Notes to Her

Yaya Reed

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Notes to Her: The Daily Peptalk is your ten-minute or less boost of confidence and clarity. Hosted by Yaya, a confidence and mindset coach for women ready to stop overthinking and start showing up boldly, each short episode gives you a mindset reset, a dose of encouragement, and one actionable tip to keep your momentum going, no fluff, just real talk and daily pep.

Episode 72

Note 72: Girl, Put the Reinvention Plan Down

Season 2 opens with the note Yaya almost didn't let herself write, the one about feeling completely stuck in a version of your life you didn't choose. She talks about the summer she spent building Slay Society, the accident that changed how she moves through the world, and why the woman you're trying so hard to become is usually just the woman you buried trying to survive. Inside this episode: ● Why “reinvention” is usually the wrong project entirely ● What actually happened to Yaya after leaving corporate, and after the accident that followed ● The old table analogy that reframes what “starting over” really means ● The real cost of chasing a brand new version of yourself ● Why Yaya spent three years sitting on the idea that became Slay Society ● The Get Unstuck Challenge, and how to try the first week free ● The question to ask before you try to become someone new This is the episode to sit with before you make any big decisions this season. Save it, share it with a woman who's been quietly stuck, and come find us inside Slay Society when you're ready to stop rebuilding from scratch. And if you are feeling stuck yourself and don’t know where to start, take the 7-Day Get Unstuck Challenge inside Slay Society.
Episode 73

Note 73: Don't Let Cuffing Season Talk You Into Less

This is the note you need before you make any decisions this cuffing season. Every year, the same thing happens: temperatures drop, the holidays close in, and a lot of women start accepting things in October they wouldn't have tolerated in July. In this episode, Yaya breaks down exactly where that pressure comes from, why it has nothing to do with the person you're considering settling for, and the repeating pattern that keeps women stuck in the same cycle winter after winter. This one's for anyone who's ever given someone three extra chances just because the leaves started changing. Inside this episode: • What cuffing season logic actually sounds like, and why it's louder than you think • Where the real pressure to be coupled up actually comes from (hint: it's not about him) • The repeating yearly pattern that keeps some women stuck in the same cycle every winter • What settling for a season actually costs you, told through a real story • The reframe: why being single through the holidays isn't a failure state • Four practical shifts to hold your standard through the season • Why a pattern across multiple winters is worth deeper work, not just a pep talk If this hit home, share it with the friend who's already making excuses for somebody this season. Yaya shares her story about meeting a man who looked good on paper but couldn't show up for her emotionally. The moment things got real, she breaks down the exact realization that made her walk away instead of settling for a life that looked full from the outside. Read the Substack article here: https://yosoyyayar.substack.com/p/i-dont-want-to-cry-myself-asleep
Episode 74

Note 74: Girl, You're Not Getting a Sign. Go Build the Proof

Confidence doesn't show up before you act. It shows up after, built out of proof you collect by doing the scary thing anyway. In this episode, Yaya calls out the advice she will never teach her clients, fake it till you make it, and replaces it with something more honest: acting despite the fear instead of performing a feeling you don't have. She tells the real story behind Slay Society, an idea she sat on for three years, and breaks down exactly what waiting to feel ready actually costs you. Inside this episode: • Why "fake it till you make it" is advice Yaya refuses to teach, and what to do instead • The real story of the three years she waited to launch Slay Society, and why timing was never the actual problem • Why confidence is evidence you build, not a feeling you wait around for • What waiting to feel ready is actually costing you, in business and everywhere else • A practical way to start collecting your own proof this week If you're reading this and can relate to being scared but still having goals that you want to reach, take the 7-day Do It Scared Challenge inside Slay Society. Every day, you'll take one small action that brings you closer to your goal; join here.
Episode 75

Note 75: Your Healing Is Making Your Friendships Awkward

When your confidence and healing move faster than the people around you, friendships can get awkward fast. In Note 75, Yaya talks about why some friends take your growth personally, what usually sits underneath that reaction, and how to stay honest and kind without going back to the version of you that kept everyone comfortable. If you have ever edited yourself around a friend you love, this one is for you. Inside this episode: • Why your calm can look like coldness to a friend who wasn't there for what changed you • How two women can have two completely different relationships with the same kind of past • Three reasons a friend might react badly to your growth: the mirror, jealousy, and plain confusion • What it costs you to shrink or drift away to keep the peace • The one question to ask before you share an honest opinion with a friend • How to say it once, with love, and then let her make her own choices • How to adjust your closeness with a friend without pulling your love away This is an episode to sit with. Think about the friend you have been editing yourself around, then send her this Note. And if you are ready to build your confidence from the inside out, download the Confidence Starter Kit here: https://theconfidentlyher.com/confidence-kit
Episode 76

Note 76: Stop Lying to Yourself About Your Own Promises

After 90 days of locking in, Yaya shares what the experience taught her about confidence, and it all starts with keeping the promises you make to yourself. She walks through lessons on discipline, rest, doubt, support, and celebrating your wins, including the one she is still learning. It is a practical listen for any woman getting ready to lock in for the rest of the year. Inside this episode: • Why every promise you break to yourself quietly weakens your trust in your own word • How discipline starts to feel like self-trust when you keep showing up • Why a smaller version of your goal keeps the promise alive on low-energy days • Why rest and fresh air belong in a lock-in plan from day one • How to curate what you let in so doubt stops getting invitations • Why support from women you have never met matters, and why your friends still need a little of your time • Why celebrating your wins is how your brain registers the proof that you can trust yourself This is an episode to save before you start your own lock-in. If you would like a community of women to keep your promises alongside, here is the link to join Slay Society, and your first 7 days are free: https://www.skool.com/theconfidentlyherco-4672/about
Episode 77

Note 77: When You Stop Begging for the Bare Minimum, You Become Unforgettable

Note 77 starts with a question many women avoid: if a friend skipped plans without a text, you would say something that day, so why does it take two days to draft a message when a partner does the same thing? Yaya defines the bare minimum, explains how asking slides into begging, and shares the story of a client named Renee (name and details changed) who rewrote the same text four times. You will leave with a three-step way to ask once, watch what happens, and decide without sending reminders. Inside this episode: What the bare minimum includes in a relationship: replies, plans kept, and the truthThe friend test, and why we hand partners allowances we would never give a friendWhat begging sounds like in real life, from the gentle reminder text to planning every date yourselfThe difference between asking once and beggingWhere women learn to audition for love, especially high achieversRenee’s story, and what changed when she stopped managing his effortA three-step way to ask, watch, and decide, plus what to do with the time you get backIf you saw yourself in Renee, The Confidently Her Method is Yaya’s 16-week one-on-one coaching program for building the confidence underneath the pattern, so holding your standard stops feeling like a fight with yourself. Here’s the link to learn more about The Confidently Her Method: https://calendly.com/confidentlyherco/application This is an episode to save for the next time you catch yourself drafting a message for the third time. Journal on the reflective questions at the end, and send it to the friend who tells you the truth.
Episode 78

Note 78: Okay, But What Do You Want?

Some women can tell you what everyone around them needs and go blank when somebody asks what they want. In Note 78, Yaya talks about how years of "I'm fine with whatever" quietly turn into feeling stuck, and how to find the woman you were before everyone needed something from you. The episode ends with three questions to ask yourself and two small practices you can start this week. Inside this episode: How "I'm fine with whatever" starts as kindness and ends in a blank when somebody asks what you want Where the habit comes from, including being praised for being the easy one Why being needed can become your only proof that you matter The three costs: not knowing what you like, a tiredness sleep does not fix, and feeling stuck Why guilt shows up when you start saying what you want, and why it fades with practice Three questions for meeting the woman you were before everyone needed something from you A twenty-minute practice and a one-real-answer-a-day practice to start this week If you feel stuck and want company while you work this out, join the Get Unstuck Challenge inside Slay Society. It is a 7-day challenge for the woman who feels stuck, and your first week is free. Here's the link to join: https://www.skool.com/theconfidentlyherco-4672. Save this Note for the woman who needs it.
Episode 79

Note 79: Your Brain Keeps Receipts on Every “I’ll Start Monday”

If you have ever bought the planner, set the 5AM alarm, and quit by Wednesday, this Note explains what was really going on. Yaya breaks down why your brain keeps receipts on every promise you make to yourself, and why a habit that takes 60 seconds or less rebuilds that trust faster than a perfect routine ever could. You will leave with a three-step loop you can start tomorrow morning. Inside this Note: why your pep talks fall flat when your brain does not trust your follow-through yet how a ten-step morning routine quietly hands you ten chances to break a promise the 60-second habit and the worst-morning test for choosing yours Yaya's story of opening the blinds when a major life reset felt out of reach the three-step loop: pick it, attach it to something you already do, and celebrate it out loud what to do on the day you miss, and why coming back is the strongest proof of all Want to build the habit alongside other women? Join the 7-Day Reset inside Slay Society. You pick your 60-second habit, keep it for seven days, and check in with a room full of women doing the same thing. Your first seven days are free. Here's the link to join: https://www.skool.com/theconfidentlyherco-4672/about Save this Note for Sunday night, pick your habit, and send it to the friend who keeps buying planners.
Episode 80

Note 80: You Teach People How to Love You by How You Love Yourself

Have you ever told a friend you would never put up with what she puts up with, and then canceled on yourself for the fourth time that week? In Note 80, I talk about why the people around you follow your lead, and why the way you treat yourself is the first lesson anyone gets about how to treat you. We get into where the habit of putting yourself last comes from, what the quiet tally of over-giving does to a relationship, and who owns what when someone treats you badly. I also give you three small moves to try this week, and they are small on purpose. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why people read how you treat yourself before they hear what you ask forWhere the habit of putting yourself last comes fromWhat the pattern costs you in love, friendship, and familyWho owns what when someone treats you poorlyThree small moves to start changing how people respond to youIf you have ever said “I don’t mind” when you did mind, this Note is for you. If you want help changing the pattern one-on-one, you can learn about The Confidently Her Method, my 16-week private coaching program, at https://theconfidentlyher.com/her-method
Episode 81

Note 81: Stop Deflecting The Compliment

How to accept a compliment without deflecting it: I break down why you hand them back and the two-second fix in Note 81 of Notes to Her. This one is for the woman who answers “I love your top” with where she bought it and how little it cost. I walk through the lines we use to deflect, from “Oh, this old thing” to the compliment we fire right back, and why they leave our mouths before the kind words have a chance to land. A lot of it comes down to the opinion we hold of ourselves, and I share my own three-dollar habit from before I built my confidence. I also cover the work version, where one compliment turns into pressure to never slip, the four costs of deflecting, and the quick check for when complimenting someone back is the real thing. You will leave with homework that takes two seconds. ℹ️ In this video you’ll discover: → Why you answer a compliment with the price tag before it lands → Where the habit comes from and why taking credit can feel like bragging → The “why would they lie to you?” question that changes how a compliment sounds → How one compliment at work can turn into pressure to never slip → The four costs of handing compliments back → How to tell whether complimenting someone back is real or a deflection → The two-second shift: pause, say thank you, and stop talking Ready to build the confidence underneath the reflex? Here’s the link to download the free Confidence Starter Kit: https://theconfidentlyher.com/confidence-kit Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss Note 82, You’ve Always Been Built for More, and follow @confidentlyherco for more reminders between episodes.

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Notes to Her: The Daily Peptalk is your ten-minute or less boost of confidence and clarity. Hosted by Yaya, a confidence and mindset coach for women ready to stop overthinking and start showing up boldly, each short episode gives you a mindset reset, a dose of encouragement, and one actionable tip to keep your momentum going, no fluff, just real talk and daily pep.

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