The MedLife Support Podcast

Lisa Muehlenbein, PhD
  • 4.9 (19)
  • Relationships
  • Updated Weekly

Life in medicine is intense — and it doesn't just impact the physician, it ripples through marriages, partnerships, families, and even the organizations where physicians work. I'm Lisa Muehlenbein, PhD in Health Psychology, a wellness professional with over 30 years of experience and a physician spouse for more than 26 years, and I know firsthand how the pressures of medicine can take a toll on relationships. That's why I created The MedLife Support Podcast — candid conversations on life in medicine, relationships, and everything in between. Each week, I'll bring you no-nonsense solutions for burnout, boundaries, and better connection, grounded in research, real stories, and practical strategies you can use right away. Whether you're a physician, a spouse, or a leader who cares about the well-being of your people, this podcast is for you. Subscribe to The MedLife Support Podcast on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen — and remember to share it with another physician family or colleague who needs a little life support, too.

  1. 1d ago

    52. The Cost of Powering Through: Midlife Health, Hormones & Reclaiming Yourself | Erin Trier

    What happens when the strategies that helped you keep everything together for years suddenly stop working? For many women, midlife arrives in the middle of an already demanding season—raising children, managing a household, building a career, supporting a spouse, carrying the invisible mental load, and trying to keep everyone else moving forward. In physician families, where call schedules, late nights, weekends, and the unpredictability of medicine already consume so much family bandwidth, it can be particularly easy for the spouse's health to keep moving farther down the priority list. Until her body says otherwise. In Episode 52 of The MedLife Support Podcast, Dr. Lisa sits down with functional health coach, entrepreneur, podcaster, and mother of four Erin Trier for a candid conversation about women's health in midlife—and why constantly "powering through" may carry a greater cost than women realize. Erin shares her own experience of reaching a point where the wellness strategies she had relied upon no longer seemed to work. She describes debilitating anxiety, dramatic mood changes, brain fog, fatigue, physical changes, and the unsettling feeling that she simply did not recognize herself anymore. That experience ultimately pushed her to learn more about female physiology, hormonal health, functional and integrative approaches to wellness, and the importance of treating health as highly individual rather than following another one-size-fits-all plan. But this conversation goes far beyond hormones. Lisa and Erin examine how women become conditioned to keep the trains on the tracks—to manage the children, home, calendar, appointments, relationships, responsibilities, and countless details nobody else may even realize are being managed. Eventually, chronic overfunctioning can feel so normal that women stop recognizing how little capacity they have left for themselves. Erin offers a deceptively simple place to begin: audit your time. Instead of asking how to squeeze another wellness habit into an already impossible schedule, look at the calendar and ask whether there is any white space at all. If there isn't, Erin argues, creating it needs to become part of the solution—not another optional task to tackle once everything else is complete. Lisa and Erin also explore why self-care can trigger guilt, why health advice has become so confusing for women, the importance of bio-individuality, and why the invisible mental and emotional load belongs in any meaningful discussion of women's wellness. And when the conversation turns specifically to medical families, Erin brings it back to something fundamental: communication. When couples do not openly discuss workload, capacity, mental load, and where additional support is needed, the responsibilities do not disappear. They simply default to someone. In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Erin discuss: Why women often normalize exhaustion, stress, overwhelm, and survival mode Erin's personal experience with significant mental, emotional, and physical changes in midlife Why the habits that worked in one season may no longer support you in another The relationship between chronic stress, capacity, and women's wellbeing Why a time audit can reveal more than another wellness plan How to intentionally create "white space" before the calendar fills it for you The guilt many women experience when prioritizing their own health Functional and integrative health and viewing the body as an interconnected system Why bio-individuality matters and one-size-fits-all wellness advice can fall short The invisible mental and emotional load inside busy families Why communication about capacity and workload protects both health and relationships The importance of asking for help before you are completely depleted Erin's personal "life support": creating true quiet in an otherwise noisy life One of the clearest messages from this conversation is that women are not meant to spend decades proving how much they can carry. If your calendar has no white space, your needs are always negotiable, and "I'll deal with me later" has become your operating system, this episode is worth hearing. Because supporting everyone else should not require disappearing from your own life. About Erin Trier Erin Trier is a women's wellness and empowerment coach specializing in helping mothers simplify the health process, better understand their unique bio-individuality, and become more intentional about their wellness and self-care. She holds a Master's in Social Work and certifications including Level 1 and Level 2 Functional Health Coaching, NASM-CPT, Pn1 Nutrition, and SYNC for Women's Health + Hormones. With more than a decade of experience, Erin has built a successful wellness business while raising four children and navigating life as a medical mom. Erin is also the founder and host of the Empowered in Health Podcast. Through her coaching, content, community, and EMPOWER Method, her mission is to help women reclaim their identity and renew their strength using simple, sustainable systems and support.  Connect with Erin Website: ErinTrier.com Instagram: @erinktrier Podcast: Empowered in Health Listen to Dr. Lisa's appearance on the show HERE. Email: erinktrier@gmail.com Erin shared that her website is the central place to learn about her coaching and connect with the Empowered in Health Podcast, while her media kit lists Instagram and email as direct contact channels.  Educational Disclaimer This episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Consult an appropriately qualified healthcare professional regarding personal health concerns. Connect with Dr. Lisa The MedLife Matrix Website   Mastering the MedLife Matrix Course Waitlist Dissertation Research: Physician Burnout and the Marital Relationship: Spouse Perspective Instagram: @themedlifematrix and @themedlifesupportpodcast LinkedIn Facebook

    52. The Cost of Powering Through: Midlife Health, Hormones & Reclaiming Yourself | Erin Trier

  2. 1d ago ·  Bonus

    You Might Enjoy: On Purpose with Jay Shetty

    Introducing EZRA FRECH: "I Was Put on This Earth to Change the Way We See Disability" from On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay Shetty Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation. Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist" 02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born 06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3 11:15 The Kindergarten Letter 13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares 16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying 23:18 Falling In Love With Sports 27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028 31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol 33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic 36:53 How Do You Define Confidence? 40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream 44:35 Making Team USA At 14 48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work 52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena" 58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning 01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg 01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule 01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure 01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars 01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family 01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade 01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege 01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream 01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5 Episode Resources Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/ezrafrech/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@ezrafrech Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/teamezra05/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

    You Might Enjoy: On Purpose with Jay Shetty

  3. Oct 13

    51. When Women Physicians Carry Too Much: Burnout, Invisible Labor & Career Redesign | Christina Adams, MD

    Women physicians are not burning out simply because medicine is demanding. They are often practicing inside systems that expect more emotional labor, more accessibility, more accommodation, and more unpaid work from them—then going home to cultural expectations that may still position them as the person responsible for remembering, organizing, managing, and caring for everyone else. In Episode 51 of The MedLife Support Podcast, Dr. Lisa sits down with OB-GYN physician, physician coach, and women's health advocate Christina Adams, MD, for an honest conversation about what women physicians are actually carrying and what happens when that load becomes unsustainable. Christina has spent approximately two decades in OB-GYN, experiencing several different models of medical practice along the way. She has also experienced burnout herself more than once. Rather than ultimately leaving clinical medicine, she redesigned her career, transitioning from full-scope OB-GYN practice into an OB hospitalist role that gave her something she had been missing for years: space for a life outside of work. But this conversation goes well beyond career transition. Christina and Dr. Lisa examine the expectations placed on women physicians long before they enter medicine—the pressure to be agreeable, capable, responsible, helpful, and willing to say yes—and how medical culture can amplify those expectations. Christina describes the additional inbox burden, emotional labor, interruptions, "status leveling," and uncompensated responsibilities women physicians may encounter simply because they are women. And those expectations do not disappear at home. For more than a decade, Christina's husband, Mike, has served as the stay-at-home parent for their two sons. Their family intentionally created a division of labor that did not follow traditional gender roles, yet institutions outside their home continued treating Christina as the default parent. Even when her husband was home and Christina was operating, the school often called Mom first. That experience raises a much larger question: What happens when a medical family has intentionally created a system that works for them, but the culture around them keeps trying to put everyone back into traditional roles? Christina also speaks candidly about another layer of the mental load: learning to relinquish responsibility at home. After years of being rewarded for competence, control, and over-responsibility, allowing someone else to handle things differently can be surprisingly difficult. For physicians accustomed to being "the captain" in clinical environments, transitioning from directing an OR or managing complex patient care to becoming an equal partner at home can require its own form of recalibration. Dr. Lisa and Christina also explore what burnout can eventually take from a physician beyond energy. Chronic stress can alter how physicians experience their patients, their work, their relationships, and even themselves. Christina describes reaching the point at which physicians may look at their own behavior and wonder, Who was that? That isn't me. That loss of connection to oneself matters. So does recognizing that the choices are not limited to keep enduring or leave medicine entirely. Christina shares how physicians can begin identifying their non-negotiables, considering what a sustainable medical career would actually look like, negotiating for change where they are, and—when necessary—finding or creating something different. Her own move into hospitalist medicine allowed her to preserve the parts of OB-GYN she still loved while giving her time to rest, read for pleasure, pursue advocacy and coaching, and simply be present when her son came home from school. The conversation also turns toward healthcare organizations. Christina argues that physician retention requires more than asking clinicians what they need. Leaders must be willing to hear the answers and make meaningful changes based on them. Physicians are not disposable commodities, and sustainable healthcare requires working environments that recognize their humanity as well as their productivity. For medical families, the question becomes equally fundamental: What actually matters to us, and are we willing to design our lives around those priorities—even when our choices do not look like everyone else's? In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Christina discuss: ·      Why burnout among women physicians cannot be reduced to a workload or time-management problem ·      How girls and women are conditioned toward over-responsibility and people-pleasing ·      The invisible and uncompensated labor women physicians often perform inside healthcare ·      Why women physicians may experience heavier patient communication and inbox demands ·      "Status leveling" and the different interpersonal expectations placed on female physicians ·      The "second shift" women physicians may encounter after leaving work ·      What happens when Mom is still treated as the default parent—even when Dad is the stay-at-home parent ·      How control, perfectionism, and responsibility can follow physicians from the hospital into the marriage ·      Why burnout can create identity loss and disconnect physicians from the reasons they entered medicine ·      How physicians can regain agency without accepting blame for systemic burnout ·      The space between enduring an unsustainable job and leaving medicine altogether ·      Christina's transition from full-scope OB-GYN practice to OB hospitalist medicine ·      Why career redesign may involve accepting different tradeoffs around income, time, geography, and role ·      What healthcare organizations need to understand about physician retention ·      Why medical families must identify their own priorities rather than organizing life around cultural expectations ·      Christina and Mike's simple ritual for protecting connection in their marriage Christina's perspective reinforces one of the central principles of The MedLife Support Podcast: physician wellbeing cannot be separated from the environment in which physicians work or the relationships and families to which they return. A sustainable future in medicine requires us to consider all of it. ABOUT CHRISTINA ADAMS, MD Dr. Christina Adams is an OB-GYN physician with 20 years of clinical and leadership experience. After 18 years in full-scope practice, she transitioned to practicing clinically as an OB hospitalist. She is also a burnout and career transitions coach for women physicians. Christina works with women physicians who have reached a crossroads in their careers, helping them determine whether the future they want in medicine is possible in their current role and, when it is not, develop a strategic plan for moving into a role where they can thrive. Christina is a women's health advocate and active participant in organized medicine. She currently serves as an ACOG District XII officer and leads the ACOG District XII delegation to the Florida Medical Association House of Delegates. She is also the host of Navigating Possibility, a podcast focused on burnout, career redesign, identity, advocacy, and creating sustainable futures for women physicians. CONNECT WITH CHRISTINA ADAMS, MD Website: https://www.christinaadamsmd.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-adams-md-5b7642175/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinaadamsmd02/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557977027465 Podcast: Navigating Possibility  CONNECT WITH DR. LISA + THE MEDLIFE MATRIX Visit TheMedLifeMatrix.com for research-based resources, coaching, education, and support for physicians, spouses, partners, and medical families navigating the realities of life in medicine. Instagram: @themedlifematrix and @themedlifesupportpodcast LinkedIn: Lisa (Taylor) Muehlenbein, PhD

    51. When Women Physicians Carry Too Much: Burnout, Invisible Labor & Career Redesign | Christina Adams, MD

  4. Oct 6

    50. The Other Side of Medicine: A Husband's View of Marriage, Fatherhood & Physician Family Life | Chris Herring

    When people picture a physician spouse, there is still a tendency to picture a woman married to a male physician—the person adapting her career, managing the home, carrying more of the parenting load, and keeping family life moving around the demands of medicine. But physician families do not all look the same. In Episode 50, Dr. Lisa sits down with Chris Herring, co-founder of Other Side Med, for a candid conversation about physician family life from a perspective we do not hear nearly enough: the non-physician husband of a female physician. Chris spent more than a decade building a successful career in tech before eventually stepping away from traditional corporate work to become the primary parent at home to his two young sons. His family is also raising a child with significant medical needs, adding another level of caregiving, uncertainty, appointments, advocacy, and emotional responsibility to a life already shaped by medicine. But this episode is about much more than swapping traditional gender roles. Chris opens up about what happened when his wife's 80- and 100-hour residency weeks gradually became his 80- and 100-hour weeks too. He describes the pressure he felt to succeed professionally, keep their finances on track, manage the household, create a place of rest for his wife, and somehow keep himself together in the process. Eventually, something had to give. Chris and Dr. Lisa explore what happens when supporting the physician becomes so consuming that the spouse begins disappearing inside the support role. They discuss loneliness, identity, communication, burnout crossover, career sacrifice, societal expectations, parenting, and the quiet tendency for physician spouses to decide their own struggles are not important enough to bring home. Chris also shares what he and his wife learned when their communication began breaking down during residency. Trying not to burden one another actually created greater distance. What helped was learning to say what they needed, ask better questions, and stop assuming that sacrifice was always the most loving response. Now, as the parent carrying much of the daily responsibility at home, Chris has gained another perspective on the invisible work required to keep a medical family functioning. He talks openly about being a stay-at-home dad, the assumptions people make about that decision, the discomfort of separating personal worth from a paycheck or professional title, and why choosing what creates health for your family may matter more than following the life plan you originally imagined. The conversation also goes deeper into parenting and caregiving. Chris shares what raising a medically complex child has taught him about empathy, caregiver fatigue, accepting help, advocating within the healthcare system, and living with a level of responsibility that does not simply disappear when the workday ends. Through it all, one message becomes clear: the physician is not the only person whose life is shaped by medicine. The career, identity, relationships, parenting responsibilities, health, and well-being of the spouse can be shaped by it too. And supporting the physician should never require the other person to disappear. In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Chris discuss: ·      Why Chris created Other Side Med after struggling to find community as a male physician spouse ·      What happened when his wife's residency workload became his workload too ·      The pressure to financially provide, manage the home, and protect a physician spouse from additional stress ·      Why trying not to "burden" your spouse can quietly damage communication ·      How physician couples can communicate when both people are running on empty ·      The assumptions surrounding husbands, wives, breadwinners, caregiving, and stay-at-home parenting ·      Chris's transition from a successful technology career to becoming a stay-at-home dad ·      Separating identity and personal worth from career status and income ·      The invisible workload carried by the parent managing life at home ·      Preventing resentment when medicine repeatedly pulls one parent away ·      How Chris and his wife help their children understand why Mom sometimes has to miss family events ·      Parenting a child with significant medical needs ·      Caregiver fatigue and the reality of ongoing responsibility ·      What being on the patient-family side of healthcare has taught Chris about the system ·      Why accepting help requires letting go of the belief that you should be able to do everything yourself ·      The importance of building community outside the physician's professional world ·      Why physician families need more than acknowledgment—they deserve recognition and celebration ·      Chris's advice to physician spouses: "Name it and claim it." Whether you are the physician, spouse, partner, primary parent, caregiver—or some combination of all of them—this episode is an important reminder that there is no single physician-family story. A strong medical family is not built by one person endlessly sacrificing for the other. It is built when both people are allowed to matter. Listen to Episode 50 of The MedLife Support Podcast, share it with another medical family who needs this conversation, and subscribe so you never miss your dose of MedLife support ABOUT CHRIS HERRING Chris Herring is the co-founder of Other Side Med, a media company that reaches millions each month by giving a voice to the families in medicine. He is a med spouse, father of two young boys, an entrepreneur, investor, and former software marketing executive. Chris now speaks and writes about marriage in medicine, fatherhood, disability, and the uniqueness of building a life with a physician. CONNECT WITH CHRIS HERRING + OTHER SIDE MED Website: https://www.othersidemed.com/ Instagram: @theothersidemed TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theothersidemed Facebook: Other Side Med YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theothersidemed Newsletter: https://www.othersidemed.com/#newsletter Other Side Med also invites physicians, spouses, and medical families to share their own stories through the website. Reach out today to share yours Connect with Dr. Lisa The MedLife Matrix Website   Mastering the MedLife Matrix Course Waitlist Dissertation Research: Physician Burnout and the Marital Relationship: Spouse Perspective Instagram: @themedlifematrix and @themedlifesupportpodcast LinkedIn Facebook

    50. The Other Side of Medicine: A Husband's View of Marriage, Fatherhood & Physician Family Life | Chris Herring

  5. Sep 29

    49. Rich, But Not Wealthy: A Physician's Path to Financial Independence | Bill Yount, MD

    BRIEF CONTENT NOTE This episode contains a brief discussion of suicide involving a child as Bill describes the emotional burden physicians may carry from working in emergency medicine. A physician can earn a substantial income and still look at their finances at 40, 50, or even 60 and wonder: How are we not farther ahead by now? Medical families follow a financial timeline that looks very different from most families. While peers may begin earning, saving, and investing shortly after college, physicians can spend another decade or more in medical school, residency, and fellowship. By the time the attending paycheck arrives, there may already be significant student loan debt, years of lost compounding, a mortgage, children, and a long list of things the family postponed during training. Then comes the temptation to finally enjoy the life everyone worked so hard to create. The house. The cars. The vacations. The private schools. The upgrades. The very understandable feeling of, "We've earned this." But a high income and financial independence are not the same thing. In Episode 49 of The MedLife Support Podcast, Dr. Lisa Muehlenbein sits down with emergency physician and Catching Up to FI co-host Bill Yount, MD, whose own financial wake-up call came at age 50. Despite decades in medicine and a successful physician income, Bill realized that he and his family were essentially living paycheck to paycheck. He didn't know his net worth, wasn't intentionally tracking spending, and had built a lifestyle that depended on continuing to earn at a high level. At the same time, burnout was catching up with him. That combination changed everything. Bill began examining not only where his money had gone, but what he actually wanted his money to make possible. He and his wife changed their spending, dramatically increased their savings, downsized their home, became more intentional about investing, and eventually reached financial independence approximately a decade later. But this conversation goes far beyond retirement accounts and investment strategies. Bill explains why he prefers the term "work optional" to retired. Once he knew he no longer had to practice medicine, he discovered something unexpected: he could renegotiate medicine on his own terms. He stopped working nights, reduced his shifts, asked for greater compensation and a retention bonus, and continued practicing because he wanted to—not because his lifestyle required him to. As Dr. Lisa observes during their conversation, medicine became a "get to," not a "have to." That distinction matters because financial wellbeing is also a burnout issue. When physicians are financially dependent on maintaining a certain level of income, leaving a toxic workplace, decreasing clinical hours, taking a sabbatical, recovering from illness, caring for a spouse, or simply deciding that another missed family dinner is no longer worth the extra shift can feel impossible. Financial independence creates something potentially more valuable than retirement: choice, optionality, autonomy, purpose, and the ability to buy back time. This conversation also explores the emotional side of realizing you started late. Shame, fear, anger, regret, and the belief that "we should have known better" can keep high-achieving physicians stuck. Bill is candid that his recovery did not begin with sophisticated investing. It began with acknowledging what had happened, letting go of the past, understanding what he and his wife wanted their life to look like, and then taking action together. That "together" is critical. Money decisions rarely affect only the physician. They shape the marriage, family choices, career decisions, parenting, retirement, and the amount of time a couple ultimately gets to spend living the life they worked so hard to build. For medical couples who have never been completely aligned around spending, saving, lifestyle, or retirement, Bill encourages much earlier and much more transparent conversations about values, goals, debt, expectations, and what "enough" actually means. Because financial independence isn't ultimately about dying with the largest possible portfolio. It is about deciding what your money is for. Is it there to purchase more things—or more time? Can it create experiences with your children? Support relationships? Allow you to give generously? Help you step away from a career before your health or marriage pays the price? Can it remove tasks that drain your limited time and attention? For the physician or medical family listening and thinking, "We should be farther ahead," this episode offers a different question: What can we do with what we have from here? Because a late start does not mean you failed. And it does not mean it is too late. In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Dr. Yount discuss: ·      Why physicians frequently begin wealth-building later than their non-medical peers ·      How lifestyle inflation can quietly absorb even a substantial physician income ·      Bill's financial wake-up call at age 50 ·      The connection between financial stress, physician burnout, and medical marriage ·      Why Bill prefers "work optionality" to traditional retirement ·      How financial independence can create career leverage and physician autonomy ·      Moving beyond financial shame, regret, and the belief that you "should have known better" ·      Why couples need to define their financial goals together ·      How financial security can help families weather illness and other major life disruptions ·      What to consider when deciding between DIY financial management and professional guidance ·      Why money should support your life goals rather than become the goal itself ·      How physicians can think differently about time, energy, money, attention, and what "enough" means ABOUT BILL YOUNT, MD Bill Yount, MD, is a seasoned emergency medicine physician who has practiced since 1992. He is also a husband, father of fraternal twin sons, and dog dad to two labradoodles. At age 50, Bill experienced a major financial wake-up call. Despite a successful career and high physician income, he realized that he was financially illiterate, burned out, and living an inflated paycheck-to-paycheck lifestyle. He didn't know his net worth or what it would ultimately take to reach financial independence. Bill describes that experience as his own case of "Rich, But Not Wealthy, Doctor Syndrome." He responded by reassessing his financial life, changing course, and rebuilding with greater intention. Approximately a decade later, he reached financial independence and began transitioning into semi-retirement. Today, Bill is a self-taught personal finance educator, mentor, community builder, and founder and co-host of the award-winning Catching Up to FI podcast, which serves late starters who feel behind, overwhelmed, or alone in their pursuit of financial independence. His message is straightforward: It is never too late to begin.   CONNECT WITH BILL YOUNT, MD Catching Up to FI Website: catchinguptofi.com Email Bill: bill@catchinguptofi.com Instagram: @catchinguptofi YouTube: @catchinguptoFI Facebook: Catching Up to FI Community LinkedIn: Catching Up to FI Podcast: Catching Up to FI: Financial Independence for Late Starters Books Mentioned on this show: Falling Upwards by Richard Rohr The Hero's Journey by Joseph Campbell From Strength To Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life by Arthur C. Brooks Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl Three Domains of Freedom by George Kinder  Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sine Take the Burnout Risk Assessment Quiz for Physicians and their Spouses Get on the Waitlist for the Mastering The MedLife Matrix Course Episode 40: When Money Can't Replace Time: Raising Grounded Kinds in Physician Families | Julia Myers, PharmD, MBA   Connect with Dr. Lisa Instagram: @themedlifematrix and @themedlifesupportpodcast Facebook: The MedLife Matrix and The MedLife Support Podcast Website: www.themedlifematrix.co FINANCIAL DISCLAIMER This episode is provided for general education and informational purposes only and does not constitute individualized financial, investment, legal, tax, accounting, or insurance advice. Always consider your individual circumstances and consult an appropriately qualified professional before making important financial decisions.

    49. Rich, But Not Wealthy: A Physician's Path to Financial Independence | Bill Yount, MD

  6. Sep 22

    48. When Loss Changes Everything: Grief, Guilt, and Finding Meaning After Suicide | Erin Blechman

    When Loss Changes Everything: Grief, Guilt, and Finding Meaning After Suicide. A mother's candid conversation about mental illness, suicide loss, family grief, and learning to live fully after devastating loss with special guest, Erin Blechman. TRIGGER WARNING: SUICIDE, LOSS OF AN YOUNG ADULT CHILD This episode includes discussion of suicide, mental illness, depression, suicidal ideation, and grief following the loss of an adult child. The MedLife Support Podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you or someone you know is struggling, experiencing emotional distress, or having thoughts of suicide, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If someone is in immediate danger or experiencing a medical emergency, dial 911 or go to the nearest emergency department. About this episode: Before Max Blechman became part of a conversation about suicide, he was Erin Blechman's son. He was intelligent, creative, sensitive, compassionate, and funny. He wrote stories, poetry, and songs. He published a magazine as a teenager, performed stand-up comedy, advocated for others, and had a quick wit and tender heart. Most importantly, he was deeply loved. In this episode of The MedLife Support Podcast, Dr. Lisa Muehlenbein sits down with Erin Blechman, speaker, Certified Grief Educator, and author of My Unexpected Journey: Reflections After Losing My Son to Suicide, for a candid conversation about loving a child through serious mental illness, losing him to suicide at age 25, and learning how to live in a world permanently changed by his absence. For years, Max lived with major depressive disorder and anxiety while also managing epilepsy. Erin describes the hypervigilance that accompanied his mental illness—the hospitalizations, crisis calls, fear, uncertainty, and constant waiting for the other shoe to drop. She also shares an important reality that is too often overlooked: serious mental illness rarely affects only the person who is struggling. It can reshape an entire family system. Erin speaks openly about how those years affected her marriage, her younger son, Sam, and her own emotional wellbeing. She also challenges the tendency to interpret mental illness as weakness, lack of motivation, a behavioral problem, or failure of faith. When Max died by suicide, Erin and her family discovered another difficult truth: even when family members lose the same person, they may experience and express grief very differently. Erin struggled to get out of bed. Her husband, Bill, coped by staying relentlessly busy. Sam turned toward physical activity and building his young adult life. Their marriage therapist gave them advice that became essential: do not judge one another for how you grieve. The conversation also explores one of the most painful aspects of suicide loss—guilt. Erin describes the relentless "what ifs" and "if onlys" that followed Max's death and how easily a grieving parent can assume responsibility for an outcome they could not control. Over time, she began to understand that blaming herself offered an illusion of control over something that had ultimately been beyond her power. She also shares what helped—and what hurt—when people tried to support her. Well-intentioned statements such as "at least he's no longer suffering" or attempts to find a silver lining often minimized the enormity of her loss. What helped most were the people willing to acknowledge her pain without trying to fix it. As Erin explains, sometimes the most meaningful thing we can do for a grieving person is simply be willing to stay beside them in a place we cannot make better. This episode also examines the stigma surrounding suicide and mental illness, including the language we use when someone dies by suicide and the assumptions people make about who is vulnerable. Mental illness does not discriminate based on age, profession, education, faith, socioeconomic status, family support, or how deeply someone is loved. That message carries particular importance within medicine. Physicians and physician families are not immune to mental illness, depression, or suicide. Creating cultures where people can speak honestly about mental health and seek help without shame or professional fear is essential to changing that reality. For Erin, grief has also required redefining what acceptance and meaning actually mean. Acceptance does not mean approval. Finding meaning does not mean finding a reason that Max died. Instead, Erin has learned to make meaning of her own life after his death. Her journal entries from the first eighteen months following Max's death eventually became My Unexpected Journey. She became a Certified Grief Educator and now supports bereaved parents through groups, webinars, and educational resources. Her family continues to honor Max through a memorial garden, shared memories, and Sam's "Run for Max," which has raised more than $150,000 for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Through all of it, Erin remains committed to one thing: Max will not be defined solely by the way he died. His life mattered. His love mattered. And the people who loved him can continue to carry both their grief and their love forward. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR: • Who Max was beyond his mental illness and the way he died • What it is like to parent a young adult living with serious mental illness • How years of hypervigilance affected Erin and her entire family • The impact of mental illness on marriage and sibling relationships • Why mental illness should not be mistaken for weakness, poor behavior, or lack of faith • Why family members can experience the same loss in dramatically different ways • The unexpected role anger can play in grief • Why grief is not linear and does not follow a predictable timeline • What people often say to grieving families that can unintentionally cause more pain • What actually helped Erin feel supported after Max's death • How guilt and "what if" thinking can keep bereaved parents trapped in suffering • Why acceptance does not mean approval • The difference between making meaning of a death and making meaning of your life after a death • How suicide-loss support groups changed Erin's grieving process • How Erin and her family continue to remember and honor Max • Why reducing mental health stigma matters within physician families and healthcare • How open, honest conversations can make it safer for people to ask for help ABOUT ERIN BLECHMAN Erin Blechman is a speaker, Certified Grief Educator, and the author of My Unexpected Journey: Reflections After Losing My Son to Suicide, which chronicles the eighteen months following the devastating loss of her beloved son, Max, to suicide after his long battle with mental illness. She offers grief support to bereaved parents through online groups, webinars, and other resources. Erin also offers community talks seeking to build greater understanding of mental illness, suicide loss, and grief Erin lives part-time in Pennsylvania and Florida with her husband, Bill, and Max's former dog, Emmylou. Their son, Sam, and his wife, Julia, reside in Pennsylvania. My Unexpected Journey is her first book CONNECT WITH ERIN Website: https://erinblechman.com/ Instagram: @erin.blechman Facebook: @erin.blechman LinkedIn: Erin Blechman Book: My Unexpected Journey: Reflections After Losing My Son to Suicide RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Call or text 988 American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation If this conversation resonates with you, please share this episode with someone who may need to hear it. You never know when reaching out, beginning a conversation, or simply helping someone feel less alone may change the trajectory of their life—or their family's. Subscribe to The MedLife Support Podcast, leave a review, and share the show with someone who would benefit from candid conversations about life in medicine, relationships, mental health, and everything in between.

    48. When Loss Changes Everything: Grief, Guilt, and Finding Meaning After Suicide | Erin Blechman

  7. Sep 15

    47. Suck It Up, Buttercup: Burnout, Betrayal, and the Fight to Change Healthcare | Todd Otten, MD

    Welcome to Episode 47: Suck It Up, Buttercup: Burnout, Betrayal, and the Fight to Change Healthcare with Todd Otten, MD Why physician burnout is not a personal failure—and what it will take to rebuild trust in healthcare What happens when "suck it up" stops being a phrase and becomes the culture of medicine? Todd Otten, MD, FAAFP, knows what it is like to reach the far end of physician burnout. After more than two decades in medicine, he found himself angry, depleted, disconnected, and sitting in his backyard in tears over a career he had once loved. His experience eventually became part of a much larger mission: exposing the forces within healthcare that are hurting clinicians, families, organizations, and the patients they are supposed to serve. In this episode of The MedLife Support Podcast, Dr. Lisa sits down with Todd, a board-certified family physician, former Naval flight surgeon, author, healthcare advocate, and executive producer of the documentary Suck It Up, Buttercup: Trust and Betrayal – Healthcare in America. Todd shares how his own experience with burnout pushed him to confront a culture that taught physicians to compartmentalize pain, work harder, ask for less, and keep going—often long after something has begun to break. He also explains why another book, lecture, or professional presentation was not enough. Film offered an opportunity to take the conversation outside the walls of medicine and show a much broader audience what is actually happening inside the American healthcare system. The conversation moves beyond burnout itself and into some of the forces Todd believes are driving the dysfunction: corporate medicine, private equity, prior authorizations, administrative burden, loss of physician autonomy, financial incentives, moral injury, and a system that too often prioritizes money over people. But this is not simply a conversation about what is wrong with healthcare. Todd and Lisa also explore what happens when the wounds of medicine come home. Burnout may begin in the workplace, but its effects do not remain there. Todd speaks candidly about how his own stress, compartmentalization, and emotional pain affected his marriage and family. He describes being physically present at family events while mentally somewhere else and acknowledges the healing that has had to happen inside his own relationships. As Todd puts it, "Connection mitigates trauma. Period." That connection—between physicians and spouses, clinicians and colleagues, healthcare leaders and the people doing the work—becomes one of the most important themes of the episode. Instead of expecting physicians to carry everything alone, Todd argues that medicine needs to normalize asking for help, talking about painful experiences, building safe support systems, and intervening before burnout becomes a crisis. The documentary ultimately carries two central calls to action: unlearn learned helplessness and build an impact network that values people over profits. Todd does not believe one documentary will fix American healthcare. He does believe millions of people can begin creating the kind of change medicine desperately needs by making smaller choices, asking better questions, telling the truth, and challenging the status quo. And sometimes that change begins with something remarkably simple: Ask someone if they are okay. In this episode, Lisa and Todd discuss: Todd's personal experience with severe physician burnout and what ultimately forced him to make a change Why the traditional culture of compartmentalization and "suck it up" medicine can become dangerous The story behind Suck It Up, Buttercup Why film can reach people that books, lectures, and professional conversations may never reach Private equity, prior authorization, administrative burden, corporate medicine, and other systemic pressures affecting healthcare Why financial decisions can create costly downstream consequences for clinicians, organizations, and patients How physician burnout crosses over into marriage and family life Why physicians sometimes avoid talking to their spouses because they do not want to become a "burden" The role connection, vulnerability, therapy, colleagues, family, and community can play in healing What healthcare could look like if the Quadruple Aim truly guided decision-making Why meaningful change requires people to move from frustration to action The surprisingly powerful first step anyone can take when someone around them may be struggling Todd's advice for physicians who are beginning to feel the "smolderings" of burnout Why practicing gratitude and learning to say no remain essential even while healthcare itself needs systemic change About Todd Otten, MD, FAAFP Todd R. Otten, MD, FAAFP, is a board-certified family physician, husband, father, decorated former Naval flight surgeon, author, healthcare advocate, and executive producer. He has more than 20 years of experience providing patient care and leading teams in multiple healthcare settings, including service in the United States Navy, where he was named Atlantic Fleet Naval Flight Surgeon of the Year in 2006. He is the co-author of Ripple of Change, which chronicles his experience with burnout and healthcare dysfunction while challenging clinicians and patients to become agents of positive disruption. Todd serves as Lead Catalyst and Board Chair for Medicine Forward and currently sees patients with Plum Health Direct Primary Care in Lansing, Michigan. He is also an executive producer of Suck It Up, Buttercup: Trust and Betrayal – Healthcare in America, a documentary examining the dysfunction, human cost, and possibilities for meaningful change within American healthcare. Connect with Todd Suck It Up, Buttercup: Trust and Betrayal – Healthcare in America Ripple of Change LinkedIn Medicine Forward Plum Health DPC Connect with Dr. Lisa The MedLife Matrix Website   Mastering the MedLife Matrix Course Waitlist Dissertation Research: Physician Burnout and the Marital Relationship: Spouse Perspective Instagram: @themedlifematrix and @themedlifesupportpodcast LinkedIn Facebook

    47. Suck It Up, Buttercup: Burnout, Betrayal, and the Fight to Change Healthcare | Todd Otten, MD

  8. Sep 8

    46. When Medicine Feels Unsustainable: Small Changes That Can Make a Big Difference | Diane Shannon, MD, MPH

    Burnout can make everything feel too big: the inbox, the unfinished charts, the patient messages, the schedule, the family logistics, and even the idea of changing anything. But meaningful change does not always require a dramatic exit from medicine or a complete overhaul of your life. In Episode 46 of The MedLife Support Podcast, Dr. Lisa sits down with Diane Shannon, MD, MPH, a former primary care physician, physician coach, speaker, and advocate for physician well-being, to explore what happens when medicine starts to feel unsustainable—and why small, intentional changes can create more movement than physicians often expect. Diane shares her own experience of extreme burnout during residency, a time when burnout was rarely named and she could not see a model for the kind of life she wanted. She ultimately left clinical practice and later realized there was a name for what she had experienced. Looking back, one of the lessons she wishes she had understood earlier is deceptively simple: physicians are human beings. Sleep, food, movement, relationships, social connection, and life outside medicine are not optional extras; sacrificing them indefinitely carries a cost. The conversation also examines the particular pressure facing women physicians. Diane and Lisa discuss the invisible cognitive load at home—the appointments, camps, groceries, schedules, planning, and constant remembering that keep a household functioning—alongside rising productivity demands, after-hours charting, patient portal messages, and uncompensated work. When both professional and domestic loads remain largely invisible, the result can be an exhausting double shift. Importantly, this episode does not reduce physician burnout to an individual responsibility problem. Diane is clear that system drivers require system solutions, organizational advocacy, and leadership change. At the same time, physicians can still identify areas where they have agency. Her approach is to break frustrations into the smallest possible first step, treat change as an experiment, and use the result as information rather than proof of failure. Lisa and Diane also go beneath workflow into the thinking patterns that can make high-achieving physicians especially vulnerable: perfectionism, people pleasing, avoidance, and a harsh inner critic. The same traits that help someone survive medical training can become liabilities when there is no 'volume control.' Sustainable careers require learning where those strengths are useful and where they need to be turned down. For medical couples and families, the conversation becomes especially practical. Diane recommends creating an intentional transition between work and home, even if it is only a few minutes to change clothes, breathe, or sit quietly before stepping into the next role. Lisa adds that the spouse may need a transition too. Both partners can arrive at the end of the day depleted, and connection is easier when the family stops assuming one person should instantly absorb the other person's stress. The episode closes with a broader question that medicine rarely leaves time to ask: What do you actually want your life to look like? Physicians are exceptionally good at delayed gratification, but the habit of postponing life can continue long after training ends. Diane's own decision to learn to surf in her 50s becomes a reminder that high achievers do not have to be good at everything they try—and that play, novelty, and imperfection can expand a life that has become too narrow. This is a conversation about burnout, but it is also about agency, identity, relationships, leadership, and the possibility of building a career in medicine that leaves enough of you left over to have a life. In This Episode, You'll Hear About ·       Why Diane left clinical practice after experiencing severe burnout and what she wishes she had recognized earlier. ·       Why the culture of self-sacrifice in medical training can make ordinary human needs feel negotiable. ·       How the invisible cognitive load at home compounds the professional burden carried by women physicians. ·       Why burnout requires system-level change while physicians can still reclaim agency in specific areas. ·       How microchanges turn overwhelming problems into manageable experiments. ·       The role of perfectionism, people pleasing, avoidance, and the harsh inner critic in physician burnout. ·       Why transitions between work and home matter for physicians, spouses, and children. ·       What healthcare leaders can do to help physicians feel respected, valued, heard, and supported. ·       Why physician well-being is a retention, access, quality, and business issue for healthcare organizations. ·       How delayed gratification can quietly become delayed living—and why physicians need to define success beyond the next career milestone. Guest Bio Diane Shannon, MD, is a former primary care physician, physician coach, speaker, and internationally recognized advocate for physician well-being. After experiencing extreme burnout during residency and later leaving clinical practice, she built a career examining and addressing the conditions that make healthcare work unsustainable. Diane spent approximately two decades in healthcare writing, focusing on what works, what does not, and how healthcare systems can become less frustrating and more effective. She co-authored a 2016 book about preventing physician burnout and now works primarily with women physicians, helping them build sustainable careers while addressing issues such as perfectionism, people pleasing, burnout, leadership, and work-life design. She is also the creator of a TEDx talk exploring the power of microchanges and is developing Lead Your Way Leadership Academy, a program designed to help women physicians build leadership skills while creating careers they can sustain. Connect with Diane Shannon, MD, MPH Website: dianeshannon.com LinkedIn: Diane Shannon, MD  TEDx Talk: Riding the waves: Lessons from surfing to beat burnout Lead Your Way Leadership Academy Diane's Book: Preventing Physician Burnout   Resources Mentioned in the Show Take the Burnout Risk Assessment Quiz for Physicians and their Spouses Get on the Waitlist for the Mastering The MedLife Matrix Course Strong Ground by Brené Brown Atomic Habits by James Clear The Burnout Challenge: Managing People's Relationships with Their Jobs by Christina Maslach Episode 17: Perfectionism in Medical Families: Breaking the Pressure to Be Flawless with Amna Shabbir, MD    Follow Dr. Lisa on Social Media Instagram: @themedlifematrix and @themedlifesupportpodcast Facebook: The MedLife Matrix and The MedLife Support Podcast Website: www.themedlifematrix.com

    46. When Medicine Feels Unsustainable: Small Changes That Can Make a Big Difference | Diane Shannon, MD, MPH
See All (54)

Trailer

4.9
out of 5
19 Ratings

About

Life in medicine is intense — and it doesn't just impact the physician, it ripples through marriages, partnerships, families, and even the organizations where physicians work. I'm Lisa Muehlenbein, PhD in Health Psychology, a wellness professional with over 30 years of experience and a physician spouse for more than 26 years, and I know firsthand how the pressures of medicine can take a toll on relationships. That's why I created The MedLife Support Podcast — candid conversations on life in medicine, relationships, and everything in between. Each week, I'll bring you no-nonsense solutions for burnout, boundaries, and better connection, grounded in research, real stories, and practical strategies you can use right away. Whether you're a physician, a spouse, or a leader who cares about the well-being of your people, this podcast is for you. Subscribe to The MedLife Support Podcast on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen — and remember to share it with another physician family or colleague who needs a little life support, too.

Information

You Might Also Like