Women Are Not Okay

Crystal A.

💬 Women Are Not Okay™  is the midlife confession booth for women who are tired AF of holding it all together.   We talk healing, boundaries, relationships, detachment, and the messy middle of becoming the woman you actually want to be.   Come for the honesty. Stay for the relief.

  1. 3d ago

    Toxic Positivity | Why It Hurts, and What to Say Instead

    Send us Fan Mail Toxic Positivity, Why It Hurts, and What to Say Instead Crystal opens this solo episode with gratitude for listener support, then moves into a clear explanation of toxic positivity and how it shows up in everyday conversations. The episode matters because it names a pattern many people have absorbed from family, self-help culture, and social media, and offers a healthier way to respond to pain.In this episode, Crystal shares how toxic positivity can make people feel isolated, guilty, and unheard when they are already struggling. She also offers practical language and small exercises for sitting with hard feelings instead of rushing past them. Key topics Crystal reflects on the response to episode one and explains why the podcast exists: to name real struggles that women often hide.She defines toxic positivity as forced positivity that skips over pain and replaces it with quick silver linings like “everything happens for a reason.”She explains why forced optimism can be isolating, because it adds guilt on top of the original hardship.Crystal traces where this behavior comes from, including social media highlight reels, spiritual “high vibration only” culture, and decades of self-help messaging.She connects toxic positivity to how many women were raised, especially Gen X women who were taught to minimize feelings and “be fine.”She shares her own habit of reframing pain too quickly, describing it as avoidance dressed up as optimism.She explains that naming emotions honestly, like saying “I feel devastated,” is part of nervous system regulation and real processing.Crystal describes how toxic positivity shows up in friendships, family, and everyday check-ins when people respond with “at least” or “focus on the positive.”She gives five signs you may be doing it yourself, including feeling guilty for sadness, reaching for quotes too fast, hiding feelings, ignoring problems, and dismissing others.She closes with practical alternatives: sit with the hard thing for 60 seconds, validate the feeling, and respond to others with empathy instead of a silver lining.Timestamps 00:00 - Listener gratitude and why the show exists 02:23 - Introducing toxic positivity and how it shows up in real life 04:19 - Why positivity is not the problem, but forced positivity is 06:01 - Where we learn toxic positivity from 08:27 - Social media highlight reels and the pressure to look okay 09:46 - “High vibration only” thinking and spiritualized avoidance 10:36 - Self-help culture and the myth that happiness is always a choice 12:02 - How family messaging trained many women to swallow hard feelings 13:35 - Crystal’s own habit of reframing pain instead of feeling it 16:41 - Why naming emotions honestly helps you process them 17:38 - How toxic positivity sounds when other people use it on you 19:08 - Why women often hide real feelings to protect others 20:18 - What to do instead when you are hurting 21:12 - Five signs you may be using toxic positivity yourself 23:56 - A better response: “This really sucks, and that’s allowed” 25:33 - How to support someone else without cheering them up too fast 26:35 - Crystal’s closing question and invitation to reflect Action items Practice saying, “This really sucks, and that’s allowed.”Give yourself 60 seconds to feel something before reaching for a lesson or silver lining.When someone shares pain, respond with validation instead of advice or a quick positive spin.Notice when you use phrases like “at least” or “everything happens for a reason.”Check whether your positivity is comfort, or avoidance.💋 Women Are Not Okay™ Podcast Real life. Real struggles. Real conversations. Questionable coping skills. 😂 No perfection. No pretending. Just women figuring this shit out together. ✨ Follow & Connect:  📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenarenotokay/ 📬 Join the community: linktr.ee/womenarenotokay 📬 Questions or comments? Email Crystal at hello@womenarenotokay.com

  2. Sep 11

    I Ghosted My Own Podcast... Let's Talk About It....

    Send us Fan Mail Women Are Not Okay: Why I Ghosted My Own Podcast Crystal returns to open season two with a raw explanation of where she’s been, why the show disappeared for nine months, and what changed enough to bring it back. This episode is less about a comeback announcement and more about the mental health, midlife, and identity crisis that made consistency impossible.Crystal shares how trying to build for the algorithm pulled her away from the real mission of the show: honest connection with women who are exhausted, overwhelmed, and trying to hold it all together. Key topics In this episode, Crystal explains that what she thought would be a short podcast break turned into a nine month disappearance, with the show quietly slipping off her radar while life got heavier.She opens up about building content around what she thought she should make, instead of what felt true, and how that drifted her away from the original purpose of Women Are Not Okay.Crystal talks about the pressure of social media and the algorithm, and how chasing growth and reach can crowd out the connection that actually matters.She describes the hidden labor of content creation, including the time, energy, money, and emotional output it takes before anything ever gets posted.Crystal gets honest about self-doubt, comparing herself to polished creators, and questioning whether her work mattered if she wasn’t getting immediate feedback.She shares the heavier truth underneath the creator burnout: depression, disconnection, difficulty with basic decisions, and feeling like she was functioning on the outside while falling apart privately.Crystal reflects on a larger midlife reckoning involving work, marriage, identity, purpose, and whether the life she built still fits who she is becoming.She talks about trying to reconnect with family, friends, and herself at the same time, and how exhausting it is to perform being fine while healing is still unfinished.A conversation with her sister-in-law becomes a turning point when she says the podcast helps her, reminding Crystal that quiet impact still counts even when it is not publicly visible.Crystal reconnects with the show’s original mission: not perfection, not trends, and not the algorithm, but authenticity, mental health honesty, and community for women who feel alone.Timestamps 00:00 - Season two returns after a nine month disappearance 01:10 - Realizing the last episode was months ago 02:09 - Friends kept asking when she would come back 03:10 - Why she started making the wrong kind of content 04:07 - Why hearing from other midlife creators mattered 05:07 - Mental health, menopause, and the missing conversation 06:02 - The hidden cost of content creation 07:03 - How chasing growth killed the connection 08:22 - Built for emotionally exhausted women 08:59 - Self-doubt takes over 09:44 - Comparing herself to polished creators 11:01 - The highlight reel versus real exhaustion 11:34 - The deeper depressive spiral 12:32 - Looking functional while falling apart 13:29 - Reassessing work, marriage, and identity 14:37 - Midlife as a painful audit of your life 14:59 - Trying to reconnect while disconnected from herself 15:38 - Healing and performing at the same time 16:39 - The sister-in-law comment that changed everything 18:02 - Hearing another midlife podcast confirm the pattern 19:48 - Why she started the show in the first 💋 Women Are Not Okay™ Podcast Real life. Real struggles. Real conversations. Questionable coping skills. 😂 No perfection. No pretending. Just women figuring this shit out together. ✨ Follow & Connect:  📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenarenotokay/ 📬 Join the community: linktr.ee/womenarenotokay 📬 Questions or comments? Email Crystal at hello@womenarenotokay.com

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💬 Women Are Not Okay™  is the midlife confession booth for women who are tired AF of holding it all together.   We talk healing, boundaries, relationships, detachment, and the messy middle of becoming the woman you actually want to be.   Come for the honesty. Stay for the relief.