The Cougar, The Bitch, and The Wardrobe

Lana Masor
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Join me as I dive deep into the fabulous world of being a woman over 45! This podcast is all about reclaiming the narrative and celebrating the power, passion, and vibrancy that comes with age. We will tackle everything from fashion choices that make you feel fierce, to navigating relationships, redefining careers, and embracing self-love. No topic is off-limits as we share stories, insights, and lots of laughs along the way.

  1. 2d ago

    Is He A Dismissive Avoidant Or A Narcissist?

    After almost half a million people watched her reel about being married to someone with dismissive-avoidant tendencies, Lana's IG was flooded with comments with the same words over and over: "This was my marriage." In this solo episode, she goes deep. What is dismissive avoidance, really, and why can it feel so much like being with a narcissist? Lana shares the comments that stopped her in her tracks, her own story of being raised by a mother with borderline personality disorder and how that shaped her attachment style, and why her ex-husband's withdrawal hit her exact trigger. She unpacks the trap of understanding a partner so well that you never leave, whether an avoidant partner can actually change, and how to stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. This isn't a diagnosis of anyone's ex. It's about what these relationships do to us, and why you don't need a label to decide a relationship isn't working for you.

  2. Sep 24

    6 Signs You Are With A Boy and Not A Man

    In this no-filter episode, Lana breaks down six signs of emotional immaturity in men and relationships: arguing with your feelings, performing affection for an audience, apologizing without changing, making you manage his moods, demanding loyalty without accountability, and expecting you to manage his life. This isn’t about age. It’s about emotional maturity, accountability, effort, and ownership. Because sometimes “that’s just how he is” is really just another way of saying, “I’ve gotten used to carrying him.” If you’re married to, dating, or living with a man who expects you to mother him instead of partner with him, this one is going to hit.

  3. Sep 10

    Men Can Dish It Out. They Can't Take It.

    In this episode Lana talks about a 90-second reel making one simple point: men’s bodies age too. The comments section did not take it well. This episode breaks down the reel, the pile-on, the actual research on dating age gaps and male aging, and a real-time read-through of the internet proving the entire point, categorized, quoted, and occasionally laugh-out-loud unhinged. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for stating a fact, this one’s for you.

  4. Jun 25

    Everything Nobody Tells You About Divorce

    In this episode, Lana sits down with two Montclair powerhouses: a divorce and family law attorney, Christina Thomas, and Diane Russell, a realtor and divorce survivor. Together, we had a candid conversation answering real questions. Christina shares legal insights and expertise, and Diane opens up about her personal journey and what women need to know about staying in or selling the marital home. It’s the advice, support, and raw honesty every woman contemplating divorce needs to hear. Christina M Thomas, Esq. 201-325-0111 Diane Russell 201-720-4908

  5. Jun 18

    The Sovereignty of Peace

    What does peace actually cost? In this episode, Lana explores the sovereignty of true peace: living without permission, freeing your nervous system from managing someone else’s needs, and building a life where you never settle for less than you’re worth. Lana maps what it takes through solitude as practice, partnership as choice, and why love and discretion go hand in hand.

  6. Jun 4

    Dating in the Grey

    This episode lives in the messy, tender, complicated space that so many women in midlife find themselves in when they re-enter dating, or simply open themselves up to intimacy again. In this episode, Lana is not talking about tips and tricks. She talks about the emotional architecture of modern dating at this stage of life: the ambiguity, the yearning to feel chosen, the fear of someone else's freedom, and the hard work of knowing what you actually need.

  7. May 28

    No Rules, Just Style

    Forget the rulebook. Forget what you’re “supposed” to wear. In this episode, Lana breaks down the real rules of style, and spoiler alert, there aren’t any. From high-low mixing to unexpected proportions, from choosing to stay true to yourself over trends, to owning your look like the main character you are, Lana dives into what actually makes you stylish. Because style isn’t about the price tag or the label, it’s about the energy you bring. Now go unleash it.

  8. May 21

    Why Some Marriages Expire When One Person Evolves

    This episode explores how growth changes needs, how to spot the drift, and how to choose honesty, whether that means rebuilding or releasing. You built this relationship in one version of yourself, but you have evolved into another. The question is, did the relationship evolve with you? Or has it been quietly insisting that you stay the version it was built for? Join Lana as she explores how to honor who you've become without abandoning yourself. Sometimes the bravest commitment is to your own evolution.

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Join me as I dive deep into the fabulous world of being a woman over 45! This podcast is all about reclaiming the narrative and celebrating the power, passion, and vibrancy that comes with age. We will tackle everything from fashion choices that make you feel fierce, to navigating relationships, redefining careers, and embracing self-love. No topic is off-limits as we share stories, insights, and lots of laughs along the way.

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