The Balanced Recruiter

Chastity

Welcome to The Balanced Recruiter — a podcast for anyone trying to survive work and this thing we call life, without losing themselves. Chastity, a former corporate recruiter and sales trainer, currently a proud puppy mom, and professional laundry dodger, shares short episodes on burnout, boundaries, stress, and the chaos of being an actual human with actual feelings. If you’ve ever cried in your car, refreshed Indeed at 2am, or fantasized about running away to another country, this is your space... Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And we’re all somewhere in between.

  1. 4d ago

    S2 | Episode #60 - Why Do I Feel So... Guilty?

    I spent years wishing I had more time to myself. So tell me why, now that I finally have some... I feel guilty enjoying it?! I'll be sitting there, drinking my tea, minding my own business... And suddenly my brain goes, "Shouldn't we be doing something?" FRIENDS. CAN WE JUST BE HAPPY FOR FIVE MINUTES?! 😂 In Episode 60, we're checking in on why peace can feel so uncomfortable when it's exactly what we've been working toward. The guilt of slowing down. The pressure to stay productive. And our ridiculous ability to turn free time into another to-do list. Because here's the thing... Feeling uncomfortable with peace doesn't mean you need to create another problem. 🌿 Tune in to find out this week's Runaway Destination: where we're escaping for slow mornings, beautiful surroundings, and absolutely no vacation Olympics 😂 ____________________ 🤍 Need a little help slowing down? My Burnout Reset Guide is here to help you pause, reflect, and make room to breathe. No overnight life overhaul. Just a place to begin. Link below: https://beacons.ai/thebalancedrecruiter Need support?💛 Dial 988 in the U.S.💛 Visit findahelpline.com worldwide💛 Or message me — you don’t have to carry this alone. New episodes drop every week — follow, comment, share, leave a review, or scream into that business plan you know you shouldn't even think about launching... Find and Follow us on Instagram: @thebalancedrecruiter | Share your thoughts or what you'd like to hear with us by sending us a DM! Remember: Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I’m somewhere in between 💛

  2. 6d ago

    S2 | Episode #59 - I Thought It Was Me... Until I Left

    Ever leave a situation that was stressing you the hell out... only to realize you're still living by its rules? The constant urgency. The overexplaining. The guilt when you're not busy. The feeling that you should always be doing more. Friends... WHO ARE WE REPORTING TO?! 😂 In this episode, we're talking about what happens after we leave an environment that wasn't working for us. Because sometimes the hardest part isn't walking away. It's unlearning the version of ourselves we became just to get through it. And here's the uncomfortable part... What if the pressure isn't coming from anyone else anymore? What if we're the ones still enforcing the rules? Ouch... So here's something to think about: What are you still carrying that you no longer need to? _______________________ 🌿 The Burnout Reset Guide — Founder's Edition is available online now if you need some space to figure out what you today actually needs. Link below: https://beacons.ai/thebalancedrecruiter Need support?💛 Dial 988 in the U.S.💛 Visit findahelpline.com worldwide💛 Or message me — you don’t have to carry this alone. New episodes drop every week — follow, comment, share, leave a review, or scream into your to-do list that shows you are 2-days behind... Find and Follow us on Instagram: @thebalancedrecruiter | Share your thoughts or what you'd like to hear with us by sending us a DM! Remember: Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I’m somewhere in between 💛

  3. Oct 9

    S2 | Episode #58 - But What's the Point?... I Like It!

    When was the last time you did something just because you liked it? Not because it was productive. Not because it was good for you. Not because you could turn it into a side hustle. Just because... it made you happy. Somewhere along the way, I think we got a little too good at making everything we do have a purpose. Even rest has become something we do so we can be more productive tomorrow. And hobbies? Apparently, those need a business plan now, too. 😂 In Episode 58, we're talking about finding joy again — especially when you've spent so much time working, taking care of responsibilities, and doing what needs to get done that the things you actually enjoy slowly fall off the list. And I'm not saying we should stop having goals or doing meaningful things. Hell, I'm building businesses around things I love. But it's made me wonder... When did everything we enjoy start needing to be useful? Maybe burnout doesn't just take our energy. Maybe sometimes it takes our curiosity, our playfulness, and those little moments when something catches our attention and we think... Ouuu... that looks fun. And maybe choosing yourself means making room for those moments again. Not to become better at something. Not to accomplish anything. Just because you want to. 🌿 This week's little reminder: Not everything you love needs to become something useful. ✈️ And for this week's Runaway Destination we're heading to Tokyo, Japan — but without the pressure to see and do absolutely everything. We're leaving room to wander, discover a cute little café, try something new, and follow the ouuu. 😂 Because sometimes the best memories happen when we stop trying to make every minute count and just enjoy where we are. And if you're ready for a getaway with a little more breathing room, Runaway Destinations can help you plan one that feels like you. So here's something to think about this week: What would you still enjoy doing if nobody ever knew you did it? No recognition. No money. No gold star. Just you, doing something you love. Because maybe joy doesn't need to have a bigger purpose. Maybe joy gets to be the point. 🤍 🎙️ Episode 58 — But What's the Point?... I Like It. The Balanced Recruiter Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I'm somewhere in between.

  4. Oct 2

    S2 | Episode #57 - But I Have to Be the Best... Right?

    Doing well and being well are not the same thing. Straight A's. Honors. AP classes. Varsity sports. College applications. Scholarships. Clubs. Volunteering. Be the best. Do more. Don't fall behind. And somewhere in all of that... when do kids actually get to be kids? In Episode 57, we're talking about student burnout and the pressure to achieve — from school, sports, college admissions, coaches, friends, family, culture... and eventually, ourselves. I'm also getting personal about growing up in an Asian household, where sometimes achievement can feel bigger than you. People sacrificed for you. Your family is proud of you. You want to make them proud. And there can be so much love underneath that. There can be love underneath the pressure... and it can still feel like pressure. 🌿 The Burnout Reset Guide — Founder's Edition is available online now if you need some space to figure out what you today actually needs. Link below: https://beacons.ai/thebalancedrecruiter Need support?💛 Dial 988 in the U.S.💛 Visit findahelpline.com worldwide💛 Or message me — you don’t have to carry this alone. New episodes drop every week — follow, comment, share, leave a review, or scream into your leftovers that you are unsure is still safe to eat... whatever feels good for you today! Find and Follow us on Instagram: @thebalancedrecruiter | Share your thoughts or what you'd like to hear with us by sending us a DM! Remember: Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I’m somewhere in between 💛

  5. Sep 15

    S2 | Episode #56 - Growing Up Was Supposed to Feel Different... Right?

    By now, I thought I'd be further along... More settled. More financially secure. Further in my career. Maybe my family would look different. And I definitely thought I'd know what the hell I was doing by now. 😂 Sound familiar? In this episode, we're talking about the invisible timelines we carry into adulthood — the career, the house, the family, the money, the milestones — and that uncomfortable feeling that maybe we're somehow behind. But here's the question: “By now, I thought I would...” Finish that sentence. And then ask yourself something even harder: Do I still want that? Because maybe you didn't fall behind. Maybe life happened. Maybe you changed. Maybe what you wanted at 25 doesn't fit who you are at 35, 45, or 55. And maybe you've been grieving a timeline you don't even want anymore. Oof 😮‍💨 Maybe growing up isn't finally having everything figured out. Maybe it's realizing... you're allowed to decide where you want to go next. 🌿 The Burnout Reset Guide — Founder's Edition is available online now if you need some space to figure out what you today actually needs. Link below: https://beacons.ai/thebalancedrecruiter Need support?💛 Dial 988 in the U.S.💛 Visit findahelpline.com worldwide💛 Or message me — you don’t have to carry this alone. New episodes drop every week — follow, comment, share, leave a review, or scream into your leftovers that you are unsure is still safe to eat... whatever feels good for you today! Find and Follow us on Instagram: @thebalancedrecruiter | Share your thoughts or what you'd like to hear with us by sending us a DM! Remember: Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I’m somewhere in between 💛

  6. Sep 7

    S2 | Episode #55 - I'm Grateful and Still... Tired

    Grateful... but still feeling tired? For Wellness Session #2, we're slowing things down and talking about gratitude — but not the toxic-positivity, “someone else has it worse” kind. Because here's your reminder: Gratitude isn't a debt you owe because your life could be worse. You can love your life and want something to change. You can be grateful and tired. Grieving and laughing. Excited about what's next and scared as hell. Choosing yourself and still wondering if you're making the right choice. Both things can be true. In Episode 55, we're taking a gentle Gratitude Reset — breathing, reflecting, noticing the tiny things that make life feel a little softer, and practicing gratitude without using it to talk ourselves out of how we actually feel. Because maybe gratitude isn't saying: “Everything is okay.” Maybe it's simply noticing: “This was good too.” 🌿 The Burnout Reset Guide — Founder's Edition is available online now if you need a little more space to check in with yourself. Link below: https://beacons.ai/thebalancedrecruiter Need support?💛 Dial 988 in the U.S.💛 Visit findahelpline.com worldwide💛 Or message me — you don’t have to carry this alone. New episodes drop every week — follow, comment, share, leave a review, or scream into your newly purchased notebook you know you won't write a thing in - whatever feels good for you today. Find and Follow us on Instagram: @thebalancedrecruiter | Share your thoughts or what you'd like to hear with us by sending us a DM! Remember: Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I’m somewhere in between 💛

  7. Sep 1

    S2 | Episode #54 - I'll Just Do It... Again

    Ever wonder when you became the unpaid project manager of everyone’s life? 😂 You remember the appointments. Make the reservations. Notice what’s running out. Figure out dinner. Plan the trip. Check in on everyone. And somehow... you became the person who just handles it. But here’s the uncomfortable question: Did nobody step up... or did you stop giving people space to? In Episode 54, we’re talking about the invisible work of being everyone’s default person, why capable people often end up carrying more than they realize, and what happens when “I’ll just do it” slowly turns into resentment. Because being good at carrying something doesn’t automatically make it yours to carry. 🌿 The Burnout Reset Guide — Founder’s Edition is officially available online now. ✈️ And Runaway Destinations has officially launched! This week, we’re celebrating with a solo reset in Seoul, South Korea — scalp treatments, cafés, street food, night markets, royal palaces, traditional villages, Hongdae, and the absolute luxury of asking only one person what they want to do next: You. Maybe choosing yourself isn’t always about adding more to your life. Maybe it’s finally putting something down. Need support?💛 Dial 988 in the U.S.💛 Visit findahelpline.com worldwide💛 Or message me — you don’t have to carry this alone. New episodes drop every week — follow, comment, share, leave a review, or scream into your Korean head spa… stressed from root to tip, whatever feels good today. Find and Follow us on Instagram: @thebalancedrecruiter | Share your thoughts or what you'd like to hear with us by sending us a DM! Remember: Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And I’m somewhere in between 💛

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Welcome to The Balanced Recruiter — a podcast for anyone trying to survive work and this thing we call life, without losing themselves. Chastity, a former corporate recruiter and sales trainer, currently a proud puppy mom, and professional laundry dodger, shares short episodes on burnout, boundaries, stress, and the chaos of being an actual human with actual feelings. If you’ve ever cried in your car, refreshed Indeed at 2am, or fantasized about running away to another country, this is your space... Burnout is real. Balance is the goal. And we’re all somewhere in between.