Becoming Flame: Where Sensuality, Sovereignty, and Sacred Power Ignite

Kait Tregenza
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This is for the woman who has risen from the fire and wants to build the big beautiful empire of her wildest dreams on top of those ashes. You know you are not here to heal quietly, stay small or keep silent. You are here to burn, to create anew, to feel deeply, and to rise in the truth beneath your ashes. You are ready to live your biggest life and fullest potential. No more second guessing. No more playing by the rules of someone else's game. Every Friday, Becoming Flame with Kait Tregenza opens portals into a bigger purposeful life lived in feminine alchemy, erotic intelligent creation, somatic connection, and sovereignty. For living as the woman you came here to be asks you to return to the womb, the body and the truth of you, step into your highest identity, with a nervous system re-patterned to receive it and hold a big life. If you feel it is time to remember and return to the woman your body has been asking you to remember and you're ready to quantum leap to become your truest self, then this podcast is for you.

  1. 2d ago

    How Unconscious Grief Blocks Your Sexual Sovereignty with Saidi Bess

    In this episode, Kait speaks with Saidi Bess about death, grief and the transformations that follow profound loss. Together, they explore grief not as something to fix or rush, but as a process that asks for surrender, honesty and trust in what is ending and what is trying to begin. Saidi shares how death work has shaped her life and practice, opening a deeper relationship with letting go, ancestral patterning and the alchemy that can emerge from sorrow. This conversation is tender, spacious and quietly powerful. It speaks to the way grief can reorder a life, deepen spiritual clarity and bring us back into alignment with what we truly value. About the GuestSaidi Bess is the founder of Sacred Sensual Alchemy. Through her work, she guides people in reclaiming sensuality and sexuality, healing limiting beliefs, and reconnecting with body, energy and spiritual truth. Her public work also includes ancestral healing, grief support and sacred feminine and masculine exploration. (Sacred Sensual Alchemy) Key TakeawaysGrief can be a catalyst for spiritual growth and deeper self-honesty.Letting go is not passive. It is part of making space for what is next.Ancestral patterns can shape how loss, love and change are carried in the body.Transformation often begins when we stop resisting grief and allow it to move.Living in alignment requires trust in both death and rebirth.Memorable QuoteGrief does not only take us apart. It can also return us to what matters. Connect with Saidi BessSacred Sensual Alchemy: https://sacredsensualalchemy.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saidibessYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm7lfgNQkZ47-WIjJaYRsQg (Sacred Sensual Alchemy)Connect with Kait + PhenXXKait on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenza/PhenXX: https://www.phenxx.comPhenXX on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovephenxxBecoming Flame Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becomingflame.podYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovephenxxSponsored by PhenXX.com — use promo code "podcast" for 10% off your first purchase.

    How Unconscious Grief Blocks Your Sexual Sovereignty with Saidi Bess

  2. Oct 16

    The Parenting, Trauma & Nervous System Patterns That Shape Our Adult Life with Grace York, Psych.

    In this episode, Kait speaks with Grace York about parenting, trauma and emotional regulation, and the way childhood experiences continue to shape adult behaviour, relationships and caregiving. Together, they explore how early attachment patterns live in the body, influence our responses, and quietly inform the way we parent, connect and protect. This conversation moves through the challenges of caregiving, the neuroscience of attachment, and the importance of meeting developmental needs such as safety, regulation, connection and learning. Grace also speaks to self-awareness, curiosity and emotional processing as essential parts of healing. This is a grounded and deeply relevant episode on what it means to parent consciously while also tending to the parts of yourself that were never fully met. About the GuestGrace York is a psychologist who works with children, families and adults, with experience in trauma-informed support and tailored therapy. Her public profiles also describe a strong focus on helping people better understand themselves, connect more effectively, and navigate life’s challenges with greater clarity and care. (LinkedIn) Key TakeawaysParenting is deeply shaped by our own childhood experiences, attachment patterns and emotional wounds.Emotional regulation and self-healing are essential for healthier parent-child relationships.Caregiving can surface unresolved experiences and deepen awareness of our own needs and responses.Developmental needs such as safety, regulation, connection and learning are foundational to healthy attachment.Curiosity is often the beginning of healing, especially when shame or reactivity are present.Memorable QuoteThe healing is not only in how we parent our children, but in how we learn to meet ourselves. Connect with Grace YorkLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/graceyork/Elevated Wellbeing: https://elevatedwellbeing.com.au/grace-york/The Nest: https://www.nesthealthhub.com.au/grace-york-psychologist (LinkedIn)Connect with Kait + PhenXXKait on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenza/PhenXX: https://www.phenxx.comPhenXX on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovephenxxBecoming Flame Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becomingflame.podYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovephenxxSponsored by PhenXX.com — use promo code "podcast" for 10% off your first purchase.

    The Parenting, Trauma & Nervous System Patterns That Shape Our Adult Life with Grace York, Psych.

  3. Oct 9

    How Autoimmune Disease Transformed My Self-Love Journey and Business Vision With Morgan Johnston

    In this conversation, Kait is joined by Morgan Johnston for a grounded exploration of self-love, intuition and the quiet courage it takes to live outside inherited beauty standards. They speak about the impact of cervical cancer, the pressure women absorb from external expectations, and the deeper work of learning to trust your body, your knowing and your own inner timing. This episode is a reflection on love as a guiding force in both life and business, and on what becomes possible when self-belief replaces performance. About Morgan JohnstonMorgan Johnston is the clinic owner of Self Love Lounge in Milton, Brisbane, a space centred on skin, beauty and soul treatments designed to help women feel supported, confident and reconnected to themselves. Self Love Lounge describes itself as a judgement-free space where skin, beauty and soul come together. Key TakeawaysSelf-love becomes more powerful when it is lived, not just spoken about.Shared experiences can soften shame and create real empowerment.Intuition often arrives as a nudge long before the mind can explain it.Love and trust are not separate from business. They can become the foundation of how we lead.Authentic living asks us to risk the familiar and trust what we cannot yet see.Memorable LineLove changes the way we choose, and trust changes what we believe is possible. Connect with Morgan JohnstonSelf Love Lounge: https://selflovelounge.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/selfloveloungebrisbaneFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/selfloveloungebrisbane/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@self_love_lounge1Pinterest: https://au.pinterest.com/selfloveloungebrisbane/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/morgan-johnston-920056125/Visit: Suite 14, 46 Douglas Street, Milton QLD 4064 (Self Love Lounge)Connect with Kait + PhenXXKait on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenza/PhenXX: https://www.phenxx.comPhenXX on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovephenxxBecoming Flame Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becomingflame.podYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovephenxx Sponsored by PhenXX.com — use promo code "podcast" for 10% off your first purchase.

    How Autoimmune Disease Transformed My Self-Love Journey and Business Vision With Morgan Johnston

  4. Oct 7

    Devotional Alchemy: Shibari, Surrender & the Feminine Nervous System | Brianna Lee

    In this intimate conversation, Kait sits down with rope artist and space holder Brianna of Devotional Alchemy to explore Shibari as far more than bondage. Together they unravel the deeper medicine within rope work: surrender, somatic awareness, nervous system safety, grief, intimacy, feminine operating systems, and the hidden exhaustion beneath hyper-independence. Brianna shares how rope became a pathway into self-inquiry and embodied healing, and why the real art of Shibari is not in the complexity of the tie, but in the quality of presence, trust, and energetic attunement between people. The conversation moves beyond kink into a deeper exploration of modern womanhood, burnout, softness, receiving, and the forgotten need for communal holding. This episode is ultimately about what happens when women stop performing strength and allow themselves to be supported. About Brianna and Devotional AlchemyBrianna is the founder of Devotional Alchemy, a somatic rope artist, facilitator, and experiential space holder blending Shibari, tantra, sound healing, embodiment, and sensory ritual into immersive healing experiences. Her work focuses on nervous system regulation, surrender, emotional release, sensuality, and reconnecting people to their bodies through conscious rope practice and deeply curated spaces. Key TakeawaysShibari can become a somatic and emotional practice, not simply a kink experienceRope creates a physical language that speaks directly to the nervous system and stored emotionHyper-independence often masks exhaustion, over-responsibility, and an inability to receive supportStillness and surrender are skills many modern women have never truly practisedHealing spaces are often less about technique and more about the quality of presence and safety being heldMemorable Quote“The rope is a language. It speaks to the body in ways the mind cannot intellectualise.” Connect with Devotional AlchemyInstagram: @devotionalalchemyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/devotionalalchemyshibarihttps://www.devotional-alchemy.comshibari.alchemy@gmail.comConnect with Kait + PhenXXKait on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenza/PhenXX: https://www.phenxx.comPhenXX on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovephenxxBecoming Flame Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becomingflame.podYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovephenxx Sponsored by PhenXX.com — use promo code "podcast" for 10% off your first purchase.

    Devotional Alchemy: Shibari, Surrender & the Feminine Nervous System | Brianna Lee

  5. Oct 2

    Your Womb Is a Vortex — Melisa Monti's Channelled Reading (Part 2)

    In this episode, Melisa Monti gives a channelled transmission on women's bodies, sexuality and the womb — delivered live, eyes closed, in response to questions Kait prepared in advance. This is part two of a two-part conversation with Melisa, an Akashic Records channeler and Earthkeeper. Where part one traced her personal story, part two is the transmission itself: Melisa opens her Akashic Records and answers a set of questions on what women most need to know about their bodies and power right now, why women have been suppressed for millennia and what's shifting, how the nervous system connects individual women to the collective and to the earth. Listen to these powerful words of the womb as an energetic vortex, and what it means for women to reclaim their role as its guardians. In this episode you'll hear: — Why Melisa says the feminine energy most women suppress isn't dangerous, just unexpressed — and what happens when it stays contained — Her read on why women have been undervalued for millennia, described as a slow swing of a collective pendulum rather than a single cause — How the nervous system works as an energetic pathway connecting individual women to each other and to the earth — The womb described as a vortex, a "black hole" of high-voltage energy — and why Melisa frames women as its guardians, not its owners — What it actually means to protect that vortex — not necessarily celibacy, but conscious awareness of who is let in — Why she reframes sexuality entirely outside of sex itself, using a seed-in-soil image to describe masculine and feminine polarity meeting to create life force — The closing message: an infinite, never-scarce source of life force that's always available, whether or not you know how to reach it yet This episode is for the woman who has been told her sexuality is either too much or not enough, and has never once heard it described as neither. It's for anyone who has given away access to her body without realising that was a choice she was making. And it's for the one ready to hear that the guardianship was always hers. Connect with Melisa: · @melisa.monti · melisamonti.com · Insight Timer: Melisa Monti Connect with Kait + PhenXX Kait on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenzaPhenXX: phenxx.comPhenXX IG: @lovephenxxBecoming Flame IG: @becomingflame.podYouTube: @lovephenxx If something in this is pulling at you, DM Kait FLAME on Instagram for the Becoming Flame Transmissions — a free private podcast series.

    Your Womb Is a Vortex — Melisa Monti's Channelled Reading (Part 2)

  6. Oct 1

    The Sensitivity You Were Taught to Hide — Melisa Monti (Part 1)

    Content note: this episode includes candid discussion of disordered eating, a suicidal depressive episode, an abusive relationship and sexual abuse. Please listen with care. In this episode, Kait speaks with Melisa Monti about what happens when the sensitivity you were taught to hide turns out to be the exact thing that leads you home? Melisa is an Akashic Records channeler, Earthkeeper and mentor for highly sensitive women. This is part one of a two-part conversation, and it's the origin story: a nomadic childhood across Argentina, Berlin, Chile and the Netherlands, a forced adaptation into conservative Chilean schooling at eleven that taught her to fold herself smaller, an eating disorder that began at thirteen, an abusive first relationship in her teens, and a suicidal depressive episode during a Dutch winter in 2018 that led her, almost by accident, to her first Akashic Records reading. Kait and Melisa trace what came after — not one dramatic turning point, but years of slow rebuilding through art, journaling and meditation, long before any of it looked like a career. In this episode you'll hear: — The entities Melisa remembers visiting her as a child, and why she no longer fears what she can't explain — How an eating disorder that began at thirteen was never really about food, and the childhood memory that unlocked it years later in meditation — The first Akashic Records reading that changed her life, and the moment the sun broke through the clouds as she cried — Why she built her practice gradually — intuitive art workshops, then women's circles, then formal Akashic Records training — instead of all at once — What her body went through preparing for her Level 1 initiation, and why she now understands that as readiness, not illness — Kait's own reframe on resilience: "You can't buy that. You have to earn that." Connect with Melisa: · @melisa.monti · melisamonti.com · Insight Timer: Melisa Monti Connect with Kait + PhenXX Kait on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenzaPhenXX: phenxx.comPhenXX IG: @lovephenxxBecoming Flame IG: @becomingflame.podYouTube: @lovephenxx If something in this is pulling at you, DM Kait FLAME on Instagram for the Becoming Flame Transmissions — a free private podcast series. Part two of this conversation goes into Melisa's channelled transmission for women on sexuality, the womb and life force.

    The Sensitivity You Were Taught to Hide — Melisa Monti (Part 1)

  7. Sep 29

    Quantum Leaping Requires Building Nervous System and Body Safety - with Anna Grace

    In this episode, Kait speaks with Anna Grace about the four months she spent in what she calls her true dark night of the soul — and why it took a body-shaking medical crisis to finish work she thought she'd already done. Anna is a guide for women moving through identity shifts, working across astrology, tarot, quantum healing and shadow work. Two years ago, at thirty-nine — the same age her own mother was when diagnosed with a brain tumour — Anna had a non-epileptic seizure while driving and was later diagnosed with functional neurological disorder: a body-wide tremor with no identifiable physical cause. She and Kait trace what that diagnosis actually uncovered underneath it: unprocessed PTSD from a fifteen-year marriage, a pattern of women in her family losing access to their own lives across generations, and a recurring, difficult image that had surfaced repeatedly in her client work — a stolen or buried baby — that returned again in her own healing before she met her now-partner and blended their families. In this episode you'll hear: — Why Anna's seizure and her mother's brain tumour diagnosis happened at the same age, in the same week of the calendar year, and what she makes of that now — The difference between an "awakening" and what she calls a true dark night of the soul — and why it took both a medical diagnosis and four months alone to finish the work — How she works with clients using her strongest clair sense, claircognizance — guiding someone to locate and release a block themselves, rather than hands-on healing — The chain of synchronicities — a past-life session, a house-sit, a chance conversation at a market — that led her to her teacher and, eventually, to her partner and blended family — Why she believes transformational work requires a baseline of nervous system safety that rarely gets talked about — Her closing definition of choosing yourself: following the body's nudges rather than engineering a future from the mind Find Anna Grace: Instagram: @the.quantum.priestess Website: Linktree Quantum Priestess Podcast This episode is for the woman who has already done "the work" once and still felt the ground move again. It's for anyone circling a diagnosis, a pattern or a feeling nobody else can explain to her. And it's for the one who has stopped waiting for permission to choose herself.

    Quantum Leaping Requires Building Nervous System and Body Safety - with Anna Grace

  8. Sep 25

    Your Voice Is Your Currency: Sarah Asha Rose on Channeling, Desire & Divine Expression

    In this expansive and deeply activating conversation, Kait sits down with channeller, therapist, and voice guide Sarah Asha Rose to explore the connection between voice, embodiment, creativity, divinity, and feminine power. Together they unravel what happens when women suppress their expression, disconnect from desire, and shrink themselves to remain palatable. Sarah shares her journey through spiritual awakening, light language channeling, trauma healing, divorce, and reclaiming her voice after years of fearing her own power. This episode moves between the mystical and the deeply practical. From somatic healing and nervous system safety to galactic consciousness, creative blocks, perfectionism, and the fear of being fully seen, this conversation is ultimately about remembering that your voice is not just sound. It is your transmission, your currency, and your bridge back to who you truly are. The episode also includes a live light language activation for voice reclamation and feminine expression. About SarahSarah Asha Rose is a therapist, channeller, author, and guide working at the intersection of voice, creativity, embodiment, and multidimensional healing. Through somatic channeling, light language, sound, and intuitive guidance, she helps women reclaim their authentic expression, unlock creative flow, and reconnect to their deepest truth. Key TakeawaysYour voice is the bridge between your humanity and your divinityPerfectionism often masks a fear of being fully seenCreative suppression disconnects women from desire, abundance, and vitalityHealing happens when the body finally feels safe enough to expressSound and light language bypass the rational mind and work directly with stored emotion and energetic memoryMemorable Quote“Your voice is your currency. That’s your magic.” Connect with Sarah Asha RoseWebsite: https://sarah-asharose.comYour Voice is your Currency Book:  https://yourvoiceisyourcurrencybook.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahasharose/Connect with Kait + PhenXXKait on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlyntregenza/PhenXX: https://www.phenxx.comPhenXX on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovephenxxBecoming Flame Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becomingflame.podYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovephenxx Sponsored by PhenXX.com — use promo code "podcast" for 10% off your first purchase.

    Your Voice Is Your Currency: Sarah Asha Rose on Channeling, Desire & Divine Expression
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This is for the woman who has risen from the fire and wants to build the big beautiful empire of her wildest dreams on top of those ashes. You know you are not here to heal quietly, stay small or keep silent. You are here to burn, to create anew, to feel deeply, and to rise in the truth beneath your ashes. You are ready to live your biggest life and fullest potential. No more second guessing. No more playing by the rules of someone else's game. Every Friday, Becoming Flame with Kait Tregenza opens portals into a bigger purposeful life lived in feminine alchemy, erotic intelligent creation, somatic connection, and sovereignty. For living as the woman you came here to be asks you to return to the womb, the body and the truth of you, step into your highest identity, with a nervous system re-patterned to receive it and hold a big life. If you feel it is time to remember and return to the woman your body has been asking you to remember and you're ready to quantum leap to become your truest self, then this podcast is for you.

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