Tea Talks with Tez

Tez

Big sister tea on love, life, and lessons. I’m Tez, a Vietnamese Australian eldest daughter in her 30s, sharing vulnerable stories on relationships, womanhood, and breaking cultural norms. Pour yourself a cup and let’s grow, heal, and laugh together!

Episodes

  1. May 5

    The pressure to be Right (and why it's exhausting)

    What if the most exhausting thing you’re carrying… is the need to prove you made the right decision? This episode is about letting go of that pressure, and finding peace in choices that were simply true for you at the time. Thank you so much for being here… and for your patience with me lately 🤍 I’ve been quietly finding my rhythm again, and slowly introducing a video format alongside the podcast. It’s new, a little uncomfortable, and very much a work in progress, so I really appreciate you giving me the space and grace to evolve this in a way that feels true to me. This episode is a really honest reflection on something I didn’t realise was driving so much of my life… the need to be right. The need to prove that the decisions we’ve made — especially the big, life-altering ones — were worth it. In this episode, I talk about: Why the question “did I get it right?” can keep us stuckThe illusion of the “better” life path, and what we don’t see behind itThe pressure to prove ourselves after making hard decisionsHow ego, people-pleasing, and fear of judgment quietly shape our choicesRebuilding self-trust after decisions that change everythingThe paradox of self-awareness — and why it can sometimes paralyse usLearning to hold both growth and self-worth at the same timeWhy setting boundaries can feel so uncomfortable… but so necessaryRedefining what it means to be a “good person”And letting go of the need to prove that your life choices were “right”If this resonates, I’d really love to hear from you. Your feedback genuinely means so much to me as I continue to shape this space. And if you know someone who might need this reminder right now… send it their way 🤍 — Stay connected with me between episodes: Instagram: https://instagram.com/teatalkswithtez TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@teatalkswithtez YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@teatalkswithtez

    19 min
  2. 11/17/2025

    Beauty Standards & Cosmetic Surgery Pressures in your 20-30s

    In this episode, I dive into the complicated world of modern beauty standards — the pressure to look a certain way, the rise of cosmetic procedures, and the quiet internal battles so many women in their 20s and 30s are carrying alone. I’m opening up about my own reflections, the moments I’ve questioned my appearance, and the conversations I’ve had with friends, sisters, and my community about “fixing” ourselves in a world that constantly tells us we’re not enough. This episode isn’t about shaming any choice — whether you’ve had work done, you’re considering it, or you’re simply trying to make peace with your reflection. My hope is to bring compassion into the conversation, remind you that you’re not alone in the pressures you feel, and encourage deeper thought about the emotional and physical risks involved with invasive procedures, especially surgery. If you’ve ever felt confused, insecure, or overwhelmed by beauty expectations — this one’s for you. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and above all… be gentle with yourself. 💛 Thank you so much for being patient with my episodes and for tuning in. If you would like more to listen to more conversations I've had recently on fellow podcaster shows, you can find me on @phuocvus_walmak here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5cTihnF8vFIwSo7TJuLpij?si=iqW29FcQQUyWxVjURDvbpw @thetrueformpodcast here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ssjwRLRJtt0IOGHoBPmvV?si=Owx8fxS0SveWF1g1eOmQxA If this episode resonated with you, please follow Teatalkswithtez, share it with a friend who might need some big sister tea, and connect with me on Instagram and TikTok @teatalkswithtez

    26 min
  3. 09/10/2025

    Therapy Talk, Navigating Broken Engagement, Parent's Divorce, and Starting a Business

    Hi fam! In this episode I’m opening up about my journey with therapy, which started back in 2016 when I first had doubts about my engagement, and again after making the painful decision to end it. That began the canon event which led to the year that I now look back on as a huge turning point. 2017 was one of the most traumatic years of my life, filled with significant events that changed everything, and I often think of it as the moment my life split into two chapters: life before, and life after. Since then, I’ve gone through multiple rounds of therapy, and I want to share my experiences to help de-stigmatise getting support, as well as offer some tips on what to look for when choosing a therapist. This episode is a little heavier and I do briefly touch on eating disorders, so please listen with care. If you find this triggering, I’ve included links to support services below. I actually recorded this episode in October 2024, and it's wild to see how much has changed since then!! I’m now engaged to the person I knew was my future husband even back then, and I’ve also decided to close my business six months later, a story I’ll share more of in a future episode. ✨ Thank you so much for tuning in. If this episode resonated with you, please follow @teatalkswithtez, share it with a friend who might need some big sister tea, and connect with me on Instagram and TikTok (https://instagram.com/teatalkswithtez). Support Services (Australia): Lifeline (https://www.lifeline.org.au/) – 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention) Beyond Blue (https://www.beyondblue.org.au/) – 1300 22 4636 (mental health support) Butterfly Foundation (https://butterfly.org.au/) – 1800 33 4673 (support for eating disorders and body image) Shapes and Sounds (https://shapesandsounds.com.au/) – Asian Australian mental health and wellbeing resources Psychology Today – Directory to find therapists and counsellors near you - (https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling) If you’re listening from outside Australia, please check local services available in your country. 💛

    30 min

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Big sister tea on love, life, and lessons. I’m Tez, a Vietnamese Australian eldest daughter in her 30s, sharing vulnerable stories on relationships, womanhood, and breaking cultural norms. Pour yourself a cup and let’s grow, heal, and laugh together!