I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible

Richard Mills
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Welcome to I Mean This in the Nicest Way Possible — the unapologetically honest podcast from artist and author Richard Armande Mills (RAM). Hosted by RAM, this show dives into the real work behind becoming who you actually are. Each episode blends honest reflection, cultural commentary, and the unapologetic belief that you’re allowed to want more for yourself. Expect confession-meets-commentary, a dash of pop culture, humor, depth, personal stories, and the kind of truth you’d only say to your closest friend — in the nicest way possible.

  1. 2d ago

    Let People Be Who They Want To Be

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… let people be who they want to be. This week, RAM is back solo and unfiltered, starting with the reaction to his new single “Grocery Swag” that pissed him off enough to inspire an entire conversation about expectations. Why do we feel entitled to decide how other people should create, behave, communicate, or live? RAM talks about his growing intolerance for complaining without solutions, people who lack emotional intelligence, and his ongoing battle against the “Black Mirror” stealing time from the offline things he actually loves, like reading. But it all comes back to one thing: unless someone is hurting themselves or others, their life is theirs to live. You don’t have to understand it. You don’t even have to like it. Let artists make the art they want. Let people change. Let people live. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  2. Sep 9

    Get You A Bestie Like Mine

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… get you a bestie like mine. For the first guest episode in the history of the show, RAM is joined by his best friend of eight years, Driena, from her home in Miami. From meeting on a work trip and accidentally speaking Spanglish to each other, to surviving chaotic travels, career changes, heartbreaks, and plenty of shared misery, RAM and Driena look back at the moments that turned a friendship into something much deeper. They answer your questions about staying close long-distance, dealing with negativity, finding quality friends, and why honesty, vulnerability, authenticity, and being a safe space for each other matter so much. There are laughs, a few tears, questionable inside jokes, and a lot of love. Because a real best friend isn’t just someone you have fun with. They’re someone you can be completely yourself with. Get you a bestie like mine.

  3. Sep 2

    IDGAF Anymore

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… IDGAF anymore. This week, RAM gets real about reaching a new level of not caring about outside opinions, judgment, comparison, competition, or the weird energy people bring into our lives. After years of being scrutinized for everything from his sexuality and self-expression to how he lived his life professionally, RAM reflects on finally returning to the person he was before other people taught him to censor himself. He discusses ghost followers, social media purges, embracing uncomfortable conversations, and why authenticity sometimes requires letting people misunderstand you. RAM also revisits last week’s conversation about death and legacy, reflects on losing his mentor, and shares why Dolly Parton’s passing became a powerful example of a life well lived. The goal now? Be honest. Be uncomfortable. Be yourself. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  4. Aug 27

    Death F-ing Sucks

    Death f-ing sucks. There’s really no nicer way to put it. After nearly two months away, I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible returns for Season 3 with a new format, a video podcast, and a much more unfiltered RAM. In the premiere, RAM reflects on death, grief, and the strange ways losing people changes how we perceive those who are still here. From an acid trip that unexpectedly turned existential to the book Crying in H Mart, the deaths of a childhood friend, Hayden Panettiere, and his own stepfather, this episode is less about finding the “right” thing to say about loss and more about sitting honestly with what it leaves behind. RAM also reflects on the guilt of not calling his grandmother enough, why comforting someone who’s grieving can feel impossible, and the reminder death keeps giving him: hold your people close while you still can. And after a season dedicated to building a legacy, Season 3 begins with the other side of that conversation: what remains when someone is gone? I mean this in the nicest way possible… death f-ing sucks.

  5. Season 3 Trailer

    Introducing Season 3: I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible

    After two seasons of lessons, reflection, and figuring out how to live with a little more intention, I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible is throwing out the lesson plan. And after nearly two months away, RAM is back. Season 1 was about looking inward. Season 2 was about taking what you learned and putting it into practice. Season 3 is what happens when RAM stops trying to teach you something and simply tells you exactly what he thinks. No masterclass. No carefully constructed lesson. No pretending every conversation needs to arrive at a neat conclusion. This season is rawer, looser, more personal, and—for the first time—unscripted. RAM takes on whatever is occupying his mind, from grief, relationships, friendship, and identity to culture, creativity, growing older, building a legacy, and everything that happens to fall somewhere in between. And he won't always be doing it alone. For the first time, I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible opens the door to guests, bringing other voices into the conversations and allowing them to go wherever they naturally lead. There will still be reflection. There will still be uncomfortable questions. There will probably still be a lesson hiding somewhere in all of it. But this time, finding one isn't the assignment. At its core, Season 3 asks a different kind of question: What happens when you stop trying to package everything you've learned and just say what's actually on your mind? This is the unfiltered season. The unscripted season. The season where the conversation matters more than the conclusion. The break is over. RAM has some things to say. And if that's your thing — you can still sit with us.

  6. Jul 1

    Leave An F-ing Legacy

    If you’ve ever wondered what people will actually remember about you after you're gone, or even after you simply leave a room… this episode is for you. In the season two finale of I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible, RAM delivers one final challenge that ties the entire season together: stop chasing recognition and start building a legacy. This week, RAM unpacks why legacy has very little to do with money, fame, followers, or status. Instead, it is built through the quiet, consistent ways we make people feel, the standards we model, and the lives we leave better than we found them. From emotional safety and integrity to generosity and everyday consistency, he explores how impact is created one ordinary choice at a time. You’ll hear about: • Why legacy is measured by impact, not attention • The difference between being seen and being felt • How consistency creates a meaningful life more than grand gestures ever could • Why emotional memory outlasts words and accomplishments • The connection between legacy, identity, and daily habits • How contribution quietly shapes the people around you • Why everyone leaves a legacy, whether they intend to or not Then RAM gets personal. He reflects on how every lesson from Season 2 has been quietly leading to this conversation, from becoming a better friend and speaking up for yourself to protecting your health, pursuing curiosity, giving back, and living with greater intention. He shares why legacy is not something reserved for the end of life, but something practiced every single day. You’ll also learn: • Why meaningful influence rarely happens in the spotlight • How to build trust through repeated, intentional actions • Why presence matters more than performance • How to create emotional safety in your relationships and communities • What it truly means to leave people better than you found them And because this show is about action, not just awareness, RAM introduces The Quiet Imprint Challenge, which is a simple invitation to choose one relationship or environment and intentionally practice one legacy-building behavior until it becomes part of who you are. This is not about fame. It is not about being remembered by everyone. It is about becoming someone whose presence quietly makes life better for the people around you. If you’ve got 23 minutes, RAM means this in the nicest way possible: leave a f*****g legacy. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  7. Jun 24

    Stop Being Such A Greedy B***h

    If you’ve ever felt disconnected, restless, or oddly unfulfilled despite focusing so much energy on your own goals, responsibilities, and problems… this episode is for you. In this episode of I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible, RAM delivers a truth that feels both challenging and liberating: life gets bigger when you stop making it entirely about yourself. This week, RAM unpacks why generosity is about far more than money. From volunteering and donating to offering time, attention, effort, and care, he explores how contribution strengthens mental health, deepens connection, and helps people build lives that feel meaningful rather than merely productive. You’ll hear about: • Why generosity benefits the giver as much as the receiver • How acts of service improve mood, reduce stress, and strengthen emotional well-being • The connection between contribution, belonging, and identity • Why volunteering can reduce loneliness and increase life satisfaction • How generosity interrupts scarcity thinking and emotional isolation • The difference between impact and performative philanthropy • Why giving back is more accessible than most people realize Then RAM gets personal. He shares the childhood lesson that permanently shaped his relationship with generosity, including the moment he watched another child receive one of his donated toys and realized that giving could feel even better than keeping. He also reflects on his ongoing commitment to local causes, animal welfare, and community involvement, along with his desire to contribute even more in the years ahead. You’ll also learn: • Why generosity works best when it aligns with your values • How to give back without needing significant money or resources • Why local causes often create the most meaningful impact • How consistency matters more than grand gestures • What generosity teaches us about purpose, connection, and legacy And because this show is about action, not just awareness, RAM introduces The Circulate It Challenge, which is a simple invitation to support one local cause this week through time, effort, money, or supplies. This is not about guilt. It is not about moral superiority. It is about choosing contribution over accumulation and participation over isolation. If you’ve got 20 minutes, RAM means this in the nicest way possible: Stop being such a greedy bitch. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  8. Jun 17

    It's Okay To Be Delulu

    If you’ve ever felt ready to pursue something bigger, only to talk yourself out of it because you lacked proof, credentials, or permission… this episode is for you. In this episode of I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible, RAM delivers a surprisingly practical defense of being a little delulu. Not fantasy. Not denial. Not pretending you're something you're not. Self-belief before proof. This week, RAM unpacks why confidence often has to arrive before results do. From identity-first action to the psychology of self-belief, he explores why the people who move first are often not the most qualified. They're simply the most willing to believe in themselves long enough for reality to catch up. You’ll hear about: • Why people often confuse confidence with delusion • How self-belief shapes behavior before results ever appear • The psychology behind identity, action, and confidence loops • Why confidence grows through repetition, not wishful thinking • The difference between self-trust and arrogance • How affirmations actually work when grounded in reality • Why bold people often succeed faster than people who endlessly wait to feel ready Then RAM gets personal. He shares how he claimed identities like singer, writer, creator, and podcaster long before anyone handed him credentials or permission. He reflects on the criticism, skepticism, and discomfort that often come with moving like someone who believes in themselves before external validation arrives. You’ll also learn: • How to use identity as a tool for consistency and growth • Why confidence survives rejection better than motivation does • How belief influences resilience, risk-taking, and follow-through • The line between healthy confidence and self-deception • Why doubt can exist without being allowed to drive your decisions And because this show is about action, not just awareness, RAM introduces The Make Your Delulu Trululu Challenge, which is a simple invitation to claim one identity you've been downplaying and spend the week collecting evidence that it belongs to you. This is not about pretending. It is not about bypassing reality. It is about believing in yourself enough to begin before the world agrees. If you’ve got 27 minutes, RAM means this in the nicest way possible: It's okay to be delulu. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

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Welcome to I Mean This in the Nicest Way Possible — the unapologetically honest podcast from artist and author Richard Armande Mills (RAM). Hosted by RAM, this show dives into the real work behind becoming who you actually are. Each episode blends honest reflection, cultural commentary, and the unapologetic belief that you’re allowed to want more for yourself. Expect confession-meets-commentary, a dash of pop culture, humor, depth, personal stories, and the kind of truth you’d only say to your closest friend — in the nicest way possible.

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