Mothercentered

Jessica Tomich Sorci
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Even good moms have a breaking point. Even good moms have needs and limitations. Even good moms have nervous systems that respond and react. And those nervous systems deserve good care. Join therapist Jessica Tomich Sorci in conversations with moms and maternal mental health practitioners as they explore their inner worlds through an Internal Family Systems approach, gaining compassion, insight, and connection. Jessica is an IFS Certified therapist, maternal mental health expert and creator of the Mom Parts Method. For more information or to join The Mom Parts Community, go to momparts.com

  1. 3d ago

    Motherhood and Midlife Wisdom

    "Midlife is this time where we are ready to bring all the wisdom we've collected through the years, gather that up and integrate it, and bring it out into the world more fully as our authentic true gifts." —Daphne Ogle On this episode we're talking about midlife, motherhood, and trusting ourselves with Daphne Ogle. Midlife women are the people who will make the much-needed shift in the world - the shift to power with, to being in love and presence, gathering all our wisdom and bringing it out authentically So many women carry the old story "I have to do it all myself." When motherhood hits, there's so much more to do, we struggle and fall apart and shame keeps us from talking about it. The "soul toothache" is when who you are becoming doesn't fit your life anymore; it's painful, but it's the starting point for deep transformational work. Coming back to yourself isn't reinvention - it's gathering all the pieces of yourself, integrating them, and asking "now what from here?" We can't always change the systems, but we can honor people's uniqueness—helping them crack their own code so they make sense to themselves in a world where they don't always feel like they belong Daphne Ogle Transformational Coach | Soul-Aligned Life + Work Design Guidewww.daphneoglecoaching.com | 510-846-8237

    47 min

  2. Jun 1

    Mama Bear

    "I remember my therapist pointed out I was using very strong words, like I was preparing for battle. That really shocked me. But yeah, I was feeling protective over my space, over my baby's experience. That was Mama Bear. She was sharpening her claws." —Cassie Blom On this episode we're talking about Mama Bear parts with Cassie Blom. Mama Bear shows up with physical and emotional power to guard what needs protection—but she doesn't always know the difference between discomfort and actual threat. Mama Bear is critical in transforming us from people-pleasing girls into mothers who can say "f**k that, I am this child's mother, get out of my way." Getting curious about what Mama Bear perceives as threatening and to whom (you? baby? your childhood self?) helps her relax and allows other energy in. Until Mama Bear feels validated and heard, she's going to run things—we have to get soft and squishy with her, pull up a seat, and become her ally. Mama Bear can help us understand our values—she often reacts to values we didn't even know we held so tightly, and threats to those values. Cassie Blom: www.cassieblom.com. My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    33 min

  3. May 18

    Pregnant at 45!

    "I'm planning for a healthy pregnancy and also planning for a loss. If the baby dies now, what do I need to do? That's a little weird. People who haven't had loss aren't thinking through all that." —Raluca On this episode we're talking about being pregnant at 45 with Raluca. After three pregnancy losses and being told the odds were really small, this fourth pregnancy feels like a miracle—but the further along she gets, the more she has to lose Being 45 meant having time to reparent herself, establish her career, and live her best life before becoming a mom—giving everything to someone else won't feel like she didn't get enough Holding the polarities of excitement and fear means planning for both a healthy baby and potential loss—a level of sophistication that comes from experience with grief Mental health support shouldn't only be available to "identified patients"—normal prenatal care should include conversations about sleep, postpartum planning, and protecting mom's wellbeing Three losses taught deep compassion for patients experiencing loss and vulnerability in pregnancy—understanding how fragile everything is makes the preciousness of being here more real My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    59 min

  4. May 4

    Numbing Mom Parts

    "One of the hardest things in motherhood was that I didn't get all of this time anymore to just disappear into my thoughts and think. That feels like such a luxury." —Rebecca Lesser Allen  On this episode we're talking about Numbing Parts with Rebecca Lesser Allen. Your numbing part helps you tune out when emotions feel overwhelming—it dulls your awareness so you don't have to feel the discomfort, fear, or sadness swirling inside you Numbing can be protective against anger or despair—when you feel helpless and powerless with a crying baby or tantruming kid, disconnecting feels like the only alternative to rage What looks like numbing is often craving solitude on a nervous system level—moms need reprieve from constant interaction, touch, noise, and demands Memory gaps from stressful periods aren't signs of failure—dissociation is how we get through overwhelming moments, and it deserves compassion, not judgment Rebecca Lesser Allen rebecca@drrebeccalesserallen.com My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    27 min

  5. Apr 20

    Responsible Mom Parts

    "My responsible part kept me very high functioning for a very long time. It worked really great until it didn't. When the demands of motherhood and working became too much, the self-recrimination started." —Angele Close On this episode we're talking about Responsible Parts with Angele Close. The responsible part is a parentified child that feels burdened, overwhelmed, and disempowered—it didn't ask for this role and doesn't feel grounded in it by choice The responsible part gets positive reinforcement and keeps you high functioning, but when demands become too much, it triggers a cascade of self-recrimination and feelings of failure When something goes wrong (like finding out your child has seven cavities), the responsible part interprets it as total failure and triggers deep shame about being a bad mom Moms struggle with what they're actually responsible for as kids get older—the basics are clear with babies, but the gray areas create anxiety about what reflects on us Being responsive versus being responsible means noticing what each child needs and shifting your behavior to match—sometimes that's giving space and backing off as they seek autonomy Dr. Angele Close https://www.drangeleclose.com/ Angele’s new book - Unburdening Motherhood: A Guide to Breaking Cycles, Healing Trauma, and Becoming a Self-Led Mom My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    29 min

  6. Apr 6

    Building a Blessing: A Song About Motherhood

    Before becoming a therapist, I was a singer-songwriter for several decades. Music was how I expressed myself honestly as a teenager, almost like diary entries set to song. Recently, I unearthed some never-before-released songs and put together an album with my collaborator Frank Sorci, (my daughter's father). On this episode, I'm sharing a song called "Building a Blessing" that I wrote during my pregnancy with my daughter. It reflects the optimism and hope I felt as a mom-to-be—that I could change the intergenerational trauma I'd inherited by being a mother to this new human being. My greatest wish in life has been to discover what it is to be a good mom - because I missed that so much growing up.  This song is a blessing for my daughter, and for my own matrescence. My album Sticks & Stones by Red Letter is available wherever you stream music. My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    10 min

  7. Mar 23

    Depressed Mom Parts

    "When reality is way too overwhelming and our nervous system is in overdrive, it naturally wants to do a little bit of a shutdown. Depression comes to say, 'Okay, take a break.'" —Ana Morante On this episode we're talking about Depressed Mom Parts with Ana Morante. Depression is a protector that tourniquets the wound when reality is too overwhelming—it shuts off contact with pain to keep you alive, but leaves you feeling numb and disconnected Depression is deeply physiological—it can feel like somebody is sucking the life out of you, affecting both your emotional and physical system The critical piece is community support—when we know we're held by others, we can face the grief without fear of going down and never coming up Self-compassion creates the space to say "yes, come here, I want to see you" instead of isolating or detaching from the pain Ana Morante: anamorantelmft@gmail.com My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    34 min

  8. Mar 9

    Minimizer Mom Parts

    "I'll tell my kids 'I'm really tired, I'm going to sit here for just a minute,' but then as soon as somebody needs something, I respond to it as though it's an urgent need, even when it's not." —Chelsea Solorzano On this episode we're talking about the Minimizer Part with Chelsea Solorzano. The Minimizer can look like vulnerability on the surface—you say the words about being overwhelmed or tired—but the words aren't attached to the feeling, so you keep performing and doing all the tasks When you say you need something but don't follow through, your parts stop believing you—it becomes lip service that reinforces more minimizing Building reliability and trust within your system means actually scheduling time for yourself and showing up for it, so your parts can relax The Minimizer is driven by fear of rejection and being too much—it sweeps big emotions under the rug because it doesn't believe it's safe to be anything but stoic Chelsea Solorzano contact: chelsea@mapleseedcounseling.com My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

    17 min
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Even good moms have a breaking point. Even good moms have needs and limitations. Even good moms have nervous systems that respond and react. And those nervous systems deserve good care. Join therapist Jessica Tomich Sorci in conversations with moms and maternal mental health practitioners as they explore their inner worlds through an Internal Family Systems approach, gaining compassion, insight, and connection. Jessica is an IFS Certified therapist, maternal mental health expert and creator of the Mom Parts Method. For more information or to join The Mom Parts Community, go to momparts.com

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  • Creator
    Jessica Tomich Sorci
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  • Episodes
    14
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    © Jessica Tomich Sorci
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