellner: Discipline vs. Punishment and Why Punishment Doesn't Work for Teens [link]Parenting Shrink Wrapped podcastWork With Me: I'm offering wilderness rites of passage trips, one-on-one virtual coaching for teens and young adults ages 12 to 24, and the Parents of Teens Rising Coaching Circle for parents who want support on this journey. Website: guided-passages.comInstagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

    Ep 57. Why Teens Need to Do Hard Things: Rites of Passage, Self-Talk, and Real Confidence

  7. Sep 23

    Ep 56. The Social Media Driver's License: Preparing Your Tween or Teen for Their Phone with Jennifer Berger

    Would you let your teenager get behind the wheel of a car with zero lessons and no permit? That's basically what we do with smartphones, and today's guest is here to change that. I'm joined by Jennifer Berger, founder and executive director of the nonprofit Ready Set Screen, and honestly, this is the conversation I wish I'd had access to when my own kids were still preteens. Jennifer has spent 20 years as a media literacy educator, and has worked directly with more than 10,000 preteens and teens, with 95% of them reporting real improvements in their mental health and self-esteem afterward. Her organization recently launched its flagship program, the Social Media Driver's License, and we get into exactly what that is and why she built it that way. If you've ever felt torn between wanting to protect your kid from their phone and knowing you can't realistically keep them off it forever, this conversation is going to feel like a deep breath. We get into a lot, including: Why Jennifer thinks of preparing kids for social media the same way we prepare them to drive a car, and why "the driver's license" metaphor just makes senseHer honest take on monitoring apps and reading your teen's texts, and why she compares heavy monitoring to restrictive dietingWhat she actually says to parents who are worried something serious might be going on with their teen onlineHow the course handles harder topics like AI, porn, and online strangers without over-scaring or under-preparing kidsWhy shame, even over something as small as an accidental Google search, is one of the biggest things getting in the way of kids talking to usWhy the research on phones and mental health is messier than people think, and how Jennifer still landed on taking action anywayThe reality that "just delay it" isn't always realistic when a kid's entire social world is already onlineWhy teaching kids to simply question what they're seeing, who made it and why, can change how they feel about themselves almost immediatelyI really loved this one, and I think you will too. Jennifer's approach isn't about fear, it's about equipping your kid to actually think for themselves out there. About Jennifer Berger: Jennifer Berger has been a media literacy educator for 20 years. She's helped more than 10,000 preteens and teens learn to question the messages they receive through media, with 95% reporting improvements in indicators of their mental health and self-esteem. Jennifer is the founder and executive director of the nonprofit Ready Set Screen, based in San Francisco, and recently launched its flagship program, the Social Media Driver's License. Connect with Jennifer & Ready Set Screen: Website: www.readysetscreen.org Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn & TikTok: @readysetscreen The Social Media Driver's License is available now to families: socialmediadriverslicense.org Free Sample of the Social Media Driver's License: https://courses.socialmediadriverslicense.org/sign-up More media literacy resources Jennifer mentioned: National Association for Media Literacy Education: namle.org | YouTube MediaWise: www.mediawise.org | YouTube American Academy of Pediatrics Center of Excellence on Social Media and Youth Mental Health: aap.org Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 56. The Social Media Driver's License: Preparing Your Tween or Teen for Their Phone with Jennifer Berger

  8. Sep 16

    Ep 55. Five Ways To Get Your Teen To Actually Open Up

    In today's episode, I'm talking about how to help your teen open back up if things have felt shut down lately and you want to be the one they turn to again.  Here's what we cover: The most common reasons teens pull away, including overwhelm, fear of judgment, their biological drive toward independence, and broken trustWhy age 13 tends to be the peak of the pulling-away phase, and why that's actually a good sign developmentallyWhy forcing a conversation almost always backfires, and what to do insteadPlus, five strategies you can start using today to help your teen open back up: Respect their space without disappearingRebuild trust by owning your reactionsListen without trying to fix everythingBuild connection in everyday momentsChoose collaboration over controlThis episode is for any parent who wants their teen to come to them when things get hard, not just when they have to. 📘 Free Guide: 10 Steps to Build More Connection with Your Teenager https://youth.guided-passages.com/connect-to-your-teen-freebie Want more support? Join Parents of Teens Rising, my monthly parent coaching community, for live coaching circles, monthly workshops, and weekly voice notes for just $24/month. Parents of Teens Rising Coaching Circle Connect with Jasmyne: Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages 🔗 https://guided-passages.com/

    Ep 55. Five Ways To Get Your Teen To Actually Open Up
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Welcome to Parents and Teens Rising, the podcast where we dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of raising teens and young adults in today’s world. Hosted by Teen and Parent coach Jasmyne Chandler, this show is all about empowering parents, teens, and young adults to step into confidence, connection, and courage.Through practical tools, real conversations, and inspiring stories, you’ll learn how to build stronger relationships, support your teen’s authenticity, and navigate everything from anxiety and self-esteem to purpose and independence.Whether your teen feels stuck, stressed, or simply different from the “norm,” this podcast will help you show up with more clarity, compassion, and confidence—while giving your teen the tools they need to rise.

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