Ask Mom Parenting with Sue Donnellan

Sue Donnellan
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Parenting Questions Keeping You Up? I’m Sue, a reformed yeller, mom of four including triplets, Montessori-trained parenting strategist, and someone who's spent 25+ years helping parents through the messy stuff. Tantrums, backtalk, screen battles, sibling fights, defiance, big emotions, co-parenting...we talk about all of it. Each episode gives you practical, actionable tools, real language, and simple ways to set boundaries, get more cooperation, and raise capable kids. Start with the episode that sounds most like your home. Hit play tonight and use it tomorrow.

  1. Oct 21

    Why Adult Kids Cut Their Parents Off and How to Prevent It

    Why do adult children cut off contact with their parents, and how can parents rebuild communication before or after estrangement happens? In this episode, I deep dive into why adult children cut off parents and explain how what looks like a sudden decision is often a long process of emotional distance. I walk through the difference between authority and influence, how defensiveness damages connection, and why setting boundaries is not the same as breaking off a relationship. You will learn actionable steps to take right now to build a safe, open relationship with your kids, whether they are three or thirty-three. With tips such as swapping defensive reactions for open curiosity, respecting boundaries without taking them as personal insults, and asking your kids brave questions about how you can do better, I am breaking down why adult children cut off parents and leaving you with this challenge: ask your child a question about what makes it hard to be around you, and listen to their answer without defending yourself or explaining your actions. If you’ve ever asked yourself: Why did my grown child stop calling or start pulling back from our family? Is my adult child setting a boundary with me, or are they cutting me off completely? How can I stop getting defensive when my child shares how I hurt them? What should I do if my adult child says they need space from me?  …this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: Understand why estrangement rarely happens overnight and learn how to recognize subtle warning signs like shortened phone calls or surface-level conversations.Shift your mindset from rigid control to relationship-building, recognizing that parental authority expires as children grow into adulthood.Learn how to treat an adult child’s boundary as a guide for keeping them in your life rather than a personal insult.Replace defensive statements with compassionate, curious responses that acknowledge your child's feelings without starting a debate.Discover why recruiting relatives, posting on social media, or showing up uninvited drives adult children further away, and learn what to do instead If you are experiencing complex family distress or mental health challenges, consider seeking guidance from a qualified family counselor or mental health professional. Resources: Join the Yell-Free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠ at https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellfreeparentingforexhaustedmomsRead Sue's book ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck at https://a.co/d/0gHO73tcConnect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParentingWatch the show on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@AskMomTheParentingPodcast

  2. Oct 7

    Suicide Risk: What New Research Says Parents Should Watch For

    What surprising emotional sign indicates an immediate suicide risk in teenagers? In this episode, we're diving into the new and groundbreaking Harvard-led research that changes how parents should watch for adolescent suicide risk signs. I explain why sudden agitation, restless energy, and intense outbursts (rather than just quiet sadness) can be a critical short-term warning signal during a mental health crisis. I'm breaking down how to spot these out-of-character behavioral spikes so you can step in safely and effectively. If you’ve ever asked yourself: Why is my usually calm teenager suddenly exploding over tiny, minor inconveniences? Is my child's extreme irritability just normal teenage moodiness, or a sign of a deeper mental health crisis? How do I directly ask my child if they are thinking about suicide without putting the idea in their head? What should I do immediately if I suspect my child is in distress and seeking relief from unbearable pain? …this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: How a Harvard-led study of over 600 high-risk individuals revealed that agitation (feeling wound up, restless, and intensely distressed) is a primary short-term predictor of a suicide crisis. How to spot operational signs of agitation in your home, including disproportionate anger, pacing, physical restlessness, and sudden zero-to-100 emotional escalations. Why 90% of attempted survivors report seeking immediate relief from unbearable pain rather than wanting to die, making the crisis moment survivable and interruptible. Concrete steps parents can take when noticing a sudden spike, including asking direct questions, reducing access to lethal means, staying present, and contacting the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Advice To Take With You: Do not wait to see if a sudden, out-of-character spike in agitation passes; treat intense restlessness and escalating outbursts as signals to ask direct questions and offer immediate, nonjudgmental support. If you suspect your child is in immediate danger or a mental health crisis, call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline right away. Share this episode with one other parent. You never know if they might need it. Resources:  Fight Free Parenting CourseJoin the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ckConnect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParentingWatch the show on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@AskMomTheParentingPodcast

  3. Sep 23

    Simple Ways to Reconnect with Your Teen & Build Trust

    How do I get my teenager to talk to me without pushing them away? In this episode, I unravel the real reasons behind teen distance, from biological brain shifts to the way we react as parents. I share practical ways to reconnect, including ditching the dramatic sit-downs, choosing more casual settings, and prioritizing truth over immediate correction. We’ll look at how small shifts in communication can help rebuild genuine trust with your adolescent. And I’ll leave you with one challenge: create just one moment this week with your teen where you bring zero agenda. If you’ve ever asked yourself: Why does my teenager shut down or pull away every time I try to talk to them? How can I address bad behavior or mistakes without destroying my child’s trust? What can I control when teenage biology and independence take over? …this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: What is actually going on in your teen's brain, and what portion of their behavior you can actually influence. Understanding why space is normal, but broken trust doesn't have to be. How to trade heavy "talks" for low-pressure settings, and why asking "Help me understand what happened" yields truth before correction. Parenting a teen isn't about controlling their independence, but rather managing your own reactions to keep communication lines open. By replacing interrogation with curiosity, you protect your bond and guide them through their mistakes safely. Resources:  Fight Free Parenting CourseJoin the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ckConnect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParentingWatch the show on YouTube!

  4. Sep 9

    Yelled at Your Child? 3 Ways to Repair It

    Can I repair my relationship with my child after losing my temper and yelling? If you’ve ever lost your temper, yelled at your kids, and immediately wondered, Did I just damage my relationship with my child? this episode is for you. I’m breaking down what to do after you yell at your child, how to apologize without over-explaining or making excuses, and why the way you handle the moments after you lose your cool can make a meaningful difference. We’ll also talk about parenting guilt, what real parent-child repair looks like, and how to take responsibility for your behavior without getting stuck in shame or defensiveness. If you’ve ever asked yourself: How do I apologize to my child even though they were pushing every one of my buttons? What can I do to change the way my child experiences me after a high-tension moment? How do I tailor my repair approach for a young child versus an independent teenager? …this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: How to deliver a clean, effective apology without conditional statements, and why you should save the "how do we fix this next time" conversation for a completely separate moment. How children sense when the household atmosphere resets to safety, warmth, and a reassuring "we're still us" connection after going through a moment that felt hard. Tailoring your repair strategy—whether that means offering a hug to a toddler, shooting hoops side-by-side with a school-aged kid, or giving a teenager space until they're ready to check back in. Real relationship repair isn't about being a perfect parent, it's about stepping up as a calm and intentional leader in your home. Practicing consistent repair creates a foundation of trust that carries into their adulthood, transforming everyday mistakes into powerful lessons in empathy and resilience. Watch the show on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 Resources: Start here:  Fight Free Parenting CourseJoin the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ckConnect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting

  5. Aug 26

    Teaching Kids About Money: The Value Lessons Most Miss

    Is your kid good with money, or just good at getting money from you? In this episode, we dive into the right way to give kids money and the crucial lessons about value that most kids never learn. From turning back rubs into earning opportunities, to the ever-changing going rate for picking up dog poop, to using Whole Foods cookies to teach spontaneity and generosity, I’m sharing practical ways to help kids understand how money actually works so they can become more financially capable along the way. If you’ve ever asked yourself: How do I stop handing out money just because it’s Friday?What’s the difference between routine family expectations and value-added earning?How can I teach my kids about spending choices and investing before they hit their 20s?…this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: How value is created, why kids shouldn't get paid just for existing, and how factors like supply, demand, and timing impact earnings.Why spending their own money feels completely different than spending yours, and how to step back so kids experience real financial consequences.Introducing kids to investing, "free money," dividend-producing funds, and family-friendly financial apps like Greenlight and BusyKid. Instead of giving handouts or fixed allowances for basic responsibilities, teach kids that money is exchanged for value-added initiative and guide them to manage, spend, and grow their own funds early. Doing so gives them the real-world experience needed to make thoughtful financial choices.   Watch the show on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 Resources: Greenlight, the money and safety app built with families in mind. With Greenlight’s debit card and app, parents can pay allowance, assign chores, and help their kids learn to earn, save, spend wisely, and invest.Join the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellfreeparentingforexhaustedmoms/⁠ Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: ⁠https://shorturl.at/lrcF2⁠Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: ⁠http://instagram.com/askmomparenting⁠

  6. Aug 12

    How to Motivate an Unmotivated Child | 3 Strategies to Try Tonight

    What if the key to motivating your child is to stop trying to motivate them? The reality is that motivation grows when kids learn one simple truth: What I do now affects what I get later. In this episode, I pull back the curtain on why trying to manufacture ambition in your kids will drive you crazy, and how shifting the structure around them puts responsibility squarely in their hands.I am sharing practical examples from setting up a family structure where responsibilities come first to using a child's dream to anchor daily habits. I break down how to handle power struggles, screen time battles, and constant nagging without lecturing, so you can help your child build true accountability. If you’ve ever asked yourself: How do I get my kid to care without having to invent a new lecture every week?What can I say instead of "get off your game and do your homework" to avoid an argument?How do I step back and hand responsibility over when it's so much faster to just do it myself?…this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: How to reverse the traditional order of your day so that responsibilities are completed before kids unlock screens, freedom, and fun.How connecting today's effort to the bigger goal helps your child discover their own "why" and how you can frame daily choices around the future they say they want.Why transitioning from constant reminding to handing complete ownership back to your child will help them build true capability. Motivation isn't something you can force; it naturally grows when you set clear boundaries around earned access and let your child experience the real link between today's choices and tomorrow's freedom. When we stop over-functioning and step into the passenger seat, kids gain the space to step up and own their lives. Resources: Join the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellfreeparentingforexhaustedmoms/ Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: https://shorturl.at/lrcF2Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting

  7. Jul 29

    Raising Kids Who Make Good Decisions in a Distracted World

    "Good judgment doesn't suddenly appear when they turn 18. It has to be built in with small everyday moments long before the stakes become higher." In this episode, we talk about how to raise kids who can think critically, pause, and make wise choices in a fast-paced, soundbite-driven world. With stories like my son's sudden college decision over a diner breakfast and real talk about social media algorithms, teenage peer pressure, and empathy , I am breaking down how to give your kids actionable tools for lifelong decision-making. If you’ve ever asked yourself: How do I stop my child from taking one headline, clip, or opinion as absolute fact?How can I teach my teenager to look at the long-term impact of their choices instead of just seeking immediate gratification?What can I do to help my kids slow down their judgment and show empathy when dealing with conflict?…this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn: How to teach kids the 360-degree thinking process for making strong decisions.How real-life experiences build the wisdom needed for good choices.How practicing empathy helps kids pause and remove judgment before deciding. By staying shockproof as a parent and teaching your kids to mentally roll around in a decision from every angle, you help them develop strong discernment and trust their own gut. Providing low-stakes real-world experiences and encouraging empathy turns fast reactions into thoughtful, lifelong judgment. Resources: Join the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellfreeparentingforexhaustedmoms/Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: shorturl.at/lrcF2Connect with Sue on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting

  8. Jul 15

    Child Safety Tips: What Kids Need to Know About Secrets, Pressure, and Unsafe Adults

    "Nice and safe aren't always the same thing." In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the realities of child safety, moving far beyond the outdated "stranger danger" speech. With the insight I gained from serving on a state grand jury for child sexual assault cases and what I've learned professionally about secrecy, grooming behaviors, and peer pressure, we're breaking down how you can empower your kids with practical, non-fear-based safety skills they can use for the rest of their lives. If you’ve ever asked yourself: How do I teach my child to recognize unsafe boundaries without making them overly fearful? What should I say to my kids about sleepovers and monitoring who else is in the home? How can I encourage my child to trust their gut instinct over being polite to adults? …this one’s for you. True protection comes from building an open, non-judgmental circle of trust at home so your children always feel supported to speak up. By layering these safety skills into everyday, low-stakes conversations, you transform fear into lifelong empowerment. Resources Watch the show on YouTube at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 ⁠⁠Join the Yell-free Parenting ⁠Facebook Group⁠: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellfreeparentingforexhaustedmoms/ Read Sue's book, ⁠Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: https://shorturl.at/lrcF2Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: Instagraminstagram.com/askmomparenting

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Parenting Questions Keeping You Up? I’m Sue, a reformed yeller, mom of four including triplets, Montessori-trained parenting strategist, and someone who's spent 25+ years helping parents through the messy stuff. Tantrums, backtalk, screen battles, sibling fights, defiance, big emotions, co-parenting...we talk about all of it. Each episode gives you practical, actionable tools, real language, and simple ways to set boundaries, get more cooperation, and raise capable kids. Start with the episode that sounds most like your home. Hit play tonight and use it tomorrow.

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