Port of Call | The Dementia Awareness Podcast

Laura Wayman
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Port of Call is the monthly podcast from The Dementia Lifeboat, created for caregivers, families, and professionals who are seeking clear, compassionate answers about dementia.  Hosted by Laura Wayman, the Dementia Whisperer, and Jocelyn Ives, a certified life coach for caregivers, each episode explores the real questions people ask when dementia symptoms begin to show up: changes in memory, behavior, communication, and daily functioning.  Together, Laura and Jocelyn blend education and emotional support, helping listeners better understand what dementia is (and what it isn’t), how it’s diagnosed, and how it affects both the person experiencing symptoms and those who care for them.  Want to speak on our podcast? Join us! laurawayman.com/podcast

Episodes

  1. 4d ago

    How Do You Stop Feeling Guilty as a Dementia Caregiver?

    Caregiver guilt almost always starts with an expectation — that you should be doing this better, giving more, feeling less frustrated than you do. In this episode of Dementia Lifeboat: Port of Call, Laura Wayman, The Dementia Whisperer, and certified life coach Jocelyn Ives explain where that guilt actually comes from and what to do with it. Jocelyn's answer starts somewhere unexpected: you are not supposed to be perfect at this. Nobody loved you because you were perfect, and you don't love them because they are. The energy you spend beating yourself up could go toward connecting with the person you're caring for. But letting go of that takes more than reassurance, so Jocelyn walks through the actual mechanics — how to study your own reaction with curiosity instead of judgment, how to decide in advance how you want to feel in a hard moment, and why your brain will find evidence for whatever story you give it. Laura brings the other half. Guilt gets much heavier when you believe the behavior in front of you is something you caused or should be able to fix. Understanding what dementia symptoms are actually doing to a person's ability to process the world changes what you hold yourself responsible for. Together, Laura and Jocelyn make the case that dementia awareness and emotional awareness aren't two separate skills — they're the same work from two directions. In this episode: Why "I should be doing this better" is an expectation worth questioningThe difference between studying your reaction and judging itHow to decide how you want to feel in a difficult moment, then work backward to get thereWhy your brain hunts for proof of whatever you tell it — and what that means for the person you find hardest to care forWhat dementia symptoms actually affect beyond memory, and why that changes what's your faultDenial, acceptance, and why acceptance isn't giving upGrieving the gap between the future you imagined and the one you're inWhy it's okay to need a refresh when old habits come backQuestions this episode answers: How do you stop feeling guilty as a dementia caregiver? Start by getting curious instead of critical. Jocelyn's question — "I wonder why I reacted that way" — lets you examine the thought underneath the guilt before trying to change anything. Most caregiver guilt traces back to an expectation that was never realistic to begin with. Is it normal to feel frustrated or resentful while caregiving? Yes. You were designed to feel negative emotions as well as positive ones. Those feelings are information about what you're thinking, not evidence that you're failing. What is emotional awareness? Understanding what you're thinking, what you're feeling, and how that drives the way you show up. Dementia awareness helps you understand their behavior; emotional awareness helps you manage your response to it. Can you actually control how you feel about caregiving? You can't stop, fix, or change dementia symptoms. You can choose what you think about a situation, and that determines how you feel and how you act. Is acceptance the same as giving up? No. Acceptance is the peace of not fighting reality, which frees your energy for what you can actually influence. Connect with us Take the free dementia awareness self-assessment: assessment.laurawayman.com Join our Facebook community, A Loving Approach to Dementia Care: facebook.com/groups/2138455819816838 More episodes: laurawayman.com/podcast Book Laura to speak: laurawayman.com/speaker-kit Laura's book, A Loving Approach to Dementia Care, is published by Johns Hopkins University Press. laurawayman.com/podcast

  2. Aug 14

    How Do You Sell Dementia-Aware Care? And How Do Families Recognize It?

    What separates a beautiful building from truly dementia-aware care? And what should a family actually ask before moving a loved one into memory care? In this episode of Port of Call, Laura Wayman, the Dementia Whisperer, and Jocelyn Ives, certified life coach for dementia caregivers, sit down with Vanessa Romero, Sales Director at Carlton Senior Living in Orangevale, to talk about what "selling" dementia-aware care really means — and why it has almost nothing to do with amenities. Families rarely walk through the door excited. They arrive frightened, exhausted, grieving, and often carrying guilt that they had to ask for help at all. What they're really asking isn't about square footage or the chandelier in the lobby. They're asking: do you understand my loved one, and do you understand what my family is going through? Vanessa shares how her team meets each resident exactly where they are, how they prepare families for the hardest first few days, and why every single person in the building — from the executive director to the care partner washing dishes — goes through dementia training every month. Laura and Jocelyn connect that culture back to the foundation they teach: dementia awareness paired with emotional awareness is what keeps caregivers resilient and care sustainable. This episode answers important caregiver questions like: What questions should I ask when touring a memory care community?What's the real difference between assisted living and memory care?Should I stay away after my loved one moves in?How do I handle the guilt of breaking a promise I made to my parent?Why does my loved one insist nothing is wrong?Why is my loved one having such a hard time now that we've waited so long?You'll learn: Why "selling" dementia-aware care is really about building trust, emotional safety, and peace of mindWhy assisted living is customer-service driven and dementia care is need-drivenThe three questions Vanessa tells families to ask every community they tourWhy calling them "expressions" instead of "behaviors" changes how staff respondWhy offering choices can overwhelm someone experiencing executive function loss — and what to say insteadHow anosognosia explains why a loved one genuinely cannot recognize their own changesWhy gait changes and balance problems can appear long before memory lossHow to rewrite the promise: "I promise I will make sure you always receive the level of care you need, even if I have to ask for help"Why the caregiver's health is so often the first thing to failWhy buildings, chefs, and amenities can be copied — but a dementia-aware, emotionally aware culture cannotThis conversation is for family caregivers, sales and marketing directors, memory care and assisted living leadership, executive directors, care staff, and anyone supporting a loved one with Alzheimer's disease, Lewy body, vascular changes, or any cause of dementia symptoms. Laura also shares the memory that started it all — visiting her grandfather at twelve years old in a nursing home that failed him — and why good dementia-aware care exists, and families deserve to know how to find it. Learn more about Carlton Senior Living: carltonseniorliving.com Take Laura's free Dementia Aware Self-Assessment: https://assessment.laurawayman.com Follow for more dementia caregiver support, dementia education, emotional resilience tools, and real conversations about caregiving. laurawayman.com/podcast laurawayman.com/podcast

  3. Jul 17

    Dementia Aware Activities That Actually Work

    Why does someone with dementia symptoms stop doing activities they used to love? It's one of the most common questions family caregivers and memory care professionals ask — and the answer isn't loss of interest. It's a loss of the brain's ability to process and participate. In this episode of Port of Call, Laura Wayman, the Dementia Whisperer, and Jocelyn Ives, certified life coach for dementia caregivers, sit down with Ju Tu, CEO and founder of Aegeliss, and Giulia Benvenuto, Community and Partnerships Manager, to explore dementia-aware activities that actually create engagement, connection, and joy. Ju shares how her family's caregiving experience with her grandfather revealed a gap in the market: almost no dignified, adult-appropriate, dementia-inclusive activities exist. Most options are infantilizing, too complex, or require so much caregiver assistance that the caregiver ends up doing the activity. Aegeliss designs adaptive puzzles, matching activities, and visual aids that meet people where they are — at home and in memory care communities. This episode answers important caregiver questions like: Why won't my loved one with dementia do activities anymore?Why don't group activities work for people with dementia symptoms?What are good activities for someone with dementia at home?What makes an activity "dementia aware" or dementia friendly?How do you invite someone with dementia symptoms into an activity without causing anxiety?How can meaningful activities reduce caregiver stress and burnout?You'll learn: Why loss of executive function — not lack of interest — is behind activity refusalHow to shift the goal from "checking a box" to creating moments of joyWhy positive action statements work better than questionsHow adaptive puzzles and matching activities meet people at any cognitive levelHow visual aids, door signs, and routine labels support independence at homeWhy caregiver confidence ripples out to stronger relationships and better staff retention in senior livingThis conversation is for family caregivers, professional caregivers, activity directors, memory care and senior living staff, and anyone supporting a loved one with dementia, Alzheimer's disease, or cognitive decline. If you've ever walked away from a failed activity feeling helpless, or caught yourself thinking "there's nothing they can do anymore," this episode will change how you think about engagement. Explore Aegeliss's dementia-inclusive activities and visual aids: https://aegeliss.comTake Laura's free Dementia Aware Self-Assessment: https://assessment.laurawayman.comJoin our support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2138455819816838 Follow for more dementia caregiver support, dementia education, emotional resilience tools, and real conversations about caregiving.  laurawayman.com/podcast

  4. Jun 11

    How Do You Successfully Visit a Parent with Dementia Symptoms?

    In this episode of the Port of Call podcast, Laura Wayman and Jocelyn Ives sit down with Ami Reichman, a senior living advisor and daughter caring for a father living with dementia symptoms. Ami spends her professional life helping families navigate dementia care, assisted living, memory care, and senior living decisions. But when dementia affected her own father, she found herself facing the same emotional challenges many caregivers experience: grief, guilt, repeated questions, frustration, and uncertainty about whether she was doing enough. Together, Laura, Jocelyn, and Ami explore one of the most common caregiver questions: How do you visit a parent with dementia? Throughout the conversation, they discuss what happens when a loved one repeatedly asks the same questions, fixates on difficult memories, struggles with feelings of loss, or becomes stuck in emotional loops that caregivers don't know how to navigate. This episode answers important caregiver questions like: How do you respond when someone with dementia asks the same question repeatedly?Why do people with dementia focus on certain memories or worries?How can caregivers reduce guilt after visits?What does it mean to meet someone where they are?Why is it important to focus on feelings instead of facts?How can dementia awareness improve communication and connection?You'll learn: Why dementia affects more than memoryHow to respond to the emotions behind repeated questionsWhy quality of visits matters more than quantityPractical ways to create meaningful moments of connectionHow emotional awareness can reduce caregiver stress and burnoutWhy caregivers need to extend compassion to themselves throughout the journeyThis conversation is for family caregivers, adult children, professional caregivers, senior living professionals, healthcare workers, and anyone supporting a loved one with dementia, Alzheimer's disease, cognitive decline, or memory care needs. If you've ever left a visit feeling guilty, exhausted, or wondering if you said the right thing, this episode offers practical guidance, emotional support, and a reminder that you are not alone. Follow for more dementia caregiver support, dementia education, emotional resilience tools, and real conversations about caregiving. laurawayman.com/podcast

  5. May 14

    How Do You Care for a Parent with Dementia?

    In this episode of the Dementia Lifeboat Port of Call podcast, Laura Wayman and Jocelyn Ives sit down with caregiver Joe Dunham to talk about the emotional reality of caring for parents with dementia symptoms, medical complications, grief, and caregiver burnout.  Joe shares the heartbreaking and overwhelming experience of navigating dementia care while trying to advocate for his father through hospitals, specialists, assisted living, and end-of-life care. Even with years of dementia awareness experience, he found himself exhausted, confused, emotionally overwhelmed, and struggling to manage everything at once.  This episode answers important caregiver questions like: What does dementia really look like in everyday life?What are dementia symptoms beyond memory loss?Why do caregivers feel overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted?How do you support someone with dementia when doctors aren’t listening? What helps caregivers cope with grief, guilt, fear, and burnout?How can families become more dementia aware?You’ll learn: Why dementia symptoms often involve loss of executive function, not just memory loss How emotional awareness changes dementia caregiving Why caregivers need support too Practical ways to reduce overwhelm and take things one moment at a time The importance of asking for help and building a support system How compassion and dementia awareness can improve care for everyone involved This conversation is for family caregivers, professional caregivers, healthcare workers, assisted living staff, and anyone supporting a loved one with dementia, Alzheimer’s, cognitive decline, or memory care needs. If you’ve ever felt exhausted, confused, guilty, or alone while caring for someone with dementia, this episode will remind you that your feelings are valid and that you are not alone. Follow for more dementia caregiver support, dementia education, emotional resilience tools, and real conversations about caregiving. laurawayman.com/podcast

  6. Apr 17

    What Does Dementia Look Like in Real Life?

    In this episode of the Dementia Lifeboat Port of Call podcast, Laura Wayman and co-host Jocelyn Ives sit down with caregiver Cindy to share a deeply personal and eye-opening story. Cindy opens up about her husband’s journey following a traumatic brain injury and the unexpected onset of dementia symptoms years later. What started as subtle personality changes quickly turned into confusion, fear, and moments that left her questioning everything she thought she knew about dementia. This conversation goes beyond memory loss and explores what dementia actually looks like in real life—shifts in behavior, emotional responses, communication breakdowns, and the daily challenges caregivers face trying to keep their loved ones safe, calm, and supported.  You’ll hear:  Why dementia is often misunderstood (even by professionals)  How symptoms go far beyond memory loss  What it really means to “be dementia-aware”  Practical ways to communicate and reduce anxiety  The emotional reality of caregiving, including grief, guilt, and identity shifts  How to support a loved one while still taking care of yourself Laura and Jocelyn also introduce powerful tools—like focusing on feelings over facts and simplifying life to the present moment—that can completely change how caregivers approach this journey. This episode is a reminder that you’re not alone, that there is no perfect way to do this, and that progress—not perfection—is what matters most. laurawayman.com/podcast

  7. Mar 11

    Understanding the Real-Life Symptoms of Dementia

    In this episode of Dementia Lifeboat: Port of Call, dementia educator Laura Wayman and certified life coach Jocelyn Ives sit down with Jennifer Gilbertson to talk about what dementia symptoms can look like in real life, long before many families recognize what is happening. Jennifer shares the early changes her family noticed in her mother: repeated stories, difficulty following familiar routines, challenges with communication, and a gradual loss of interest in activities she once loved. At first, these moments seemed small. Easy to explain away as stress, aging, or simple forgetfulness.  But over time, the pattern became harder to ignore. This conversation explores what many families experience during the early stages of dementia: the confusion, the denial, the overwhelming feeling of not knowing where to start, and the emotional weight that can come with realizing someone you love is changing. We also talk about the questions caregivers often face during this stage: How do you recognize when something is truly wrong?Why can getting a diagnosis be so difficult?What happens when families finally hear the words “dementia diagnosis,” but are given very little guidance on what to do next?Laura and Jocelyn discuss why understanding dementia symptoms, especially the loss of executive brain function, is so important for caregivers. When families begin to understand what is happening neurologically, it becomes easier to shift away from trying to fix or correct behaviors and instead learn how to support someone whose brain is changing. Jennifer also shares the emotional side of caregiving: the guilt many families feel for not noticing sooner, the stress of navigating the medical system, and the relief that can come when caregivers finally gain the knowledge and support they need. This episode reminds caregivers of something many need to hear: you did the best you could with the information you had, and you are not alone on this journey. If you want more support while caregiving for someone with dementia symptoms, or if you believe someone in your life may be experiencing cognitive changes, we invite you to join our monthly Dementia Lifeboat: Poolside Chat, where caregivers come together to share experiences and support one another. You can join us for FREE by registering here: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/PRzPtXKIRf-NNdHzhSToUg Or become a paid member of our Dementia Lifeboat Skool community for exclusive trainings, early podcast access, and a supportive community available 24/7: https://www.skool.com/dementia-lifeboat/about You’re not expected to have all the answers. You’re invited to learn, manage what’s in front of you, and feel less alone as you do. laurawayman.com/podcast

  8. Feb 12

    What Does a Dementia Diagnosis Mean?

    In this episode of Dementia Lifeboat: Port of Call, dementia educator Laura Wayman and certified life coach Jocelyn Ives walk through what happens after the words “dementia” or “Alzheimer’s” are spoken in a doctor’s office.  A diagnosis often brings fear, overwhelm, denial, and a flood of “what if” questions about the future. In this conversation, Laura explains what is actually happening in the brain. Dementia is not just memory loss; it is why emotions remain even when reasoning fades, and why behaviors like wandering or wanting to “go home” are rooted in feelings, not logic.  Jocelyn then turns the lens toward the caregiver. What happens in your brain when you hear the diagnosis? Why does panic take over? How do you stop spinning into worst-case scenarios? And how can you shorten your lens length to focus on what needs to be done today, not five years from now?  Through real-life stories, including exit-seeking behaviors, repeated questions, and early-onset Alzheimer’s, this episode offers practical tools for:  Responding to feelings instead of arguing with factsManaging your own frustration, fear, and denialLetting go of the need for validation from someone who can no longer give itGiving yourself permission to feel without judging yourself for it You cannot stop it. You cannot fix it. You cannot change it. But you can learn to manage it, with purpose, resilience, and compassion.   This episode is a reminder that while dementia changes the brain, it does not erase the heart — and caregivers still have the power to create meaningful moments, one day at a time. Learn more: laurawayman.com/podcast laurawayman.com/podcast

  9. Jan 15

    What is Dementia?

    In this opening episode of Dementia Lifeboat: Port of Call, dementia educator Laura Wayman and certified life coach Jocelyn Ives introduce a different way of understanding dementia, one rooted in real-life experiences. Not just clinical definitions.  This conversation focuses on what often shows up first: the quiet loss of learned executive function. Tasks that once happened on autopilot, such as balancing a checkbook, driving confidently, planning, organizing, or coordinating movement, begin to take more effort. Memory may still be intact, which is why dementia is so often missed, misunderstood, or dismissed early on.  We talk about what that feels like for caregivers watching someone they love struggle, and for individuals who sense something is changing but can’t quite explain it. We also explore common questions families ask in this stage:  How do I know if I have dementia, or if someone I love does?What doctor should I go to for dementia, and why can answers be hard to get?Can dementia be fixed? (The short answer: No. But it can be managed with the right understanding and support.) This episode introduces the foundation of dementia awareness: learning what’s happening neurologically, letting go of what can’t be stopped or fixed, and discovering how caregivers can use their healthy brain to support someone with a “broken thinker.” If you want more support while caregiving with those with dementia symptoms, or think you may be experiencing symptoms yourself, we invite you to join our monthly Dementia Lifeboat: Poolside Chat, where caregivers come together to offer support and understanding.  You can join us for FREE by registering here: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/PRzPtXKIRf-NNdHzhSToUg Or become a paid member of our Lifeboat Skool community for exclusive trainings, be the first to know when the podcast is live, and a lively community chat where you can find support 24/7: https://www.skool.com/dementia-lifeboat/about  You’re not expected to have all the answers. You’re invited to learn, manage what’s in front of you, and feel less alone as you do. laurawayman.com/podcast

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Port of Call is the monthly podcast from The Dementia Lifeboat, created for caregivers, families, and professionals who are seeking clear, compassionate answers about dementia.  Hosted by Laura Wayman, the Dementia Whisperer, and Jocelyn Ives, a certified life coach for caregivers, each episode explores the real questions people ask when dementia symptoms begin to show up: changes in memory, behavior, communication, and daily functioning.  Together, Laura and Jocelyn blend education and emotional support, helping listeners better understand what dementia is (and what it isn’t), how it’s diagnosed, and how it affects both the person experiencing symptoms and those who care for them.  Want to speak on our podcast? Join us! laurawayman.com/podcast

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