Ask Mom Parenting with Sue Donnellan

Sue Donnellan
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Get Kids to Listen Without Yelling, Threats, or Repeating Yourself The Ask Mom Parenting Podcast is a reset for overwhelmed parents tired of reacting, over-explaining, and managing emotions all day. Hosted by parenting strategist, author, mom of four, and reformed yeller Sue Donnellan, this show challenges conventional advice and replaces it with calm, leadership-based thinking. You’ll learn how to stop absorbing urgency, communicate with clarity, prevent power struggles, and raise capable kids without fear, shame, or permissiveness. Less reacting. More leadership. Real change starts here.

  1. 1d ago

    Co-Parenting When It’s Messy: How to Keep Your Child Out of the Middle

    When co-parenting, you can't control the other parent...but you can protect your child from getting caught in the middle!   Co-parenting can feel exhausting when you're trying to navigate different parenting styles, unresolved emotions, schedule changes, and the constant worry about how it all affects your child. In this episode, I'm sharing a different way to approach co-parenting when things feel messy, tense, or completely out of your control.   Rather than focusing on what happens in the other home, we'll talk about where your real influence lives and how creating stability, emotional safety, and consistency in your own home can make a bigger impact than you may realize. If you've ever felt caught between wanting to protect your child and wanting to prove a point, this conversation is for you. If you've ever asked yourself... "How do I co-parent with someone who does things completely differently than I do?""What should I do when I disagree with what's happening in the other home?""How can I keep my child from feeling stuck in the middle?""Is it possible to co-parent well when communication feels difficult?""How do I protect my child's emotional well-being during a separation or divorce?""What should I do when my child comes home upset, overwhelmed, or confused?""How can I stay calm when co-parenting conflicts keep showing up?""Where should I focus my energy when I can't control the other parent?"...then listen to this one for all the answers.   Creating a safe, steady home for your child doesn't require controlling someone else's parenting. It starts with leading your own home with confidence and consistency!   Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠   Resources: Learn how you can work with Sue at: https://www.askmomparenting.com/coaching/Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/Grab a copy of Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2

    26 min

  2. Jun 3 ·  Bonus

    Gentle Parenting, Military Life & Raising Independent Kids | Conversation with Joy Alfred Brand

    If modern parenting feels exhausting, overwhelming, or way more complicated than it needs to be, this conversation will feel like a deep breath. In this episode, I sit down with Joy Alfred Brand for an honest conversation about gentle parenting, military family life, raising independent kids, and what it really means to lead at home without trying to control every move your child makes. We talk about motherhood, entrepreneurship, military marriage, deployments, and the pressure so many parents feel to do everything “right” while quietly wondering why parenting feels so hard. I also share parts of my own story, going from one child to triplets, learning through Montessori, building a business, navigating military life, and slowly realizing that raising capable kids does not come from yelling, over-parenting, or managing every moment for them. It comes from leadership, structure, trust, boundaries, and letting kids build real skills inside the family. If you’re trying to raise respectful, resilient, independent kids without losing yourself in the process, I hope this conversation gives you some encouragement and a little more confidence in the long game. Thank you for listening and being part of this parenting community. If you like this conversation please like or comment your thoughts and subscribe for more updates. Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠ Resources: Learn how you can work with Sue at: https://www.askmomparenting.com/coaching/Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/Grab a copy of Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2

    1h 2m

  3. May 27

    How to Help Your ADHD Child Before Medication

    What if your ADHD child doesn't need more reminders, but a better system? Your child knows where the shoes go. They know the backpack needs to make it to school. And yet somehow, every morning still feels like a scavenger hunt mixed with a power struggle. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest mindset shifts parents can make when it comes to ADHD: stopping the cycle of constant reminders and starting to build systems that actually support how your child’s brain works.   I’m sharing practical ways parents can create calmer routines, reduce chaos at home, and help ADHD kids build lifelong skills without turning every moment into a lecture or battle. This conversation is all about helping parents feel empowered again and showing kids that they’re capable, supported, and understood...not “the difficult one” in the family. If you’ve ever asked yourself… Why does my child forget things even when I know they heard me?How do I help my ADHD child without constantly yelling or nagging?Is my child being lazy… or genuinely stuck?What can I do at home before jumping straight to medication?How do I create routines that actually work for my child’s brain?Why do mornings and transitions feel so exhausting in our house?How can I help my child become more independent over time?…then listen to this one for all the answers.   Small shifts at home can change the entire tone of parenting! This episode will help you start looking at your child, and your systems, through a completely different lens.   Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠   Resources: Learn how you can work with Sue at: https://www.askmomparenting.com/coaching/Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/Grab a copy of Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2

    26 min

  4. May 15

    Are You a People Pleaser Raising a Strong-Willed Child?

    Parenting a strong-willed kid as a people-pleaser can lead to constant power struggles... but it doesn't have to be that way! If you’ve spent your life trying to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or make everyone happy, raising a strong-willed child can feel exhausting and confusing. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest parenting patterns I see: people-pleasing parents unintentionally giving away their leadership because they’re uncomfortable holding firm boundaries. It might feel kinder to over-explain, soften the “no,” or avoid upsetting your child, but with strong-willed kids, that approach often leads to more negotiating, more pushback, and bigger power struggles. In my own parenting journey, I realized that constantly explaining, negotiating, and trying to avoid conflict was actually teaching my child that my boundaries were flexible. In this episode, I’ll walk you through the mindset shifts that changed everything for me, plus how to lead your child with calm authority without becoming controlling, harsh, or disconnected. If you've ever asked yourself... Why does my child push back on everything I say?How do I hold boundaries without feeling guilty?Why do I keep giving in even when I know I shouldn’t?How do I stop negotiating every little thing with my child?Why does saying “no” feel so emotionally hard for me?What actually works with strong-willed kids without yelling or constant punishment?…then listen to this one for all the answers. The more you shift from people-pleasing to steady leadership, the easier it becomes to parent your strong-willed child with confidence, clarity, and connection. Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠ Resources: Learn how you can work with Sue at: https://www.askmomparenting.com/coaching/Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/Grab a copy of Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2 ⁠⁠

    28 min

  5. May 6 ·  Bonus

    Authority vs. Influence (Why High Achievers Struggle With Parenting)

    Most high-performing parents approach parenting the same way they approach everything else in life… and it often backfires! If you’re used to leading, achieving, and getting results, it can feel confusing and frustrating when those same skills don’t seem to work at home. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest parenting disconnects I see: relying on authority and control instead of building influence with your kids. It might feel natural to expect quick compliance, but with kids, that approach often leads to resistance, power struggles, and more yelling. In my early parenting years I found myself constantly frustrated, expecting my kids to respond the way adults do… and realizing that approach was actually making things worse. In this episode I’ll walk you through the key shift that changed everything for me, plus how to move from short-term obedience to long-term connection, trust, and self-management. If you've ever asked yourself... Why does my child listen at first but then go right back to the behavior when I’m not around?How do I get my kids to listen without repeating myself or raising my voice?Why does my child push back so much when I’m just trying to help?How do I build respect without relying on fear or authority?What actually works if control and pressure don’t?…then listen to this one for all the answers. The more you shift from control to connection, the easier it becomes to lead your kids in a way that actually works. Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠ Resources: Grab a copy of Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2 ⁠⁠Learn how you can work with Sue at: http://askmomparenting.com/get-helpConnect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/

    9 min

  6. Apr 22

    How to Tell If It’s a Tantrum or Bad Behavior (And What to Do Next)

    Most parents react to tantrums and bad behavior the same way, and it often backfires!   If your child’s meltdowns all start to look the same, it’s easy to feel stuck, frustrated, and unsure what to do next. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest parenting mistakes I see: treating tantrums and bad behavior like they’re the same thing. They may look similar on the outside, but they need very different responses.   I share a personal story from my own early parenting years when our three-year-old seemed to go from sweet and steady to full meltdown mode overnight, plus the lesson that changed everything for our family. I’ll walk you through how to spot the difference between a child who is overwhelmed versus a child who is testing limits, and share practical strategies for how to respond to each one so you can help instead of making things worse.   If you've ever asked yourself... Is this a real tantrum or is my child just pushing boundaries?Why does my child’s behavior get worse when I try to talk them through it?Should I ignore this behavior or step in right away?Why do some meltdowns seem random while others keep repeating?How do I stay calm when everything feels like it’s escalating?What response will actually help change this pattern?…then listen to this one for all the answers.   The more clearly you understand the behavior in front of you, the easier it becomes to respond with confidence!   Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠   Resources: Tantrum & Behavior Rescue Kit: https://academy.askmomparenting.com/courses/offers/293ab1ba-a7d8-4bcf-bd48-b5b95e8d8c1aLearn how you can work with Sue at: http://askmomparenting.com/get-helpRead Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2 ⁠⁠Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/

    25 min

  7. Apr 8

    Stop Sibling Fights Tonight: Proven Strategy That Restores Peace

    Are you accidentally fueling sibling fights without even realizing it? In this episode, we expose how well-meaning parents can unknowingly assign roles like “the victim” and “the instigator,” trapping siblings in cycles of fighting and tattling that just repeat, day after day. I share the story of how my own attempt to referee a sibling crisis backfired, along with the strategy that finally brought peace back to my house. You’ll hear the three hidden drivers behind sibling conflicts, why stepping in does more harm than good, and the two essential behaviors that let you step back without abdicating your role as a parent.   If you’re tired of playing judge, jury, and referee or exhausted from endless tattling and sibling brawls, this episode will show you how to break the pattern...no yelling, no interrogations, and no picking sides. You’ll learn how to build true conflict resolution skills in your kids that last, so sibling squabbles stop running the household for good.   If you’ve ever asked yourself... “Why are my kids always fighting?"“How do I keep them safe without picking sides?”“What’s the real reason my kids keep competing for fairness, power, or my attention?”“How can I teach my kids the skills to resolve fights without me constantly mediating?”…then listen to this one for all the answers.   Long-term, you’ll see less fighting and reduced tattling. Sibling bonds will grow stronger, not because you micromanaged every spat, but because you taught your kids to resolve things themselves!   Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠   Resources: Check out my Fight-Free Parenting System: https://www.askmomparenting.com/get-help/fight-free-parenting/Learn how you can work with Sue at: http://askmomparenting.com/get-helpRead Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2 ⁠⁠Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/

    28 min

  8. Mar 25

    Stop the Attitude: Calm Parenting That Builds Real Respect

    Is your child’s attitude really about disrespect, or is it a signal you’re missing? In this episode, we dive deep into those familiar moments when simple requests turn into power struggles, and explain the difference between compliance and genuine respect. With relatable stories and actionable mindset and method shifts, we break down how to sidestep attitude, foster cooperation, and build a lasting, respectful relationship with your child - no yelling, lecturing, or micromanaging required. Learn why your child’s pushback isn’t the root problem, but a signal you can decode and respond to for better outcomes. Discover effective strategies for calm leadership, mutual respect, and collaborative problem solving at home, plus practical phrases and mindset shifts to help you hold firm boundaries without damaging connection. Have you wondered: “Why does my child react with attitude when I ask something reasonable?”“How can I get stuff done without starting a power struggle every day?”“What’s the difference between obedience, compliance, and real respect?”“How do I motivate my child to help out without nagging or micromanaging?”“Am I being too firm, too loose, or just missing the sweet spot?”  While compliance does feel good in the moment, a relationship with real respect is what works long-term. Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠   Resources: Learn how you can work with Sue at: http://askmomparenting.com/get-helpRead Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2 ⁠⁠Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/

    30 min
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Get Kids to Listen Without Yelling, Threats, or Repeating Yourself The Ask Mom Parenting Podcast is a reset for overwhelmed parents tired of reacting, over-explaining, and managing emotions all day. Hosted by parenting strategist, author, mom of four, and reformed yeller Sue Donnellan, this show challenges conventional advice and replaces it with calm, leadership-based thinking. You’ll learn how to stop absorbing urgency, communicate with clarity, prevent power struggles, and raise capable kids without fear, shame, or permissiveness. Less reacting. More leadership. Real change starts here.

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