We Take the Stairs Podcast

Rachael Sher and Jackson Young
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The two hosts of We Take the Stairs, Rachael and Jackson have a mission to help change the lives of men. They aim to do this through authentic storytelling, personal growth, faith, and transformative dialogue. Their rich tapestry of experience from different backgrounds and life experiences create a podcast that resonates with honesty, empathy, and hope. As co-hosts, they bring to the table a deep belief in the power of connection, whether through conviction, kindness, or shared stories, to inspire change and build bridges between people. Their discussions are grounded in sincerity and an openness to learn from one another. With a commitment to honesty, humility, and empowerment, they invite listeners into a space where vulnerability meets transformation, encouraging everyone to take the stairs—one meaningful step at a time.

  1. Sep 19

    He Tried to Disprove the Bible. It Changed His Life. | Ft. Josh

    Episode Summary Most men aren't failing because they're weak — they're failing because they've been lied to. Red pill masculinity, New Age philosophy, self-help culture, social media success gurus — Josh has tried all of it. He spent a decade as an atheist, went deep into psychedelics and New Age spirituality, built a business, got married — and still hit rock bottom. Then he picked up the Bible to disprove it, and read the whole thing in a year and a half. What follows is one of the most honest testimonies We Take the Stairs has recorded. Josh doesn't preach. He maps it — the deception, the breakdown, the surrender, and what the other side actually looks like. And he leaves every man listening with one clear challenge: you can't get the promotion without the preparation, and you can't skip the painful season to get there. Guest Josh — Entrepreneur, faith leader, and man of faith based in West Palm Beach, Florida. Josh grew up without a father, spent a decade searching through atheism, New Age, and psychedelics before encountering Jesus two years ago. He now leads men and serves in his local church community, working to break generational cycles and build the kind of brotherhood he never had growing up. Chapters 00:00 — The One Question: Men Are Deceived00:53 — No One's Coming to Save You — The Lie That Destroys Men01:47 — Boys in Men's Bodies — The Rite of Passage Nobody Gives Anymore02:39 — Don't Blame Jesus When Men Play Him Badly04:39 — A Decade of Atheism, New Age & Psychedelics — Still Empty06:25 — Two Conversations: Men in the World vs. Men in the Church07:44 — I Loved My Conditions, Not Myself — The Marriage Breakdown28:56 — You Can Glorify God in All Things — Even the Fight33:19 — Find a Mentor. The Greatest One Is the Holy Spirit.44:08 — The Push-Up Story: Correction With Love46:44 — Grace as a Permission Slip — The False Version of Christ47:27 — Fear of God Isn't Fearing His Presence — It's Fearing His Absence57:26 — Suffering Is God's Preparation for Promotion Key Topics Covered Men Are Deceived — Josh's immediate answer: men aren't weak — they're deceived. By red pill culture, by manifesting, by the no-one's-coming-to-save-you narrative that turns men inward and isolates them from the one relationship that can actually help.Boys in Men's Bodies — One of the most piercing observations of the episode. Most men were never initiated into manhood. There was no rite of passage. No father to look them in the eye and say, this is who you are now. The result is a generation of boys navigating adult lives with no framework for what a man is supposed to be.Don't Blame Jesus When Men Play Him Badly — Josh's father was on his fourth marriage, abusing his family, and professing Christianity — and it kept Josh from Jesus for 28 years. His reframe: don't blame Mozart if someone plays him badly. The failure is in the player, not the composer.A Decade of Searching — And Still Empty — Atheism. New Age. Psychedelics. Business success. Marriage. Josh had everything the world said would make him whole — and was still crippled with depression and anxiety. It took his marriage nearly collapsing before he dropped to his knees and found out the difference between loving himself and loving his conditions.He Read the Bible to Disprove It — One of the most compelling conversion stories this show has heard. Josh didn't come to faith gently. He came to it as a skeptic, Bible in hand, trying to find the holes. Two years later, his life is unrecognizable.The Push-Up Story — A social media video Josh shares that stops the conversation cold. A six-year-old boy talks back to his mother. The father corrects him — push-ups, tears, and then a full embrace: we do not talk to your mom that way. I love you so much. Correction with love. Both sides. That's what men need and most never had.Grace as a Permission Slip — Josh names one of the most dangerous distortions in the modern church: using Jesus's grace as a green light to keep sinning. He draws a clear line — if you love him, you do what he says. Grace isn't permission. It's power.Suffering Is Preparation for Promotion — The closing framework that ties everything together. God's seasons of pruning, wilderness, and refining fire aren't punishment. They're preparation. You can't have authority over something you haven't battled. You can't be promoted to something you haven't been prepared for. Scriptures Referenced John 15 — Abide in me, I am the vine and you are the branches2 Corinthians 12 — My grace is sufficient for youProverbs — A wise man seeks many advisorsJob — Everything taken away, faith made pure, blessed with doubleMatthew 19:26 — With God all things are possible Key Quotes "Men are deceived — by culture, by society, by the lie that no one's coming to save you." — Josh "Don't blame Mozart if someone plays Mozart badly. A lot of people blame Jesus when people play Jesus badly." — Josh "I didn't love myself. I loved my conditions." — Josh "Fear of God is not fearing the presence of God. It's fearing not having God." — Josh "You can't get the promotion without the preparation — and you can't be prepared without refinement." — Josh "If you're in a painful season, there must be something really good coming from this." — Josh "Men do want to be held to a high standard. They just don't have spaces that will actually give it to them." — Josh Practical Takeaways If you don't have a father or role model, go find one — they're out there and they want to pour into younger menAudit who you're surrounding yourself with — the people around you are shaping your path whether you know it or notIf you're in a painful season, don't rush out of it — ask what God is preparing you for through it

  2. Sep 12

    Stop Hiding It. It's Growing in the Dark. | Ft. Caleb Read

    Episode Summary The wisest man who ever lived fell to it. The strongest man who ever lived fell to it. And today, at 20 years old, Caleb — a camp counselor, youth ministry leader, and man who was first exposed to pornography by a family member at age 10 — is one of the most honest voices on this show about what the oversexualization of culture is actually doing to men. This episode doesn't flinch. Caleb names the problem, traces it back to its roots, shares what happened when he started having the conversation in a room of high school boys, and explains the one framework that actually moves the needle — not willpower, not avoidance, but accountability dragged into the light. Guest Caleb — 20-year-old youth ministry leader, camp counselor, and man of faith based in West Palm Beach, Florida. Caleb serves high school men weekly, leads a lust accountability group, and is engaged to be married. He has been on the front lines of this issue since childhood and brings a rare combination of personal testimony and practical ministry experience. Chapters 00:00 — The One Question: Oversexualization of Culture00:59 — Samson and Solomon: The Wisest and Strongest Men Both Fell01:50 — You Can't Just Avoid the Street Anymore — It's Everywhere04:12 — How Caleb Was Raised: Homeschool, Church, and Passport to Purity06:02 — Exposed at Age 10 — And What Those Two Years Did to His Mind08:21 — The Perception Was Already Skewed Before the Conversation32:47 — Over 80% of Men Are Experiencing Porn — It's Not If, It's When38:45 — Nine Out of Ten Boys at Camp: "I Have a Porn Addiction"41:41 — Greater Exposure Requires Greater Self-Control — Not Less Standard45:19 — The Solution: Purposeful, Intimate Accountability With Other Men47:54 — The Group Chat: Free or Not Free — Every Morning50:03 — The Bird You Can't Stop and the Second Look You Can Key Topics Covered The Oversexualization of Culture — Caleb's answer is immediate and unambiguous: the sheer abundance and unavoidability of sexual content is the defining crisis for men today. It's not the beach anymore. It's school, the mall, Pinterest, YouTube. Boys aren't seeking it out — it's finding them.Samson and Solomon — One of the most powerful biblical anchors of the episode. If the strongest man and the wisest man in Scripture both fell to lust, what does that say about the standard required today — and the humility required to admit you need help?Exposed at Age 10 — Caleb's personal story is told with remarkable honesty. A family member introduced him to pornography at age 10. By the time his father took him through Passport to Purity at 12, the damage was already done. He felt guilt — but not freedom. That gap between knowing it's wrong and being free from it is where millions of men live permanently.Nine Out of Ten Boys at Camp — After serving as a camp counselor, Caleb sat across from boy after boy from his own church who said the same thing: I have an addiction to pornography. Not a handful. Not a few. Nine out of ten. His response wasn't despair — it was a group chat.The Group Chat: Free or Not Free — One of the most practically powerful moments of the show. Caleb leads a group of 20+ high school guys who text one word every morning: free or not free. No judgment. No lectures. Just honesty in community. And that honesty is what strips the addiction of its power.Leave It in the Dark, It Grows Like Mold — The core framework Caleb returns to throughout: pornography is designed to isolate. It tells you you're the only one. The moment you drag it into community, it starts to lose its grip. Don't hide sin under the rug — what's left in the dark grows.The Bird and the Second Look — Caleb's practical teaching for his guys: you can't stop the first thought — your brain has been rewired. But you can stop the second look. You can make a decision in that moment: that's God's daughter. That's where the battle is actually fought.Identity in Christ, Not in the World — The closing challenge Caleb gives to anyone still searching: stop looking for value in the world. The world will never give you enough. Christ already told you what you're worth — and the standard he set doesn't shift based on what's trending. Scriptures Referenced Proverbs — Don't walk down the prostitute's roadEcclesiastes 1:9 — Nothing new under the sun1 Corinthians 6 — Flee sexual immoralityThe stories of Samson and Solomon — strength and wisdom defeated by lust Key Quotes "The wisest man and the strongest man were both defeated by lust — and they had far less access to it than we do today." — Caleb "You keep leaving your addiction under the rug — it's going to keep growing like mold." — Caleb "Porn is meant to isolate you. Bringing community into it makes it lose its power." — Caleb "You can't stop the bird from flying over your head — but you can keep it from making a nest there." — Caleb "You can't stop the first thought. But you can stop the second look." — Caleb "Stop looking for your identity in the world. There's a much better place to find it." — Caleb "In Jesus, things are made new — and you become different because you become more like him." — Rachael Practical Takeaways Don't hide it — drag it into community where it loses its powerStart a free or not free accountability thread with one other man and grow from thereWhen you see a woman, stop at the first thought — remind yourself whose daughter she is and move on

  3. Sep 12

    The Tower You Built Around Yourself | Ft. Toby DeMoss

    Episode Summary Most men aren't just disconnected from others — they're disconnected from themselves. And according to Toby DeMoss — musician, artist, and a man who survived a traumatic brain and neck injury, a devastating breakup, disability rejection, and a panic attack alone in a shower — the word that sits at the root of every problem men are facing today is one: isolation. Not the kind you notice. The quiet kind. The kind where you're still showing up, still functioning, still looking good in the glass — but rotting on the inside like a dead turtle in a mason jar. Toby tells three of the most vivid, honest, and unexpectedly funny stories this podcast has ever heard. And by the end, the diagnosis is clear — and so is the cure. Guest Toby DeMoss — Musician, artist, storyteller, and man of faith based in West Palm Beach, Florida. Toby has walked through chronic pain, identity collapse, and deep isolation — and come out the other side with a framework for honesty that is both clinically wise and spiritually rooted. Chapters 00:00 — The One Question: Isolation00:43 — The Three-Headed Problem — Three Stories to Explain It01:25 — Story 1: The Half-Truth Journal — Lying to Yourself05:38 — Story 2: Bruno the Turtle — Looking Fine Until Someone Gets Close08:35 — The Brain Injury Nobody Knew the Extent Of33:37 — God, I Give You One Week — Isaiah 1 and the Turning Point37:57 — Suffering Is the Bridge From Immaturity to Maturity41:50 — Story 3: Rapunzel — The Panic Attack in the Shower45:33 — The Roommate Who Didn't Wait to Be Invited In01:04:26 — The Victor Hugo Move: Get Alone and Get Honest01:06:36 — Isolation From God — What Communion Actually Means Key Topics Covered Isolation From Self — The first head of the problem. Men are so schedule-maxed and scroll-addicted that they never give themselves blank space to be honest about how they're actually doing. Toby calls it lying to your journal — telling yourself the story you want to be true instead of the one that is.Bruno the Turtle — One of the most memorable analogies this show has ever had. A dead turtle Toby found on the beach looked beautiful in a glass jar — right up until someone got close enough to tap on it. Men do the same thing. They look fine from the outside. But if no one ever gets close enough to check, the decay goes unnoticed until it's too late.Isolation From Others — The second head. Men suffer alone because they believe no one will understand. Toby names this as the lie of Mother Gothel — the voice that says it's safer in the tower. The cure isn't going to therapy. Sometimes it's a roommate who doesn't wait to be invited in.The Traumatic Brain Injury and Identity Collapse — Toby's personal story is raw and gripping. A neck and brain injury took away his photography business, his athletics, and his sense of self — all at once. He gave God one week. He opened to Isaiah 1. And something broke open.Suffering Is the Bridge — Romans 5 lived out in real time. Toby traces how suffering produces perseverance, which produces character, which produces hope. Not as a platitude — as a testimony from someone who had to live it in a dark room with a noise machine on.Isolation From God — The third and deepest head. Communion with God isn't a structured quiet time. It's honest conversation. Toby's definition of communion — the sharing and exchanging of intimate feelings — reframes what prayer is actually supposed to look like for men.The Victor Hugo Move — Victor Hugo locked himself in a room with nothing but a gray shawl and wrote Les Misérables. Toby applies the same principle: create margins on the page, get alone with Jesus, and let honesty do its work. Scriptures Referenced Isaiah 1:18 — Come now, let us reason togetherPsalm 25 — The friendship of the Lord is for those who fear himPsalm 62 — Pour your hearts out to the LordPsalm 19 — The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soulGalatians 6:2 — Bear one another's burdensJohn 15 — No longer servants but friendsRomans 5 — Suffering produces perseverance, character, hope Key Quotes "The problem is isolation. The answer is honesty." — Toby "Are you lying to your journal? Telling stories to yourself that aren't true?" — Toby "You might look amazing from the outside — but someone needs to get close enough to tap on the glass." — Toby "Safety breeds honesty and creativity." — Toby "Suffering is a bridge from immaturity to maturity." — Toby "Get alone with Jesus more often. Create some margins on that page." — Toby "Plans fail for lack of counsel — but with many advisors they succeed." — Toby (Proverbs 15:22) Practical Takeaways Create white space in your day — blank, unscheduled time to be honest with yourself about how you're actually doingIf you're in a good place right now, go find someone who seems down and tap on the glassGet alone with God and pour it all out — not trickles, not formalities, the real stuff

  4. Sep 12

    The Opposite Of Addiction is Connection | Ft. Mark Glicini

    Episode Summary Most men aren't broken — they're disconnected. And according to Mark, a performance coach and mental toughness specialist who has worked with elite athletes and executives, that one word is at the root of nearly everything men are struggling with today. This episode blends sports psychology, neuroscience, and lived experience into one of the most practically rich conversations We Take the Stairs has had. Mark doesn't theorize. He coaches. And what he offers is a framework any man can actually use. Guest Mark Glicini — Performance coach, lacrosse veteran, and mental toughness specialist working with elite athletes, executives, and teams across the country. He is also on a board for a breast cancer awareness foundation and is a community leader in West Palm Beach. Chapters 00:00 — The One Question: Disconnection Is the Root00:42 — The Opposite of Addiction Is Connection02:18 — Why Men Miss the Locker Room More Than the Game07:39 — Aristotle's Golden Mean: Too Far Either Way and You Lose12:06 — No One Is Creating Space for Men to Feel19:51 — Mark's Story: Being Sidelined and Rewriting the Script24:11 — Psychological Safety Is Presence of Connection, Not Absence of Threat44:50 — Standards Plus Grace: How Men Hold Themselves Accountable51:00 — Hubris in Men, Under-Confidence in Women58:27 — Three Practical Steps: Self-Awareness, Goals & Belief System Key Topics Covered Disconnection Is the Root — Men were built to hunt in packs, fight in teams, live in community. The modern world stripped that away and replaced it with nothing.The Opposite of Addiction Is Connection — Drawing from Dr. Gabor Maté: addiction isn't primarily a substance problem. It's a belonging problem.Why Men Miss the Locker Room — What elite athletes grieve most isn't the competition. It's the brotherhood. The shared mission. And that's hardwired into every man.Standards Plus Grace — A man needs clear standards and the grace to fail without losing his identity. Build the bridge of trust before you ever deliver the truth.Three Practical Steps — Self-awareness through mentors and mirrors. Clear goals pursued consistently. And a belief system constantly updated — because a belief is a repeated thought charged with emotion, and if you don't interrupt it, it runs your life. Key Quotes "The opposite of addiction is connection." — Mark "Psychological safety is not the absence of threat — it's the presence of connection." — Mark "At the nucleus of mental toughness is optimism — a deep, faith-filled, intentional knowing that things will work out." — Mark "Men can't win. There is no scenario we are creating in this world where a man can win." — Rachael "Men are human beings. Not human doings." — Rachael Practical Takeaways Build a personal board of advisors who will tell you where you're being stupidChange the script when isolated: I'm alone on an adventure to expand my identityUpdate your belief system daily — you are what you rehearse SEO Keywords Primary: Christian podcast for men · men and disconnection · mental toughness for men · male identity and belonging · men's community and purpose Secondary: opposite of addiction is connection · Gabor Maté men podcast · performance coaching athletes · standards and grace for men · belief system identity men · locker room culture belonging · self awareness goals men Long-Tail: why men feel disconnected in modern society · how to build a personal board of advisors · mental toughness podcast for men and athletes · how disconnection leads to addiction and isolation · men's podcast about identity purpose and community

  5. Jul 31

    How to Lead When Life Throws You a Curveball | ft. Jonathan Moser

    Episode SummaryWhat does it really mean to be a strong man today? In this powerful conversation, Jonathan Moser shares his deeply personal journey through bipolar disorder, entrepreneurship, marriage, fatherhood, and faith. He opens up about seasons of overwhelming depression, the pressure many men carry in silence, and how learning servant leadership transformed both his family and his life. Together, they explore why modern men often feel trapped between conflicting expectations, the importance of finding identity beyond performance, and how humility, conviction, and community help men navigate life's hardest seasons. Whether you're a husband, father, entrepreneur, or simply searching for purpose, this conversation offers practical wisdom, hope, and encouragement for anyone striving to lead with courage, integrity, and faith. GuestJonathan Moser is an entrepreneur, filmmaker, creative director, and founder of Eternal Perspective Productions. He shares his experience living with bipolar disorder while leading a business, raising a family, and pursuing a life grounded in Christian faith. Through his honesty and vulnerability, Jonathan encourages others to embrace humility, resilience, and purpose while refusing to let their struggles define their identity. Chapters00:00 I Didn't Know If I'd Make It 01:27 The Biggest Problem Facing Men Today 04:45 Why Society Is Failing Men 10:58 What Real Masculinity Looks Like 16:35 Why Men Need Brotherhood 19:15 The Pressure Modern Men Carry 23:50 Living With Bipolar Disorder 29:47 Standing Firm Without Losing Humility 31:05 Marriage Through Mental Health Struggles 35:44 Performance Doesn't Define Your Worth 40:39 Why Men Hide Their Pain 45:31 Learning to Lead Through Humility 49:09 Marriage, Faith & Choosing Love Every Day 56:14 Hope for Men and Families 58:14 Final Encouragement Key Topics CoveredModern MasculinityWhy many men struggle to balance strength, humility, leadership, and compassion in today's culture. Mental HealthJonathan shares his nine-year journey living with bipolar disorder and the lessons he's learned through both the highs and the lows. Identity Beyond PerformanceWhy your worth should never be determined by your income, productivity, career, or achievements. Marriage & RelationshipsPractical lessons on communication, choosing love daily, navigating conflict, and growing stronger together. FatherhoodHow fathers can model humility, integrity, responsibility, and faith for the next generation. Faith & LeadershipHow servant leadership creates stronger families, healthier relationships, and more meaningful lives. BrotherhoodThe importance of surrounding yourself with strong men who challenge, encourage, and support one another. ResilienceBuilding discipline, embracing hard things, and developing the mindset needed to overcome adversity. VulnerabilityWhy honest conversations about mental health help remove shame and encourage healing. PurposeFinding lasting fulfillment by living according to your convictions instead of chasing society's expectations. SEO Keywordsmodern masculinity, men's mental health, bipolar disorder, Christian leadership, servant leadership, fatherhood, marriage advice, men's struggles, mental health podcast, identity in Christ, Christian podcast, men's purpose, faith and mental health, leadership, resilience, vulnerability, entrepreneurship, husband and father, emotional health, personal growth

  6. Jul 24

    Why Men Today Are Failing Their Families (And Don't Even Know It) Ft. John

    Episode Summary What does it really mean to protect the people you love? In this episode of We Take The Stairs, Rachel and Jackson sit down with a special guest whose background in military service and personal security has shaped a unique perspective on fatherhood, leadership, and personal responsibility. Drawing from decades of experience, he shares practical lessons on situational awareness, raising resilient children, protecting your family, and developing the character needed to navigate an increasingly complex world. Together, they explore modern masculinity, the challenges facing fathers today, the importance of moral leadership, the impact of social media on families, healthy communication between men and women, and why true influence begins with the people closest to you. Whether you're a parent, veteran, husband, or simply looking to become a stronger leader, this conversation offers timeless principles for living with courage, integrity, and purpose. Guest Our special guest is a military veteran, security professional, instructor, and father who has spent decades training individuals in personal protection, situational awareness, and leadership. Through his work and personal experiences raising his daughter, he shares practical wisdom on responsibility, resilience, ethical decision-making, and preparing families to navigate today's challenges with confidence and integrity. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Biggest Challenges Facing Men Today 01:37 Situational Awareness and Protecting Your Family 05:36 Raising Strong Children in the Social Media Age 08:10 Preventing Dangerous Situations Before They Happen 09:55 Lessons from Raising a Daughter as a Single Father 12:02 Building a Life Around Ethics and Good Choices 16:27 Military Brotherhood and the Challenges Veterans Face 19:57 Why Men Often Struggle to Ask for Help 24:58 Communication Between Men and Women 28:41 Faith, Purpose, and Personal Values 30:20 Finding a Moral Compass in a Changing Culture 41:20 Living with Conviction While Respecting Others 43:16 Influencing the People Closest to You 49:09 Parenting, Presence, and Avoiding Modern Distractions 52:20 Success Without Sacrificing Your Family 54:14 Learning Practical Self-Defense 58:19 Non-Lethal Protection and Personal Safety 01:01:11 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Key Topics Covered Situational AwarenessWhy learning to recognize danger early is one of the most valuable skills parents can teach their children. Fatherhood and LeadershipHow fathers shape confidence, resilience, and character by leading through example rather than fear. Raising Children in a Digital WorldProtecting children from unhealthy influences while teaching critical thinking, responsibility, and good judgment. Military Service and BrotherhoodWhy many veterans struggle after leaving military life and how meaningful community can support the transition. Healthy MasculinityEncouraging men to embrace responsibility, courage, emotional strength, and servant leadership instead of cultural stereotypes. Communication Between Men and WomenUnderstanding why men often hesitate to be vulnerable and how healthier communication strengthens relationships. Moral Character and Personal ResponsibilityWhy good decisions, ethical principles, and accepting consequences create lasting success. Faith and PurposeHow faith, personal values, and continual growth help build a meaningful life regardless of circumstances. Parenting Over PopularityWhy investing deeply in your children creates a legacy that outlasts wealth, status, or social influence. Personal Safety and Self-DefensePractical insights into situational awareness, non-lethal defense options, and developing the confidence to protect yourself and those you love.

  7. Jul 17

    Why So Many Men Feel Lost Today

    Episode SummaryMany men today aren't lacking ambition. They're lacking the right foundation. In this episode of We Take the Stairs, Justin shares how biblical truth transformed the way he approaches manhood, marriage, fatherhood, business, and leadership. Drawing from his experiences as a husband, father of six, entrepreneur, and ministry leader, Justin explains why so many men feel lost in today's culture and how choosing truth over comfort changes everything. Together, they discuss the influence of social media, pornography, identity, intentional parenting, healthy marriages, servant leadership, and the importance of building a life on principles that last. Justin also shares practical lessons from losing his home, overcoming seasons of unhealthy work obsession, and discovering that true success is measured by faithfulness rather than financial achievement. Whether you're a husband, father, business owner, or simply searching for purpose, this conversation offers practical wisdom for leading with integrity, serving others well, and building a life that can withstand life's hardest storms. Guest Justin is an entrepreneur, business owner, husband, father of six, and Christian ministry leader who is passionate about helping men become stronger leaders in their homes, businesses, and communities. Through his businesses, mentoring, and involvement with organizations like Marked Men for Christ, Justin encourages others to pursue biblical masculinity, servant leadership, intentional parenting, and a life centered on faith rather than worldly success. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Biggest Challenge Facing Men Today 02:26 Why Men Are Looking Through the Wrong Lens 06:43 Comfort, Passivity, and Modern Masculinity 09:35 Growing Up Before Social Media 12:20 Parenting in the Age of Social Media 17:22 Why Strong Families Need Both Mothers and Fathers 22:15 Breaking Free from Addiction and False Identity 25:16 What Success Really Means 28:12 Lust, Modesty, and Personal Responsibility 40:07 Why Accountability Makes Stronger Men 44:15 The Business World's Biggest Trap 47:31 Building Your Life on Rock Instead of Sand 49:13 When Work Became More Important Than Family 53:04 Business as Ministry 58:04 Can You Build Success Without Sacrificing Family? 01:06:34 Leading Your Family With Strength and Vulnerability 01:15:48 Leading a Business Through Love 01:18:35 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Key Topics Covered Why Men Feel Lost TodayHow culture, media, and false definitions of masculinity have pulled many men away from purpose and biblical identity. Biblical MasculinityRejecting passivity, accepting responsibility, and leading through service rather than control. Intentional ParentingPractical lessons on raising children in a digital world while protecting them from unhealthy influences. Marriage That LastsWhy successful marriages are built on servant leadership, communication, mutual respect, and intentional love. The Battle Against LustHonest discussion about pornography, temptation, accountability, and protecting your marriage. Building a Kingdom BusinessWhy business should become a platform for serving people instead of simply making money. Success Beyond WealthHow purpose, stewardship, and faithfulness create a more meaningful definition of success than money or status. Work-Life BalanceLessons learned from seasons of overworking and why providing financially should never come at the expense of your family. Leadership Through ServiceWhy the strongest leaders fill the gaps, empower others, and lead by example rather than authority. Building Your Life on the Right FoundationWhy careers, wealth, and success can disappear, but a life built on faith, character, and purpose can endure any storm.

  8. Jul 10

    Why men feel lost today Ft. Ben

    Episode Summary Many men today aren't lacking ambition. They're lacking guidance. In this episode of We Take the Stairs, Ben shares his deeply personal journey through military service, devastating loss, depression, and ultimately discovering purpose through faith. After losing his sister to suicide and carrying the weight of guilt for years, Ben opens up about how those experiences shaped his understanding of masculinity, leadership, relationships, and identity. Together, we explore why so many young men feel lost, the importance of finding healthy mentors, what biblical leadership actually looks like, and how intentional communication can transform marriage. Ben also shares practical wisdom on overcoming a savior complex, building emotional resilience, setting healthy boundaries, and trusting God through life's hardest seasons. Whether you're searching for purpose, navigating grief, strengthening your marriage, or simply trying to become a better man, this conversation offers honest insight, biblical truth, and practical encouragement for the journey. GuestBen is a former military medic, entrepreneur, and devoted husband who is passionate about helping men discover their identity, purpose, and calling through biblical truth. Drawing from his own experiences with grief, depression, family trauma, and personal growth, Ben shares practical wisdom on healthy masculinity, leadership, communication, and building Christ-centered relationships. Chapters00:00 – Ben's Story of Loss and Hope 02:34 – Can Women Truly Reach Men? 06:10 – Marriage, Emotions, and Healthy Communication 11:46 – The Biggest Challenge Facing Men Today 14:22 – Looking for Mentors in the Wrong Places 18:23 – Losing His Sister to Suicide 22:46 – Finding Community Through Church 24:25 – The Lies Men Believe About Themselves 26:05 – Why He Didn't Want to Get Married 31:23 – Healing From Family Wounds 39:44 – The Savior Complex Many Men Carry 42:38 – Building Emotional Trust in Marriage 47:52 – What Healthy Communication Looks Like 54:24 – Learning Marriage From Healthy Leadership 56:40 – What It Means to Lead as a Husband 01:01:10 – Love vs. Manipulation 01:10:00 – Honest Conversations About Attraction and Lust 01:16:02 – Leading Through Intentionality 01:17:35 – Why Bad Experiences Become Your Greatest Strength 01:20:50 – Why Ben Finally Shared His Story Key Topics CoveredThe Identity Crisis Facing Men – Why so many young men struggle to find healthy role models and what true biblical masculinity looks like. Healing Through Hardship – How grief, depression, and family trauma became the foundation for deeper purpose instead of lifelong pain. The Savior Complex – Why many men feel responsible for carrying everyone's burdens and how to break free from unhealthy responsibility. Healthy Marriage and Leadership – Practical lessons on communication, emotional intelligence, servant leadership, and building trust in marriage. Boundaries and Emotional Maturity – Why loving people doesn't mean sacrificing yourself and how healthy boundaries create stronger relationships. Faith Through Suffering – How God uses life's hardest moments to shape character, deepen faith, and prepare us to help others. Finding Purpose in Your Pain – Why your greatest struggles may become your greatest opportunity to encourage someone else. Leading With Intentionality – How small, consistent acts of love, honesty, and service build lasting relationships and stronger families.

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The two hosts of We Take the Stairs, Rachael and Jackson have a mission to help change the lives of men. They aim to do this through authentic storytelling, personal growth, faith, and transformative dialogue. Their rich tapestry of experience from different backgrounds and life experiences create a podcast that resonates with honesty, empathy, and hope. As co-hosts, they bring to the table a deep belief in the power of connection, whether through conviction, kindness, or shared stories, to inspire change and build bridges between people. Their discussions are grounded in sincerity and an openness to learn from one another. With a commitment to honesty, humility, and empowerment, they invite listeners into a space where vulnerability meets transformation, encouraging everyone to take the stairs—one meaningful step at a time.

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  • Creator
    Rachael Sher and Jackson Young
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    43
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Rachael, Jackson
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