I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible

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Welcome to I Mean This in the Nicest Way Possible — the unapologetically honest podcast from artist and author Richard Armande Mills (RAM). Hosted by RAM, this show dives into the real work behind becoming who you actually are. Each episode blends honest reflection, cultural commentary, and the unapologetic belief that you’re allowed to want more for yourself. Expect confession-meets-commentary, a dash of pop culture, humor, depth, personal stories, and the kind of truth you’d only say to your closest friend — in the nicest way possible.

  1. 3d ago

    We Could All Stand To Have A Little More Audacity

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… we could all stand to have a little more audacity. This week, RAM is turning the microphone on himself. Inspired by watching underdogs finally get their flowers, RAM confronts an uncomfortable truth: he has big dreams, knows what he wants, and creates constantly, but still struggles with the audacity to truly put himself out there. From promoting his music and networking as a writer to the fear of rejection that comes with sharing the things you care about most, RAM gets candid about the difference between creating the work and actually fighting to make sure people see it. So he’s giving himself one month to change that with The Audacity Challenge: promote more, ask more, risk rejection, make connections, and see what happens. Because the kindest thing you can do is be real. And sometimes, you need the audacity to bet on yourself.

  2. Sep 30

    Make Sure You Have An F-ing Plan

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… make sure you have an f-ing plan. This week, RAM has absolutely no plan, which somehow turns into an entire episode about why you probably should. From unexpectedly not caring about his upcoming birthday and watching the realities of small business ownership up close, to finding the balance between creating content and actually living your life, RAM has thoughts. He also celebrates an unexpected pop music victory, revisits his battle with the Black Mirror, explains why “present absence” is ruining our time together, and gets very opinionated about AI-generated music and art. It’s unplanned, unfiltered, opinionated, and exactly what Season 3 was meant to be. Have a plan for your money. Have a plan for your attention. Have a plan for your creativity. Or, apparently, just turn on a microphone and see what happens. 😂

  3. Sep 24

    Get You A Friend On Social Media Who's Even Cooler In Real Life

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… get you a friend on social media who’s even cooler in real life. This week, RAM welcomes his second-ever guest, his LA-based friend Abby Rieskamp, for a conversation about friendship, social media, creator culture, relationships, and travel. After becoming friends online before ever meeting in person, RAM and Abby look back at how their social media friendship became the real thing. Abby shares her perspective from working in creator marketing while creating content herself, including brand deals, social media etiquette, finding your personal style, and why you don’t necessarily need a niche. They also get into dating in the age of Instagram, keeping relationships private versus secret, traveling solo, and why sometimes the best experiences happen when you stop following the internet’s itinerary. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  4. Sep 16

    Let People Be Who They Want To Be

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… let people be who they want to be. This week, RAM is back solo and unfiltered, starting with the reaction to his new single “Grocery Swag” that pissed him off enough to inspire an entire conversation about expectations. Why do we feel entitled to decide how other people should create, behave, communicate, or live? RAM talks about his growing intolerance for complaining without solutions, people who lack emotional intelligence, and his ongoing battle against the “Black Mirror” stealing time from the offline things he actually loves, like reading. But it all comes back to one thing: unless someone is hurting themselves or others, their life is theirs to live. You don’t have to understand it. You don’t even have to like it. Let artists make the art they want. Let people change. Let people live. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  5. Sep 9

    Get You A Bestie Like Mine

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… get you a bestie like mine. For the first guest episode in the history of the show, RAM is joined by his best friend of eight years, Driena, from her home in Miami. From meeting on a work trip and accidentally speaking Spanglish to each other, to surviving chaotic travels, career changes, heartbreaks, and plenty of shared misery, RAM and Driena look back at the moments that turned a friendship into something much deeper. They answer your questions about staying close long-distance, dealing with negativity, finding quality friends, and why honesty, vulnerability, authenticity, and being a safe space for each other matter so much. There are laughs, a few tears, questionable inside jokes, and a lot of love. Because a real best friend isn’t just someone you have fun with. They’re someone you can be completely yourself with. Get you a bestie like mine.

  6. Sep 2

    IDGAF Anymore

    I mean this in the nicest way possible… IDGAF anymore. This week, RAM gets real about reaching a new level of not caring about outside opinions, judgment, comparison, competition, or the weird energy people bring into our lives. After years of being scrutinized for everything from his sexuality and self-expression to how he lived his life professionally, RAM reflects on finally returning to the person he was before other people taught him to censor himself. He discusses ghost followers, social media purges, embracing uncomfortable conversations, and why authenticity sometimes requires letting people misunderstand you. RAM also revisits last week’s conversation about death and legacy, reflects on losing his mentor, and shares why Dolly Parton’s passing became a powerful example of a life well lived. The goal now? Be honest. Be uncomfortable. Be yourself. Because the kindest thing you can do… is be real.

  7. Aug 27

    Death F-ing Sucks

    Death f-ing sucks. There’s really no nicer way to put it. After nearly two months away, I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible returns for Season 3 with a new format, a video podcast, and a much more unfiltered RAM. In the premiere, RAM reflects on death, grief, and the strange ways losing people changes how we perceive those who are still here. From an acid trip that unexpectedly turned existential to the book Crying in H Mart, the deaths of a childhood friend, Hayden Panettiere, and his own stepfather, this episode is less about finding the “right” thing to say about loss and more about sitting honestly with what it leaves behind. RAM also reflects on the guilt of not calling his grandmother enough, why comforting someone who’s grieving can feel impossible, and the reminder death keeps giving him: hold your people close while you still can. And after a season dedicated to building a legacy, Season 3 begins with the other side of that conversation: what remains when someone is gone? I mean this in the nicest way possible… death f-ing sucks.

  8. Season 3 Trailer

    Introducing Season 3: I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible

    After two seasons of lessons, reflection, and figuring out how to live with a little more intention, I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible is throwing out the lesson plan. And after nearly two months away, RAM is back. Season 1 was about looking inward. Season 2 was about taking what you learned and putting it into practice. Season 3 is what happens when RAM stops trying to teach you something and simply tells you exactly what he thinks. No masterclass. No carefully constructed lesson. No pretending every conversation needs to arrive at a neat conclusion. This season is rawer, looser, more personal, and—for the first time—unscripted. RAM takes on whatever is occupying his mind, from grief, relationships, friendship, and identity to culture, creativity, growing older, building a legacy, and everything that happens to fall somewhere in between. And he won't always be doing it alone. For the first time, I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible opens the door to guests, bringing other voices into the conversations and allowing them to go wherever they naturally lead. There will still be reflection. There will still be uncomfortable questions. There will probably still be a lesson hiding somewhere in all of it. But this time, finding one isn't the assignment. At its core, Season 3 asks a different kind of question: What happens when you stop trying to package everything you've learned and just say what's actually on your mind? This is the unfiltered season. The unscripted season. The season where the conversation matters more than the conclusion. The break is over. RAM has some things to say. And if that's your thing — you can still sit with us.

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Welcome to I Mean This in the Nicest Way Possible — the unapologetically honest podcast from artist and author Richard Armande Mills (RAM). Hosted by RAM, this show dives into the real work behind becoming who you actually are. Each episode blends honest reflection, cultural commentary, and the unapologetic belief that you’re allowed to want more for yourself. Expect confession-meets-commentary, a dash of pop culture, humor, depth, personal stories, and the kind of truth you’d only say to your closest friend — in the nicest way possible.

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