In Confidence with Rosie Dalling

Rosie Dalling

Podcast and newsletter pairing inspiring conversations with leading experts and thought leaders with bite-size techniques, giving you both the mindset and the toolkit to boost your confidence and show up boldly in work, life, and love. inconfidencepod.substack.com

  1. Your brain is lying to you and it's killing your confidence with David Robson

    4D AGO

    Your brain is lying to you and it's killing your confidence with David Robson

    What if the secret to confidence was as simple as believing that most people really really like you? David Robson is an award-winning science writer specialising in the extremes of the human brain, body and behaviour - and he thinks it is. In his book The Laws of Connection, he explains how social connection is as essential for our health and happiness as a balanced diet and regular exercise. And how by learning thirteen social strategies that help us fulfil our social potential, we can improve our creativity, increase our life span and crucially - boost our confidence. One of those laws is ‘the liking gap’, which shows we massively underestimate how much people like us, and that false belief is eroding our confidence every day “We can all afford to be a little bit more confident, and we would benefit from that, because it would help us to foster connection if we just had more faith in the fact that we were liked.” In our conversation, we explore: * Why fake it till you make it is wrong: real confidence comes from showing your full self, including the bits you’re ashamed of, not projecting someone you’re not * Asking for help: most people avoid it because they think it makes them look weak; actually it makes people like you more * Sharing your success is a confidence builder, thanks to a fabulous word ‘confelicity’: means the people who love you want to celebrate with you * Honesty is better than niceness: being honest, even when it’s awkward, builds deeper connection than being endlessly kind, and that depth is what really grows confidence You’re going to love this one! Listen on the video above or come and find us on apple, spotify and youtube Liking, following, re-stacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference to this podcast. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. To hear more from David, you can visit his website, here. This episode was produced by my amazing husband. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    29 min

  2. APR 21

    Your wardrobe might be killing your confidence — here's what works instead (and it's free) with Alexandra Fullerton

    So you've been invited to something that matters — an interview, a party, you're giving a talk. I'm going to bet one of your first thoughts is: what the hell do I wear? Alexandra Fullerton is a stylist and writer. Formerly Fashion Director-at-large of Glamour UK for five years, she was previously Fashion Director at Stylist magazine. She’s worked with everyone who’s anyone in fashion - from David Bailey to Kylie Minogue and is the author of seven books including the best selling How To Dress. Alexandra's work centres on the idea that how you dress directly shapes how you feel — and that with the right tools, anyone can use clothes as a confidence strategy. Her signature method is the three word styling technique: choose three words that define your style, and let them guide every wardrobe decision. She says: “You can totally be your inner self on the outside — or you can let your outer self and the clothes you choose lead how you feel.” In our conversation, we explore: * How to dress for the job, the room, or the life you want — even when you’re not feeling it on the inside. * The three word styling method that will save you time, money, and the 8am wardrobe spiral. * The small tweaks you can make right now — before you walk into the room — that will make you look and feel like you’ve got it together. Liking, following, re-stacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference to this podcast. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. To hear more from Alex, you can find her on instagram here This episode was produced by my amazing husband. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    28 min

  3. APR 14

    I've Built My Life Around Other People — Now I Don’t Know Who I Am (Problem Page)

    Write to me with your confidence problem or dilemma at askrosie.inconfidence@gmail.com or send me a voicenote: 07377 231 025 Please read my Terms and Conditions This week’s letter is from a woman in her 40s in the entertainment business. Dear Rosie, I have a problem, which is that I’m not really sure who I am. I’ve started to notice that I adapt myself to whoever I’m with. I pick up the tone of the room, become interested in whatever the other person is interested in, and generally make people feel comfortable. People seem to like me, but I’m not sure they really know me. The strange thing is that I’m no longer sure I know myself either. When someone asks me what I think about something, or what I care about, I often go blank. Life has been busy and complicated for a long time, and I think I got used to just getting on with things rather than stopping to work out what I actually think or feel. Now that I’m noticing it, I realise I’ve spent years adapting to situations and people without ever really asking who I am underneath it all. So my question is this: how do you build confidence in yourself if you’re not even sure who that “self” is? I give my advice in the podcast episode above. Been through similar? Give this person your tips in the comments? The confidence boosting course I mention is linked here. And guess what, it’s currently 50% until our next episode comes out. If this episode has inspired you to develop your confidence and communication techniques, join us for our Confidence Through Storytelling workshop on Wednesday 15 April in Soho. I’ll be joined by: • West End director Abbey Wright (National Theatre, Donmar, protégé of Alan Rickman and Danny Boyle)• Award-winning playwright Nina Segal (Royal Court Associate, writer on The Crown and Hanna) Together we’ll show you how actors and performers: • hold a room• tell powerful stories• stay calm and compelling under pressure And I’ll help you translate these techniques into your world — so you can win pitches, bring your team on side, and be seen as a confident leader. Tickets available here: https://theboostglobal.com/workshops-and-downloads/p/the-boost-confidence-through-storytelling-workshop Corporate: £550Individual: £300 with the code IND at check out I’ve saved a couple of spots for anyone who can’t make the fee - get in touch - no questions asked. (See podcast ep RE learning) Liking, following, re-stacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference to this podcast. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. This episode was produced by my amazing husband. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min

  4. MAR 31

    My Mum Went To Dignitas, and I discovered I was Funny - With Bonnie Oddie

    Most people think confidence is about how you come across.What if it’s actually about what you’re willing to tell the truth about? Bonnie Oddie is a writer, choreographer, and founder of Your Story Works, a programme that helps individuals and teams unlock confidence through true storytelling. The daughter of Bill Oddie, she grew up around performance and has built a career blending creativity with communication. Her work centres on using personal stories as a tool for connection, confidence and creative thinking, both on stage and within organisations. Bonnie is also the creator of an award-winning one-woman show about accompanying her mother to a Dignitas clinic, a story that revealed her distinctive ability to find humour, humanity and insight in complex, emotional experiences. In this episode, Bonnie explains why true stories are such a powerful tool for developing confidence: She says: “Confidence grows alongside the exploration of something you know is true.” ‘Authenticity’ has become the word of the era. Those who struggle to access it assume it’s a skill to master. Bonnie explains something simpler. You become authentic by exploring something that’s true and expressing it. She says: “Once you’ve felt what it’s like to speak with integrity and sincerity, you can’t unfeel it.” In our conversation, we explore: • Why telling a true story gives you access to a kind of confidence that can’t be faked• How your own story becomes a powerful tool for communication, influence and leadership• What it really takes to give yourself permission to tell your version of a story Bonnie also talks about what it’s like to grow up with a famous father, and the effect it has on her confidence and identity. If this episode has inspired you to develop your confidence and communication techniques, join us for our Confidence Through Storytelling workshop on Wednesday 15 April in Soho. I’ll be joined by: • West End director Abbey Wright (National Theatre, Donmar, protégé of Alan Rickman and Danny Boyle)• Award-winning playwright Nina Segal (Royal Court Associate, writer on The Crown and Hanna) Together we’ll help you build the confidence to: • represent yourself or your business with confidence• tell powerful stories• own the room, using your voice, body and space And I’ll help you translate these techniques into your world — so you can win pitches, bring your team on side, and be seen as a confident leader. Tickets are available here. Corporates: £550Individuals: £300 Liking, following, re-stacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference to this podcast. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. To hear more from Bonnie, you can find her on instagram here and find her on Linked In here. This episode was produced by my amazing husband. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    26 min

  5. MAR 24

    I Lost My Job - and My Confidence Went With It (Problem Page)

    Write to me with your confidence problem or dilemma at askrosie.inconfidence@gmail.com or send me a voicenote: 07377 231 025 Please read my Terms and Conditions This week’s letter is from a Chief Marketing Officer in the communications industry. Dear Rosie, I recently lost my job, and I suspect it may have been unfair. But everything happened so quickly and was so stressful that I didn’t have the wherewithal or the courage to fight it at the time. I’m now looking for a new role but have lost a lot of confidence. I keep replaying what happened and feel disappointed in myself for not being more strategic or standing up for myself. At the same time, I find myself thinking there must be some reason this happened, even though I can’t work out what it is. It’s starting to affect how senior the roles I apply for are. I’ve always been a high achiever, and this has massively changed how I see myself. When I don’t hear back from applications, it makes the feeling worse. Lately, I’ve started worrying that people in my industry must be talking about what happened. I know that may not be rational, but it’s hard to shake the feeling. Do you have any advice on how I can start trusting myself again and rebuild my confidence? I give my advice in the podcast episode above. Been through similar? Give this person your tips in the comments? If this episode has inspired you to develop your confidence and communication techniques, join us for our Confidence Through Storytelling workshop on Wednesday 15 April in Soho. I’ll be joined by: • West End director Abbey Wright (National Theatre, Donmar, protégé of Alan Rickman and Danny Boyle)• Award-winning playwright Nina Segal (Royal Court Associate, writer on The Crown and Hanna) Together we’ll show you how actors and performers: • hold a room• tell powerful stories• stay calm and compelling under pressure And I’ll help you translate these techniques into your world — so you can win pitches, bring your team on side, and be seen as a confident leader. Tickets available here: https://theboostglobal.com/workshops-and-downloads/p/the-boost-confidence-through-storytelling-workshop Corporate: £550Individual: £300 with the code IND at check out I’ve saved a couple of spots for anyone who can’t make the fee - get in touch - no questions asked. (See podcast ep RE learning) Liking, following, re-stacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference to this podcast. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. To hear more from Viv, you can find her on instagram here and visit here website here. This episode was produced by my amazing husband. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    9 min

  6. MAR 17

    How To Own the Room | Is “Confidence” the Most Misleading Word in Public Speaking? With Viv Groskop

    What if the word “confidence” is actually making you worse under pressure? Viv Groskop has spent years studying how people perform when the stakes are high: first as a stand-up comedian, and later as the author of the best-selling How to Own the Room: Women and the Art of Brilliant Speaking. Through her podcast Own The Room, she has interviewed some of the world’s most compelling communicators, including Hillary Clinton, Margaret Atwood and Julie Andrews. In this episode, Viv shares how her career in comedy has taught her to view the word “confidence” with suspicion. She says: “The biggest lesson I’ve taken from comedy about confidence is that the word itself is really not very helpful.” Instead of going after confidence, Viv argues, the most effective progress comes from simple, measurable behaviours you can actually control. In our conversation we explore: • Why the word confidence can actually make people perform worse• The improv technique of “happy high status” used by great performers and leaders• How to navigate awkward power dynamics at work without losing your authority Viv also shares some of the most useful advice she has learned from interviewing some of the world’s greatest communicators. This podcast is designed to be practical. Every Friday, I’ll be sharing practical tools inspired by each episode to actively help you boost your confidence. This is now for paid subscribers only. If you want to receive these posts, hit the button below. If this episode has inspired you to develop your confidence and communication techniques, join us for our Confidence Through Storytelling workshop on Wednesday 15 April in Soho. I’ll be joined by: • West End director Abbey Wright (National Theatre, Donmar, protégé of Alan Rickman and Danny Boyle)• Award-winning playwright Nina Segal (Royal Court Associate, writer on The Crown and Hanna) Together we’ll show you how actors and performers: • hold a room• tell powerful stories• stay calm and compelling under pressure And I’ll help you translate these techniques into your world — so you can win pitches, bring your team on side, and be seen as a confident leader. Tickets are available here.Use code ROSIED for a discount until the end of the week. If you need a non-corporate rate, just get in touch. Liking, following, re-stacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference to this podcast. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. To hear more from Viv, you can find her on instagram here and visit here website here. This episode was produced by my amazing husband. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    40 min

  7. FEB 24

    Introducing In Confidence - The Problem Page

    Write to me with your confidence problem or dilemma at askrosie.inconfidence@gmail.com or send me a voicenote: 07377 231 025 Please read my Terms and Conditions Ok, I’ll admit it! I’ve always wanted to be an agony aunt. My friend Sally had a stack of Sugar magazines in her bathroom. My mum did not approve! I, meanwhile, was obsessed with the problem page. Dear Sugar… People wrote in about problems, many of which felt terribly, embarrassingly shameful… and many of which I was also dealing with myself. Like: “My friends all go out without me and pretend it was last minute.”(Ouch.) “Does he even know I like him?”(Yah. He did. Ouch again.) “People act as though I’m weird. Am I?”(I was. I am.) Cheryl Strayed was the agony aunt. I loved the letters: the relief of discovering I wasn’t uniquely deranged. But it was her replies that really shocked me. She treated these people and our freaky problems as if they were… normal! Fast forward to now. My coaching room is full of senior leaders sharing problems. The issue they share is often the final thing keeping them stuck but it’s also frequently the thing they’re most ashamed of. After coaching hundreds of similar conversations with leaders across a broad range of industries, I can tell them with confidence: these problems too are just… normal. What my clients share, without exception, is regret at not addressing it earlier. The moment you realise you’re not alone, and that there’s a solution - everything starts to move. In Confidence: The Problem Page is your space to share the problems that have been keeping you stuck. The ones you assume everyone else has already worked out, and the ones you secretly believe belong only to you. They don’t. If you have a confidence dilemma related to communication, relationships or leadership, get in touch. You can email me: askrosie.inconfidence@gmail.com or send me a voice note 07377 231 025. Terms and conditions are here. Problems can be anonymised. I’ll pick a letter to respond to in next week’s podcast episode. See you there! If you want to help me get the word out, liking, following, restacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. This episode was produced by my amazing husband, Rod Williams. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    1 min

  8. FEB 17

    Is Creativity the Cure for Self Doubt? With Richard Holman

    Richard Holman can help you have better ideas. As a creativity specialist he works with senior teams at brands including Lego, Tinder and Matel - encouraging them to think more bravely. In this episode of In Confidence, the last in this season, Richard and I discuss how to build creative confidence. And why nurturing your creativity is the most powerful antidote to self-doubt. We discuss why it’s the process of creating (not the outcome) that builds real creative confidence. Why self-doubt is a natural part of making something new. (He reminds us that even Michelangelo doubted himself while painting the Sistine Chapel). And why constraints can actually make you more creative, not less.Richard also reflects on how many adults lose access to creativity by learning to avoid looking foolish, wasting time, or getting things wrong — and why rebuilding creative confidence isn’t about chasing inspiration, but about creating enough safety to try. He says: Discomfort is often a good sign. It usually means you’re stretching beyond what you already know. This episode explores how confidence grows through trying things out, rather than needing to be certain. And how small moments of play can unlock clearer thinking, better decisions, and more resilient leadership. We explore: * Why play is essential for clear thinking under pressure * How success can actually narrow your imagination * Why creative confidence comes from experimentation rather than expertise By the way, I help C-suite leaders and founders build confident, robust teams. If you want help with that, drop me a line here. This podcast is designed to be practical. Every Friday, I’ll be sharing practical tools inspired by each episode to actively help you boost your confidence. Subscribe to get it straight to your inbox. If you want to help me get the word out, liking, following, restacking, sharing, rating, reviewing etc makes a huge difference. We’re on apple, spotify and youtube. You can also share this episode easily using the button below. To hear more from Richard, you can find him on instagram here and visit here website here. This episode was produced by my amazing husband, Rod Williams. It’s a job he never knew he wanted! If you’d like to support the making of future episodes, you can buy him a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/rosiedalling Enjoy the episode - and tell me in the comments what you think. Rosie Get full access to In Confidence at inconfidencepod.substack.com/subscribe

    29 min
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