Rewired & Desired Podcast: Where Intimacy, Mindset and Disability Intersect

Rewired & Desired
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Rewired & Desired is a bold, refreshing, and deeply human conversation where intimacy, mindset, and disability finally come together without shame, limits, or apology. Hosted by Trina Ricketts, The Intimate Ostomate and Nicole Richards of Ostomy Innovations.

  1. 2d ago

    How to Reduce Embarrassing Ostomy Noises During Intimacy

    Send us Fan Mail Embarrassing stoma noises during intimacy can make you want to avoid sex altogether. What if a simple belly band could help muffle those sounds and give you more confidence? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards introduce their new Intimacy Belly Band, a compression garment designed to help reduce stoma noises and keep an ostomy bag more discreet during intimacy. After ostomy surgery, Trina struggled with embarrassment and anxiety about her stoma making unexpected noises, especially during sex. When she discovered that compression could help muffle those sounds, she started searching for a product that would give her more confidence. But nothing she found worked quite the way she wanted. That's when she teamed up with Nicole Richards, founder of Ostomy Innovations, to develop a new option for ostomates. In this honest, sometimes hilarious conversation, we discuss: ●      The embarrassment of unexpected stoma noises during intimacy and everyday life ●      Why ostomy-related anxiety can affect sexual confidence ●      How compression helped Trina muffle stoma sounds ●      Why existing ostomy belly bands weren't meeting her needs ●      How we developed and tested the Intimacy Belly Band ●      Our experience finding manufacturers and testing prototypes ●      The challenges of making an affordable product as small-business owners ●      What we've learned from early product feedback ●      Our plans for the first 100 belly bands and future designs We're not promising a miracle product. We're sharing our experiences, what we've learned, and why we believe ostomates deserve more options for feeling comfortable and confident during intimacy. IMPORTANT: The Intimacy Belly Band provides significant compression and may not be suitable for everyone. Fit, comfort, stoma placement, and individual medical circumstances matter. Consult your ostomy care nurse or healthcare professional if you're unsure whether compression is appropriate for you. Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  2. Oct 29

    Afraid to Get Naked? How to Feel Confident Again

    Send us Fan Mail Afraid to Get Naked? How to Feel Confident Again  Does the thought of getting naked in front of your partner make you want to hide? Body insecurities, scars, an ostomy bag, or changes after surgery can make intimacy feel intimidating, but they don't have to stop you from feeling sexy and confident. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards talk about naked confidence, body image, and overcoming the fear of being seen by someone you love. Trina shares how she went from feeling completely comfortable naked as an exotic dancer to struggling with body confidence after ostomy surgery. Nicole opens up about her own insecurities and explains why changing the way we think about our bodies matters. In this episode, we discuss: ●      Why body insecurities can interfere with intimacy and desire ●      How surgery, scars, and ostomy bags can change the way we see ourselves ●      Why confidence can be more attractive than a so-called perfect body ●      Visualization exercises to help rebuild sexual confidence ●      Using affirmations and mirror exercises to appreciate your body ●      Why comparing yourself to other people can make insecurity worse ●      How to become more comfortable being naked with a partner ●      Our NEW intimacy belly band project for ostomates! SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: THE INTIMACY BELLY BAND Trina and Nicole are developing an intimacy belly band designed to help keep an ostomy bag secure, reduce distractions, and support confidence during intimate moments. We're preparing for our first limited release of 100 belly bands, and we're looking for people who want to be among the first to try the product and share feedback. Want to hear about the Founding 100? Download your free intimacy guide to join the email list for updates and early information about the belly band. 👉 https://www.intimateostomate.com/a-compassionate-guide-for-intimacy-after-ostomy The product is still in development, and we're excited to share the process with you! Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  3. Oct 20

    Why People With Disabilities Can Be Targets for Predators

    Send us Fan Mail People with disabilities can face unique vulnerabilities in dating, relationships, online interactions, and everyday life. But vulnerability does not mean powerlessness. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards have a candid conversation about predatory behavior, romance scams, financial manipulation, physical vulnerability, dating safety, and the importance of recognizing when someone may be trying to take advantage of you. We talk about what can happen when someone sees a disability, illness, loneliness, low self-esteem, or physical limitation as an opportunity for control. We also discuss online dating and romance scams, AI and voice impersonation, personal safety, self-defense for people with physical limitations, and why conversations about vulnerability need to happen without blaming or shaming the person being targeted. Most importantly, being targeted or deceived does not mean you should be ashamed. Awareness gives us more tools to recognize concerning behavior, protect ourselves, and look out for the people we care about. ⚠️ This episode includes personal experiences, opinions, and discussion of stories encountered online. Some examples discussed have not been independently verified and should not be interpreted as confirmed events or professional safety advice. Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  4. Sep 25

    Women Are Expected to Be Good AND Bad

    Send us Fan Mail Are you a “good girl” or a “bad girl”? And who decided what either of those things actually means? Trina and Nicole unpack the double standards, shame, sexuality, motherhood and expectations that still shape how women are judged. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we explore the good girl/bad girl dichotomy and what happens when women step outside the roles society expects them to play. Trina shares how working in adult entertainment exposed her to assumptions about who she was as a woman, mother and partner, even when those assumptions had little to do with who she actually was. Nicole brings a different perspective: appearing more like the stereotypical “good girl” while making unconventional choices and refusing to build her life around other people's expectations. Together, we talk about sexual shame, dating, motherhood, work, independence, sex work, disability, bodily autonomy and the strange tightrope women are expected to walk: attractive but respectable, independent but nurturing, sexual but not “too sexual,” confident but not threatening. At some point, maybe the question isn't whether you're a good girl or a bad girl. Maybe it's why we're still sorting women into those boxes at all. Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  5. Sep 9

    Why Women Fake Pleasure (And What It Really Means)

    Send us Fan Mail Why do women fake orgasms, and is it always because the sex isn't good?  The real reasons can involve pressure, insecurity, pain, performance, communication... and sometimes simply wanting it to be over. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards have an honest conversation about why women fake orgasms and what faking can reveal about pleasure, confidence, communication, and intimacy. We talk about the pressure to “perform” during sex, worrying about how your body looks or sounds, orgasm expectations, the emphasis society places on penetrative intimacy, and how getting stuck in your head can make pleasure even harder. We also explore intimacy when penetration is painful, difficult, or impossible because of surgery, disability, medical conditions, or sexual-function changes, and why taking penetration and orgasm off the pedestal can sometimes create more room for genuine pleasure. And then there's the controversial question: Is there ever a time when faking an orgasm might actually be okay? Trina shares one situation where, based entirely on her own personal experience, she thinks it might be. No study. No scientific claim. Just an interesting idea we're curious to hear your thoughts about. In this episode: ❤️ Why women fake orgasms  ❤️ Sex and performance pressure  ❤️ Body insecurity during intimacy  ❤️ Why orgasm shouldn't become a “quota”  ❤️ Penetration vs. non-penetrative intimacy  ❤️ Getting out of your head and back into your body  ❤️ Intimacy after surgery or medical changes  ❤️ Performance anxiety and erections  ❤️ Talking openly about pleasure with your partner  ❤️ The one situation where Trina thinks faking might actually help Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  6. Aug 26

    Dating With an Ostomy: Confidence, Leaks & Intimacy

    Send us Fan Mail Dating with an ostomy can bring up questions most dating advice never touches: What if my bag makes noise? What if I have a leak? When do I tell them? And what happens if the date leads to intimacy? In this episode of Rewired and Desired, Trina Ricketts and Nicole Richards get very real about dating with an ostomy, from preparing your body and choosing what to wear to handling disclosure, intimacy, body confidence and the unexpected moments nobody warns you about. In this episode, we talk about: ●      Preparing your ostomy before a date ●      Learning your body's output patterns ●      Dressing confidently without spending a fortune ●      Hygiene, grooming and getting ready for intimacy ●      What to bring in case of an ostomy leak ●      A real story about having a leak during a date ●      When to tell someone you have an ostomy ●      Whether to put your ostomy in your dating profile ●      Checking restaurant menus ahead of time ●      Belly bands, bag covers and intimacy ●      Managing ostomy sounds and worries during sex ●      Getting out of your head about your body ●      Why confidence matters more than having a "perfect" body ●      Handling rejection and dating without taking it personally ●      Dating in your 40s, 50s and beyond Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  7. Aug 5

    Intimacy Without Penetration: What Every Couple Should Know

    Send us Fan Mail What if taking penetration off the table actually brought you closer together? If pain, surgery, disability, ostomy, erectile dysfunction, or body changes have made intimacy feel impossible, this conversation may completely change the way you think about connection. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, intimacy coach Trina Ricketts and ostomy advocate Nicole Richardschallenge one of the biggest myths we've been taught: That penetration is the goal of intimacy. Instead, they explore how couples can rebuild desire, trust, emotional safety, and physical closeness without feeling pressured to perform. Inside this conversation you'll learn: • Why so many women continue having painful sex out of guilt or obligation • Why men often grieve the loss of penetrative sex after surgery • How illness, disability and body changes affect desire • Why emotional safety changes everything • How taking penetration off the table can actually increase intimacy • Practical ways to reconnect physically • Non-penetrative intimacy ideas • Communication tips for couples after surgery • Trina's "Fake Lay" techniques and why they were created Whether you're living with an ostomy, recovering from surgery, navigating erectile dysfunction, chronic illness, pelvic pain, or simply wanting a deeper relationship, this episode offers hope, practical ideas, and a new way to think about intimacy. Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

  8. Jul 21

    The Truth About Female Pleasure

    Send us Fan Mail Most people were never taught what actually creates female pleasure. In this episode of Rewired and Desired, we have an honest conversation about why many women lose interest in intimacy, why penetration is often treated as the goal, and what actually creates connection, desire, and pleasure. As an intimacy coach working with people after illness, disability, and body-altering surgery, Trina hears the same fears over and over from both men and women. Nicole shares how her own health journey changed the way she thinks about intimacy, while together we explore emotional connection, communication, body confidence, foreplay, pelvic health, erectile dysfunction, aging, and why great intimacy is about far more than performance. Whether you're navigating disability, long-term relationships, menopause, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, or simply want a healthier perspective on intimacy, this conversation offers practical ideas without shame or unrealistic expectations. Support the show 📌 Connect With Us Trina Ricketts – The Intimate Ostomate Website: intimateostomate.com Instagram:   / intimateostomate  Youtube:    / @intimateostomate  Books, guides, coaching & resources Coaching • Books / Guides • Resources • Intimacy Advocacy Nicole Richards - Ostomy Innovations Website: ostomyinnovations222.com Instagram:   / ostomyinnovations  Youtube:    / @ostomyinnovations222  Coaching • Wellness • Disability advocacy • Ostomy Clothing

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Rewired & Desired is a bold, refreshing, and deeply human conversation where intimacy, mindset, and disability finally come together without shame, limits, or apology. Hosted by Trina Ricketts, The Intimate Ostomate and Nicole Richards of Ostomy Innovations.

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