Carla Turned On

Carla Romo
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Dating & relationships get real. Sex gets talked about. The BS gets left on read. Carla Turned On is your weekly permission slip to ditch shame, confusion, and the patterns that keep you stuck. Hosted by certified dating & relationship coach Carla Romo, each episode gives you the tools, mindset shifts, and no-BS truth to step into your power and create f*ck-yes love...without losing yourself along the way. This is where you get real answers. Real tools. Real confidence. Let's get turned on!

  1. 5d ago

    How to Make The Apps NOT Suck for You

    Dating apps have completely changed the way people meet, connect, and navigate relationships- but are they actually ruining dating, or are they just reflecting the way people already approach relationships? In this episode, Carla Romo explores the impact of dating apps on modern dating culture and why so many people feel frustrated, disconnected, or overwhelmed by the process. Carla breaks down how social media, endless options, and changing relationship expectations have shaped the way people date today. She discusses the difference between wanting connection versus chasing attention, and why focusing on quality over quantity can completely change your dating experience. Plus, Carla dives into the confusion between hookups and actual dates—how to communicate intentions, set expectations, and make dating apps work for you instead of feeling like they're working against you. What You'll Learn Dating apps may amplify existing dating patterns rather than create them. More options can sometimes make people less intentional in dating. Social media has influenced expectations around connection and relationships. Being clear about your intentions helps avoid confusion. Hookups and dates require different communication and expectations. Quality connections matter more than endless matches. Dating apps work best when you stay authentic and intentional. Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Do you think apps ruined dating?" "Are dating apps the frustration?" "Focus on quality over quantity." Chapters 02:15 — Dating Apps: Did They Ruin Dating? 15:43 — Is It a Hookup or Actual Date? Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  2. Aug 4

    Huge Signs You're Dating an Avoidant

    Have you ever felt like someone was all-in at the beginning, only to pull away the moment things started getting serious? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the biggest signs you're dating an avoidant and why these relationships can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and constantly searching for reassurance. Carla explores the common patterns of avoidant attachment, including emotional distance, mixed signals, difficulty with vulnerability, and the tendency to pull away after moments of closeness. She also shares an important reminder: avoidant attachment doesn't make someone a bad partner, but self-awareness, accountability, and a willingness to grow matter. Plus, Carla dives into why avoidants can feel incredibly intense sexually. From hot-and-cold dynamics to the difference between sexual chemistry and emotional intimacy, she explains why these relationships can feel so addictive, and how to recognize when chemistry is masking unmet emotional needs. What You'll Learn Avoidants often show strong interest early but pull away when vulnerability increases. Consistent confusion and mixed signals are important information, not something to ignore. Emotional intimacy is difficult when someone avoids deeper conversations and vulnerability. Pulling away after closeness is a common avoidant attachment pattern. Feeling like you're constantly chasing reassurance can signal an unhealthy dynamic. Attachment styles explain behavior, but accountability and self-awareness matter most. Strong sexual chemistry does not automatically create emotional intimacy or relationship security. Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Attachment styles explain behavior. They don't excuse hurting people." "The closer you get, the more distance they create." "You can have incredible sexual chemistry with someone who still cannot emotionally show up consistently." Chapters 01:07 — Signs You're Dating an Avoidant 15:30 — Why Avoidants Can Feel SO Intense Sexually Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  3. Jul 28

    A Major Life Update + Why I Chose My Husband

    Before diving into today's topic, Carla shares a special personal announcement: she and her husband are expecting a baby. Reflecting on this new chapter has made her think deeply about what truly mattered when choosing a life partner, and why so many people confuse emotional intensity with genuine compatibility. In this episode, Carla opens up about her own relationship journey, including the qualities she once prioritized and the lessons she learned along the way. She discusses how emotional safety, consistency, healthy conflict resolution, and shared values ultimately mattered far more than chemistry, butterflies, or emotional highs. Carla also shares the relationship qualities that confirmed her husband was the right partner for her and offers listeners a powerful question to consider in their own dating lives: Are you choosing someone based on emotional intensity, or emotional safety? What You'll Learn Chemistry alone is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship. Emotional safety can feel unfamiliar if chaos has been your norm. Consistency and reliability build trust over time. How someone handles conflict reveals their emotional maturity. Healthy relationships allow you to be fully yourself. Shared values often matter more than attraction in the long run. The strongest partnerships are built on trust, safety, communication, and mutual support. Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "I confused anxiety with chemistry." "I didn't realize how exhausting dating had felt until I experienced peace." "I didn't want the highest highs. I wanted trust, safety, and partnership." Chapters 03:27 — Why I Chose My Husband Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  4. Jul 21

    Why Modern Dating Feels So Lonely (Even When You're Meeting People)

    Modern dating can feel exhausting, confusing, and full of mixed signals. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why so many people struggle with dating today, from situationships and dating apps to the pressure to seem unbothered instead of communicating honestly. Carla explores how fear of vulnerability, inconsistent communication, and endless dating options have changed the way people connect. She shares practical advice for navigating modern dating without losing yourself, overanalyzing texts, or chasing mixed signals. She also tackles outdated sex advice that continues to create shame and confusion, including arbitrary rules about when to have sex and the misconception that great sex should happen naturally. This episode will help you build healthier relationships through clarity, communication, emotional safety, and authenticity. What You'll Learn Mixed signals are often a sign of inconsistency, not mystery. Fear of rejection causes many people to avoid honest communication. Dating apps can fuel comparison, confusion, and disposable behavior. Authenticity creates stronger connections than dating games. Confusion is often valuable information. There is no universal timeline for sex. Healthy sex requires communication, feedback, and emotional safety. Mutual pleasure matters more than performance. Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Modern dating is confusing as hell." "Nobody says what they actually want." "Wait X days to have sex? B******t." Chapters 01:50 — Why Modern Dating Is So Confusing — And How to Navigate It 14:36 — Outdated Sex Advice That Needs to Die Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  5. Jul 14

    Don't Avoid These HUGE Relationship & Dating Questions

    People avoid certain questions in dating because they're afraid the answers will ruin the connection. But avoiding them often leads to confusion, situationships, and wasted time. In this episode, Carla Romo shares the essential questions to ask when dating to better understand compatibility, emotional maturity, conflict styles, and relationship intentions. She also explains why difficult conversations create clarity, not distance- and how avoiding them can keep you stuck in fantasy instead of reality. Plus, Carla dives into the sexual questions that can create pressure, comparison, and disconnection, and what to ask instead to build trust, intimacy, and better communication. What You'll Learn Ask what someone is looking for early on. Clarity doesn't ruin healthy connections. How someone handles conflict matters more than chemistry. A person's definition of a healthy relationship reveals a lot. Avoiding hard conversations creates confusion, not security. Comparison and performance pressure can damage intimacy. Focus on communication and pleasure instead of judgment. Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Ask what you're looking for to set clear intentions." "Define what a healthy relationship looks like for you." "Don't ask if they finished; focus on pleasure." Chapters 02:11 – Questions You NEED to Ask in Dating & Relationships 15:29 – Sexual Questions NOT to Ask the Person You're Sleeping With Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  6. Jul 7

    How to Actually BUILD Real Connection on a Date

    Why does dating feel like it's going nowhere—even when everything seems "fine"? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down what actually creates real connection in dating—and why surface-level conversations, overthinking, and insecurity can quietly block intimacy. She shares how curiosity, authenticity, and gradual vulnerability are the keys to building something deeper and more meaningful. Carla also dives into insecurities around sex and intimacy, why they're more common than you think, and how to communicate your needs without fear or shame. What You'll Learn Real connection comes from curiosity, not performance Oversharing isn't the same as true vulnerability Insecurities around sex are normal—but avoiding them blocks intimacy Authenticity builds trust faster than trying to impress Emotional intimacy is built gradually, not forced Communicating your needs creates better connection Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Oversharing does not build connection" "Insecurities about performance are normal" "Your needs in sex matter, speak up" Chapters 02:02 – How to Actually BUILD Real Connection on a Date 17:28 – Insecurities Around Sex & Intimacy Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  7. Jun 30

    Huge Signs You're With Someone Controlling

    If something feels off… it probably is. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the subtle (and often missed) signs of controlling behavior in relationships—from early dating red flags to the ways control can show up in sex and intimacy. She explains why feeling like you're "walking on eggshells" isn't normal, and how ignoring your gut can keep you stuck in unhealthy dynamics. Carla also dives into the importance of autonomy, boundaries, and emotional safety, helping you recognize when control is being disguised as care—and how to protect yourself before it escalates. What You'll Learn Control often shows up subtly—not just in obvious ways Walking on eggshells is a major red flag Your gut instinct is usually right—listen to it Control can appear in sexual dynamics and intimacy Healthy relationships support autonomy, not restrict it Boundaries are essential for emotional safety Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Follow your gut every single time" "Walking on eggshells is a red flag" "Control in sex can be a red flag" Chapters 02:32 – Controlling Behavior in Dating & Relationships 15:19 – When Sex Becomes About Control Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

  8. Jun 23

    Why You Keep Going Back to Your Ex (Even When It's Not Right)

    Thinking about going back to your ex… or already did? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the real reasons you feel pulled back toward an ex—and why it's often more about loneliness, familiarity, and emotional triggers than actual compatibility. She challenges the idea of "what could be" and explains why change—not chemistry—is what determines if something can truly work again. Carla also dives into the truth about sex with an ex, why it can feel comforting but keep you emotionally stuck, and how to decide what's actually best for your growth and future relationships. What You'll Learn Missing your ex doesn't always mean you should go back Familiarity can feel like love—but it's not the same as compatibility Real change is required for a relationship to work again Sex with an ex can delay healing and keep you stuck Emotional triggers often drive the desire to reconnect Self-awareness helps you make better relationship decisions Work with me:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo  Instagram: @iamcarlaromo Youtube: @iamcarlaromo FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Don't fall in love with potential" "Compatibility trumps everything" "Sex with your ex keeps you stuck" Chapters 01:48 – Should You Get Back With Your Ex… or Are You Just Lonely? 14:55 – Sex With Your Ex: Connection… or Comfort? Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

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Dating & relationships get real. Sex gets talked about. The BS gets left on read. Carla Turned On is your weekly permission slip to ditch shame, confusion, and the patterns that keep you stuck. Hosted by certified dating & relationship coach Carla Romo, each episode gives you the tools, mindset shifts, and no-BS truth to step into your power and create f*ck-yes love...without losing yourself along the way. This is where you get real answers. Real tools. Real confidence. Let's get turned on!

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  • Creator
    Carla Romo
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025
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