The Conscious Divorce

Justin Milrad

The Conscious Divorce Podcast is where real, compassionate, and transformative conversations about divorce take place. Hosted by Justin Milrad and brought to you by Reclaim & Reboot, this show is designed to guide you through every stage of the divorce journey; whether you’re questioning the decision, navigating the process, or rebuilding life afterward. Each episode features heartfelt stories from guests who’ve experienced divorce firsthand, expert insights from therapists, coaches, financial advisors, and wellness specialists, and practical tools to help you build resilience, co-parent effectively, and create a clear vision for your future. With a focus on hope and empowerment, this podcast shifts the narrative around divorce from one of loss to one of reclamation, reminding you that you’re not alone and that moving forward with strength and intention is absolutely possible. Tune in weekly to reclaim your power and reboot your life.

  1. 1d ago

    You Need A Co-Parenting Playbook, Here's Why

    Divorce ends the marriage, not the parenting partnership. Learn how to reduce conflict, protect your kids, and co-parent with more clarity. Buy the book: The Co-Parenting Playbook: Proven Strategies for Navigating Divorce, Conflict, and Raising Thriving Kids https://a.co/d/0bdX5smJ Co-parenting after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions are raw and communication is difficult. In this episode, Justin Milrad and Jill Kaufman share practical, research-informed strategies from their new book to help parents lower conflict, protect their children’s emotional well-being, and create more stability across two homes. They discuss how to communicate without escalating, when parallel parenting may be necessary, how to keep kids out of the middle, and why small changes in your approach can make a lasting difference for your family. 01:03 The Reality of Co-Parenting 05:04 Co-Parenting as a Business Partnership 08:20 Impact of Parental Conflict on Children 12:07 Research on Divorce and Family Conflict 15:25 Benefits of Cooperative Co-Parenting 18:33 Risks of High Conflict Co-Parenting 21:15 Personal Health and Conflict 26:03 Communication Tools: BIFF Method 31:56 Consistency in Co-Parenting 36:21 Handling Difficult Co-Parenting Situations 39:50 Parallel Parenting Explained 47:27 The Legal Resolution Ladder

    55 min

  2. Jun 4

    Parent Coordination Through Mediation

    Explore expert insights on divorce support and mediation. Our guest, Joy Hernandez, with over 15 years of experience, guides families through the complexities of divorce. Learn the role of mediators as neutral facilitators and discover the differences between mediation and legal proceedings. Gain valuable advice on parenting plans and decision-making processes to ensure a smoother transition during challenging times. 03:23 - Role of a Mediator03:50 - Parenting Coordinator vs. Decision Maker05:23 - Court-Ordered Coordination08:42 - Mediation vs. Legal Solutions10:35 - Drafting Effective Parenting Plans16:20 - Developmental Stages in Parenting Plans20:24 - Flexibility in Parenting Plans26:51 - Importance of Co-Parenting Communication33:54 - Focus on Children's Needs Ready for additional support? Book a free consultation or check out our books on amazon

    40 min

  3. May 28

    Leaving Her for Him: What Happens Next Will Surprise You

    Discover TJ Shimeld’s inspiring journey of conscious divorce. A path of honesty and love. After coming out as gay, TJ and his wife transformed their separation into a model of civility, focusing on their daughter’s well-being and mutual respect. This episode explores TJ’s authenticity, from a life-changing accident to embracing his true self, and offers practical strategies for co-parenting and communication. Learn how setting boundaries and living authentically can turn divorce into a liberating journey. TJ, now a life coach in Spain, shares insights for anyone seeking change and self-acceptance. Life-Changing Accident & Coming Out - 4:23Honesty in Marriage: Coming Out - 11:11Collaborative Divorce & Co-Parenting - 19:23Authentic Life After Divorce - 39:18Advice for Coming Out & Divorce - 43:38

    50 min

  4. May 21

    Mutually Assured Destruction: The Nuclear Truth About Divorce

    What does it really mean to “win” in divorce court? When divorce becomes a battle, both people can end up losing. Legal fees grow. Emotions run high. Children feel the stress. Co-parenting becomes harder. And the fight can take more than it gives. Watch the episode to learn why winning in divorce court is not always the same as winning in life, how to avoid unnecessary conflict, choose the right divorce support, and make decisions that protect your future. 03:37 Part One: The Nuclear Truth About Divorce06:47 Part Two: The Neuroscience of Conflict, Your Brain on Divorce10:13 Part Three: The Financial Cost of Escalation12:13 Part Four: My Story Inside an Eight Day Jury Trial15:30 Part Five: Choosing Your Attorney, The Most Important Decision You Will Make21:14 Part Six: The Children, Collateral Damage, and the Hidden War27:06 Part Seven: Strategic Divorce Versus Emotional Divorce31:41 Part Eight: Healing Outside the Courtroom Book a free consultation: www.reclaimandreboot.me/booking

    38 min

  5. May 13

    The Giver Gives & The Taker Takes

    I'm here to guide you through the complex dynamics of giving and taking in relationships, especially during divorce and co-parenting. In this episode, we'll explore how these patterns shape our interactions and impact our lives. I'll share insights into understanding these behaviors, their origins, and how you can navigate them for healthier relationships and personal growth. Whether you're going through a divorce or simply seeking to improve your relationships, this conversation is for you. Let's dive deep into the emotional landscapes that define us and learn how to transform challenges into opportunities for growth. Thank you for joining me on this journey. 1:27 - Exploring the giver and taker dynamics3:05 - Attachment theory and its impact7:29 - Marriage dynamics and unmet needs11:51 - Co-parenting and its challenges16:14 - Parallel parenting as a solution20:07 - Healing resentment and moving forward22:22 - Practical principles for wise giving28:34 - Closing thoughts and call to action

    30 min

  6. May 7

    How to set and hold boundaries

    Break Free from Co-Parenting Chaos Discover how to transform conflict into calm control with effective boundary-setting. Discover why setting boundaries feels impossible and offers practical steps to regain your peace. Learn the difference between requests and boundaries, and how to craft scripts that hold your ground. Understand emotional flooding and how to manage it, plus explore the five levels of co-parenting and the boundaries needed at each stage.Whether you're in a cooperative or high-conflict situation, this episode provides tools to protect your peace and model emotional maturity for your kids. Boundaries aren't punishments, they're acts of self-respect. Start your transformation today.  Understanding Boundaries - 03:19Emotional Flooding - 07:14Co-Parenting Levels - 10:52Enforcing Boundaries - 20:00Protecting Your Children - 30:00

    49 min

  7. Apr 30

    The Four Horsemen of Relationships

    Most conflicts don't destroy relationships; our habitual responses do. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling shape every connection, from marriage to parenting. Understanding and breaking these patterns can transform your relationships and life. In this episode, I unpack Dr. John Gottman's research, revealing how these "horsemen" kill intimacy and trust. Discover how sarcasm and criticism erode bonds and how contempt predicts divorce. Learn actionable strategies to replace destructive responses with genuine connection. We explore tactics like the "soft startup" for conversations, cultivating a "culture of fondness," and emotional self-awareness. These patterns affect marriage, work, parenting, and self-talk. Understand how childhood shapes these tendencies and how to rewire them for healthier connections. This episode is for those tired of repeating cycles, navigating divorce, or wanting to deepen emotional intelligence. You can unlearn destructive habits and build a connected, respectful life. Start today. 00:00 Introduction to conflict patterns 01:44 The Four Horsemen of relationships02:38 Welcome to the podcast03:28 Dr. John Gottman's research04:17 Criticism explained07:29 Soft startup technique07:58 Contempt as a predictor of divorce11:01 Building a culture of appreciation11:58 Defensiveness and its impact15:20 Stonewalling and withdrawal18:10 Psychological self-soothing19:01 Patterns beyond marriage22:11 Solutions for the Four Horsemen24:22 Importance of repair25:50 Awareness and change27:10 Final thoughts and encouragement

    28 min

  8. Apr 24

    Why co-parenting conflicts escalate, and how to stop them

    Discover how to transform co-parenting conflicts into cooperation with practical insights. Learn how simple strategies like the BIFF communication framework and predictable rituals can create a calm, child-focused environment.Explore the power of small adjustments in turning chaos into peace. Uncover the secrets to clear communication, the importance of emotional boundaries, and how parallel parenting can protect your kids from conflict.This episode is perfect for parents seeking to break free from reactive patterns and build a nurturing co-parenting dynamic.Unlock peace, clarity, and connection with these transformative insights. Start your journey today.

    23 min
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The Conscious Divorce Podcast is where real, compassionate, and transformative conversations about divorce take place. Hosted by Justin Milrad and brought to you by Reclaim & Reboot, this show is designed to guide you through every stage of the divorce journey; whether you’re questioning the decision, navigating the process, or rebuilding life afterward. Each episode features heartfelt stories from guests who’ve experienced divorce firsthand, expert insights from therapists, coaches, financial advisors, and wellness specialists, and practical tools to help you build resilience, co-parent effectively, and create a clear vision for your future. With a focus on hope and empowerment, this podcast shifts the narrative around divorce from one of loss to one of reclamation, reminding you that you’re not alone and that moving forward with strength and intention is absolutely possible. Tune in weekly to reclaim your power and reboot your life.

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  • Creator
    Justin Milrad
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Justin Milrad