M.E.S.H.

Dr. Pamela Brewer
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  1. 15h ago

    Children Grieve Differently - Not Less

    How do children really grieve—and why do we so often miss it? On this deeply moving episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes Kelly Edmondson, a nurse executive, certified grief counselor, and founder of Timely Presence, an organization she created after the sudden loss of her 28-year-old son. 💛 With extraordinary openness, Kelly shares her own story and then turns toward the children in our lives, helping us understand that just because kids grieve differently doesn't mean they grieve less. From the danger of well-meaning phrases like "grandpa went to sleep," to the compounded grief of a child who lost a parent they never knew, to the very real heartbreak of a lost toy or a missed team, Kelly offers compassionate, practical wisdom. Her "three R's"—regulate, respond, remain—give parents and caregivers a gentle framework for showing up. This is a tender, hopeful conversation about helping children feel seen, heard, and safe, and about how loss can reshape us without defining us. 🌟 Topics Covered:How children grieve differently than adults—but no less deeplyWhy clarity matters more than protective euphemismsMagical thinking and the literal minds of young childrenCompounded grief and losing a parent never knownHonoring loss when the other parent is absent or estrangedTreating a child's lost toy or missed team as real griefThe "three R's" of guiding any loss: regulate, respond, remainModeling healthy emotion instead of emotional perfection Key Takeaways:Children grieve fully, even when their grief looks like play and joy.Clear, honest language protects children more than softening euphemisms.A child's "small" loss is real loss—your job is to help them feel seen, heard, and safe.Regulate yourself, respond to their need, and remain present over time.It's healthy to let children see you grieve, within steady, supportive limits.Loss reshapes us, but with care and connection, it doesn't have to define us. Learn more about our guest:Organization: Timely Presence — sends meaningful gifts on emotionally charged days like birthdays, holidays, and anniversariesWebsite: thetimelypresence.comInstagram & Facebook: Timely PresenceLinkedIn: Kelly Edmondson KEY WORDS#ChildhoodGrief #GriefSupport #Parenting #Loss #Healing #MentalHealth #ChildrenAndGrief #EmotionalHealth #MESHPodcast #PamelaBrewer #KellyEdmondson #Mourning

    Children Grieve Differently - Not Less

  2. Jul 29

    How to Process Loss When You Don't Want to Talk

    Grief touches all of us—so why are we so rarely given permission to feel it fully? On this moving episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes Dr. Shalanda, a licensed psychotherapist whose expertise spans both the loss of loved ones and the quieter griefs that accompany major life changes. 💛 Together they unpack why grief is at once universal and deeply individual, how rigid "recovery boxes" at work can do more harm than good, and what happens when one partner needs to talk while the other stays silent. Dr. Shalanda generously shares her own story of loss and the single conversation that helped both her and her husband begin to heal. Whether you're grieving a person, a pet, a career, or a chapter of your life that's quietly closed, this conversation offers compassion, perspective, and gentle, practical ways to move toward healing on your own terms.  🌟 Topics Covered: Why grief is universal yet completely individual The "mediator of mourning" and what shapes how we grieve Grieving a pet, a career, a home, or a major transition What happens when couples grieve on different timelines How stuffed emotions show up as physical pain Practical ways to process loss—journaling, talking, recording Finding support systems, groups, and affordable help  Key Takeaways: Grief has no universal timeline—your process is valid even if it looks different from others'. Letting emotions out, in whatever form works for you, is healing, not weakness. Unexpressed grief can settle into the body as real physical pain. One honest conversation can open the door to mutual healing. Loss isn't only about death—career change, moving, and even "positive" change can bring grief. If you feel alone, support exists: people, groups, and sliding-scale help are within reach.  Some questions I ask: Are there really stages of grief, or is that a myth? What do you say to someone given only two weeks to grieve a profound loss? Could coming back to work too soon actually hurt productivity more than being absent? What do you tell couples where one wants to talk constantly and the other never? How were you able to access your husband's willingness to talk? What can you say to the person who insists they're "done" and won't talk? What would you say to someone feeling completely alone in their loss? Can a positive change still bring real grief?  Learn more about our guest: YouTube: @tookeswilderguidance Instagram: ShalandaSays  Resource List: Programs mentioned: GriefShare support groups (volunteer-led, often church-based, possible small supply fee with affordability accommodations)  #Grief #GriefSupport #Loss #Healing #MentalHealth #Mourning #GriefAndWork #EmotionalHealth #MESHPodcast #PamelaBrewer #CouplesGrief #SelfCare

    How to Process Loss When You Don't Want to Talk

  3. Jul 22

    What You Wear Is a Conversation You Didn't Know You Were Having

    What if the simplest act of getting dressed each morning is quietly shaping how you feel, think, and show up in the world? On this episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer talks with Dr. Sarah Seung-McFarland, a licensed psychologist specializing in fashion and design psychology and the founder of Trulery. 👗  Together they unpack the surprising science connecting our clothing, our living spaces, and our emotional wellbeing. Dr. Seung-McFarland shares how wardrobes and environments can serve as everyday support for our identity, our goals, and even our mental health—not as a cure, but as one of the most accessible tools we have for living intentionally. This is a warm, eye-opening conversation that invites you to look at your closet, your home, and your daily choices with fresh, compassionate curiosity. 🌟 Topics Covered:How clothing functions as support for your identity and goals"Clothes cognition" and the power of symbolic dressingWhy you don't have to follow every trend to feel goodUsing color, scent, and sound intentionally for wellbeingFashion as an accessible, daily form of self-care Key Takeaways:Your clothing can reinforce the life and identity you're working toward.Start with what you genuinely like; it points you toward who you want to be.Comfort matters more than trends—if you're uncomfortable, it shows.Your space reflects and affects your emotional functioning, just like your wardrobe.Getting dressed is a nonverbal conversation with yourself and the world.Style and surroundings won't cure deeper struggles, but they can genuinely support your wellbeing. Some questions I ask:Where do I even start when I look at my closet?Can you actually see anxiety in someone's home?How do you begin with an everyday client who isn't a "fashionista"?Do people connect what they grew up with to how they present themselves now?What happens when a couple has completely different styles?Is there a message behind dressing in very little, or is it just trend-chasing?Do colors say something specific about us? Learn more about our guest:Business: Trulery — vintage shop, consultation, and styling, expanding into an e-commerce editorial siteWebsite: trulery.com (T-R-U-L-E-R-Y.com)Instagram: @trulery_ (trulery underscore)Services: Mini style consults for single needs, and  fuller assessments including an "environmental autobiography" for your space #FashionPsychology #DesignPsychology #SelfCare #MentalHealth #StyleAndIdentity #Wellbeing #ClothesCognition #IntentionalLiving #MESHPodcast #PamelaBrewer #PersonalStyle #EmotionalHealth#SocialHealth#PersonalStyle

    What You Wear Is a Conversation You Didn't Know You Were Having

  4. Jul 15

    Caregiving, Identity, and the Life That Changes Around You

    Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes Janette Burke to M.E.S.H. for a candid, practical, and deeply human conversation about caregiving, identity, disability, work, and the emotional cost of caring for an aging parent. Janette is a women’s leadership mentor, speaker, podcast host, mental health advocate, and online TV host whose life changed dramatically when caregiving became central to her daily reality. Together, Dr. Brewer and Janette explore what it means to become “a mother to your mother,” how caregiving reshapes time, health, business, friendship, and independence, and why caregivers need support, structure, and permission to care for themselves too. 🌟 Topics Covered:The daily reality of family caregivingCaring for an aging parent while managing workHow caregiving can change identity and independenceHow caregiving affects sleep, health, and social lifeWhy caregivers often put their own needs lastThe guilt and loneliness caregivers may carry Key takeaways:Caregiving is love, labor, planning, and emotional endurance all at once.Caregivers often need support long before they feel comfortable asking for it.Self-care is not separate from caregiving; it helps make caregiving sustainable.Losing flexibility, social time, sleep, and independence can affect emotional health.A caregiver’s body, schedule, and relationships need attention too.Small supports, like help with cleaning or transportation, can make a meaningful difference.Caregiving requires flexibility, but it also requires boundaries and realistic expectations.Naming the strain honestly can be the first step toward getting help. Learn more about our guest:Guest: Janette BurkeWebsite: www.janetteburke.comOnline TV: Janette’s TVSocial media: DM Janette Burke or Janette’s TV on social platformsEmail: janettestv@janetteburke.comPhone/Text: 416-802-0655Work mentioned: Janette is a women’s leadership mentor, speaker, podcast host, mental health advocate, online TV host, correspondent, red carpet event host, MC speaker and brand ambassador

    Caregiving, Identity, and the Life That Changes Around You

  5. Jul 8

    The Student Protest That Shook South Africa

    Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes journalist and author Lynda Schuster back to M.E.S.H. for a powerful continuation of their conversation about A Burning Hunger, the Soweto Uprising, and the young people whose courage helped expose the human cost of apartheid. This episode focuses on Tsietsi Mashinini, the brilliant teenage student leader whose ability to organize, speak, and inspire helped turn deep frustration into collective action. Together, Dr. Brewer and Lynda explore student protest, family trauma, torture, truth-telling, and the emotional weight of using your voice when speaking can place your life at risk. 🌟 Topics Covered:The teenage leadership behind the Soweto UprisingTsietsi Mashinini’s role in student organizingThe peaceful protest of June 16, 1976 turned violent after government interventionPolice violence against student marchersTruth-telling, healing, and the Truth and Reconciliation Commission Key takeaways:Young people can recognize injustice.Voice is a core part of dignity, identity, and social health.Trauma does not end when the event ends; it can live inside families for years.Peaceful protest can still be met with violence when power feels threatened.Truth-telling can be painful, but it can also create a path toward recognition.Systems that silence people also shape emotional life, memory, and belonging.Telling a family’s story with care helps history remain human.Understanding the past can deepen compassion for how people survive the present. Learn more about our guest:Guest: Lynda SchusterBook: A Burning HungerWebsite: lyndaschuster.comPublisher: Ohio University PressAvailable through: Amazon, bookstores, Ohio University Press, and Lynda Schuster’s websiteEvent mentioned: Politics and Prose in the Washington, DC area on August 7Background: Former foreign correspondent for The Wall Street Journal and The Christian Science Monitor #MESH #DrPamelaBrewer #LyndaSchuster #ABurningHunger #SowetoUprising #TsietsiMashinini #ApartheidHistory #MentalEmotionalSocialHealth #TruthAndReconciliation #StudentResistance #HumanRights #SocialHealth

    The Student Protest That Shook South Africa

  6. Jul 1

    The Tipping Point That Changed South Africa

    Dr. Pamela Brewer welcomes journalist and author Lynda Schuster to M.E.S.H. for a thoughtful and deeply human conversation about A Burning Hunger, the Soweto Uprising, and the historical forces that shaped one of South Africa’s most pivotal moments. Together, they explore how apartheid used education, law, fear, and language as tools of control—and how young people, living inside that pressure, reached a breaking point. This episode offers historical clarity, emotional insight, and a powerful reminder that dignity, identity, and the right to learn are central to mental, emotional, and social health. 🌟 Topics Covered:The historical backdrop of the Soweto UprisingHow apartheid shaped education and opportunityThe purpose and impact of the Bantu Education ActWhy Afrikaans as a required language became a tipping pointThe emotional weight of inferior educationPolitical silencingHow young people organized, resisted, and inspired change Key takeaways:Education can either expand possibility or be used to limit it.Language is never neutral when it is tied to power, access, and identity.Fear can silence.Understanding history helps us better understand today’s struggles for dignity and agency.Resistance does not begin in one moment; it often grows after years of pressure.Social health includes the right to speak, learn, move, question, and belong. Some questions I ask:Why A Burning Hunger, and why revisit this story now?What was South Africa like at the time of the Soweto Uprising?What was the Bantu Education Act?Was the purpose of Black South African education to limit growth and critical thinking?How did requiring Afrikaans as a language of instruction affect students?What were the pass laws, and how did they control daily life?What was the Suppression of Communism Act?How did disagreement become treated as a political threat?Was free speech available to Black South Africans under apartheid? Learn more about our guest:Guest: Lynda SchusterBook: A Burning HungerAvailable through: Amazon, Ohio University Press, and wherever books are soldBackground: Former foreign correspondent for The Wall Street Journal and The Christian Science MonitorReporting regions mentioned: Africa, Central America, South America, and the Middle East Resource List:Books mentioned: A Burning Hunger by Lynda SchusterOrganizations mentioned: African National Congress, South African Communist Party, Ohio University Press #MESH #DrPamelaBrewer #LyndaSchuster #ABurningHunger #SowetoUprising #ApartheidHistory #MentalEmotionalSocialHealth #SocialHealth #HistoricalTrauma #EducationAndPower #HumanRights #IdentityAndPurpose#Knowledge#Activism

    The Tipping Point That Changed South Africa

  7. Jun 24

    A Black Man’s Journey Through Bipolar Disorder

    In this deeply personal episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer sits down with author Travis McLaurin to discuss his lived experience as an African American man experiencing bipolar disorder, mental illness stigma, recovery, and self-understanding. Travis shares what it was like growing up misunderstood, navigating mood swings without a diagnosis, and enduring years of bullying, fear, and confusion before finally receiving answers at age 25. Together, they explore the emotional realities of the impact of stigma, the importance of therapy and support, and the healing power of being truly seen and understood. Travis also reflects on writing his book, The Gift of a Loud Mind, and why he now speaks openly about bipolar disorder to help others feel less alone. 🌟 Topics Covered:Growing up with undiagnosed bipolar disorderMental health stigma for some within Black communitiesChildhood behavioral misunderstandingsBullying and emotional isolationReceiving a bipolar diagnosis later in lifeTherapy, recovery, and emotional supportThe emotional impact of labels and stigmaWhy kindness matters in mental healthWriting as part of healingMental illness and self-acceptance Key takeaways:Mental illness often goes misunderstood before diagnosis.Seeking therapy is an act of courage, not weakness.Compassion and patience can change someone’s life.Stigma prevents many people from seeking support.Mental health recovery is an ongoing process.Support systems matter deeply during treatment.Being different does not diminish human value.Understanding creates space for healing. Learn more about our guest:Travis McLaurinBook: The Gift of a Loud Mind: Life with Bipolar Disorder, Mental Illness, and RecoveryAvailable on Amazon Connect with M.E.S.H. through the YouTube channel, LinkedIn page, and Substack community Resource List:Books mentioned: The Gift of a Loud MindPrograms mentioned: 20/20Organizations mentioned: Forsyth County Mental Health Center, North Carolina #MentalHealth#BipolarDisorder#BlackMentalHealth#Therapy#MentalHealthAwareness#RecoveryJourney#StigmaFree#EmotionalHealth#MESHpodcast#MentalWellness#African American Psychotherapists

    A Black Man’s Journey Through Bipolar Disorder

  8. Jun 17

    Inside Hospital Risk Management

    Healthcare systems can feel overwhelming, especially when patients or families are unsure whether their concerns will actually be heard. In this thoughtful episode of M.E.S.H., Dr. Pamela Brewer speaks with legal nurse consultant and Director of Risk Management Liesl Hall-Grant about what really happens behind the scenes in hospitals, how patient complaints are handled, and why communication, documentation, and teamwork are essential to safe and compassionate care. Together, they explore the emotional and practical realities of nursing, the role of patient advocacy, the importance of speaking up when something feels wrong, and how nurses navigate high-pressure environments while still providing deeply human care. The conversation also offers a clearer understanding of different nursing roles, legal and ethical responsibilities, and why bedside nursing remains such a vital part of healthcare. 🌟 Topics Covered:Legal nurse consulting explainedHow hospitals investigate patient complaintsThe role of risk management in healthcareWhy documentation matters medically and legallyDifferent types of nursing roles and responsibilitiesBedside nursing and emotional careNursing teamwork during long shiftsPatient advocacy and speaking upAdvanced practice registered nurses explainedNursing shortages and workforce challengesEmotional resilience in healthcare environmentsProfessional accountability in patient care Key takeaways:Patients have the right to express concerns about their care.Communication and documentation directly affect patient safety.Nursing is highly collaborative and team-driven work.Bedside nursing requires emotional intelligence and critical thinking.Risk management focuses on learning and improving systems of care.Speaking up can improve both patient experience and healthcare outcomes.Nurses carry both emotional and professional responsibility every shift.Compassion and professionalism can coexist even in stressful situations. Some questions I ask:What exactly does a legal nurse consultant do?What happens after a patient files a complaint?Should patients worry about retaliation if they speak up?Why is documentation so important in healthcare?How do nurses manage 12-hour shifts emotionally and physically?What role does teamwork play in nursing care?What is the difference between a CNA, LPN, RN, and nurse practitioner?Why are bedside nurses leaving the profession?How do nurses balance patient care with legal accountability?What should patients know about advocating for themselves? Learn more about our guest:Liesl Hall-GrantWebsite: www.dlgrantny.comLinkedIn: Liesl Hall-GrantEmail: lshdg66@gmail.comNew York Office of the Professions website for nursing information Connect with M.E.S.H. through the YouTube channel, LinkedIn page, and Substack community #Nursing#PatientAdvocacy#HealthcareLeadership#RiskManagement#NurseLife#MentalHealth#HospitalCare#HealthcareEducation#PatientSafety#MESHpodcast

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  • Creator
    Dr. Pamela Brewer
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    51
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    © 2026 Dr. Pamela Brewer
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