Jackie Faber: Inside My Journey

Jackie Faber
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This podcast is me showing up and speaking in real time. No scripts. No teaching. No performance. Just my lived experience as it unfolds — thoughts, realizations, identity shifts, and whatever wants to be spoken. These conversations explore healing, trauma, personal sovereignty, perception, energy, and what it means to stop performing growth and start living in alignment. Listen at your own pace.

  1. Oct 5

    S2 E2: What Is Self-Safety? Why Emotional Safety Isn’t Something Someone Gives You

    What if emotional safety is not something another person gives you? In this episode of Inside My Journey, I’m exploring the difference between relational safety and what I call self-safety: the ability to remain connected to yourself and your own emotional experience, even when someone else is activated, defensive, disappointed, critical, distant, or simply different from you. I talk about how I used to locate safety in other people’s behavior, why that kept me managing my external world, and how learning to hold my own emotional experience changed the way I experience relationships, conflict, uncertainty, and activation. This episode also begins to lay the foundation for autonomy-centered relating: understanding what belongs to you, what belongs to someone else, and why another person’s feelings do not have to become your responsibility to manage. Read How to Stop Chasing Safety New episodes of Inside My Journey are released biweekly.

  2. Sep 21

    S2 E1: Why I Started Questioning Healthy Relationship Advice

    After taking the summer off, I’m back for Season 2 of Inside My Journey — and I’ve changed the way I think about relationships. For years, conventional “healthy relationship” advice made sense to me: communicate better, meet each other’s needs, compromise, repair, reassure, and learn how to show up as a healthy partner. But something shifted when I actually found myself in a relationship I experienced as healthy. I started noticing that so much relationship advice is still organized around managing how another person shows up so that we can feel okay. In this episode, I share where that realization began, why my lived experience started contradicting what I was being taught about healthy relationships, and how ideas around self-safety, emotional responsibility, autonomy, and coercive control began coming together into one relational framework. This episode also sets the stage for Season 2, where we’ll explore self-safety, the Recognition Framework, autonomy-centered relationships, emotional responsibility, needs, differentiation, coercion, and ultimately self-authorship.

  3. Jun 18

    S1 E19: The Deepest Form Of Intimacy

    If you remove sex from a relationship, all you have left is friendship. At least that's what people keep telling me. Over the last few weeks, I've found myself fascinated by the reactions to that idea. Not because I think sex doesn't matter, but because I can't seem to understand why friendship is so often treated like the consolation prize. What if friendship isn't what's left over when everything else disappears? What if it's the foundation that determines whether a relationship survives reality in the first place? In this episode, I explore the difference between attraction and friendship, intimacy and recognition, love and attachment. We talk about dead bedrooms, loneliness, emotional isolation, and why so many people feel unseen inside relationships that have lasted for years. Along the way, I found myself asking a question I can't stop thinking about: Did the relationship stop working when the sex stopped? Or did the sex stop because something in the relationship had already stopped working? This became a conversation about recognition, partnership, and what it means to have someone willing to face reality alongside you. Because maybe the deepest form of intimacy isn't sex. Maybe it's being truly known. Jackie Faber relationships | intimacy | emotional intimacy | dead bedroom | marriage | partnership | emotional connection | attachment | communication in relationships | personal growth

  4. Jun 5

    S1 E18: I Didn't Heal My Anxious Attachment — I Dissolved the Pattern

    For years, I deeply identified with anxious attachment. I believed distance meant danger.Space meant rejection.Uncertainty meant abandonment. And because of that, every relationship became organized around securing connection, preserving closeness, and preventing people from leaving. But what if anxious attachment isn't actually about love? What if it's a nervous system safety-seeking pattern? In this episode, I share how my perspective on attachment styles completely changed after understanding nervous system orientation, self-referencing, and recognition. We'll explore: • Why avoidant people no longer trigger me• The difference between self-referencing and other-referencing• How anxious attachment becomes organized around safety• Why managing triggers is different from dissolving patterns• The moment I stopped relating to people through the lens of abandonment I didn't heal by finding people who wouldn't trigger me. I healed by recognizing the pattern that was creating the trigger in the first place. Resources mentioned in this episode: 📘 Permission to BeA book about trauma, identity, spirituality, and returning to your authentic self. 📖 Recognition ManualLearn how to identify nervous system patterns in real time instead of after they've already taken over. 🔄 Orientation ShiftA deeper dive into how your nervous system organizes around safety, relationships, and self-abandonment. If this episode resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who is tired of repeating the same relationship patterns, and leave a review. It helps more people discover the show. anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, nervous system healing, self safety, self referencing, abandonment wounds, fear of abandonment, relationship anxiety, healing attachment wounds, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, emotional healing, codependency, anxious attachment recovery, relationship patterns, emotional triggers, recognition work, orientation shift, self abandonment, personal growth, spirituality and healing, nervous system patterns, attachment trauma, secure attachment, emotional regulation, inner child healing, healing journey, Jackie Faber

  5. May 29

    S1 E17: Why I Couldn’t Finish My Book Until I Changed

    Today is a really big day for me because my book, Permission to Be, is officially out on Amazon. But this episode isn’t just about the release of the book.It’s about the evolution behind it. What started as a book about loving an addict slowly transformed into something much deeper as I moved through divorce, emotional abuse, spirituality, nervous system healing, and ultimately — embodiment. Every single time I tried to finish this book before I had fully lived the lesson, the book stopped. In this episode, I talk about: why the original book never got writtenthe abusive relationship that changed everythingrealizing I was still self-abandoning in real timethe shift from abuse content into spiritualityhow the chakra system became a mirror for my own fragmentationwhy I couldn’t fully write about the higher chakras yetthe difference between understanding healing and embodying itwhat finally allowed me to complete Permission to BeThis episode is less of a teaching episode and more of an honest reflection on the last few years of my life and the journey that shaped this book. Permission to Be is now available on Amazon in paperback and ebook format. Signed copies are also available in limited quantities through my Stan Store. Jackie Faber Stan Store permission to be, self abandonment, self trust, spirituality podcast, healing journey, emotional abuse recovery, chakra healing, embodiment, nervous system healing, spiritual awakening, codependency recovery, self healing, trauma healing, people pleasing, authenticity, personal growth podcast, healing podcast, spiritual growth, conscious relationships, shadow work, self worth, finding authenticity, inner healing, emotional healing, reiki, self responsibility, spiritual transformation, healing after abuse, chakra system, nervous system regulation

  6. May 22

    S1 E16: What If Most Harmful Behavior Is Unconscious?

    There was a time when I viewed harmful behavior almost entirely through the lens of unconscious survival. Then I entered online abuse discourse… and suddenly everything became intentional, calculated, toxic, narcissistic, manipulative. In this episode, I talk about my own experience moving between those two extremes — from over-humanizing harmful behavior to briefly dehumanizing human behavior altogether — and how understanding the nervous system changed the way I see relationships, trauma, manipulation, healing, and consciousness itself. This conversation explores: black-and-white thinkingnervous system organizationtrauma and unconscious behaviorcertainty as emotional regulationpolarity in healing spacesself-reference and relational dynamicswhy nuance feels threatening onlineand why human behavior is often far more complex than “good vs evil”This is not a conversation about excusing harm. It’s a conversation about moving beyond simplistic frameworks and understanding what actually drives human behavior. Explore my work #healing #trauma #nervoussystem #selfawareness #relationships #consciousness #attachmentstyles #selftrust #personalgrowth #psychology

  7. May 15

    S1 E15: I Stopped Managing Everyone's Feelings

    In this episode, I talk about one of the biggest patterns I’ve uncovered within my relationships: over-functioning. For years, I thought I was being loving. Supportive. Responsible. I thought I was creating emotional safety. But underneath it all, I was often managing everyone’s emotional experience because I was afraid that if people were uncomfortable, hurt, or having different emotional reactions… the relationship would be threatened. This became especially apparent inside blended family dynamics, where I constantly felt pulled between my partner’s feelings and my daughter’s feelings — trying to make sure nobody felt rejected, abandoned, or uncomfortable. In this episode, I share a recent real-life experience that made me realize how differently I handle these situations now. We talk about: → over-functioning in relationships → emotional management and self-abandonment → blended family dynamics → loyalty conflicts → nervous system capacity → emotional safety → allowing people to have their own emotional experience → staying connected to yourself without choosing sides This episode is really about what happens when you stop trying to manage everyone else’s emotions… and finally learn how to stay grounded in your own truth while allowing others to navigate theirs. Learn more about my self-safety framework: https://stan.store/jackiefaber over functioning, over functioning in relationships, blended family dynamics, nervous system healing, emotional safety, self abandonment, attachment wounds, emotional regulation, codependency, relationship anxiety, self safety, internal orientation, nervous system capacity, people pleasing, emotional boundaries, step parenting, blended families, healing relationship patterns, relationship triggers, emotional maturity, anxious attachment, family dynamics, emotional processing, self trust, relationship healing

  8. May 8

    S1 E14: Why “Impact Over Intent” Is Creating Dysfunction in Your Relationships

    We’ve been taught to prioritize impact over intent. To be aware.To take responsibility.To make sure what you say lands well. And on the surface… that sounds healthy. But what if the way this is being applied is actually training you to leave yourself in real time? In this episode, I break down how “impact over intent” has quietly shifted from accountability → into over-functioning. Not because you don’t care…But because you care so much that you’ve started organizing yourself around how you’re received. → You monitor your tone→ You rehearse what you’re going to say→ You adjust in real time to make sure it lands And without realizing it…You stop referencing yourself. This isn’t a communication issue. It’s an orientation issue. In this episode, I walk you through: Why prioritizing impact can create dependency (not responsibility)How over-functioning actually trains the other person not to growThe subtle moment where you override what’s true for youThe difference between being self-aware vs being self-referencedHow to stay with yourself without dismissing someone else’s experienceBecause real accountability doesn’t start with their reaction. It starts with you. The Recognition Manual → Learn how to catch the pattern while it’s happeningThe Orientation Shift → Build the capacity to stay with yourself in real time 🔗 Ready to go deeper? impact vs intent, impact over intent relationships, emotional responsibility in relationships, overfunctioning in relationships, anxious attachment patterns, people pleasing patterns, relationship anxiety, nervous system regulation relationships, self trust in relationships, attachment theory vs nervous system, codependency patterns, relationship dynamics psychology, emotional intelligence vs overfunctioning, how to stop people pleasing, self abandonment patterns, healing relationship patterns, relationship coaching podcast, personal development relationships, secure attachment vs anxious attachment, internal vs external validation, self referencing vs other referencing

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This podcast is me showing up and speaking in real time. No scripts. No teaching. No performance. Just my lived experience as it unfolds — thoughts, realizations, identity shifts, and whatever wants to be spoken. These conversations explore healing, trauma, personal sovereignty, perception, energy, and what it means to stop performing growth and start living in alignment. Listen at your own pace.

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