Spitefully Yours with Andrea Welker

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Spitefully Yours with Andrea Welker is a bold, honest podcast about navigating chronic illness, broken medical systems, and staying alive out of pure, stubborn defiance. Hosted by Andrea Welker — patient advocate, researcher, and professional question-asker — this show explores what it really means to live with complex health conditions while refusing to disappear. Each episode blends lived experience, practical tools, and sharp insight to help listeners move from overwhelmed patient to informed decision-maker. You’ll hear conversations about chronic illness, misdiagnosis, medical gaslighting, caregiver dynamics, system navigation, autonomy, grief, anger, resilience, and the strange humor that keeps us going when everything feels like too much. This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s strategic survival. If you’ve ever left an appointment confused, dismissed, or doubting yourself — this show is for you. Stay alive. Stay informed. Stay spiteful.

Episodes

  1. Mar 15

    What Would You Say?

    Sometimes you sit down to record an episode and realize you either have nothing to say… or you have so much to say you can’t pick a starting point. This week, Andrea talks about that in-between space — the season where you’re still processing life, work, illness, and the complicated systems we all have to navigate. Not every moment needs to be a perfectly packaged lesson. Sometimes the real work is simply showing up and continuing forward. If you’re trying to navigate healthcare without losing your mind, Andrea created the Alive Out of Spite Patient Playbook to help you prepare for appointments, organize your information, and advocate for yourself more effectively. Download it at: aliveoutofspite.com Stay alive. It pisses people off.

  2. Feb 16

    If I Can’t Perform, Do I Still Matter?

    What happens when your body stops matching the identity you built your life around? In this episode of Spitefully Yours, I talk about something that feels abstract and hard to name — the quiet fear that my value is slipping as my physical abilities change. For most of my life, competence was my currency. Being capable made me feel safe. In control. Reliable. It gave me proof that I mattered. When my health was stable, I felt aligned with that identity. Strong. Useful. Steady. But when illness began to shift my physical reality — when I stopped bouncing back the way I used to, when I started falling, when walking became a negotiation and I began using a cane — something deeper began to shift too. It wasn’t just mobility. It was identity. This episode isn’t about diagnosis or timelines. It’s about the slow disorientation of realizing your body no longer responds the way your mind expects it to. It’s about grief that isn’t linear. About missing the sturdiness you once felt in your own skin. About the tension between logically knowing you still have value and emotionally feeling like it’s quietly draining away when you can’t perform the way you once did. We talk about: Competence as identity The emotional impact of physical limitation The grief of losing ease and reliability The discomfort of being seen as “inspirational” just for surviving Untangling worth from output Who we are when achievement is stripped away I explore the uncomfortable question: If I couldn’t achieve, produce, or perform the way I used to… would I still feel valuable? And the answer I keep coming back to is this: Yes. Because I am still me. Because love still counts. Because value was never meant to be measured in productivity alone. This episode is for anyone whose body has changed before their identity caught up. For anyone who built their worth on reliability and is now learning how to exist without turning themselves into a metaphor. No hero narrative. No toxic positivity. Just honest reflection. Show Notes In this episode, I reference: • Living with progressive physical limitation • The psychological impact of shifting ability • Grief that ebbs and flows • Identity beyond productivity If this conversation resonates with you, you may find support in my free resource: The Spite to Might Playbook – a practical, grounded guide to navigating healthcare without burning out or blaming yourself. You can download it here: 👉 https://aliveoutofspite.com If you want deeper tools, tracking templates, and expanded resources, check out the full Playbook and Expansion Pack on the site. As always: Stay alive. It pisses people off. Stay spiteful, my friends. Spite keeps me alive.

  3. Feb 9

    Handicapped This

    In this episode of Spitefully Yours, Andrea Welker takes on one of her biggest pet peeves — people who park in handicapped spaces without authorization — and explains why it’s not a harmless shortcut, a “just a minute” decision, or a victimless act. Using a real-world encounter as a jumping-off point, the episode breaks down what disabled parking spaces are actually for: safety, access, energy conservation, and preventing harm — not convenience or efficiency. Andrea explains why invisible disabilities are still disabilities, why hazard lights don’t grant permission, and why disabled people don’t owe anyone proof, politeness, or education. The episode also explores the emotional and physical toll placed on disabled people when access is blocked — the constant calculations, the lost energy, and the unfair expectation that they quietly absorb other people’s entitlement. Andrea addresses the anger many disabled folks feel, clearly distinguishing between emotional reactions and illegal actions, while stating the legal reality: disabled people are not responsible for damage to someone else’s vehicle simply because someone chose to park illegally. Rather than softening the message, the episode redirects the anger toward accountability — documenting violations, reporting them safely, and calling out behavior without self-destruction. It closes with a firm reminder that allyship is corrective, not performative, and that disabled access is not optional. This episode isn’t about being nice. It’s about being clear. Donation Link: https://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/YCMP7TXDFCBHC

  4. Feb 9

    Interview with a Caregiver

    This episode is about caregiving — not as an abstract role, but as a lived reality. During the worst year of my life, my husband became my primary caregiver. We didn’t plan for that. We didn’t train for it. We just ended up there — together — inside a system that wasn’t built for either of us. In this conversation, I interview him about what it was actually like to watch someone you love disappear into illness, advocate inside broken systems, carry fear quietly, and keep showing up when there are no instructions and no guarantees. We talk about resentment, grief, helplessness, loyalty, exhaustion, and the moments no one prepares caregivers for — including the ones that don’t fit the inspirational narrative. This episode is for caregivers who feel invisible. For patients who wonder what their illness costs the people who love them. And for anyone who believes caregiving deserves honesty, not polish. No platitudes. No savior stories. Just the truth — from both sides of the bed. #Caregivers #Healthcare #ChronicIllness #Fear #CaregiverSupport #MedicalTrauma #Podcasting #AmericanHealthCareSystem #211 #MentalHealth #Depression #Hope National Caregiver Help Desk (Caregiver Action Network) Professional guidance, peer support, tools, and community resources specifically for family caregivers — including personalized help via phone or online. 👉 Hotline: (855) 227-3640 Family Caregiver Alliance (FCA) A national nonprofit offering caregiver education, self-care guides, tools, and support resources to help sustain long-term caregiving. 211 Caregiver Resources Call 211 in the U.S. to connect with updated, local caregiving assistance — respite care options, counseling referrals, and support services in your community.

  5. Feb 9

    Medicine Malfunction

    What actually happens when medication access breaks down? In this episode of Spitefully Yours, Andrea Welker talks about the quiet reality most people never see — missed doses, pharmacy delays, shortages, insurance denials, provider hesitation, and the slow spiral that can follow when your body depends on medication to function, regulate mood, or survive. This isn’t a rant about “bad doctors” or “noncompliant patients.” It’s an honest look at how medications work in real bodies — shaped by sleep, hormones, stress, nutrition, neurodivergence, timing, and life — and what happens when the healthcare system treats that complexity like an inconvenience. Andrea shares personal experiences with antidepressants, thyroid medication, hormone therapy, pandemic-era shortages, and the real cost to patients when care is delayed or denied. You’ll hear why skipping doses isn’t benign, why escalation isn’t being “difficult,” and why documentation is often the difference between being dismissed and being helped. This episode also introduces the medication tracking worksheet and stacking method Andrea created to help patients track meds, symptoms, and daily life — plus scripts you can use with doctors, pharmacists, and insurance companies when you’re too exhausted to advocate on the fly. No medical advice. No shame. Just tools, truth, and survival strategies for navigating a system that often fails the people inside it. Resources from this episode — including free advocacy tools — are available at 👉 https://aliveoutofspite.com #spitefullyyourspodcast #PatientFirst #ChronicIllnessCommunity #Healthcare #MedicationAccess #Insurance #PharmacyLife #DisabledVoices #TruthMatters #TrumpsAmerica

  6. Feb 9

    Second Opinions

    There was a moment early in my medical journey — long before I had language for advocacy — when I should have asked for a second opinion… and didn’t. Not because I didn’t care. Not because I wasn’t paying attention. But because I was exhausted, reassured, and didn’t know how to push back without sounding dramatic or difficult. In this episode of Spitefully Yours, I talk about that moment — specifically, a visit with an allergist where I was told to “just keep eating” foods that were clearly triggering reactions. I remember sitting there knowing, deep down, that something wasn’t right… and still not saying anything. This episode isn’t about blaming doctors or replaying the past for guilt’s sake. It’s about naming a very real problem patients face every day: knowing something feels unsafe, but not having the words — or energy — to challenge confident reassurance. We talk about: • Why second opinions are so hard for patients to ask for • The difference between reassurance and real care • How power dynamics and exhaustion keep us quiet • Why “trust your gut” isn’t always enough when you’re sick • And how to ask for a second opinion without burning bridges I also share the exact language I wish I had back then — simple, grounded phrases that don’t argue or accuse, but clearly communicate concern and create a paper trail. And yes — the resource I promised is finally here. This episode introduces the Second Opinion Tool, a free, practical patient advocacy resource designed for low-energy, foggy-brain days. It includes plain-language scripts, decision prompts, and guidance for when something doesn’t add up but you don’t know what to do next. Most importantly, it’s a living, breathing document. When you download it, you’ll receive a short PDF that links to the full live version — a document that’s updated regularly as new tools, scripts, and resources are added. One link. Always current. No chasing updates. Because patient advocacy isn’t static. And you shouldn’t have to start from scratch every time the system lets you down. If you’ve ever left an appointment thinking, “Something isn’t right, but I don’t know how to say that,” this episode is for you. This isn’t a pep talk. It’s a survival strategy. Staying alive out of spite isn’t just an attitude — it’s a game plan. aliveoutofspite.com Download the playbook here. https://aliveoutofspite.com/b/rCYWO #SpitefullyYours #AliveOutOfSpite #PatientAdvocacy #ChronicIllness #MedicalGaslighting #SecondOpinion #DisabilityCommunity #Neurodivergent #PodcastLife

  7. Feb 9

    The Silver Dollar - Premiere

    Season Reboot Premiere Episode Title: Silver Dollar: My Villain Origin Story Welcome to the Season Reboot of Spitefully Yours — the podcast for anyone who’s ever survived something they weren’t supposed to. This premiere goes all the way back to where my story actually begins: a NICU in 1980, where I arrived at just 25 weeks gestation — translucent, tiny, and loudly not expected to live. What follows is the real origin story of how I became someone who stays alive out of spite. In this episode, you’ll hear about the photo where a scotch-tape dispenser was bigger than my head, the nurse who “accidentally” thumbed the scale to break me out of the hospital, the doll-sized clothes my parents had to buy because nothing fit me, and the Appalachian neighbor, Alma, who cured my relentless colic with catnip tea and sheer mountain intuition. Yes — really. But this isn’t just a birth story. It’s the blueprint. Every pattern that showed up in the NICU — medical uncertainty, misdiagnosis, dismissal, resilience, survival — repeated itself decades later in my adult medical journey. Chronic illness. Gaslighting. Providers who didn’t listen. The desperation to finally be believed. The long road to answers. In this premiere, I lay the foundation for the entire season: what happened to me, what I learned, and how you can begin building your own medical backstory — not just for diagnosis, but for legacy. This season brings new stories, raw conversations, survival tools, and advocacy strategies. And coming soon: The Spiteful Playbook — a free resource to help you map symptoms, document your journey, and advocate for yourself with clarity and confidence. If you’ve ever felt dismissed, lost, overlooked, or utterly exhausted on your diagnostic journey, this episode is your reminder: You’re not dramatic. You’re documented. And you’re still here — out of pure, unfiltered spite. Show notes: www.aliveoutofspite.com ★ Support this podcast ★ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/spitefullyyours

  8. Feb 9

    Trigger Warning

    Content Warning This episode contains discussion of chronic illness, medical gaslighting, bullying, poverty, disability, depression, suicidal ideation, and extended periods of being bedbound. Listener discretion is advised, especially if these topics are difficult for you. Please take care of yourself while listening. ------ What happens when your life stops — but the world doesn’t? In this episode of Spitefully Yours, I talk about the years no one prepares you for: late teens and early twenties, when my health collapsed, my future evaporated, and my life was put on hold without consent. I share what it was like to be bullied relentlessly, to grow up poor and visibly different, to miss school because of chronic digestive issues no one could explain, and to almost not graduate because teachers and doctors alike failed to listen. I talk about leaving home for independence, catching a viral infection that likely triggered a massive immune cascade, and slowly becoming bedbound while being labeled lazy, dramatic, or unmotivated. This episode goes deep into the emotional cost of being young, sick, and unseen — the shame of not working, the grief of watching everyone else move forward, the loss of identity, time, relationships, and dreams. I talk openly about medical gaslighting, misdiagnosis, fibromyalgia, hypothyroidism, IBS, and what it’s like when your body becomes something you can’t trust anymore. There’s no toxic positivity here. No inspirational gloss. Just the truth about what it means to survive when survival feels like punishment — and how spite, anger, and stubborn self-belief kept me alive when hope wasn’t enough. This episode is for anyone whose life is paused. For anyone who’s been told their labs are “normal” while their world fell apart. For anyone who needs to hear: I believe you. Resources mentioned in this episode, including the Spite to Might Playbook, can be found at aliveoutofspite.com. There’s no paywall and no pressure — just tools, language, and solidarity. Stay alive. It pisses people off. Sign up for the mailing list so that you never miss an episode here. chronic illness medical gaslighting fibromyalgia hypothyroidism IBS chronic fatigue bedbound disability life on hold invisible illness patient advocacy misdiagnosis bullying trauma mental health suicidal ideation grief and loss identity loss chronic pain resilience survival dark humor podcast healthcare trauma rare disease journey patient voice Spitefully Yours podcast alive out of spite

  9. Trailer

    Trailer: Spitefully Yours with Andrea Welker

    Spitefully Yours is a fierce, unfiltered podcast about navigating chronic illness, medical gaslighting, and the exhausting fight to be heard. Host Andrea Welker blends lived experience, sharp humor, and practical advocacy tools to expose how the healthcare system dismisses patients and how to push back effectively. Each episode offers insight, validation, and strategies that help listeners communicate clearly, document their stories, and reclaim their power. You will laugh, cry, and find your spite, too. #PatientAdvocacy #ChronicIllness #MedicalGaslighting #Podcast #Healthcare

  10. Feb 9

    Your Mess Isn’t Laziness — It’s a Symptom

    Clutter Is a Symptom, Not a Moral Failure: Why “Just Clean It” Is Bad Medical Advice A cluttered home is often treated like a personal failure — but for chronically ill, disabled, and neurodivergent people, it’s frequently a symptom of biology, not character. In this episode of Spitefully Yours, Andrea Welker unpacks the deep shame surrounding clutter and cleaning, especially through the lens of chronic illness, disability, and Appalachian cultural expectations around respectability and cleanliness. Drawing from personal experience, generational history, and lived reality, Andrea breaks down the critical difference between cluttered and dirty — and why confusing the two causes real harm. This episode explores how pain, fatigue, autonomic dysfunction, joint instability, brain fog, and limited capacity make traditional cleaning unrealistic — and why “just try harder” is not only dismissive, but bad medical advice. Andrea also talks openly about the feedback loop between clutter, anxiety, flares, executive dysfunction, and shame, and why pushing through cleaning can steal energy needed for health, work, and recovery. You’ll hear an honest discussion about: Why clutter is often a health issue, not a motivation issue How cultural and generational shame around cleanliness runs deep The biology behind why cleaning becomes impossible for many sick bodies Why asking for help feels so vulnerable — and why it shouldn’t How to prioritize safety and function over perfection The episode closes with practical, fixed-income-friendly strategies for navigating clutter during the New Year — including how to redefine success, break tasks into manageable pieces, ask for help as a health accommodation, and find low-cost or free assistance when cleaning isn’t accessible. This is not an episode about “getting your life together.” It’s about survival, dignity, adaptation, and letting go of the idea that your worth is measured by the state of your home. Resources and advocacy tools mentioned in this episode — including the Spiteful Patient Playbook — are linked in the show notes. About the Host Andrea Welker is a patient advocate, storyteller, and host of Spitefully Yours, a podcast focused on chronic illness, medical trauma, and surviving broken systems with honesty and grit. Drawing from lived experience, Andrea creates practical tools and conversations that help people advocate for themselves, reclaim dignity, and stay alive out of pure determination — sometimes fueled entirely by spite. Stay alive. It pisses people off. Stay spiteful, my friends.

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Spitefully Yours with Andrea Welker is a bold, honest podcast about navigating chronic illness, broken medical systems, and staying alive out of pure, stubborn defiance. Hosted by Andrea Welker — patient advocate, researcher, and professional question-asker — this show explores what it really means to live with complex health conditions while refusing to disappear. Each episode blends lived experience, practical tools, and sharp insight to help listeners move from overwhelmed patient to informed decision-maker. You’ll hear conversations about chronic illness, misdiagnosis, medical gaslighting, caregiver dynamics, system navigation, autonomy, grief, anger, resilience, and the strange humor that keeps us going when everything feels like too much. This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s strategic survival. If you’ve ever left an appointment confused, dismissed, or doubting yourself — this show is for you. Stay alive. Stay informed. Stay spiteful.

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