I Hope This Email Finds You Well

Neil Barrow

“I hope this email finds you well” is where business development gets real. Hosted by Neil Barrow, this show brings you candid conversations with business development professionals and leaders who know what it takes to grow. No fluff, no endless theory — just practical strategies, stories of wins (and failures), and the unfiltered lessons that actually move the needle. Whether you’re building your pipeline, closing bigger deals, or rethinking how you approach growth, each episode gives you tools you can use today. Listen in, level up, and let’s make business development simple, sustainable, and successful.

  1. Sep 16

    How to Create Deals Instead of Bidding for Them | with Dana Compton

    Today, I'm joined by Dana Compton, Director of Business Development at Ridgemont Commercial Construction. Dana doesn't wait for the bid list. She's built a career on getting in before there's a project at all, knowing about land before it hits the market, bringing in the civil engineer and the architect and the developer herself, and being there when the whole thing was still just dirt. The alternative, she says, is sending the same brochure as everyone else in your industry, the one with quality and safety and integrity and on time and on budget, and hoping somebody picks you. We get into how she does it. The relationship she started in 04 with someone who couldn't hire her, who called her sixteen years later from a role that could. Why she tells clients when not to hire her, and why that's the thing that earns the next job. How she researches a pursuit by talking to the architect who worked with them last, and what she asks. And the difference between being the person people are relieved to see walk in, and the person they're bracing for. If you're tired of finding out about projects when everyone else does, this one's for you. Let's get into it. Outline: 00:00:00 Cold Open and the BD Combo Meal00:05:32 Deep Research: Why Everyone's Brochure Says the Same Thing00:10:16 Your Life Is Bigger Than Your Pipeline00:15:00 BD Person vs. Dealmaker00:20:22 Making the Case, Making the Deal00:26:31 Starting Over: A New Network From Scratch00:32:23 A Third of the Day Is Research00:37:15 Inside a BD Meeting That Actually Works00:43:19 The Gift Basket That Got the Call Back

    How to Create Deals Instead of Bidding for Them | with Dana Compton
  2. Sep 2

    Your Biggest Client Is Waiting To Give You More Work | with Jaime Hochhausen

    Today, I'm joined by Jaime Hochhausen, Business Development Director at Ashurst Perkins Coie. The story at the center of this one is a client who spent over five million dollars with a firm and had never once been asked about other work, never been taken to lunch, nothing. He wasn't unhappy. He said the partner did a great job and he'd hire him again tomorrow. The work was just sitting there and nobody had gone and got it. One lunch later, Jaime had an employment pitch. We get into why partners don't ask, which is almost always fear of looking like a burden rather than laziness. We talk about the questions that surface the work, and why Jaime's years taking depositions turned out to be the skill that matters most, because there's always another question inside the answer. If you're sitting on a book of clients you suspect could be worth more, or you're a firm leader trying to work out where a client-facing BD person actually earns their keep, this one's for you. Let's get into it. Chapters: 00:00:00 Cold Open and the BD Combo Meal00:06:13 Why the Work Dies in the Follow-Up00:11:35 From Litigator to BD: What She Got Wrong First00:18:17 Forty Slides and No Idea What They Needed00:24:23 The $5M Client Nobody Ever Asked00:32:11 The Meeting That Wins Work Without a Deck00:37:27 Protecting the Time to Actually Go Ask00:44:45 Why Firms Plan and Never Execute00:50:19 Be the Connector: Where New Work Comes From

    Your Biggest Client Is Waiting To Give You More Work | with Jaime Hochhausen
  3. Aug 19

    The "Unicorn" Skillset Every Firm Wants | with Ravi Kumar

    Today, I’m joined by Ravi Kumar. He is the guy that founders and CFOs call when they're about to do a transaction that can make or break their company - like taking it public. He’s a partner at The Connor Group who has worked on hundreds of massive deals, and today we're breaking down what he calls the "Unicorn" skillset. We talk a lot on this show about the challenges of BD, but Ravi is the rare professional who can execute high-level technical delivery and seamlessly build deep, lucrative client relationships at the exact same time. He shares his playbook for how he transitioned from doing the work to winning the work, how he scales his time using a dedicated team, and why fighting internally over origination credit is the fastest way to kill your firm's growth. If you're looking for the "secret sauce" to turn a $20,000 initial project into a multi-million dollar, multi-year partnership, you're going to want to take notes on this one. Let's get into it. Chapters: 00:00:00 The "Unicorn" Skillset: Technical Expertise + Dealmaking 00:01:25 The 3 BD Takes: The Combo Meal 00:04:38 Top of Funnel vs. Closing the Deal: Why Partners Matter 00:07:03 The Customer Success Angle (Turning $20k into Millions) 00:08:32 Stop Fighting Over Credit: Grow the Pie, Don't Maximize Your Slice 00:12:14 Ravi's Origin Story: Building a Network Through Delivery 00:16:56 How to Integrate BD Into Your Daily Work (Social vs. Tactical) 00:21:32 Time Management and Prioritizing Your Pipeline 00:25:35 How to Successfully Transition Clients When Moving to Full-Time BD 00:30:49 Cross-Pollinating: Being Curious About Other Service Lines 00:33:42 "How Do I Make Another Ravi?" (Scaling Yourself with a Team) 00:37:56 What a Successful Week Actually Looks Like for an Elite Partner 00:40:16 The Long Game: Helping Executives Find Their Next Role 00:43:36 Looking Ahead: Preparing for the Next Wave of Tech IPOs 00:45:58 Final Thoughts: Trust and Long-Term Relationships Win

    The "Unicorn" Skillset Every Firm Wants | with Ravi Kumar
  4. Aug 5

    Lean Into the Chaos - The BD Advice That Shaped His Entire Career | with Chris Newman

    Today, I'm joined by Chris Newman, Chief Marketing and Business Development Officer at Mintz. Chris has spent his entire career inside AmLaw 100 firms and he's built a reputation for walking into ambiguous, undefined roles and turning them into growth engines. He's also the first-ever president of LSSO and has held leadership roles with LMA. What I love about this conversation is the through-line: chaos isn't the obstacle, it's the opening. Chris got that advice from a senior partner at Cravath early in his career, and you can trace it through every move he's made since — the blank-canvas BD role where he used Bloomberg terminals to spot the '08 crisis before the partners did, the cross-sell culture he built at Cooley, the nine years at McDermott where he helped build the BD system that a lot of the Activator Advantage research came out of. We also get into why he pushes firms past their own comfortable vocabulary, why "full service" is quietly hurting your cross-sell, and why the how is almost always harder to move past leadership than the why. If you're in a role nobody has clearly defined, or you're trying to change behavior at a firm that likes how it's always done things, this one's for you. Let's get into it. Chapters: 00:00:00 Cold Open: Lean Into the Chaos 00:01:00 The BD Combo Meal: Chaos Creates Opportunity 00:03:04 Authenticity Starts at the Top (The Sneaker Story) 00:05:36 Simplify to Maximize — and Why We Keep Chasing the New 00:08:47 Origin Story: Falling Into BD at Cravath 00:13:10 Seeing '08 Coming: How Bloomberg Built His Credibility 00:17:07 Cooley: Building a Cross-Sell Culture From Scratch 00:20:59 A Healthy Daily Diet of Information 00:24:14 The "Full Service" Trap and Disrupting Firm Language 00:27:28 McDermott: The BD System Behind the Activator Advantage 00:31:33 CRM: The Expense Report Hack That Changed Behavior 00:35:44 What Effective Attorney BD Training Actually Looks Like 00:40:24 Year One at Mintz: The Mobilizers Team Charter 00:44:32 Can You Actually Influence Leadership? 00:48:47 The Why Is Easy. The How Is Where Behavior Changes. 00:50:51 Client Experience Is the Next Frontier 00:54:24 LMA, LSSO, and the Case for Smaller Conferences 00:56:00 Wrap Up

    Lean Into the Chaos - The BD Advice That Shaped His Entire Career | with Chris Newman
  5. Jul 22

    How to Source Your First Big Win (Without a Network)

    Today, I’m joined by my friend Lydia Donnell, the VP of Business Development at Root Engineering, a commercial real estate design firm based right here in Dallas-Fort Worth. On this podcast, I usually talk to professionals who have a decade or more of experience in business development. But what I love about this conversation is that Lydia is exactly three and a half years into her BD career. She's right there on the ground, reflecting on exactly what it takes to build a sustainable, revenue-producing network from absolute scratch. We talk about the hard transition from casting a wide net to finding your firm's "slam dunk zones," why trying to be a "jack of all trades" is the worst thing you can do for your marketing message, and the controversial truth about whether office drop-ins actually work. We also get into the weeds on how to leverage ancillary relationships - like general contractors and developers - to feed opportunities directly to your ideal clients. If you are in the first few years of your business development career, or you're a firm leader trying to figure out how to properly support your newest BD hire, you're going to get a lot out of this one. Let's get into it. Timestamps: 00:00:00 Cold Open: The Pride of Landing Your First Big Deal 00:00:19 Introduction: Neil Welcomes Lydia Donnell 00:01:34 Why We Are Talking About the First 3 Years in BD 00:02:10 The BD Combo Meal: 3 Hot Takes in 5 Minutes 00:02:48 Take 1: Why Leadership Support is Make-or-Break 00:04:40 Take 2: Do Office Drop-Ins Actually Work? 00:07:31 Take 3: The Danger of the "Jack of All Trades" Marketing Message 00:10:39 Getting Uncomfortable and the Vulnerability of "Making the Ask" 00:12:44 Lydia's Origin Story: Starting BD from Scratch at a Bank 00:17:13 Why Casting a Wide Net Will Kill Your ROI 00:21:20 Finding Extreme Clarity in a New Industry 00:24:23 The Trap of the New: Balancing Prospects vs. Existing Clients 00:26:45 How to Build a Powerful Network Using Ancillary Relationships (COIs) 00:29:45 The Golden Hour: Why In-Person Lunch Meetings Drive the Best Results 00:32:39 Evolving Your Role: Offloading Admin Tasks to Focus on Revenue 00:35:27 The BD Handoff: Earning Trust With Your Technical Delivery Team 00:38:09 The Exact Questions Lydia Asks to Uncover Client Pain Points 00:40:14 Sourcing and Closing That Critical First Deal 00:44:03 Opening a New Office and Enabling the "Seller-Doer" Model 00:47:11 Final Advice: The Go-Giver Mindset and Intentional Networking

    How to Source Your First Big Win (Without a Network)
  6. Jun 24

    Stop Training Your Team. Start Coaching Them. | with Darryl Cross

    In this episode of I Hope This Email Finds You Well, Neil Barrow sits down with Darryl Cross, Chief Global Collaboration Officer at Norton Rose Fulbright, to dissect exactly what it takes to build a high-performance business development culture. Darryl breaks down the critical mistake most professional services firms make: confusing basic training with actual coaching. If your firm is relying on a few natural rainmakers or struggling to get professionals to consistently drive new business after an 8-hour seminar, this conversation provides the blueprint. Darryl shares his "proficiency model" for scaling BD skills across hundreds of professionals, why you must stop pitching your past credentials (The SWAN Principle), and why treating business development like elite sports coaching is the ultimate key to firm-wide growth. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction & The BD Combo Meal 01:41 The "SWAN Principle": Sell the Future, Not the Past 03:16 Why You Need a Real Reason to Collaborate 04:14 Walking Backwards in the Client's Shoes 05:27 Darryl's Origin Story: Selling Gym Memberships at 16 14:41 The Trap of "Credibility Pitching" vs. Real Differentiation 20:44 The Critical Difference Between Training and Coaching 24:06 The "Proficiency Model" for Scaling Firm Revenue 28:55 Reflective Coaching: How to Actually Coach a Partner 30:35 The Astronaut Analogy: Why Simulation is Mandatory 34:22 Navigating Global Business Development Cultures 36:51 Using Data to Predict What Your Clients Need 39:36 The Secret to Elite Performance (And The "Closed Door")

    Stop Training Your Team. Start Coaching Them. | with Darryl Cross

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“I hope this email finds you well” is where business development gets real. Hosted by Neil Barrow, this show brings you candid conversations with business development professionals and leaders who know what it takes to grow. No fluff, no endless theory — just practical strategies, stories of wins (and failures), and the unfiltered lessons that actually move the needle. Whether you’re building your pipeline, closing bigger deals, or rethinking how you approach growth, each episode gives you tools you can use today. Listen in, level up, and let’s make business development simple, sustainable, and successful.