Becoming Her Unfiltered

Eileen Flores
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Becoming Her, Unfiltered is your go-to podcast for healing & real life. Through my personal healing journey, I share raw, candid conversations about growth, motherhood, health and confidence, heartbreak, and starting over—with humor, honesty, and zero sugarcoating. Some episodes feel like therapy, others feel like a girls’ night, but all of them are real. If you’re growing, healing, laughing, and figuring it out as you go, welcome home. Don’t forget to follow, rate, and share.

  1. May 1

    The Most Honest Life Update I’ve Ever Recorded

    Life Lately: Brand Deals, Co Parenting Therapy & Letting It All Unfold In this very real and unfiltered life update episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I’m sitting down for a full brain dump on everything that’s been happening over the past few weeks. From juggling content creation, motherhood, grad school, and my career in media planning to navigating co parenting therapy, emotional growth, and the behind the scenes reality of building a life that actually feels aligned, this episode is honest, messy, reflective, and hopeful all at once. I open up about: • The creator partnerships and campaigns I’ve been working on lately with brands like Truly Free, AlphaNom, Starbird, and campaigns featuring Emmy • What it’s really like balancing work, content creation, motherhood, and grad school • The reality of trying to “do it all” while staying mentally grounded • Going to therapy for co parenting and the emotional growth that comes with it • Learning how to regulate overwhelm and trust divine timing • Building a life and career that actually aligns with the future I envision for myself and my daughter I also share the affirmation that’s been carrying me through this season of life: Everything will get done at its time, the way it was meant to. I am able to do everything. I am happy, I am healthy, and everything is okay. I am great in this moment. And… a little Season 2 update 🤍 Season 2 of Becoming Her, Unfiltered officially launches in June, and the very first interview episode will feature Jenny Curtis. I’m so excited to begin expanding the podcast into deeper conversations around healing, identity, motherhood, relationships, ambition, and becoming the version of yourself you’ve always dreamed of. This episode truly feels like sitting down with a friend and catching up on life lately. The chaos, the blessings, the growth, the uncertainty, and the beauty of becoming. If your brain has been overloaded lately too, just know: You do not have to have everything figured out today. You are allowed to grow through it in real time. https://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qrhttps://www.tiktok.com/@southbaymoms? _r=1&_t=ZP-95xS60JzIjf

    12 min

  2. Apr 10

    The Truth About My Boob Job (It’s Deeper Than You Think)

    I got a boob job… but this episode isn’t really about my body. It’s about identity. It’s about self-concept. It’s about healing, control, and becoming someone new. In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I open up about my breast augmentation and lift after breastfeeding for two years — and the deeper psychological and emotional reasons behind my decision. Because the truth is… changing your body is rarely just about appearance. It’s about how you see yourself. 💔 My Story: Postpartum Body, Identity & Rebuilding After breastfeeding for two years, my body changed in ways I wasn’t fully prepared for. And while I’m incredibly proud of what my body did for my daughter… I also felt disconnected from it. This decision wasn’t about men. It wasn’t about validation. It wasn’t about attention. It was about me wanting to feel aligned again. At the same time, I was:     •    Navigating a breakup     •    Rebuilding my life as a single mom     •    Finishing my Master’s in Marketing Analytics     •    Stepping into a new version of myself mentally, emotionally, and professionally And I realized… my internal growth and my external reflection didn’t match. ⚖️ You Can Love Yourself… And Still Want to Change This episode breaks down something we don’t talk about enough: You can love yourself and still want to change your body. You can be confident and still desire alignment. You can appreciate your body… and still want to reconnect with it. Wanting change doesn’t automatically mean insecurity — sometimes it means evolution. 🧠 The Psychology Behind It: Self-Concept & Identity Shift We dive into the psychology of self-concept — the internal identity you believe you are. Your self-concept influences:     •    your confidence     •    your standards     •    your relationships     •    your decisions And whether you realize it or not… 👉 You don’t act based on what you want 👉 You act based on who you believe you are We also talk about the identity gap — the disconnect between:     •    who you are now     •    and who you feel yourself becoming And how that gap can create discomfort that drives transformation. 🧠 The Neuroscience of a Glow-Up This episode also explores the brain science behind transformation:     •    Neuroplasticity: how your brain rewires as you evolve     •    Dopamine: why change and “glow-ups” feel exciting and motivating     •    How your brain seeks identity alignment and consistency Your brain is constantly updating your identity based on your experiences — including how you see yourself. 👑 The Let Them Theory: Let Them & Let Me Inspired by The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins: ⚖️ The Honest Truth This episode is not about promoting or discouraging plastic surgery. It’s about intention and awareness. For some women, changing their body is empowerment. For others, it’s avoidance. And sometimes… it’s both. The real question is: 👉 Are you choosing this from self-love… or from lack? 🌱 This Episode Is For You If…     •    You’re going through a glow-up or identity shift     •    You’re navigating postpartum body changes     •    You’re a single mom rebuilding your life     •    You’ve struggled with body image or self-perception     •    You want to understand the psychology behind why we change ✨ Affirmation I release the need to stay the same for others. I allow my self-concept to evolve as I grow. I let them have their opinions… and I let me become who I’m meant to be. 📝 Journal Prompts     •    What version of me am I becoming right now?     •    Where do I feel misaligned in my life?     •    Am I changing from self-love or self-rejection? https://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    12 min

  3. Apr 7

    Who are you after the relationship ends?

    Who are you… after the relationship ends? In this episode, I’m talking about the identity shift that happens after a breakup and why it feels like you lost yourself. We get into the psychology of identity fusion, how your brain processes heartbreak, and the role of neuroplasticity in rebuilding who you are. I’m also sharing my personal experience navigating single motherhood, choosing myself, and stepping into a new version of me…including decisions like getting surgery and redefining my identity on my own terms. If you’ve been feeling lost, stuck, or unfamiliar in your own life… this episode will help you understand why and how to move forward. ✨ Topics: breakup healing, identity shift, anxious attachment, neuroscience of heartbreak, neuroplasticity, becoming your best self, single mom journey, self growth 🧠 Affirmation: I am allowed to outgrow versions of myself. I am safe becoming someone new. I trust the process of rebuilding my life. 🎧 New episodes every Thursday Follow, rate, and share if this resonated 🤍 Shoutout to 📍Adonis Plastic Surgery in Torrance, CA Dr. Kalaria

    13 min

  4. Mar 20

    I Thought I Was Getting Married… Instead I Became a Single Mom

    137 Days Later: Rebuilding My Life After Ending My Engagement 137 days ago, I ended my engagement and stepped into single motherhood in a completely new way. In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I’m reflecting on what it really looks like to rebuild your life after a breakup — especially as a single mom. We talk about: ​ healing after heartbreak​ rebuilding your identity​ taking accountability and growing​ creating a healthy co-parenting mindset​ committing to yourself and your future I open up about the work I’ve been doing — from reading Atomic Habits, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and Crucial Conversations, to learning how to regulate my emotions and build better habits. We also touch on the neuroscience behind breakups, including dopamine withdrawal and neuroplasticity — and how your brain actually rewires as you rebuild your life. This episode is raw, honest, and a reminder that: you’re not starting over… you’re rebuilding. I also share what I’m calling into my next chapter — growth, community, career expansion, travel, and bigger opportunities. This marks the transition into Season 2, where we’ll go deeper into co-parenting, breathwork, emotional regulation, and real conversations with incredible women and experts. ✨Affirmation: I am not perfect, but I am committed to growth. I take full accountability for how I show up. I am building a healthy, aligned life for myself and my child. I trust that everything is shaping me into who I’m meant to be. 🎙 Follow Becoming Her, Unfiltered for more of my life journey Follow me on socials ✨for more of my day to day https://www.instagram.com/leenie_flores?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

    13 min

  5. Mar 13

    7 Steps to Detox a Breakup | Psychology & Neuroscience of Nervous System Healing

    🎙 7 Rules to Detox a Breakup Psychology, Neuroscience & Nervous System Healing | Becoming Her, Unfiltered Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally — they affect your brain chemistry, nervous system, and stress hormones. After a breakup, your brain experiences a shift in dopamine, cortisol, and emotional regulation, which is why heartbreak can feel overwhelming and all-consuming. In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, we walk through 7 action steps to detox a breakup, inspired by The Let Them Theory from Mel Robbins. These steps combine psychology, neuroscience, and practical healing tools to help regulate your nervous system and begin rebuilding your life after heartbreak. The goal isn’t to instantly erase someone from your life. The goal is to gradually regulate your nervous system, reclaim your emotional power, and slowly move forward, until one day that person becomes a small moment in your past instead of the center of your present. 🧠 In This Episode We break down the 7 steps that help your brain heal after a breakup: 1️⃣ Change your environment 2️⃣ No contact 3️⃣ Mute them on social media 4️⃣ Get a new hobby 5️⃣ Fill your calendar with supportive people 6️⃣ Create a reset ritual to interrupt emotional spirals 7️⃣ Schedule time to process grief Each step is explained through psychology and neuroscience, including: • How the brain’s dopamine reward system affects attachment • Why breakups increase cortisol and stress responses • The role of the amygdala and prefrontal cortex in emotional regulation • How neuroplasticity allows the brain to create new pathways after loss ✨ Affirmation for Healing At the end of the episode we anchor the healing process with this affirmation: I release what I cannot control and take full responsibility for my healing. Every day I choose actions that regulate my mind, strengthen my nervous system, and move me closer to the person I am becoming. 🌱 Remember Healing after a breakup is not about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about regulating your nervous system, rebuilding your identity, and creating a life that feels aligned with who you are becoming. And over time, the person who once consumed your thoughts… Will simply become a chapter in your story — not the whole book.

    19 min

  6. Mar 6

    Why Your Life WILL Get Better After A Breakup

    🎙 Why Your Life WILL Get Better After a Breakup The Psychology & Neuroscience of Heartbreak | Becoming Her, Unfiltered In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, we break down the psychology and neuroscience of breakups and explain why life often gets better after heartbreak. You’ll learn what’s happening inside your brain during a breakup, from dopamine withdrawal to the brain’s response to rejection and emotional pain and why these reactions are completely normal. If you’re healing from a breakup or trying to understand your relationship patterns, this episode will help you see why the pain you feel right now is temporary and part of the healing process. 🧠 In This Episode • Why breakups trigger dopamine withdrawal • The psychology of attachment and emotional loss • Why heartbreak can feel like physical pain • How your brain processes rejection and emotional distress • Why breakups often lead to stronger boundaries and personal growth ✨ Key Takeaway Heartbreak doesn’t mean your life is falling apart. Your brain and nervous system are adjusting to a major emotional change. And the version of you that emerges on the other side often has: • stronger boundaries • higher standards • deeper self-awareness • and a stronger sense of self 🌿 Affirmations I am not being rejected. I am being redirected My nervous system is recalibrating This pain is temporary I am becoming stronger I do not chase what leaves

    13 min

  7. Feb 27

    Attachment Styles 101: The Neuroscience of the Waiting Game

    Attachment Styles 101 — The Waiting Game In this episode, we’re breaking down attachment styles from both a psychology and neuroscience perspective — and applying it to something we’ve all experienced: The waiting game. You sent the text. Now you’re staring at your phone. Why does that feel so intense? We cover the 3 insecure attachment styles: 1️⃣ Anxious Attachment 🧠 Psychology Develops when caregiving was inconsistent. Core belief: “I might be abandoned.” 📱 The Waiting Game No reply after 20 minutes feels like rejection. Thoughts spiral: “Did I say something wrong?” ✨ Affirmations for Anxious Attachment • I am safe even in uncertainty. • Silence does not equal abandonment. • Someone else’s delay is not a reflection of my worth. • I do not have to chase love to keep it. • My nervous system can relax. • I am chosen, even when I am not reassured. • Calm love is secure love. 2️⃣ Avoidant Attachment 🧠 Psychology Develops when caregivers were emotionally unavailable. Core belief: “Needing people leads to disappointment.” 📱 The Waiting Game If they don’t text back? “Whatever. I don’t care.” (But internally, there may still be stress.) ✨ Affirmations for Avoidant Attachment • It is safe to need people. • Vulnerability does not weaken me. • I can feel emotions without losing control. • Closeness does not trap me. • I can stay instead of shutting down. • Independence and intimacy can coexist. • I deserve love that feels steady and mutual. 3️⃣ Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) 🧠 Psychology Develops in chaotic or unpredictable environments. Core belief: “Love is both safe and dangerous.” 📱 The Waiting Game “I miss them.” 5 minutes later: “I don’t even want this.” Push-pull energy. ✨ Affirmations for Fearful-Avoidant Attachment • I can want love without fearing it. • Stability is safe for me. • Not all connection ends in chaos. • I do not need intensity to feel secure. • I can move slowly and choose consistency. • I am allowed to trust safe people. • I am healing the parts of me that learned love through survival. 💚 What Secure Attachment Looks Like 🧠 Psychology Secure attachment develops when caregivers were responsive and emotionally safe. Core belief: “I am worthy of love, and people are generally reliable.” 📱 The Waiting Game (Secure Response) “They’ll respond when they can.” No overthinking. No shutdown. Just calm confidence. Secure attachment doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means your nervous system isn’t in survival mode. ✨ Affirmations for Secure Attachment • I respond, I don’t react. • I am secure even when I am waiting. • I trust myself and I trust safe love. • My peace is not dependent on someone else’s timing. • I am worthy of consistent connection. • Calm is my new normal. 🌿 Big Takeaway Attachment styles are not personality traits. They are nervous system adaptations. And through neuroplasticity — your brain’s ability to rewire — you can move toward secure attachment. Healing is possible. Security is learned. You are not broken. You adapted. Now you’re becoming secure. 💚 Final Affirmation for the Episode: I am becoming securely attached. I respond, I don’t react. I choose calm. I choose stability. I choose love that feels safe

    22 min

  8. Feb 26

    A Little Life Update: Why I Went Quiet

    A Little Life Update (Why I Went Quiet) After two weeks of silence… I’m back. In this short, honest life update, I share why I stepped away, what I’ve been processing behind the scenes, and what this season of growth is teaching me.

    4 min
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Becoming Her, Unfiltered is your go-to podcast for healing & real life. Through my personal healing journey, I share raw, candid conversations about growth, motherhood, health and confidence, heartbreak, and starting over—with humor, honesty, and zero sugarcoating. Some episodes feel like therapy, others feel like a girls’ night, but all of them are real. If you’re growing, healing, laughing, and figuring it out as you go, welcome home. Don’t forget to follow, rate, and share.

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  • Creator
    Eileen Flores
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    15
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Eileen Flores
  • Show Website
    Becoming Her Unfiltered