The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser

Erin McQuade-Wright
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The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser is the podcast I wish had existed during my 15 years in fundraising. It’s a love offering to the people behind the mission—the professional fundraisers who give their hearts and energy every day to make the world better. This show isn’t about strategy, metrics, or money. It’s about you—the human being doing the work. Each episode offers real tools and soulful conversations to help you regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your purpose, and renew your energy so you can lead with clarity, compassion, and courage. If you’ve ever felt stretched thin, overworked, or caught in the constant pressure to perform, this podcast is your invitation to return home to yourself. Join me to learn how to cultivate balance, resilience, and authentic impact—from the inside out. Full Episode Transcript: https://share.descript.com/view/fkFZpmNYF3v

Episodes

  1. 1D AGO

    When Anxiety Drives the Bus: How Fundraisers Lose Their Power — and How to Get It Back

    Understanding your body’s stress response so you can fundraise from clarity instead of panic. Anxiety shows up loudly in fundraising… tight chest, clenched gut, racing thoughts, shrinking creativity. In this episode, Erin shares a deeply personal story of fundraising during a budget crisis — and how her body’s ancient fight-or-flight wiring took over, narrowing her focus, driving unsustainable actions, and ultimately exacting a physical cost. You’ll learn why anxiety feels so overwhelming, why it isn’t evidence that something is wrong with you, and how your nervous system is simply trying to keep you safe. Most importantly, you’ll discover how to recognize the signs, interrupt the panic cycle, and return to a grounded state where creative solutions, agency, and clarity live. In this episode, you’ll hear: How fundraisers accidentally let anxiety run the show — and the cost of thatWhat your fight-or-flight system is designed to do (and why it misfires at work)The physical symptoms that signal your body is asking for helpWhy anxiety is a feeling… not a factA guided check-in to reconnect you with your body and breathThe truth about fundraising from scarcity — and why it leads straight to burnoutThis conversation is especially for fundraisers who feel like their work is “life-or-death” for the mission, their jobs, or their team. You are not alone — and your body has been trying to talk to you. If this episode stirred something in you, keep an eye out for the companion meditation episode designed to help you regulate and return to center. Send Erin a text Book your 1:1 Brave and Balanced Breakthrough Coaching Session here: https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    30 min

  2. JAN 27

    Transcend Fundraising Guilt Like a Rockstar

    Trading guilt for curiosity so you can fundraise with more ease, energy, and self-trust. That nagging voice that says you should be doing more? Most fundraisers know it well. In this episode, Erin unpacks fundraising guilt—the kind that shows up at 3 a.m. with a running list of everything you didn’t do—and why using guilt as your main motivator quietly drains your energy, creativity, and joy. Instead of beating yourself up for “not enough,” you’ll explore what happens when you switch from guilt to curiosity and start treating your body’s signals as feedback, not failure. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why almost every fundraiser feels like they could be doing more—and why it’s not just youHow guilt masquerades as “motivation” but actually leads to exhaustion and paralysisHow to use your body’s signals (tight chest, sleeplessness, dread) as information, not indictmentSimple ways to practice curiosity in real time—especially before meetings and big tasksJournal prompt: Where does guilt show up most in your fundraising—and what might shift if you experimented with curiosity instead? Send Erin a text Book your 1:1 Brave and Balanced Breakthrough Coaching Session here: https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    14 min

  3. JAN 20

    Pouring Out & Filling Back Up: A Fundraiser’s Guide to Renewal with Melody Wells

    How a major gifts fundraiser prevents burnout by planning emotional refills on purpose. Fundraising asks a lot of your brain, your heart, and your nervous system. In this conversation, Erin sits down with major gifts fundraiser Melody Wells to talk honestly about what it costs to pour yourself into donor relationships—and how she intentionally fills back up so she can keep doing the work she loves. Melody shares how integrity and alignment (her version of ikigai) fuel her fundraising, why she refuses to take donor “no’s” personally, and how anxiety work and therapy unexpectedly prepared her to stay steady in the yes/no roller coaster of major gifts. She also walks through the three personalized “refill” categories she keeps on a written list—so when she’s emotionally depleted, she doesn’t have to think about how to recover. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why caring deeply about the mission both powers your work and drains your emotional reservesHow Melody separates her worth from donor decisions—seeing both yes and no as not about herThe concept of ikigai and how it helped her pivot from celebrity journalism into meaningful fundraisingWhy planning post-campaign recovery in advance is as important as planning the campaign itselfMelody’s three renewal buckets: staycation/retreat, energy release, and empowerment & mental strengtheningJournal prompt: Where does fundraising most “drain your cup” right now—and what would go in your own three categories of renewal to intentionally refill it? Send Erin a text Book your 1:1 Brave and Balanced Breakthrough Coaching Session here: https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    59 min

  4. JAN 13

    Fundraiser or "The Help?"

    What to do when your expertise isn’t respected—and how to stop making it mean something about you. 📘 Episode Summary What happens when you bring solid fundraising expertise—and someone with less experience dismisses it? In this episode, Erin explores a common but rarely discussed dynamic: being treated like “the help” instead of a strategic professional. She shares a personal story about having her work overruled, the emotional spiral that followed, and the deeper pattern underneath it. You’ll learn how early messages about money and worth can shape your reactions at work, why certain comments sting more than others, and how to stop letting others’ opinions define your value. If you’ve ever felt dismissed, underestimated, or sidelined as a fundraiser, this episode will show you how to reclaim your power and stop shrinking in the face of pushback. 💡 Key Takeaways Someone else’s inability to value your expertise says more about their patterns than your worth.Your worthiness is innate—not determined by which ideas leadership approves.The part that gets hurt is often the part that already believes a version of the painful story.Your idea is not you; separation creates freedom.Try on the energy of the fundraiser who knows they’re worthy—who bends but doesn’t break.📝 Journal Prompt How would you stand, speak, and decide if you deeply believed your worthiness wasn’t up for grabs? Send Erin a text Book your 1:1 Brave and Balanced Breakthrough Coaching Session here: https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    18 min

  5. JAN 10 · BONUS

    Meditation: Making the Ask

    A somatic, compassionate practice to regulate your nervous system before making the ask. 📘 Episode Summary This bonus meditation is a guided somatic practice designed to support you before donor meetings, fundraising conversations, or any moment when anxiety begins to take over. In this practice, Erin gently guides you through grounding in your body, noticing your felt experience, and working with Byron Katie’s inquiry process (“The Work”) to loosen the grip of anxious thoughts that often show up before making an ask. You’ll explore a real fundraising memory—at a level that feels manageable—and uncover the belief fueling your anxiety. Then, through awareness, inquiry, and compassionate self-forgiveness based on the Spiritual Psychology tools from the University of Santa Monica, you’ll shift into a regulated, steady internal climate. This meditation helps you: understand your body’s signalsrelease pressure around specific donor outcomesreconnect with your inherent worthstep into donor conversations with grounded confidenceUse this practice anytime you want to regulate your nervous system before fundraising, asking for support, or stepping into leadership. 💡 What This Meditation Supports Nervous system regulation before the askReducing anxiety in donor interactionsBuilding somatic awareness of your emotional patternsLoosening the belief that your worth depends on a donor’s “yes”Creating spaciousness and grounded presence in your body🛑 Important Note This meditation includes checking in with your body and revisiting memories. If you know you carry Big T trauma, or if certain memories feel overwhelming, please practice this with a licensed therapist or trained somatic practitioner. Your wellbeing comes first. If at any moment you feel flooded or unable to stay in the present moment, you have full permission to stop, drink water, step outside, or do whatever helps you return to safety. 📝 What You’ll Need A quiet place to sitA journal and penWillingness to slow down and meet yourself with compassion🎧 When to Use This Meditation Before donor meetingsBefore crafting a fundraising appealWhen procrastination or avoidance kicks inWhen your body feels tight, pressured, or anxiousWhen you want to reconnect with your own regulated presence👥 Join the Community Come share your experience with this meditation inside The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group, where fundraisers support one another in cultivating emotional mastery, nervous-system regulation, and grounded leadership. ➡️ Ready for deeper support? If Send Erin a text ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    13 min

  6. JAN 9

    Fundraising Anxiety: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You

    A somatic look at stress, pressure, and the internal signals fundraisers ignore. Fundraising anxiety isn’t a mindset problem — it’s a nervous system response. In this episode, Erin breaks down why fundraisers experience tight chests, clenched stomachs, throat pressure, and racing thoughts when preparing to make an ask… and why none of this means you’re bad at your job. Drawing on somatic practice, trauma-informed coaching, and fifteen years of fundraising experience, this episode helps you understand how your ancient wiring interprets budget shortfalls like a threat, how donors pick up on your internal state through co-regulation, and how anxiety quietly shapes (and sometimes sabotages) your relationships with donors. You’ll also hear two contrasting “versions” of the fundraiser:  • the anxious fundraiser whose nervous system is in fight-or-flight  • the regulated fundraiser whose calm presence draws donors in Understanding the difference is the key to asking with confidence, receiving with ease, and building long-term donor trust. This episode is foundational for any fundraiser who has ever wondered:  “Why do I feel this way?” “How do donors seem to sense my stress?” “Is there a healthier way to do this work?” Spoiler: Yes. And it starts in your body. 💡 Key Takeaways 1. Anxiety is not a flaw — it's biology. Your nervous system reacts to budget shortfalls the same way your ancestors reacted to predators. Nothing is wrong with you. Your body is doing its job. 2. Donors feel what you feel. Nervous system co-regulation means your internal state is always communicating, even if your words sound confident. 3. Anxiety narrows your vision and creativity. Fundraising from fight-or-flight constricts your thinking, your options, and your relational presence. 4. A regulated fundraiser is a magnetic fundraiser. When your breath slows, your energy settles, and you stop tying your worth to the donor’s “yes,” everything shifts. 5. Anxiety is a messenger, not a master. It’s pointing to a place inside that wants safety, attention, or care — and you can learn to give yourself that. 📝 Reflection Question for Your Journal Where in your body does anxiety show up — and what might it be trying to protect? This question alone can unlock profound awareness for fundraisers. 🎧 Companion Resource Be sure to listen to the guided meditation designed specifically for this episode:  “Meditation: Making the Ask” Use it before donor meetings or anytime your system feels activated. 👥 Join the Commu Send Erin a text Book your 1:1 Brave and Balanced Breakthrough Coaching Session here: https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    21 min

  7. JAN 8

    Why Fundraisers Burn Out: The Hidden Pattern No One Talks About

    Understanding the emotional cost of fundraising—and why it’s not your fault. 📘 Episode Summary Why do fundraisers leave their jobs every 16–24 months? In this episode, Erin reveals the hidden pattern driving burnout: the chronic under-resourcing of the fundraiser’s inner life. Erin shares how rising goals, shifting funders, and donor pressure interact with deeper, often unconscious beliefs about money, worthiness, and belonging. You'll learn why fundraising can mirror old patterns from our past—and why understanding this brings relief, power, and choice. If you’ve ever felt behind, not enough, or excluded from decisions that shape your goals, this episode will help you recognize: it’s not personal, and it’s not your fault. 💡 Key Takeaways Burnout is systemic, not a personal flaw.Fundraising has an outer story (goals, pressure) and an inner story (anxiety, inadequacy).Old money patterns can replay in donor work without us realizing it.Patterns are not identities—they can shift with awareness.Your first act of power is simply noticing the pattern.📝 Journal Prompt What might change if you believed your worth wasn’t tied to your numbers? Send Erin a text Book your 1:1 Brave and Balanced Breakthrough Coaching Session here: https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    13 min

  8. JAN 7

    Is This Podcast for YOU?

    Why fundraisers burn out—what it costs us, and what becomes possible when we finally turn inward and get free. Episode Summary In this opening episode, Erin McQuade-Wright—former professional fundraiser of 15 years—shares why she created The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser and why focusing on the inner life of the fundraiser is not only healing… but essential for our sector’s sustainability. Fundraising is the engine of the nonprofit world, yet fundraisers are burning out every 16–24 months. Erin names this reality, shares her personal story of fundraising trauma, and introduces the tools and perspectives that helped her shift from white-knuckled survival to grounded, aligned leadership. If you’ve ever felt overstretched, anxious, alone, or like the numbers were “good” but the cost was too high, this episode offers validation, resonance, and a new way forward. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why fundraising burnout is so widespread—and why it’s not a personal failureHow Erin’s 15-year career and health challenges revealed the emotional cost of traditional fundraising normsWhy mindset alone isn’t enough (and why somatic awareness matters deeply)How fundraisers can use their work as a mirror for personal growth and healingWhy caring for your internal landscape makes you a more effective, confident fundraiserWhat this podcast will offer you each week—and how it can support your long-term wellbeingKey Takeaways The numbers may show success, but your body will tell the truth.Fundraiser burnout is systemic—not a reflection of your skill, value, or dedication.Your inner climate shapes your donor relationships and your effectiveness far more than tactics alone.You can heal old fundraising patterns and shift into a more aligned, joyful way of working.This podcast exists to nourish your body, mind, and spirit—not to teach strategies, but to tend to the fundraiser herself.Reflection Question Where is fundraising currently costing you energy, peace, or wellbeing—and what might become possible if you didn’t have to white-knuckle your way through it? Take a moment to journal on this or reflect during a quiet part of your day. If this episode resonated… Subscribe so you never miss a Tuesday episode, and share this with a fundraising friend who might need this space of support, grounding, and encouragement. Send Erin a text ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    3 min

  9. JAN 2

    Brave and Balanced Fundraiser Welcome

    A podcast for fundraisers ready to stop burning out and start showing up whole. Summary Welcome to The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser, a podcast created for fundraisers who are committed to their mission and ready to care for their inner world. Hosted by former professional fundraiser and coach Erin McQuade-Wright, this show is your space to breathe, realign, and reconnect with the part of you that chose this work for a reason. Each week, you’ll explore practices that help you shift from stressed and stretched thin to grounded, brave, and on purpose — in your work and in your life. What This Podcast Is About Every episode opens a window into the internal side of fundraising so you can: Understand and work with the nervous-system responses that shape your fundraisingBreak unhelpful patterns that keep you anxious, overextended, or stuckStrengthen donor relationships by showing up regulated, present, and confidentDiscover how getting out of your own way leads to raising more money, building deeper trust, and living more meaningfullyCreate a sustainable fundraising career rooted in alignment rather than depletionFeel more connected, resourced, and empowered in the work you doIf fundraising often feels meaningful and exhausting, you’re not alone — and this podcast will help you navigate both with more ease and clarity. Join the Community Connect with other fundraisers practicing these tools inside The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group. Stay Connected Website: VitalistCoaching.com Instagram: @erinmcquadewright Send Erin a text ✨ Stay Connected & Continue Your Fundraising Growth Listen to all episodes + subscribe: https://thebraveandbalancedfundraiser.buzzsprout.com Join the community: The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser Facebook Group 👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/braveandbalancedfundraiser Book a Brave & Balanced Breakthrough Call: A personalized 1:1 session to support your inner clarity and fundraising wellbeing. 👉 https://calendly.com/vitalistcoaching/brave-balanced-breakthrough Learn more about Erin’s coaching & nervous-system based support: VitalistCoaching.com Connect on Instagram: @erinmcquadewright

    1 min

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The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser is the podcast I wish had existed during my 15 years in fundraising. It’s a love offering to the people behind the mission—the professional fundraisers who give their hearts and energy every day to make the world better. This show isn’t about strategy, metrics, or money. It’s about you—the human being doing the work. Each episode offers real tools and soulful conversations to help you regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your purpose, and renew your energy so you can lead with clarity, compassion, and courage. If you’ve ever felt stretched thin, overworked, or caught in the constant pressure to perform, this podcast is your invitation to return home to yourself. Join me to learn how to cultivate balance, resilience, and authentic impact—from the inside out. Full Episode Transcript: https://share.descript.com/view/fkFZpmNYF3v

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  • Creator
    Erin McQuade-Wright
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser
  • Show Website
    The Brave and Balanced Fundraiser