Send us Fan Mail ⚠️ This episode talks about domestic abuse, coercive control and financial abuse. Please listen when you feel ready. If you are in danger right now, call 999. Hannah Wrixen is back on Chat with Charlie! Last time she joined us, Hannah, a mortgage broker and former mortgage underwriter, talked us through how new parents can get on the property ladder. This time she's sharing something much more personal: how she got out of a mentally and financially abusive relationship with a toddler, and rebuilt her life from scratch. Hannah met her ex at 19 and had her son Adam at 21. The control started small. "You don't need your own bank account, just use mine." "Why see your friend when you can have a coffee with me?" Slowly she lost her money, her friends and her family, while living in another country with no one around her. In this conversation, Hannah shares: How financial and emotional control can creep in so quietly you don't see it happeningThe moment a friend said out loud what Hannah couldn't yet admitHow she quietly saved money, and how she got herself and Adam on a plane homeGoing back to work, claiming benefits, and the help that's available now that wasn't thenGetting a court order so Adam could live with her, and how Cafcass and mediation workBeing skint, the friend who bought her lunch for weeks, and how that pushed her into a career in mortgagesBuying her own home as a single mom through shared ownershipTherapy, triggers, learning to trust again, and finding real loveWhy one chapter of your life doesn't define you, and why there is always a way out📘 My How To Handbook: Universal Credit and other benefits A step-by-step guide to applying for Universal Credit and checking which other benefits you might be entitled to. 👉 The ‘How to’ Handbook by @itscharliedadia | Stan If you need help right now In immediate danger: call 999. If you can't speak, call 999 from a mobile, stay silent and press 55 when prompted. This tells the operator you need help.National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge): 0808 2000 247, free, confidential, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They also have live chat and can help you find refuge accommodation. nationaldahelpline.org.ukWomen's Aid: information, live chat and a survivors' forum. womensaid.org.ukMen's Advice Line: 0808 801 0327, for men experiencing domestic abuse. mensadviceline.org.ukAsk for ANI: in many pharmacies (including Boots and Superdrug), ask the pharmacist for "ANI" and they'll take you somewhere private and help you get support.Clare's Law: you can ask the police whether a partner has a history of abuse. Search "Clare's Law" on gov.uk.Financial abuse and money Surviving Economic Abuse: support and guides if someone is controlling your money, debt or access to your finances. survivingeconomicabuse.orgHelp with childcare costs: Universal Credit can pay back up to 85% of your childcare costs. If you're starting work and can't afford to pay childcare upfront, ask your work coach about help with upfront childcare costs. You don't have to pay this back. gov.uk/guidance/universal-credit-childcare-costsBenefits calculator: check what you might be entitled to at turn2us.org.uk or entitledto.co.ukChild Maintenance Service: if the other parent isn't paying towards your child. gov.uk/child-maintenance-serviceCustody, Cafcass and legal help Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service): Cafcass works with families going through the family court in England. Their website has guidance and a free parenting plan you can use to agree arrangements for your children. cafcass.gov.ukFamily mediation: find an accredited mediator through the Family Mediation Council (familymediationcouncil.org.uk). The government's Family Mediation Voucher Scheme can give up to £500 towards mediation about your children. Mediation isn't always safe or appropriate where there's domestic abuse, so please talk to the mediator or a solicitor about this first.Legal aid: if you've experienced domestic abuse, you may be able to get legal aid for family cases. Check at gov.uk/check-legal-aidRights of Women: free legal advice for women on family law and domestic abuse. rightsofwomen.org.ukMany family solicitors offer a free first consultation, like the one Hannah had, so it's worth asking.Emotional support and moving forward NHS Talking Therapies: you can refer yourself for free therapy, no GP needed. Search "NHS Talking Therapies" plus your area.Gingerbread: advice and community for single parents. gingerbread.org.ukShared ownership: the government scheme that helped Hannah buy her first home. ownyourhome.gov.uk💛 Staying safe online: if you're worried someone checks your phone or computer, use private/incognito browsing and clear your history after visiting these sites. Refuge has a tech safety guide at refugetechsafety.org. Connect with Hannah Email: hiwrixen@outlook.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannah_financial_coach/ Tik Tok: Hannah_financial_coach Listen to Hannah's first episode: How First Time Parents Can Get on the Property Ladder (Even When It Feels Impossible) 👉How First Time Parents can get on the Property Ladder (even when it feels impossible) with Financial Advisor | Hannah Wrixen If this episode helped you, please share it. You never know who might be quietly going through this and needs to hear Hannah's story. 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